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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 1:51 pm 
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Congrats on the progress!! What were some of the questions she asked you? Did you talk about her getting a boyfriend on the side?


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Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 2:52 pm 
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A serious-sounding "Maybe I'll do it" is a HUGE FUCKING MILESTONE. That's a total change from your previous view that she really had no interest and was just humoring you.

At this point, I'd say it was much more likely than not that she'll do it.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 5:08 pm 
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Wow! Sounds like an intense night. I remember "the night" with my ex like a dream - doesn't feel quite real even all these years later. Not the first night she had another man (that came earlier), but the night when we put it all out there and she said the words - said she liked it and was open to continuing (she did).

If you're up for it, I'd be interested in reading more detail about your conversation- especially what she hopes to get out of an open relationship. Is it more about her expressing her power? In general? Over you? Or is it more about the physical pleasure? Getting things she can't get from you? Spice on top of what you do? Or is it about the transgression - being "bad"? Something else? Very curious!

Thanks!

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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 6:24 pm 
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Thanks guys! The only thing that I have been thinking about all day is our conversation and what could possibly be next. She's been gone all day so we haven't had much talk besides the little moment we had this morning, but I am very excited for dinner and just spending time with her. Maybe with hopes we can talk more about it all. Some of the questions she asked were if I wanted this for real? Why does this turn me on so much? Do I have concerns that she'd fall for another guy? How do I know she won't fall for another guy? The conversation never got to talking about specifics of how things would play out or anything like that. I guess by her questions and the way she talked about it, I would guess in her mind she was thinking more of a boyfriend type situation. But again, we didn't talk about any specifics, we aren't there yet.

So like I said the conversation had its highs and lows. I would say it ended well compared to how it started. At the beginning of the conversation she started showing frustration toward me having this fantasy. I told her it was fine and we didn't have to do anything with it because it wasn't worth her getting frustrated about it. But each time I tried to express that to her, or explain it to her that I would have no problem dropping this whole thing because it wasn't worth her being frustrated or disliking something of mine, she responded with, "No" and followed that "No" with a reason why we should continue it. Some of her concerns were how do we know she wouldn't fall for the other guy, especially since I have been the only one she has been with. One thing she said that I agreed with and it made me think, was she said she didn't want to feel like she settled with marrying me. Sort of said it and meant it like, what if she hooked up with another guy and he was better in everything, why would she settle with me. But she followed this up with, "But I knew this about you before we got married. I knew what you liked and who you were and I knew you weren't going to change." (referring to my submissiveness and cuckolding fantasies). She even said that she likes the femdom things that we do and she likes me being obsessed with her. Throughout our entire talk she never came out and straight said No to the whole thing. She'd show disinterest or concerns, but follow that up with giving reasons to go forward. After all, at the end of the conversation she said she may do it, and even said we could talk about it more.

60d - At this point I think her doing it would be for me and to satisfy my fantasy. Obviously my wish would be that this would be something she wanted, but maybe if she did do it she may see it as expressing her power over me and some of the other things you mentioned. She may realize she enjoys it and what she can get out of it. And who knows, maybe the more we talk openly about it maybe it could change to her wanting it for herself.

The obvious red flag here was the theme of concern with her for falling for the other guy. When she first brought that up I told her I felt confident enough this wouldn't happen and the reason I was confident in that was because I felt our relationship was strong enough where that wouldn't happen. That was when she brought up how would I know she wouldn't since I have been the only one she's ever been with and the talk of she didn't want to feel like she settled. Extremely good reasons and concerns, but it gave me pause that maybe she doesn't feel like we are as strong as I think we are, and if that is the case, I need to work harder between us to make us stronger. This happening obviously doesn't work if our relationship isn't strong, and I wouldn't want to do this if we both didn't think it was strong.

I am very excited to see where this goes and hope we get to talk more about it soon.


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 7:14 pm 
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Great update, as usual. I completely understand not being able to get it off your mind.

Your wife seems very thoughtful about all of this. You might ask her why she's worried about falling for another guy. Aside from, maybe, wanting to experience another man sexually, are there more things she wants from other men? Things she thinks she can't get from you? Seems important to get that out in the open before introducing others into your relationship.

As for you being her only partner, that's always seemed like it should be a powerful lure for your wife, at least to me. She's sexually adventurous, and enjoys the attention of men, so it's hard to imagine she doesn't fantasize about sex with other partners. She knows your cock is small - she watches porn, so the contrast must be pretty jarring.

If she can imagine an arrangement where her extracurriculars are with pure fuckbuddies - guys she's into purely because they're great lays, but otherwise not her type for any sort of LTR - then, maybe it's possible everyone in this story will get what they want. Keep up the conversation - the two of you really are admirable in the way you communicate. If you do as well in the other areas of your relationship, I'm sure this will all work out great.

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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sat Feb 17, 2018 11:36 pm 
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Recommend you take your foot off the pedal to give her time to process…


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 12:31 pm 
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your wife's "slow burn" evolution is absolutely thrilling. I read your and her progress before I read anything else on this site. and I can't wait for more!


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 12:33 pm 
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your wife's "slow burn" evolution is absolutely thrilling. I read your and her progress before I read anything else on this site. and I can't wait for more!


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 12:43 pm 
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Her concern is well founded, but you can help allay her fears by telling her you would want her to monitor her feelings, and let you know if she started developing deeper feelings for her FB.

That is one of the reasons HW husbands often would prefer their wives to date more than one guy. ;)


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 12:45 pm 
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I think 1 thing you should talk to her about is the difference between having a bf versus a fb. She might only be thinking of a bf arrangement because that’s the more traditional mentality of a female that’s having sex with someone. It’s possible that she hasn’t considered a fb arrangement that wouldn’t be based on emotional things. There’s plenty of guys looking for a NSA type of thing. If she cuts ties after a few trysts or recognizes that the guy is emotionally unavailable, then the risk of her/him developing feelings diminishes dramatically. Just an idea for your conversations. Love the progress!!


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 2:12 pm 
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Thanks everyone for your input. Great idea to bring up a FB and not a BF situation, I'll keep that in mind next time we talk. Also 60d - good questions to ask her about her concerns for why she thinks she may fall for someone. And your point on me being her only partner is interesting and actually part of the reason I've always thought that over time she'd be more interested in trying this out. BallSpanking - Another good point to tie into a FB over a BF, but to let her know to let me know if she developed any sort of deeper feelings. Tryn - I think you are right that she may be only thinking of a bf arrangement because it is the more traditional mentality. You guys bring up great inputs to talk about next time the conversation arises, thanks!

38kewp - I am with you on letting my foot off the pedal for now to give her time to process things. I am still thinking and processing our last two conversations and I have had this fantasy for years, so I can only imagine what she may be thinking.

Yesterday, after she got home she got ready for our dinner date. She had changed a little bit of the plans and we were going to meet a couple who were friends of ours at dinner. That really isn't important, other than it didn't really give us any chance to talk about things at dinner, but I wasn't expecting a conversation so quickly anyways. But my wifes outfit for dinner stood out to me. She wore a very shiny velvet top that tied in the front so her belly button peaked out just a little bit. So not only did the shiny material of her shirt catch your eye, when it did catch your eye, there was a bit of tease with it being tied and showing off just a tad bit of skin. On top of that she wore thigh high brown suede boots that tied all the way up the back from the ankle to the top. On the way to dinner she told me about this older guy customer who was hitting on her at work that day. Although she said it in a way that she was not flattered at all by it, I was interested to know she was openly telling me about someone hitting on her. Since she was telling me in a way where she was not at all like interested in this guy or found him to be attractive or anything like that, but rather annoyed by him, I listened and responded like I thought it was annoying as well. Maybe to show her that protective side and to show her if she isn't interested, neither am I.

I do think if she decides to do it, it'll happen fast. I forgot to mention during our talk she brought up she could have easily done it already if she wanted. She also made a comment that many women would have taken the opportunity if they knew their husbands were ok with it.

Our night didn't end with anytime in the bedroom, she even rejected my offer. Maybe her withholding me of anything is irrelevant at this point in time because of our conversations and where we are at right now. But if I get lucky tonight it would stick to her number of telling me I am lucky to get 2 times per week. The unfortunate thing is she hasn't put me in chastity yet. She sometimes does this, where she will be for something but maybe because it isn't on her mind like it is mine, she seems to forget and doesn't bring it up back up. Which worries me a bit with her saying we can talk about cuckolding again later, but maybe she doesn't bring it back up. I do want to take my foot off the pedal to give her time to process things, because I can't help but think she must be thinking about our conversations and the topic. But I don't want that future opportunity to talk about things to be forgotten. Maybe if enough time passes I can reintroduce the conversation letting her know I've been thinking about her concern of falling for someone and why that would be? Is there something I need to be better at?

I would love to talk about it more right away, because it just occupies my mind, but I don't want to push it too much. I look forward to every evening we have together because of the hope we can talk about it some more. I have really enjoyed our past two conversations about it, and I feel closer to her because of them. Just this morning she met a friend for coffee, who is her wild friend, probably could be a bad (or good) influence on my wife. Now this may just be a woman thing, but before leaving she made a last minute change to her outfit saying, "Actually, I think I'm going to wear a hat to look cuter." Probably innocent and just a woman wanting to look and feel good, but for me of course, I just think about it being her intention to get an extra look.


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 6:49 pm 
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Damn, she's hot.

Couple quick thoughts:

Chastity - maybe she's just not that into it. She knows it helps heighten your arousal, but there appears to be little need for that at the moment. Maybe give this specific thing a rest. If she wants you locked up, she'll lock you up. If, in a few months, you really want whatever special feeling you get from chastity, you can always mention it again. Your wife is so agreeable about these little things (from her POV), that I imagine she'll play along at least a little bit.

Vey interesting remarks about her having, more or less, already turned down opportunities. She's young, hot, and a flirt, so if she ever wants other lovers, finding them won't be a problem. In my limited experience, having a single wingbabe makes the hunt much easier. A single woman going out to a bar is still intimidating and a bit out of place. Two girls dressed up for a good time, OTOH, is pretty much the norm. Pulling that off requires having one or more girlfriends who are in the know. For me, that wasn't an issue - I didn't mind/found it titillating.

Have fun!

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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Sun Feb 18, 2018 8:27 pm 
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60d - Thanks! I think you are right about the chastity thing. And yes, when she said she could have done it already it was like a 'whoa' moment to me. She definitely has the self confidence and I think now she notices she gets looks, when before, like back to when we first started dating, she really didn't notice the looks she was getting. I would bring it up to her and she would be completely oblivious to it. I wish she would go out with girlfriends more often because I think it could open up opportunities.

I don't know if it's because I've spilled my thoughts and emotions to her and having our conversations, but the last couple days when I am in her presence I just feel very submissive, almost weak. This may seem odd and I know it wasn't her intentions at all, but when she told me her concerns about falling for the other man, it aroused me. It got me to start thinking what can I do to be better to her and for her. What is also hot is just the unknown of where this is going, she knows what I want and her comment of she may do it, I just get excited to think of what could be next or what she may say next. I am fairly certain I will get some play time tonight since she was lounging around in sweats and she excitedly told me, "Look!" and she pulled down her pants just a tad to show off she was wearing her shiny silver booty shorts. The shorts I had hoped she was going to wear last night. I expressed to her my excitement and with a smile she told me, "Not yet you got to wait."


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Mon Feb 19, 2018 2:26 pm 
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I assure you, there are well endowed Alpha studs out there who can give your wife more cock than you ever will. ;)


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Unread postPosted: Mon Feb 19, 2018 5:01 pm 
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BallSpanking wrote:
I assure you, there are well endowed Alpha studs out there who can give your wife more cock than you ever will. ;)


Interesting you bring this up. Last night I don't know how we got on the topic of size, but we did. She asked how big I was and I told her I thought I was 6 inches. She remembered we had recently measured me and she looked at me with thought and said, "Are you sure?" I told her I was fairly certain I was 6 inches and she raced to get the measuring tape. She pulled my pants down and stroked me a few times to make sure to get every inch possible out of me as she measured. Deeply looking at the measuring tape she said to me, "Oh my God you better not only be 6 inches." She looked closer and as if she was doing everything she could to make the measuring seem like it was over 6 inches she said, "I think you may be a little over." She said it like she couldn't accept in her mind I was only 6 inches, and 6.1 inches would be enough to ease her mind. She even tugged it upward once to get it more over that 6 inch line. There was no previous build up talk leading into this either, this was spur of the moment somehow we got onto size talk and she said that. It was pretty hot because I was sitting there thinking, given our recent talks, is this a come to realization moment that she could get bigger and better sex?

Nothing else to really bring up, I did get lucky last night but it was as plain and vanilla as you could get. Before we began she told me, "Get over here. You better make this quick." When we were done it had taken me awhile to get her to orgasm and she said, "Made you work at that one a little bit, burn off some of your desert." I had eaten some unhealthy food throughout the night and she made me aware of it.

Again, the size discussion just left me wondering if this was a little something that clicked in her mind. I refrained from bringing up anything cuckolding because I do want to give it some time before bringing it up again, and also it just felt like I didn't have to bring up that she could get bigger if she wanted, it was as if she knew.


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Mon Feb 19, 2018 9:00 pm 
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Maybe you could ask her what an ideal cock would be to her...
Girth over length, curved for her G-spot, or straight, etc.
That will get her thinking. ;)


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Wed Feb 21, 2018 12:28 am 
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Breaker445 wrote:
BallSpanking wrote:
I assure you, there are well endowed Alpha studs out there who can give your wife more cock than you ever will. ;)


Interesting you bring this up. Last night I don't know how we got on the topic of size, but we did. She asked how big I was and I told her I thought I was 6 inches. She remembered we had recently measured me and she looked at me with thought and said, "Are you sure?" I told her I was fairly certain I was 6 inches and she raced to get the measuring tape. She pulled my pants down and stroked me a few times to make sure to get every inch possible out of me as she measured. Deeply looking at the measuring tape she said to me, "Oh my God you better not only be 6 inches." She looked closer and as if she was doing everything she could to make the measuring seem like it was over 6 inches she said, "I think you may be a little over." She said it like she couldn't accept in her mind I was only 6 inches, and 6.1 inches would be enough to ease her mind. She even tugged it upward once to get it more over that 6 inch line. There was no previous build up talk leading into this either, this was spur of the moment somehow we got onto size talk and she said that. It was pretty hot because I was sitting there thinking, given our recent talks, is this a come to realization moment that she could get bigger and better sex?

Nothing else to really bring up, I did get lucky last night but it was as plain and vanilla as you could get. Before we began she told me, "Get over here. You better make this quick." When we were done it had taken me awhile to get her to orgasm and she said, "Made you work at that one a little bit, burn off some of your desert." I had eaten some unhealthy food throughout the night and she made me aware of it.

Again, the size discussion just left me wondering if this was a little something that clicked in her mind. I refrained from bringing up anything cuckolding because I do want to give it some time before bringing it up again, and also it just felt like I didn't have to bring up that she could get bigger if she wanted, it was as if she knew.

If it makes you feel better (IF you want to feel better), 6” (or a little over) is above average…


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 Post subject: Re: progress story
Unread postPosted: Wed Feb 21, 2018 9:06 pm 
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Hey,

It's been a couple of days, and now I'm feeling vicarious cuck angst! :-)

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Unread postPosted: Wed Feb 21, 2018 11:22 pm 
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Lol! Sorry just been a busy few days, but the only thing I really have to share is a wait and see post.

So I haven't brought up the topic at all since our talk, and because I have been busy I just haven't really been expressing myself sexually too much to her over the last couple days. Well she has taken notice, even though it has only been a couple days of not getting that attention. Last night we were sitting on the couch she placed her feet in my lap and I was massaging them. She pressed her foot harder into my hands and she brought up that I hadn't been horny the last couple of days. I told her I had been, but I had just kept it to myself because I didn't want to annoy her. She smiled and asked very sweetly if it was because of our talk the other night which she said it didn't annoy her. Before I could really say anything she said again in a very sweet way, "I told you we would talk about it more later." I told her I would love to talk about it more. She went back to her phone and moved her foot up and down as to control the type of massage she wanted from me. We do have a date night coming up this weekend, so I am hoping that is when she plans on talking more. The way she talked about it and by the tone of her voice made me think that we will talk about it more soon and I'll probably like where the discussion goes.

Later that night I went to the gym rather late and when I came back she was already in bed and asleep. Just out of curiosity I checked to see if she may have used any toys while I was gone and I pleasantly found she had used her vibrator while I was gone. I am excited about our next talk because like I said, she made it sound like it would be one I enjoyed. Even though I was pleased with our last talk since it ended with her saying maybe she would do it. I've wanted to bring the topic back up and talk about it now, but I haven't because she let me know that a talk soon is on her mind and my guess is she will be the one to bring it up. Again I am hoping it is this weekend when we both have more time, especially with a date night.

So not a whole lot, but definitely excited about our next talk!


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Unread postPosted: Thu Feb 22, 2018 12:12 am 
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We're excited for you . Keep us posted !


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Unread postPosted: Thu Feb 22, 2018 4:15 am 
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Sounds like someone could be making plans... Fun for you that she's saying no need to hold back on expressing your devotion. Can't wait to hear about your next chat.

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Unread postPosted: Thu Feb 22, 2018 5:12 pm 
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Stay mum, let her bring it up if she wants to. I think you have piqued her interest.
If she brings it up, it means it is on her mind, and she wants to discuss it.

Let her take the lead, listen to the nuances of what she would like, and show support for her desires, whatever they may be.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:25 am 
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I thought it was interesting that your wife met up with her "wild" friend the day after your cuckold conversation. I was wondering if she arranged this in order to confide your interests and get her friend's advice on how to proceed.

Did your wife tell you what they discussed?

Best luck!


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Unread postPosted: Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:25 am 
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Please dit double post.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Feb 23, 2018 11:26 am 
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Please edit double post.


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