Do you ever feel ashamed of a cuckold thought? Do you get turned on by that feeling of shame?

[upsaitig]

Actually I am totally ashamed to be a cuckold and I am even more ashamed that this makes me totally horny.

[Archie457]

Rarely, and no.

[Tryagain]

I was actually thinking that the shame is the reason why everyone is so secretive and so hesitant to get the ball rolling, be it sharing the fetish with their wife or sharing with friends who might be potential FBs. Of course they say the reason isn't shame but some danger associated with confessing their kink. I call BS. You are ashamed. A friend you couldn't;t admit this kink to isn't really your friend. If you have a friend under false pretenses, you are living with shame.

oh..C'mon...Who is ok with their friends and family thinking you are a perv or inadequate. Only the most way out cucks get off on that level of shame.

[Tryagain]

I also see another side of this discussion as feeing ashamed often turns into being proud of his wife !! Being proud that he has a sexy wife that not only excites him.. but other men also. Proud that the strongest Alpha men want to have sex with her. Proud that she enables the sexual arousal of other men.

I have watched the progression of many cuckolds who at the beginning felt shame and being reserved .. to openly enjoying showing pride in the relationships his wife has with her BF’s.

In a round about way, I think it is like having a shiny red corvette.. or a fast high performance boat. He has a pride in “showing her off”. And his natural reaction is much like having a car or a boat.. when he sees the lust in someone’s eyes to say “hop in and take a ride” !!!! He might feel shame at first that he has something so beautiful and desirable he shouldn’t let someone else covet it.. but when he sees the reactions it turns to pride. He will also have feelings sometimes that if they like it so much they might steal it from him.. but those insecure feelings also fade as he sees they are enjoying the opportunity to “take a ride” and then happy to hand it back over to him.

I guess this is a goofy way to explain it.. but, how many can relate to this ??

Brad

I can relate 100% to this. My wife has always been a beauty and so very sexy. When guys say to me you are a very lucky man, I feel great.

[Tryagain]

As a very young guy, I wanted to prove my inner belief that big cocks were better than mine even though so many advised that cock size did not matter. So I found a guy with 9 inches (a real legit 9 inches). Needless to say, he fucked her and she went crazy. As I watched them I was not physically excited at all and wished it would be over soon.

I was devastated and felt ashamed that she loved it so much with this stranger. I felt ashamed of my obvious inadequacy compared to him and badly that my wife really does not like fucking me anywhere near as much. I felt stupid because it was me that brought this up and she would never had known about real fucking. Yet when I thought about it when jerking off, I got so excited I came with seconds.

I did not want a repeat of this but kept thinking about it. I finally brought it up again due to the urge to see her with another hung guy – not just anybody. So the next time we met with a guy, he was over 20 years older than us – 45 y.o.

Once again he fucks the hell out of her and she goes crazy again. Now I felt even more stupid and inadequate – this 45 yo guys beats my 23 yo ability by a mile. This time I felt even worse. So I felt shame associated with my ability to satisfy her and stupid about having this desire which makes it all happen.

Of course, as the years went by, I lost any feeling of shame at all and just enjoyed watching her go crazy with lust. I still enjoy the 3 somes but I must say that I wish I could feel that shame again – and the possibility she might even leave me for better sex - as my inadequate feelings did play a big role in my excitement but no longer do.

How can anyone maintain the sexual excitement associated with shame for many years? How can you maintain the feelings of shame?

[Des 31]

Not at all. I like our marital agreement just as it is and she is thrilled with it. But, of course, I don't talk to anyone about our arrangement except to the guys fucking her.

[knight4princess]

I really feel no shame. In fact I'm proud of being a cuck -- proud that men find my wife so appealing, just as Brad wrote earlier in this thread.

I guess it helps that I have a nice-sized cock and can totally satisfy my wife on my own. Another reason I have no shame is that my wife is my best friend and I can be part of letting her go to experience things that wouldn't be possible with just the two of us.

In other words, I can be her husband but there's no way that I can also be an exciting new guy she's just met. She thrives on attention from other guys and "new relationship energy." I'm proud and happy that she can have that experience guilt-free thanks to our arrangement. I'm proud of being able to be who I am sexually.

[iloanmywife]

This is part of what makes it so appealing. Once you've gone down this road there's no going back. Even when I'm not even thinking about sex, just relaxing with my wife around the house. I'll look up and admire her amazing ass as she walks by. That ass that used to be mine alone. Then I'll think to myself "Why the fuck did I ever share that? Why did I give it all away?" It's like a sudden over-powering realization that I've lost something very special, forever. And the instant erection in my pants will remind me what I am: a cuckold.

The shame is constant. Ironically, it's the most intense when we make love. She's become accustomed to men who are much better lovers. When I fuck her, I know I'm one of the worst lovers she's ever had. Literally. It's this silent shame, even as I fuck my own wife. It's not just my imagination -- we've talked openly about it. She's told me that she still enjoys having sex with me to connect, emotionally. An intimate form of a hug. It''s not that sex isn't great. It's amazing. I usually make her cum before I enter her, either by wearing a strap-on or with my tongue. Obviously I love fucking her with my own little dick, that feeling of my thin hard-on slipping and sliding ineffectively in her wet pussy. But it's not FUCKING. We both understand this.

So when I'm making love to my wife and even though it feels amazing to me, we both know that it's not the same for her as with other men. She's told me what she's felt with other men, how sex has taken her to places she never imagined. She and I are soul mates, but we can never experience that intense sexual ecstasy together. I can't make her cum vaginally with my own dick (never have), an experience she tells me is wonderful and different than anything she's experienced with me. We'll never simultaneously orgasm together as we make love, a deeply intimate expression of pair-bonding that she's shared with many other men but never her husband. It's just my naked body on top of hers, pumping away in a full body hump-hug.

Sometimes we'll look into each others' eyes as I'm pumping away and she'll smile and kind of chuckle and I'll kind of laugh. Then we'll both start laughing as I pump harder and ineffectively. Sex ends as it always does, with my selfish little dick spurting helplessly inside my wife's unsatisfied pussy. And then she'll get up to get cleaned up and I'll be left alone with my eternal shame.

[bradisalpha]

I also see another side of this discussion as feeing ashamed often turns into being proud of his wife !! Being proud that he has a sexy wife that not only excites him.. but other men also. Proud that the strongest Alpha men want to have sex with her. Proud that she enables the sexual arousal of other men.

I have watched the progression of many cuckolds who at the beginning felt shame and being reserved .. to openly enjoying showing pride in the relationships his wife has with her BF’s.

In a round about way, I think it is like having a shiny red corvette.. or a fast high performance boat. He has a pride in “showing her off”. And his natural reaction is much like having a car or a boat.. when he sees the lust in someone’s eyes to say “hop in and take a ride” !!!! He might feel shame at first that he has something so beautiful and desirable he shouldn’t let someone else covet it.. but when he sees the reactions it turns to pride. He will also have feelings sometimes that if they like it so much they might steal it from him.. but those insecure feelings also fade as he sees they are enjoying the opportunity to “take a ride” and then happy to hand it back over to him.

I guess this is a goofy way to explain it.. but, how many can relate to this ??

Brad

I can relate 100% to this. My wife has always been a beauty and so very sexy. When guys say to me you are a very lucky man, I feel great.

When a guy says you are a lucky man he has already looked your wife over, probably many times, and feels a stirring in his pants thinking about her.. and has to tell you his thoughts as innocently as he can. If you think deeply about what I just said, you will feel a stirring in your pants also knowing that he has jerked off to your wife and would fuck her in a minute if he thought he could !!

That also is a comment that can open doors if it is responded to properly !!

Just saying....

Brad

[Bluskiescuck]

The feeling of shame has prevented me from telling any previous partners that I am secretly a cuckold. I've been trying to overcome it and my goal is to enter my next relationship with it being out there. The shame can be paralyzing.

[wulfenus]

Brad is so right about the 'lucky man' comment. I just happened to be watching a TV show and in church, one man says to the other what a lucky man he is as he ushers them to their seats. The husband got such a look on his face, that he knew what 'lucky man' meant. It really explained it to me in its most sexy sense

[armyguyot1]

Welcome to the forum wulfenus.

[tractorman2]

I have never felt ashamed not in the slightest, had my wife not wandered very early on and gain a vast amount of experience elsewhere I would be able to satisfy her as a normal man in a normal marriage. We discuss all aspects of our life and overtly are a normal couple but our kinks are ours and we happily agree to them together. If either of us could consider using the term ashamed it would she agrees be her, I want a cuck tattoo in a foreign language, that of her lover, she doesn't want me to have it only because of what it says about her not me. I have been a cuck for many years and are comfortable with my past and hopefully future but it says more about her than me, that's the problem translated as a man who accepts his wife's infidelity.

I have in the past become bored during long sessions and have found a way to control this with a CB and to pop in and out of the sessions doing other things in the meantime.

Well as this thread has reappeared an update if i may,

Shortly after this post she sat down one evening and drew a design of tattoo especially for me. The tattoo incorporated the words that in his language translate as "a cuck husband who tolerates his wife’s adultery" with my wifes name running through it and attached to her name a key to symbolise my chastity to her. It looked very nice and exciting.

A week or so later she asked if i really wanted "to get branded permanently with this drawing"

A hour later i sat at a tattoists she having made a prior appointment and unknowingly previously visited the rather tastely young women with her design and hours later i had that tattoo on my upper arm.

Ashamed not one bit, it felt slightly uncomfortable if rather kinky sat there topless in jeans, knickers and a CB knowing this women will probably have googled the term. My wifes only condition my tattoo must not be shown to anyone else..exceept her lover who was very proud.

As i found out whilst there and before the tattooist too a picture of the finished tattoo, my wife had sourced this tattooist from our son in law as she has done extensive work on him. I have wondered if on future visits if the picture was displayed if he would recognise the name of his mother in law running through this tattoo!

Soon after she continued with my feminisation.

[Rhino444]

I'm never ashamed of my desires or that I get off on them, not even after I cum. I suppose I don't go around broadcasting that I'm into the cuckolding fetish in public, but I attribute that more to being discreet rather than ashamed. Just like I'm sure men who are into whips and chains, naughty nuns, or any other random fetish don't always go around trumpeting their kinks.

[desertsub]

Shortly after this post she sat down one evening and drew a design of tattoo especially for me. The tattoo incorporated the words that in his language translate as "a cuck husband who tolerates his wife’s adultery" with my wifes name running through it and attached to her name a key to symbolise my chastity to her. It looked very nice and exciting.

A week or so later she asked if i really wanted "to get branded permanently with this drawing"

A hour later i sat at a tattoists she having made a prior appointment and unknowingly previously visited the rather tastely young women with her design and hours later i had that tattoo on my upper arm.

My wife and I talked about having me permanently marked as her cuckold and I agreed. She made the design and then had a female tattoo artist tattoo me with it. It is the one in my avatar. I was kept locked in chastity while being tattooed and she made me explain to the artist (and a couple of the male tattoo artists that looked in) what the tattoo signified and how I am kept locked while she fucks whoever she wants. It was a pretty intense experience with a high level of humiliation!

[Mass9912]

In the hours after I cum (anytime that I use cuckold thoughts to help me cum), I sometimes feel ashamed of myself for getting turned on by the thought that I cannot sexually satisfy my wife.

I have read that other cuckolds also get turned on by these feelings of shame.

Yeah I experience this too. Even when I watch normal porn it always inevitably turns the thought that it's my girlfriend getting fucked by someone else, I'm into it at the time then the second I cum I feel ashamed and pretty much disgusted with myself. Until the next time.

[bradisalpha]

Brad is so right about the 'lucky man' comment. I just happened to be watching a TV show and in church, one man says to the other what a lucky man he is as he ushers them to their seats. The husband got such a look on his face, that he knew what 'lucky man' meant. It really explained it to me in its most sexy sense

wulfenus,

Have ever had a guy tell you “you are a lucky man” ??

Brad

[bamamoon256]

Once you are really cucked it doesn't matter if you feel shame or not. You'll never want to go back being vanilla again. Not a day goes by that I don't edge my little dick ( wife and bull only let me cum while they watch ), while thinking about the fucking I get to watch and the big dicks I get to clean up and suck.

[magnus]

This is part of what makes it so appealing. Once you've gone down this road there's no going back. Even when I'm not even thinking about sex, just relaxing with my wife around the house. I'll look up and admire her amazing ass as she walks by. That ass that used to be mine alone. Then I'll think to myself "Why the fuck did I ever share that? Why did I give it all away?" It's like a sudden over-powering realization that I've lost something very special, forever. And the instant erection in my pants will remind me what I am: a cuckold.

The shame is constant. Ironically, it's the most intense when we make love. She's become accustomed to men who are much better lovers. When I fuck her, I know I'm one of the worst lovers she's ever had. Literally. It's this silent shame, even as I fuck my own wife. It's not just my imagination -- we've talked openly about it. She's told me that she still enjoys having sex with me to connect, emotionally. An intimate form of a hug. It''s not that sex isn't great. It's amazing. I usually make her cum before I enter her, either by wearing a strap-on or with my tongue. Obviously I love fucking her with my own little dick, that feeling of my thin hard-on slipping and sliding ineffectively in her wet pussy. But it's not FUCKING. We both understand this.

So when I'm making love to my wife and even though it feels amazing to me, we both know that it's not the same for her as with other men. She's told me what she's felt with other men, how sex has taken her to places she never imagined. She and I are soul mates, but we can never experience that intense sexual ecstasy together. I can't make her cum vaginally with my own dick (never have), an experience she tells me is wonderful and different than anything she's experienced with me. We'll never simultaneously orgasm together as we make love, a deeply intimate expression of pair-bonding that she's shared with many other men but never her husband. It's just my naked body on top of hers, pumping away in a full body hump-hug.

Sometimes we'll look into each others' eyes as I'm pumping away and she'll smile and kind of chuckle and I'll kind of laugh. Then we'll both start laughing as I pump harder and ineffectively. Sex ends as it always does, with my selfish little dick spurting helplessly inside my wife's unsatisfied pussy. And then she'll get up to get cleaned up and I'll be left alone with my eternal shame.

This almost perfectly describes the dynamic between my wife and I as well. The shame is both difficult and delicious.

I am a very masculine, alpha man in every other part of my life and in ever other aspect of our relationship, so the shame of my sexual inadequacy is very powerful. I both love and hate it, but it's simply the reality.

[bradisalpha]

This is part of what makes it so appealing. Once you've gone down this road there's no going back. Even when I'm not even thinking about sex, just relaxing with my wife around the house. I'll look up and admire her amazing ass as she walks by. That ass that used to be mine alone. Then I'll think to myself "Why the fuck did I ever share that? Why did I give it all away?" It's like a sudden over-powering realization that I've lost something very special, forever. And the instant erection in my pants will remind me what I am: a cuckold.

The shame is constant. Ironically, it's the most intense when we make love. She's become accustomed to men who are much better lovers. When I fuck her, I know I'm one of the worst lovers she's ever had. Literally. It's this silent shame, even as I fuck my own wife. It's not just my imagination -- we've talked openly about it. She's told me that she still enjoys having sex with me to connect, emotionally. An intimate form of a hug. It''s not that sex isn't great. It's amazing. I usually make her cum before I enter her, either by wearing a strap-on or with my tongue. Obviously I love fucking her with my own little dick, that feeling of my thin hard-on slipping and sliding ineffectively in her wet pussy. But it's not FUCKING. We both understand this.

So when I'm making love to my wife and even though it feels amazing to me, we both know that it's not the same for her as with other men. She's told me what she's felt with other men, how sex has taken her to places she never imagined. She and I are soul mates, but we can never experience that intense sexual ecstasy together. I can't make her cum vaginally with my own dick (never have), an experience she tells me is wonderful and different than anything she's experienced with me. We'll never simultaneously orgasm together as we make love, a deeply intimate expression of pair-bonding that she's shared with many other men but never her husband. It's just my naked body on top of hers, pumping away in a full body hump-hug.

Sometimes we'll look into each others' eyes as I'm pumping away and she'll smile and kind of chuckle and I'll kind of laugh. Then we'll both start laughing as I pump harder and ineffectively. Sex ends as it always does, with my selfish little dick spurting helplessly inside my wife's unsatisfied pussy. And then she'll get up to get cleaned up and I'll be left alone with my eternal shame.

This almost perfectly describes the dynamic between my wife and I as well. The shame is both difficult and delicious.

I am a very masculine, alpha man in every other part of my life and in ever other aspect of our relationship, so the shame of my sexual inadequacy is very powerful. I both love and hate it, but it's simply the reality.

It happens to many. Be proud of who you are. It takes three to make a hot wife, cuckold couple.

Brad

[jayhawker1984]

I've had this discussion with my wife many times. I frequently apologize to her for my lack of ability to stay focused during sex and that I've had cuckolding thoughts since early days of our relationship.
What it all boils down to is we are both very happy with cuckolding. It's not a kink to us but, instead, it's therapeutic for our marriage and makes our bonding very strong.

Yes, I sometimes am remorseful I cannot provide for her basic sexual play that a husband should but she often reminds me I shouldnt be upset as long as we are both happily in love.

If we stopped cuckolding right now or in the immediate future, , it would be a heavy blow to our relationship.

[2wheel]

Shame HELL NO!

If I couldn't reach the top of the door because I'm short I wouldn't be ashamed, if I couldn't open a jar without help because I no longer have the strength I wouldn't be ashamed, if I couldn't satisfy my wife because of ED I wouldn't be ashamed. These are physical limitations we have, things we don't have control over. No shame involved.

What would be shameful is if I couldn't adjust to do those things, stand on a stool, use a jar opener, become a cuckold, not do those things within my control.

In my case I can't get in her other than silky seconds, and I'm only good for 1 round with a very small load, so I take the role of cuckold to pave the way for her to have partners that can do what I can't. And I take pride in the fact that I make sure she is satisfied.

[manotick]

Cuckolding is the M in BDSM....masochism....and that means there is a mixture of pleasure and pain...the pleasure is obvious to us...our cocks tell us all we need to know when we see a another man buried deep inside your wife's pussy and giving her the pleasure you never could....but the pain is there too...jealousy, envy, and shame, humiliation, inadequacy

yet cuckolding is not one or the other...it is the whole package...so we learn to embrace the pain and shame along with the pleasure....and you know you are a cuckold when after the evening is over, you want to do it all over again the next day

[jayhawker1984]

I'm amazed at how many "out" cuckolds there must be. So you guys are saying that you have no shame, but there is some other reason why you are closeted. It's been my experience that most cucks are extremely ashamed, and will only open up in private or when they feel their anonymity is being protected.

Oh, yeah, I guess I could mention that I do have shame associated with cuckolding. I don't think it's the shame that turns me on at all, as a matter of fact that shame has always been a turn off for me. I find the turn on comes when I am able to get past shame and just be in the moment.

I feel ashamed that my lovemaking skills are constantly decreasing since years.
Her libido raises every year and it's an impossible task for me to keep up with her.
Eventually I reached a point where I'm unable to satisfy my sweet wife properly.
Recently I started to have fantasies about sharing my wife with another man who has good stamina and is well endowed also.
So to speak a backdoor man who gets the job done, could be the solution to our little problem.

There is nothing wrong with cuckolding. You are being honest with your wife that you just cannot meet her needs in the bedroom. So what? As long as she loves you and not the other guy, you are being considerate and caring by bringing cuckolding into your marriage. It's a gift you are giving her.

[magnus]

Cuckolding is the M in BDSM....masochism....and that means there is a mixture of pleasure and pain...the pleasure is obvious to us...our cocks tell us all we need to know when we see a another man buried deep inside your wife's pussy and giving her the pleasure you never could....but the pain is there too...jealousy, envy, and shame, humiliation, inadequacy

yet cuckolding is not one or the other...it is the whole package...so we learn to embrace the pain and shame along with the pleasure....and you know you are a cuckold when after the evening is over, you want to do it all over again the next day

This is exactly it.

I wouldn't want to not feel the shame. The shame is very much a part of the kink and what pushes the intensity of the sexual excitment. I don't view the shame as negative at all, I embrace and enjoy it, even as part of me hates it.

FWIW, if I were better endowed than my 5.5 inches and average thickness, I'm not sure we would even be involved in the cuckold lifestyle. My wife believes I fuck better than most (not all) of the bulls she's been with, I just don't have the equipment to give her the deep orgasms she loves and craves. When we are between bulls, I use a cock sleeve and fuck her long and hard to multiple intense orgasms. She will say it's "almost as good" as the real thing, but it's not the real thing. For her, a big, thick, hard, real flesh cock is the ultimate orgasm tool and I simply don't have one of those.