The size question - Women do like bigger size

[jimbobin]

For many years I worked for a organisation that was made up from about 90% female employees. The organisation had many little offices across the country with many without any male employees at all.
As such I was often in the work place whilst 'girl' chat was talking place and I can certainly say that females do talk about sex and probably in more detail than guys do.
Often conversations of how did that new boyfriend or hot date work out as well and more mundane life with family and how clients have been chatting them up, which ones they find attractive and who were just gross.
I have been around were discussions on cock size, stamina, circumcision status where all brought up and spoken about with views being shared across of the office and even been directly asked intimate questions about myself.
I reflect often conversations often revolve around the ‘extremes’, so guys that are small or big being a good topic. Normal just does not seem to be a topic that titillates. I remember vividly one lady talking about her long term boyfriend (now husband) and he had the biggest cock she had ever had, how wonderful it was etc etc, there certainly wasn’t anyone saying that smaller was better or they preferred average. In fact I don’t ever recall anything like that being promoted.
It would seem that as a guy could have a trophy wife/gf, the same could be said for a girl. Having a fit and hung boyfriend is a massive trophy and boost for the induvial and could be seen as a positive sign of success or attractiveness.

[Righteous]

I normally don't post, but thought I may be able to bring something to this conversation, so here goes…

In case you haven't read our story, my then 23-year-old wife had an affair when we had to spend a school year apart (link to that story below).

I'm not what you would call small (7" on a good day, and average girth), but this older man (41) seduced her and it turned out he was well-hung (maybe 8.5" or more, very thick and his cock had an enormous head). She eventually admitted to me that his cock wasn't "just a bit larger than yours" but A LOT larger. "Making love to Marc the first time was life-changing. I had no idea intercourse could feel like that."

The affair (I was unaware but had some suspicions before it all came out) lasted the entire school year and then an additional month -- and he was the main reason for that extra time. She really got off on having a lover, mostly because of the power aspect she felt, but it was the sex that kept her going back over and over. He opened up a whole new world to her, so yeah, it was life-changing.

It took a long time to get her to admit it (not wanting to hurt my feelings anymore than she had by having the affair), but she eventually told me, "Size really does matter. Extra length is nice as long as a guy knows how to use it, but extra girth is just amazing. Every time I'd leave his bed, all I could think about was, 'When can I do this again? Marc was an incredible lover.'

She currently has a lover who visits us once a month or so (my old university roommate) and he too has an above average cock -- and knows how to use it. Also our friend Ron (whom she still sees, as I also see his wife) is very much above average in size.

In closing, she has said that women don't like to honestly tell their men about cock size because of worrying about its demeaning effect. If you're average or below average, there's not much you can do about it and that's sort of tough to hear.

[HOUSEBOY]

Of course our women like them big. I found that out soon after I my first swinger party. There were a lot of hard nipples when the bulls striped. The girls could not take their eyes off their cocks. There were 3 of us cucks and our cocks shriveled in embarrassment watching our wives bare bottomed offering themselves to the bulls. Size matters and they are not going back to 3 inches at least not my wife.

[4herpleasure89]

Something you guys should do...please look at every cock size thread on this website. You'll see a fascinating thing. The "verified Hotwives" don't get involved in them.

So here's my real take on this whole thing: it's all in your head. Most of us JUST DON'T CARE about size. Anything in the 4-6.5 inch range feels about the same. Any bigger and it can be painful hitting the cervix. Any smaller and it can slip out easily making sex kind of wonky. Guess what? 99% of men are average size and I can't tell the difference inside. Even with girth there's no big difference unless it's super size. I can take about 6 inches inside and that's it. Anything more than 6 inches and the guy can't go all the way in and I miss out on the direct contact of our bodies touching down there. My husband is 5.5 inches and it's the best sex I've ever had.

All this talk about giant dicks 7+ inches is just ridiculous. I think men see this stuff in porn and build this fantasy in their head. That's why these guys are in porn! Their length allows for great camera angles and the penis is always visible because it can't go all the way in making for more exciting visuals. Porn wouldn't be much fun with 4-6 inches because the penis wouldn't be visible for the entire time and the action would be hidden because the people would be closer together blocking the view.

Most importantly, men and women don't judge size correctly. If you look at the Top 10% thread here the biggest ones are like 6.5 inches legit.

There are threads about cock size women do get involved with. One, a woman started actually. I think there are other reasons some women shy away from the subject other than they have no opinion or don’t care. Mine would never get into a forum discussion on the subject yet she definitely has an opinion about the color, shape and length of the cocks she plays with. And she stopped playing with a very handsome guy primarily due to his smaller thinner cock.

[Egyptian_pharaoh]

Ask about girth in the first place, then ask about length.
One of my friends has a 4.5 inches, it's considered as short, but his cock girth is something amazing, it looks like cokacola mini can, I could tell you that women worship his cock.
On the other hand, away from size, How to use it? It's a basic issue.
Confidence and flexibility in bed are essential.

[JRE2]

My wife has said she’s experienced everything between about 4” ( her ex) and a guestimated 10” in length attached to a slender 5’-5” professional bull rider.
Her stated preference is 7” and very thick. Both the 4 and the 10 inchers were memorable but not enjoyable. I’m an honest 7” with a 6” circumference, so she’s satisfied, if not impressed, even though I sometimes painfully bottom out. Her absolute favorite partner was a little longer than me and substantially thicker. She said he hit bottom if not careful and that was the only complaint, but the way he filled her was perfect.

I recall a high school psychology class that taught us about Sour Grapes Rationalization. If you don’t get what you want, you claim that you didn’t really want it anyway. Nothing wrong with being disappointed and willing to accept what you have, but a normal woman claiming that 4” is satisfying if owned by a guy who knows how to use it, might be fibbing just a little bit.

[sara c]

I started modeling as a teen, and enjoyed a wide variety of cocks of all sizes. Sex was as common as eating and I?had many, many guys. I once had a guy in a threesome with a 10.75 cock (we measured). I took it missionary but carefully first, and took it all, but when he pumped I had to hold him back by an inch or more. I loved it and came, but it was overwhelming. To my amazement my girlfriend took him from behind and he pumped her hard.
I crave big 8-9 inch cocks, and when I find these guys i keep them around. But few guys reach this level. When I’m in an orgy I move from man to man and sometimes I’ll orgasm and sometimes I won’t, depending on their size. Once I was on a swingers cruise and hooked up with a guy who had 8 inches. I took him to the beds set up for play on deck. I did a reverse cowgirl and rode him just to see if I could. And I came like some screaming Amazon, with people in surrounding beds stopping to watch.
Overall, I have no use for small or flaccid cocks, or cum and done guys, which is why I go for guys half my age, since even though they cum fast they’re ready to go again.

[magnus]

My wife used to tell me that size didn't really matter and that it came down to knowing how to use it. I could make her orgasm with my 6 inches and average thick cock, but it would take a good while and the right position, which was on her back, pelvis tilted up so that I hit her g-spot. I could also make her orgasm from behind, but again, it would take awhile.
When we finally went down the hotwife rabbit hole, the undeniable truth revealed itself. All else being equal, she orgasms far more quickly and intensely being fucked by a large, thick cock. In fact I now have to use a cock sleeve to make her cum from fucking as she can no longer orgasm on my 6 incher. She would say about 7.5 inches long and very thick is about the perfect size for her. Any longer than 8 inches bottoms her out as she is only 5'2 in height. She can and does enjoy 8-9 inch cocks, but they have to take their time and ease into full depth.

She finally admitted to me that while I could "fuck like a champ", my size never really made her have intense orgasms although she loved the effort. Seeing the intensity of her orgasms and how fast and frequently she can reach them, with a large cock was at first a blow to my ego, although it simultaneously turned me on to no end. It's what really moved our dynamic from hotwifing to more cuckolding.

[mfm4bnc]

Too bad less than 1% of men have an 8” dick or bigger. Most all these women who prefer 8” have never actually had a real one. Maybe the guys have told them it was 8” but that doesn’t make it one. Funny.

My wife seems unusually adept at finding the big ones... She has had a couple of 10+ and lots of 8+ She said my 7+ is the second smallest of her dozens of lovers.

[EDAS]

Women -- some women, I should say -- like to say that size is a male thing or male obsession. True. But not all males are 'obsessed' by it.

I think it is an individual thing, whether we are male or female.

One of my female friends always thought and said to me that size was not important at all. Sure, a super small dick was something that she would not and did not like. But since most men are in the 5 to 6-inch range, she felt okay.

But two years ago, she met a man who was well over the usual standard size. He was thick and over 7 inches. She right away fell in love with his cock, constantly praising his size to me. She ended up telling me that she is now a convert. That is, size is now very important for her. Sure she would still fuck men who are smaller. But when she sees a man with a large cock she now licks her chops!

And as an aside. Concerning this time my male gaze onto the female breast. Size is important for me, but in reverse, as it were. I love small, perky breasts. I do not like large breasts which I find unattractive. Fortunately, not all men think like I do about female breasts.

[desertsub]

Too bad less than 1% of men have an 8” dick or bigger. Most all these women who prefer 8” have never actually had a real one. Maybe the guys have told them it was 8” but that doesn’t make it one. Funny.

My wife seems unusually adept at finding the big ones... She has had a couple of 10+ and lots of 8+ She said my 7+ is the second smallest of her dozens of lovers.

Apparently my wife is too! Every guy except one that she has been with has had a bigger dick than mine, which isn't saying much since I'm less than 5" after being locked in chastity for several years. But, it seems that a majority of them are 7" or better!

[ckathrill]

My wife had an affair when she was 23 yo and the guy was 45 yo. He had 8 inches and very thick. She told me about it when we were in the middle of fucking. She seemed to be so bored and was just laying there so i asked her what was the matter. She then told be about the affair.

I asked her about the guy and why she did it. She said he was not good-looking, was short and thin, did not eat her well at all, and he was a terrible kisser. So...i asked her..why then? She simply said "it was the fucking". She described how ecstatic she felt, how she loved being filled and stretched. Even though it would hurt, she could not get enough it. And to top it off - even though i did not ask - she wanted the whole truth out. She said he fucked her 3 or 4 times each time they met.

As a young man, needless to say i was totally devastated.

[ckathrill]

And for those women here feel bottomed out with 5 or 6 inches, that is just fine for you who may have a small tight vagina but a lot of women can take a whole lot more and love it.

[Aussie Cuckold]

So to conclude, average women prefer an average dick in a relationship for everyday use. However, once in awhile, they need and want a bigger size, both for the thrill of sheer visual effect and for the feeling.

this is definitely the case with my wife, the trill of a younger man and who is hung does get her very excited, these are things she likes once or twice a month

[CoupleFun555]

For my wife, she can have “cervical” orgasms from deep penetration. For her, the minimum for that type of orgasm is at least 8 inches. She can enjoy over 9 inches but anything over 9 1/2 inches is probably too much for her. Her bf is over 8 x 6 and she has a great time with him.

[SailorGuy]

When I masturbate next to my wife we both gaze in wonder at my tiny little "cock". My wife gets her needs satisfied by her lover's big 10" cock. Even if I can get fully erect I am no more than 4". Just the thought of my slender wife taking that huge cock into her cunt and mouth makes me cum all over myself. She tells me about this while I rub my little thing, watches my pre-cum leak out from the start and then my big gush of cum splurging all over my belly. THAT'S why I have another lover, a real Man in my life, she tells me. He is big, he is rock-hard, and he knows how to use it. He lasts long enough to fuck my wife in every conceivable position. When I was her lover I would lick her cunt forever hoping to please her. Then when she would pull me inside her I'd cum in a few seconds. Now that's I'm a full-fledged cuck I am just fine with this. My wife has a Real Man to pleasure her. And my great pleasure is masturbating just thinking about them together.

[magnus]

For my wife, she can have “cervical” orgasms from deep penetration. For her, the minimum for that type of orgasm is at least 8 inches. She can enjoy over 9 inches but anything over 9 1/2 inches is probably too much for her. Her bf is over 8 x 6 and she has a great time with him.

My wife will often have a cervical orgasm with an 8 inch + cock right away upon initial penetration, before he even starts thrusting. This also happens when I use a cock sleeve that ends up being about 8 inches and really thick. She likes the initial penetration to be slow for her to get used to the size and once the cock or cock sleeve pushes up against her cervix, without even beginning to thrust, she will have a deep, intense orgasm.

The fist time I witnessed it I came to two realizations: 1) it was an incredible turn on that I wanted to continue to see, and 2) there was no way I could ever provide that for her with my average size cock.

[Mark KL]

I normally don't post, but thought I may be able to bring something to this conversation, so here goes…

In case you haven't read our story, my then 23-year-old wife had an affair when we had to spend a school year apart (link to that story below).

I'm not what you would call small (7" on a good day, and average girth), but this older man (41) seduced her and it turned out he was well-hung (maybe 8.5" or more, very thick and his cock had an enormous head). She eventually admitted to me that his cock wasn't "just a bit larger than yours" but A LOT larger. "Making love to Marc the first time was life-changing. I had no idea intercourse could feel like that."

The affair (I was unaware but had some suspicions before it all came out) lasted the entire school year and then an additional month -- and he was the main reason for that extra time. She really got off on having a lover, mostly because of the power aspect she felt, but it was the sex that kept her going back over and over. He opened up a whole new world to her, so yeah, it was life-changing.

It took a long time to get her to admit it (not wanting to hurt my feelings anymore than she had by having the affair), but she eventually told me, "Size really does matter. Extra length is nice as long as a guy knows how to use it, but extra girth is just amazing. Every time I'd leave his bed, all I could think about was, 'When can I do this again? Marc was an incredible lover.'

She currently has a lover who visits us once a month or so (my old university roommate) and he too has an above average cock -- and knows how to use it. Also our friend Ron (whom she still sees, as I also see his wife) is very much above average in size.

In closing, she has said that women don't like to honestly tell their men about cock size because of worrying about its demeaning effect. If you're average or below average, there's not much you can do about it and that's sort of tough to hear.

This thread needs a bump.

[Johnann2227]

We have been swingers and hotwifing for over 25 years. In that time my wife has experienced hundreds of different sized and shaped cocks. The smallest she has had was about 2 inches and reasonably thick (a sympathy fuck she gave at a party) and the largest was a 10 inch BBC that she couldn't get her hand around (in 2016 on holiday in the US. She had to stop as it was too painful so she licked and jerked him off). Her extensive research has led to her preferring circumcised (it is now a deal breaker if the guy isn't circumcised), 8 inches and thick. She prefers girth over length and loves big balls that slap against her clit when having a doggy. If she is on top going airtight, she always gets the guy with the thinnest cock to go anal and the thickest cock oral. She also now greatly prefers her lovers to be smooth (no pubes) as she find she gets rubbed sore as she has been lasered smooth from the neck down for years.

[CaliLondon]

My wife is very open about preferring her playmate's cock. He is about 1.5 times my width and about two inches longer. As long as he doesn't hit the wrong angle, she loves his cock.

[BBCfan]

So to conclude, average women prefer an average dick in a relationship for everyday use. However, once in awhile, they need and want a bigger size, both for the thrill of sheer visual effect and for the feeling.

am I correct in that assessment? And what is your experience?

I think it would be similar to asking if most guys prefer a tight pussy. If it feels better why wouldn't you.

Of the decent sample size of vaginas I've been blessed enough to explore, my 7.5" by 5.5" dick was never too big for anyone, although a couple it took some time to fit all in.

With most women I could feel their cervix, and was able to accommodate cervical orgasms for ones that were able to achieve them.

Likely about 5% of the vaginas were on the smaller size, Which means I had to be a bit more careful and usually they achieved orgasm easier. They fit like a glove which was a nice feeling.

And 5% or less were on the bigger side in which I felt a little small, but was still able to enjoy the experience although could tell they could handle significantly larger dick than mine. Only one I can remember was like throwing a hot dog down a hallway.

I ended up marrying one of the women on the bigger side but still VERY pleasurable.
She can and has taken extremely large endowments of 9+ and thickness 7+ around.

What shocks me is the amount of them she has had in proportion to overall experiences.

She says size is nice, but for her a big head and a nice curve are equally if not more important for a maximum pleasurable experience.

For her I am on the small side of her experiences and she considers my size very average.
I know she's being nice, so that likely means it's a little on the small side for her.

She is very happy with my size she says, but has recently agreed to try one of the big ones again.
She has also said if it's under 9 inches she doesn't consider it that big.

Sizes are all relative it seems, but I think for the most part your supposition is pretty correct.

[trecital]

So, do women like 'big', or just 'bigger'?

In other words, do women prefer above a certain size, say 6" for example?

Or do they just prefer that their 'other man' is bigger than their 'normal' man?

If, for example, they became a hotwife, and the second guy had a smaller cock, would that be disappointing to them, and the relationship come to an end because of it?

[Astrid Servel]

The thing I enjoy about a good lover with a big dick is that he knows he has to work the foreplay for it to be enjoyable for both of us.
So size is important but not just because of the size, it’s way more complex than that, for me at least.

[Thebestdays1]

My ex wife wasn't too bothered about size, she was more interested in what they did with it. Some of her worst lovers were big and she found they assumed she'd be turned on just by the sight of it and wouldn't bother too much with foreplay.

She's also had some amazing sex with men larger than me but also with smaller men. She loves having a penis in her mouth and she was more comfortable with a smaller man than a large one.

For her, it was the person or the circumstance that was important, not the size. That said, when she had a few different sized vibrators, it was the larger ones that were worn out first.

[Tryagain]

I don't think anyone has addressed this but guys with long cocks can fuck a woman in so many more positions. They do not have to put the whole cock in her. For example, if she lays down on her stomach and he gets on top of her. He can fuck her really well. I cannot penetrate her hardly at all that way.

Big cocks give you options. My wife loves one of her current guys who is truly a full 9 inches and very thick. Because he is a considerate lover, I can easily see that most of the time he only inserts about 7.5 or so in her. Then he ramps up a bit more and - though she loves the pain - she can take it for a very short while - screaming all the way ( most women would not want what he doing to their pussy)

Then her hands go up to his arms/chest to stop him from the pounding. Then in the missionary position she asks him to slowly put it back in her until she takes it all. He just lays on top of her with no movement at all. She wraps her arms around him and moans and moans until she exclaims yes...yes.. and her body under him seems to arch/twitch as she cums. yes...cums with him just filling her.

So again...the big cock gives you so many more options for truly deep satisfaction.