Has One of Her Guys really intimidated You?

[Tryagain]

My wife recently met a guy who is handsome and stands 6 ft 5 in and weighs 225lbs. ( I am only 5’9 and 170 lbs and way older)They had a coffee only meeting and she really was into him so he was invited to come over the following week.

When he came in, it was a shock to see how big he was! As we shook hands, I noted how big his hand was. We all talked for a while in the kitchen. I noticed that he did not look much my way at all and remained intensely focused on my wife. I did not particularly like his vibe. After about 10 minutes, he started rubbing her shoulder and acting like it was time to get on with things and my wife eagerly accepted the invitation.

Once in the bedroom he started kissing her passionately and holding her tight. He backed up and squeezed her face in his hands while kissing her. I looked at them and it was shocking how very big he was compared to my wife. I mean he towered over her. He was so broad that I could barely see my wife.

My wife gave him some oral and then he did give her some oral as well before he began fucking her. He had a big cock that was very thick. She immediately moaned in pleasure. But he then began to pound he furiously. She put up her hands against his chest a few times but he always returned to pounding.

He also put his hand on her throat. I have seen this in porn before but no one has done that to her before. It made me uncomfortable. I said something to him like “go easy” but he did not even look at me and continued.

Seeing him laying on top of her covering her whole body I thought “My god…I could not make him stop even if I tried. He could do whatever the fuck he wants with her and I feel powerless to stop him.” I mean if my wife wanted to stop things, he could rape her right in front of me and I have no idea as to what to do.

She asked to go on top. She enjoyed that position but he squeezed her tits very hard and she became annoyed and told him to stop. After a while her legs got tired so she got off him. He said he wanted to move to the edge of the bed and just effortlessly picked her up and just dropped her near the corner of the bed like a sack of potatoes.

Again, he pounded her furiously doggy style. I was hoping things would end soon and thankfully they did.

Of course, he is not being invited back.

But has anyone else ever felt intimidated by a guy who fucks your wife?

[SilverStag]

No, but because we vet her playmates before any play. We will meet the guy together as many times as it takes to get a good read on who he is and how he operates. Likewise, you were trapped by playing in your own home. Another reason to use a hotel, you two can leave if need be.

The biggest lesson to be learned is to always have a way to either level the playing field or have an "ace up your sleeve" if things have to get physical in an aggressive way.

Dating a "big" guy, it becomes more important for you to be able to verify that he is gentle or at least responsive to her requests. Likewsie explain your "red lines" for behavior. The fact that he wasn't paying attention to you should have been a red flag and resulted in ending the adventure then and there. Better to miss out on a good time than regret leaving yourselves open to harm.

[patmoll]

I am 6'6" and 250lbs, athletic build so it would take someone exceptionally big to intimidate me...lol

I have to say that what you describe above is everything a person would not want from an experience. It should be enjoyable to all parties and not just one. In my own opinion, if a guy wasn't respectful to me then there is no way that he is being intimate with my wife. After all, that is your wife he is fucking and you are there so he should appreciate the opportunity and privilege of being invited into your relationship and bedroom.

As you said, he is not being invited back so his one inconsiderate fuck has cost him the opportunity of having the opportunity of multiple meetings with your wife. His loss.

I just hope that this experience has not put you off having experiences with big guys in future, I mean, we are not all like that

[Her number1]

I'm 5'8", 170lb and I've never been intimidated by size. It's not the size of the dog.

[iloanmywife]

But has anyone else ever felt intimidated by a guy who fucks your wife?

Not at all. In fact, other guys often feel uncomfortable around me so I consciously try to put them at ease. Even with guys who are comfortable enough to be sexually dominant, it often feels a little bit feigned. My wife and I sometimes enjoy a kinky D/s dynamic with strong cuckold themes, and we rarely find someone who can play that part effectively. We've had a few men who fit the bill, but I've never felt intimidated. I've definitely felt inadequate and embarrassed in the presence of other men -- even genuinely ashamed in front of my wife -- but never physically intimidated.

Here's the thing. My wife finds it easier to relax and enjoy being a submissive slutwife (and me her submissive cuckold) because she knows that if it ever stopped being fun, or if it got out of hand, or for any reason she needed to push the emergency button, then her husband could lay down the law. I'm her last resort safe word, and woe to any man if she had to use it.