Where to begin...
Written by KY_DA: I've done a lot of soul searching after everything that's been written to me, including more than a few PMs, and I have to say, it's easily apparent that I'm headed down the wrong path. I've felt it for a while now and have been trying to come to terms with it--and I finally have. I'm not saying that this kink is right or wrong, but my wife and I have gone the wrong direction with it. I guess I've finally found my tipping point and I can't go any further. I'm getting off of the rollercoaster for now--who knows--maybe for good, we'll make that decision once we've had some separation from Derrick and the whole hotwife/cuckold thing.
J and I have had very little sleep as we've done nothing but talk things out. I realize now just how on the edge my marriage was (and is). I did a lot of apologizing for pushing my wife into something that she was very hesitant to do in the first place, and that really put a wedge between us. I really was only seeing what I wanted to see, but my eyes are open now. I asked J to stop seeing Derrick, and at first that went over like a lead balloon, but after hours of pleading with her and telling her how much I love her, how much of an idiot I was, her resolve started to soften. I even went so far as to say that if she broke it off with Derrick, I'd be willing to move to the UK and find a new job there. She laughed but then asked me if I was serious. I hadn't planned on saying that. I really just threw it out there when the idea popped into my head, but I would move there in a heartbeat if it meant having J back.
The idea of my wife having sex with other men still gets me off, but I have to agree with what's been said on this forum, we need to work on us for a while. J is breaking up with Derrick this weekend. She's shed a few tears at the idea since we discussed it the other night, that really surprised both of us just how much Derrick and her have bonded. She's miserable at the idea of breaking up, but she said something last night that heartened me, she said, "I didn't get married to get divorced." I know I'm committed to her, so we're gong to pull out of this nose dive now. J has had some experiences that neither one of us will soon forget, so I'm sure there will be something of further excitement in the future, but who knows, we'll see what happens.
I thank all of you who took the time to write me and give me some solid advice. I might not have responded, but I took it to heart. I'll be around, lol, maybe in the UK someday, so best of luck to all of you. Ky_Da
Written by softcantfind: Best moves you could have made . You are also so right that there are so many turn ons that are totally destructive to marriages. I am so glad you and J are getting off a sinking ship.
Written by Happy Johnson: I am very glad you received the correct advice here on this forum and that you are a member to be able to save your marriage.
I hope your resolve holds up and that if you do eventually get back into the lifestyle you will go into it with your eyes wide open and not wide shut!
Good luck and best wishes for your married future.
Written by leander99: I am happy to hear things are slowly going in a better direction. However you do still have a long road ahead.
I am wishing you and your wife all the best!
I am so happy that you and JamieeRyn have decided together to do this. You started this in exactly the wrong way by bludgeoning her into doing it to the point that she started it to teach you a lesson and because she thought you did not love her as much as she thought you did. Then she escalated it and escalated--with your enthusiastic encouragement--to the point that she started to transfer her love from you to Derrick. It was a continuing downward spiral that was out of control. That you snatched utter disaster away in the nick of time is a credit to both of you.
By all means if it requires you to move to the UK or anywhere else for that matter, that is a small price to pay to prove to JamieeRyn that you do, indeed love her as much as she originally thought you did.
She is losing someone she loves--that is proven by her tears over giving up Derrick. Now it is up to you to take her love back into your heart. Shower her with love and affection and consideration. You owe it to her. This is all YOUR fault. Prove it to her.
If sometime in the future you decide again to Hotwife, do it in the right way. Fuckbuddies. NO boyfriends. ABOLUTELY NO boyfriends
. JamieeRyn has already demonstrated that she cannot differentiate between the two.
Now go read Truckstar's advice. It is contained in several stickies in the Library. Take them to heart. Learn from them. Follow them to the letter. If anyone has earned his wings in this adventure it is Truckstar.