Which dating site is most effective.

[Whiskey]

We have not used any online sites before, all the men she’s had she met in person.

My wife wants to get more active in the LS. Which of all the different sites have you found to be the most effective for her finding men. She’s not looking for once and done only, but something where she can chat with him and build something more if possible.

I’m sure this is somewhere on here but we’re unable to search as we keep getting the message that the server has a “high load”.

Thanks

[Natatude]

I have used Ashley Madison and Adult friend finder, in have been lucky with both. I have one really nice guy I have dated now got a year and 6 months from AM and 2 from AFF I just let them know up front I am looking for a FwB not a F and run.

[Lookingforadventure]

We used Adult Friend finder as well. You will get LOTS of messages from lots of guys with different intentions. It takes some time to sift through and find the ones you are interested in, and I agree with Natatude that you should be up front about what you are looking for. Some guys just want to get a few picks and jerk off. Some want a booty call in person right away. But some are looking for a longer-term, FWB or at least are willing to invest some time in getting to know you. It worked for me

[Whiskey]

Thank you ladies for taking the time to answer.
We just signed up for SDC for three months so we’ll see how it goes.

[zorro]

SLS, far and away. The most reliable site we have found for real people (AFF has many "working girls" with fake profiles). Somewhat old interface, but it has been best for us over the years.
SDC is also useful, especially for our overseas members.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Whiskey,

We have not used websites to find hook-ups for fear of being traced. We cannot risk our kinds finding out that their angelic mother is a bedroom porn star.

If we were to find online hook-ups, they would be in distant cities. I'd post minimal info, and nothing that would reveal our identities. I would use a VPN to conceal my IP address. I would use a fully encrypted email service and communicate with online potential hook-ups through that email only. Remember that once on the 'net, always on the 'net.

About 10 years ago, Ashley Madison was hacked. Members' emails were published on the 'net. I'm sure that a lot of members had a lot of 'splainin' to do.

[ucaneffher]

We had good luck with AFF like 15 years ago. The girlfriend found her absolutely favorite lover on there who was actually a nice guy and pounded her brains to the point of him becoming an addiction for her.

The current girlfriend has used several mainstream platforms, the swiping left and right type if you know what mean. She has had very good luck matching and going on plenty of dates but can't speak on the sexual aspect or longevity aspect since she only disclosed having a boyfriend to a couple of her dates. She's not a hot girlfriend yet so that adds yet another barrier.

I'm sure that any dating platform will work as long as she is honest and up front from the very beginning, but there is no doubt that it'll be easier to find like minded individuals on a lifestyle specific platform.

[DonVito4u]

Feeld app and Fetlife worked for us.

[Whiskey]

Literally a couple days on SDC and 17 messages. Now granted, she was not interested in but three.

An interesting thing, we changed the profile to swingers, but still mainly looking for a guy for her and she’s listed as a happy hotwife. All but two of the pictures posted are of her, and again, that the main thing is finding a guy for her. It’s like nearly nothing all of a sudden, and this is a swingers site! It’s like when she only met guys in person, husband is a big cock block.

Has anyone else noticed this?

[Very Hot Wife]

We use Badoo for casual meets but several have turned out to be longer term.

As always, there's an awful lot of dreamers out there on every site.

[Logan]

Good luck with SLS so far...

[carolinacuck]

C has fucked several men from AFF.

[Hawksmoor]

I’m sure this is somewhere on here but we’re unable to search as we keep getting the message that the server has a “high load”

I get this all the time. I wonder if an admin can fix it?