Does you wife want you to be just a cuck or a lover too

[tractorman2]

I am a committed cuck over many years and happy in my role sexually in our relationship, I gave up any ideas I had that sexually I could satisfy my wife nearly 20 years since after she confessed to an affair with my then best friend, he was fucking her I wasn't.

Since then we have practiced this lifestyle it becoming part of our lives. In recent years she has sought to feminize me, something I agree with and enjoy in my role as cuck and her preferred sexual option is always to play with a lover rather than me. We kiss often are deeply in love and I can touch her as I desire.

Yesterday returning from a shopping trip one where we went out with me wearing ladies tight jeans, suspenders underneath slightly visible I would add, my permanent collar, knickers with a CB encasing my cock as usual, painted toe nails and a little bra top although not visible.

She wore the same clothing except the CB obviously and instead of a collar she wears a chain holding my keys.

I wear ladies jeans most of the time now, the CB 70% of the time and increasing and the collar, painted toe nails and knickers are permanent fixtures

Driven my a recent visit by her master who took the unusual step of requesting I strip to my underwear in his presence and then later told me blind folded lay on the floor and he then directed my wife to stand over me and pissed on me, strange but rather humiliating and enjoyable, a first for us I remained and have done since in a CB.

Back home I posed the question,

Do you just consider me as your husband solely as a cuck or want me to play any part in being a lover to you,

She paused and relied both.

I had excepted that really her answer should have been as a cuck only as we rarely have any form of sexual activity between us, so was this answer just a cop out?.

[FNQLivin]

Perhaps she doesn’t want to see you just as a cuck and wants you to be her lover as well, despite everything. If she saw you just as her cuck, would that then mean she no longer sees you as her husband. I say this is a good thing.

[Cdncuck]

It's complicated:

"A cuckoldress or HW should maintain a sexual relationship with her cuck"

"A feminised cuck should adopt more of a feminine brother type role in the relationship."

I chose those two. My wife started many years ago by slowly becoming more and more dominant. Eventually we got to feminization which I initially resisted. However, in her wisdom, she persisted and here we are much happier for it all in the end.

My wife fucks me anywhere between once or twice a month depending on how she feels. It's not satisfying for her in the sense that she can orgasm on my dick. She has boyfriends for that. She says she fucks me periodically for two reasons. One is that she feels she needs to give me enough sex to let me know she does love me and keep me interested. Two, she finds my efforts at sex rather pathetic and amusing. She really enjoys cock shaming me and humiliating me in other ways as I do my best at fucking her.

My wife says she sees me in more of a sister role than that of a brother. After all, we fuck some of the same men.

[submissivedanny]

Your wife probably wants you to be her lover too. My previous wife cucked me and always kept me in chastity. While she had a boyfriend who gave her what she needed sexually she also loved me to take care of her orally. I was never allowed intercourse with he especially when she was dating but she loved my tongue. While my current wife hasn't cucked me yet she may be open to it in time.

[CallMeHeather]

I don't like how the survey choices are worded because I don't agree that a cuck relationship "should" be anything other than what works for both partners. This is a lifestyle where partners agree on guidelines to live by, not a religion where all the rules are set in stone.

My wife and I have a great mutually-enjoyed love life that neither of us wants to give up. She just also happens to be a size queen and a slut, and I happen to love when other men take an interest in my partner, so cucking is an additional layer to our relationship.

I've had some folks say we're more of a hotwife couple than cuckold because my wife is submissive and doesn't take part in humiliating me. But I don't know any other hotwife couples where the husband is a submissive bi crossdresser who gets a humiliating rush from rimming and being barebacked by his wife's bulls. Pretty sure we're still in cuck territory, we just seem to have a more equitable relationship than some of our peers, by choice and preference.

Whatever works for you, go for it.

[samlowen]

I think there are several different ways that couples can thrive in this lifestyle with no one way being better or worse than the next. It’s what works for the couple that’s most important. For us, maintains our sex life and intimacy together is incredibly important and we have never been able to abstain from each other for long periods of time. At the end of the day, my wife wants me, both as a sexual partner and a loving supportive husband. Yes, she has amazing sex with other men, but we have amazing sex as well, and that had never been questioned. We do this for the journey together and variety to spice up our sex life.

[avgnot]

My wife would tell you, despite my size my cock is her favorite, and would never want me to NOT be her lover. But would adds she is the luckiest lady on the planet to have a husband who brings her bigger cocks to fuck and supplied her with a BBC bull with porn star quality skills and the most perfect of all cocks in all the lands.

[ArizonaGuy]

I have begun the transition stage to become feminine. I have surrendered her completely to her lover and she is his when they are together or the three of us. In addition I have moved into the guest room completely. I have been using estrogen now for six months, my emotions at times are all of the place, I cry for the littlest reason. I am no longer a sexual partner, because of my transition I am incapable of having erections, my wee wee has shrunk and the twins have shrunk. This is the choices we have made and enjoy this life style.

Pauline

[Wooster]

I didn’t vote, because I don’t think anyone “should” conform to any role except what works for them.

In our case, we never had a good sex life, so it wasn’t a tragedy when she decided to stop having sex with me. She’s always had better sex with other men, and I appreciate not having to try to perform. I get my kicks from jacking off, and she has a boyfriend for the rest.

[desertsub]

I had to go with the fourth option as being the closest to how both of us feel. Some time back my wife told me not to call any of her bulls her lover, she said "We don't make love, we fuck!" She went on to say "When I let you inside me it's not making love either, it is just fucking! What you do with me when you're locked in chastity is making love!" She rarely unlocks me to have intercourse with her but we have a very active sex life with me doing oral on her almost every night, which always involves a lot of cuddling and touching and feeling.

[SailorGuy]

Just a cuck. Not a chance my wife will ever fuck me again.
How do I know this? She tells me, every time I ask her for some kind of intimacy.
Of course I desire my wife. Who wouldn't? She's a knockout! But there'd be no point in being a cuckold if I was indifferent about her. I love her, adore her, and want to be lovers again. And I tell her this, Then she tells me very clearly what the deal is: her cunt, her chest, her lovely body is for her lover only. And I just melt.
She tells me this in a loving, matter-of-fact way. It may sound as if she is being cruel to me; but in a cuckold relationship this is just what I want to hear.

[dinoo]

Definitely a lover too.
In all other situations, my wife LadyD wanted to show me how she liked sex with other men.... and women or couples.

[Luckyguy2019]

Its rare when I have intercourse with my wife. I have intercourse with women, just not me wife. We masturbate together. We like to sit apart and masturbate watching each other. Sometimes we kiss and touch too so it varies. I get rock hard from her telling me that she doesn't want to gave sex with me and that I don't satisfy

[funkyfitter]

My wife took control of her sex life also 7 years ago and other than clean up duty or sucking cock it hasn't included me since then.

[DavaoMike]

My wife, Maricel, and I are definitely lovers. But since I’m decades older than her with a much lower libido, I’m happy with sex only about every 3 weeks or so. Thus, Maricel’s boyfriend, Adam, has become her primary sex partner by default, since he’s got tons more energy and stamina. I don’t feel like this minimizes my role as Maricel’s lover, since there’s no denial or humiliation involved. Still, there’s just a twinge of delicious humiliation, though never overt, in knowing that another man makes love with my wife far more frequently than I do.

DM