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Unread postPosted: Wed Dec 06, 2017 10:11 pm 
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I have read many posts both here and on other sites where guys have had fantasy's about being cuckolded and slowly work towards that goal. Sometimes they have willing wives, others have less than willing wives but ultimately they seem to get to the point where their wife is sleeping with another man and then it slowly progresses to something further.

My question is around the something further. Quite a few posts I have read have the guy being cuckolded to the point that the wifes boyfriend moves in and even (sometimes) the husband loses their wife to the boyfriend. So... is this the ultimate aim of a cuckold fetish? I love my wife as much now as I did when I first met her. I have a cuckold fetish though and fantasize about her locking up my cock and fucking other men with my permission but I would be horrified if she ever left me because of it. Does this mean I am not really into cuckolding? Or is there a happy median that most cuckolded people stay in where the wife stays but they get to be cuckolded.

To put it in perspective, My wife doesn't totally know about my cuckolding fetish but she doe let me wear a chastity device. When I fantasize about cuckolding it is definitely more of the humiliation side with me being locked up 24/7. Cuckolding may never happen but if it does I'm not sure what the norm is in terms of how far people really want to go.

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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 3:34 am 
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It's certainly not to lose my wife. When I started this lifestyle it was mostly to save my marriage. I tolerate it now because I managed to develop a fetish for it, but I'm primarily motivated by my wife's happiness.

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I don’t ever want to lost my wife!!!

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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 7:24 am 
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theothercuck wrote:
It's certainly not to lose my wife. When I started this lifestyle it was mostly to save my marriage. I tolerate it now because I managed to develop a fetish for it, but I'm primarily motivated by my wife's happiness.

That's interesting. Most people say that a marriage has to be strong before starting a swinging, hotwifing, or cuckolding lifestyle, and that the lifestyle cannot fix a troubled marriage. However, in your case, it was the opposite.

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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 8:57 am 
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ErikaPeter wrote:
theothercuck wrote:
It's certainly not to lose my wife. When I started this lifestyle it was mostly to save my marriage. I tolerate it now because I managed to develop a fetish for it, but I'm primarily motivated by my wife's happiness.

That's interesting. Most people say that a marriage has to be strong before starting a swinging, hotwifing, or cuckolding lifestyle, and that the lifestyle cannot fix a troubled marriage. However, in your case, it was the opposite.


My wife was in danger of cheating when we were engaged. She worked for a sexually-charged summer camp. At the time I told her it could end our marriage plans, but she still had to go to work. We decided she would have some freedom and get married. The only real trouble we had was her cheating, other than that we were loving, open, honest, and had a great sex life when she was home.

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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:23 am 
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"the husband loses their wife to the boyfriend. So... is this the ultimate aim of a cuckold fetish?"

Perhaps the ultimate cuckold fantasy is to be castrated so you become your wife's docile slave and unable to fulfil her. But totally pointless in reality because you would lose your sexual desire. The same applies to losing your wife: erotic in your dreams as you obsessively imagine her and her lover fucking, but in reality pointless because you are not sharing that thrill with them. Total denial of sex has the same problem for me: if the denial is certain, there is no thrill. Losing your wife means the cuckolding has gone wrong, not succeeded.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 10:43 am 
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My wife and I have a great marriage other than I am not able to satisfy her sexually. I am OK with another man controlling her sexually and her being exclusive to others as well. If I ever feel that the core of our relationship is threatened I will put at stop to it at once.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 1:34 pm 
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Cuck4Life wrote:
My wife and I have a great marriage other than I am not able to satisfy her sexually. I am OK with another man controlling her sexually and her being exclusive to others as well. If I ever feel that the core of our relationship is threatened I will put at stop to it at once.


That's great to hear. So she is totally fine that you have the power to pull the plug on her 'other' relationship? Thats obviously a concern that the whole cuckolding scenario can become an out of control freight train.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 2:14 pm 
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You've made a good observation about cuckolding. When the fetish started to incubate in my mind, it was kind of pure. I wasn't into porn at all, the internet didn't even exist yet. I knew I wanted to see my sexy young wife getting laid and having affairs, but I also knew I wanted to stay married to her. At some point I realized my best friend turned her on. I figured he would be a perfect fuck buddy for her, as there was already a connection, she was very attracted to him, and he was a good friend of mine and I thought he would respect "the bro code". It turned out I was right. They had a great affair, he didn't betray my trust, and my wife had fantastic sex. She walked around with a glow on her face. I really can't tell you how good it can be for couple to have options. As a young couple with a young child, I was working long hours and wasn't always available for going out and having fun like we did before. As a young mother, my wife was spending a lot of time at home, and I kknew she needed to blow off some steam. It was a win-win for us. I'd come home tired from work, and she'd have dinner waiting for me while she got ready for a date. She really loved to get dolled up for an evening of dancing, and my buddy also liked looking good out on the town. Perhaps I was naive, but I reasoned he was in aperfect position. He got to go out with a fairly hot slut who would basically do anything for him, but at the end of the night he could fuck her and drop her off back at home. He didn't want to do any heavy lifting, like the responsibility of raising a kid. It's hard to imagine why any guy wouldn't want some of that. Why buy the cow when a quart of milk is free?

I don't think it's quite as simple when the bull is not in your circle of friends. He has no loyalty to you at all, in many cases he thinks she's cheating to begin with. He doesn'tknow or care about yourkids, he's just getting off on the fact he can steal your girl. And she's getting crazy with lust. The problem seems to come up when she's fucking another guy and saving herself for him. Her intimacy switches from her husband to her lover. She has been trained all her life that she shouldn't kiss and tell. So now her sex life is distinct from her life with her husband. She may not feel comfortable dishing about her lover's cock with her husband. The relationship with the lover starts to seem more normal than the complications with her husband, which has all kinds of twists and turns, fetishes and taboo. So it can easily turn into her primary relationship.

My first wife and I had been married six years. She'd been fucking other guys for four years. I thought we were both quite happy, although it wasn't easy. I was working full time and had a heavy course load at college. My wife was at home with our child and taking a few classes too. We were renting a few rooms to students, and she started fucking one of them. He was a super hot stud, fresh out of the marines, an architecture major, and the relationship got out of hand. I think it was a perfect situation for everyone involved. I'd work in the daytime, then go to class. When I got home I had to study and get ready to do it all over again the next day. Meanwhile my wife got to play musical bedrooms. I'd be eating dinner late and hear the bed squeeking. When I got into bed, she'd usually show up a little later, looking flushed. Somehow I'd get amazingly turned on and want to fuck, even though I was going to have to get up in a few hours. That guy must have had an amazingly thick cock, because she'd be all stretched out and sore from him. Anyway, one night she told me she that I could go down on her, but to take it easy, as she was sore and stretched out, and that I was going to have to start wearing a condom because he was skeeved out at the thought she might have my cum in her, and she wanted to be fresh for him. She'd done that before with me when dating other guys, and although I hated it, there was an element of it that turned me on, so I accepted it. I think now, that was a turning point where she was starting to transition to considering him her primary and me her secondary. I'm going to say that is a step towards total denial and maybe eventually the friend zone for me. It never got that far because I couldn't handle the way things were going, and my anxiety got the better of me. I pushed her away, and she seamlessly moved away from mme and moved him in. It was easy, he already had a bedroom in our house. She told me she wanted a divorce, that she was going to marry her FB and there was nothing I could do about it, she wanted to be with him. He left maybe two weeks after I did. I have a feeling that she wouldn't have gone there had it still been a personal friend of mine she was fucking, someone who would have told her straight up that he was only there for an easy lay. Of course it was the same with the other guy, but she thought he would be more available.

When you really get down to it, my motivation has been that cuckolding takes the sex to another level. The angst of the process and the ups and downs of the angst followed by reclamation is so exciting to a cuck we become addicted. I'd compare it to the thrill of skiing. You get to the top of mountain and looking down, your heart starts beating faster and it's hard to imagine you'll be able to do it safely. There's an adrenaline rush with every twist and turn. It can be fun or it can be harrowing. Sometimes both. If you make it down in one piece, the chances are that you'll want to do it again. Most of us willl even do it again if we crash and burn.


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Unread postPosted: Thu Dec 07, 2017 7:15 pm 
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I think it is true that many want to ride that razor thin edge that she may go just a step too far and he loses her. That is a shame because the thrill of being on that edge is what he was craving. The thrill of her almost going over to the other side is very exciting. I have said many times to a cuckold that he better do as she says or I might take her and leave you sitting here in your cage .. and watch him tremble from the excitement those thoughts bring him. I would never do that but it is part of the thrill of being cuckolded for many cuckolds.

There are some, however that want to fall off that edge.. that the thrill isn’t strong enough unless they go that one extra step and leave him there.. crying in his cage with cum dripping out the end from his excitement.

This is the truest definition of “be careful what you wish for” !! I guess it is no different that a drug user craving that last ultra high that he don’t survive... but a lot if times it was his decision !!

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 6:33 am 
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bradisalpha wrote:
I think it is true that many want to ride that razor thin edge that she may go just a step too far and he loses her.


Appreciate getting the Bull's side of the thought process. Not sure if what I'm after ever happens but I doubt I'm after the razors edge. Perhaps close enough to see it but not on it. But I imagine that it could so easily turn into a 'hard to stop' freight train before you realize.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 11:28 am 
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My motivation is for my wife to achieve as much sexual satisfaction as she can. I am submissive to her and literally worship her. My submissive side craves her control over me so chastity and denial are things I welcome. I also love seeing her totally satisfied and her fucking other men who are bigger and last much longer plays into my urge to see her sexual needs taken well care of and also into her power over me in that she can and does fuck whoever she wants. Back in the early days of our marriage we tried swinging for a while and she always told me that her biggest fantasy was to see me suck another man's cock. I told her I could never do that. We transitioned into cuckolding and as I became more and more submissive to her, finally getting to the point that I agreed to suck a cock for her because it was such a turn on for her. That first time broke the dam and now I suck cock for her whenever she tells me too. I would never suck a cock on my own but gladly do it for her.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 08, 2017 2:53 pm 
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desertsub wrote:
My motivation is for my wife to achieve as much sexual satisfaction as she can.


That's my motivation right now for locking myself up chastity and eating her pussy every chance I can get. She gets amazing orgasms and goes to sleep sexually done. I haven't really opened up to her much more than that though.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Dec 09, 2017 2:22 am 
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My motivation is just to be my girl's best friend and partner. She has never been monogamous more than 6 months at a stretch since I have known her.


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