A poll on parents in this lifestyle

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How many of you are parents?

Just married and have no kids.
6
2%
Just married and expecting kids.
1
0%
Just married and have kids.
11
3%
Married for a while and no kids.
10
3%
Married for a while and expecting kids.
1
0%
Married for a while and have kids.
254
75%
Kids from previous marriage.
36
11%
No plans to have children at all.
18
5%
 
Total votes: 337

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A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by curiousbob123 » Tue Jan 30, 2018 1:44 am

Hi there,

I have been doing a little bit of research on this lifestyle and I wanted to know something.
How many of you are parents or expecting to get them anytime soon? It would be great if you could help with the poll.

If you are parents, could you let me know how do you manage to hide this alternative lifestyle from your kids? Or are they aware of it?

- Curiousbob123

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by allengt » Tue Jan 30, 2018 9:00 am

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by desertsub » Tue Jan 30, 2018 9:19 am

None of your options fit our circumstance so I thought I would post a response. My wife and I both had kids from previous marriages and then had one together. Before we were married she was pretty wild and went out a lot with her girlfriends so when she started cuckolding me it was in the form of a girls night out while I stayed home and the kids didn't think anything of it. When the kids started getting into their teens and the youngest came along she stopped because she was afraid the older ones might hear about her escapades (we live in a kind of small town). She didn't start back cuckolding me until our youngest moved out.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by isinlarsa » Tue Jan 30, 2018 10:21 am

My daughter was aware of that her mother dated other men. She discovered it when she was about 12. Thankfully, she went to her mother. Her mother explained that she liked the company of other men and Dad was okay with it. After they talked, they brought me into the conversation so our daughter understood that I knew and was okay with it.

Years later when my daughter was in her mid-20s. she was talking to her boyfriend about her mother with me there. She was telling him how hot her mother had been a decade before, and that she was the sexist mother of all her friends. She told her boyfriend that if her mother was 10 years younger, she would see her as completion for her boyfriend. She certainly implied that her mother had been sexually active with men other than me in the past. She never was angry with her mother. At first she was confused, but after she and her mother talked it out, her attitude was "that's just how mom is."

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by JMNBABE » Tue Jan 30, 2018 11:40 am

We had been married just shy of 2 years when my wife confided to me that she was about to cheat with a guy she had met thru work. Our son was just shy of 2 yrs old also. So he was too young to fully be aware of what went on.......but once he walked in to our bedroom to find her in bed with a Black Lover from the evening before and me on the couch and he spent the day talking about his "black daddy", she realized (as I had been telling her) that she needed to be more discrete and she took it out of the house.

She has kept it out of the house ever since and as far as we know he is not aware of her dalliances other than one affair she had that came very close to breaking us up. He's not stupid despite her hoping he didn't notice, LOL.

Oddly enuf tho, two of her nieces caught on to her flirtatious nature with Black guys when they (the nieces) were on vacations with us. Both of them asked her about "having black boyfriends" and if I was ok with that. She decided to answer their questions direct (she had just tried to sneak back in to our room after a late evening with a Black guy she had met that day at an amusement park and was met by a niece with questions!! LOL) and was honest about our relationship and her desire to be sexual outside the marriage.....but when they intimated that they would like to have a black boyfriend too she dropped the conversation like a hot rock!! Her family would not have approved.........and neither was even close to legal age.

She had a sister figure it out too, but this is about kids. Another story there.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Her number1 » Tue Jan 30, 2018 11:42 am

When we started out, the kids were 5 and 10. We didn't hide it from them, we just didn't reveal it as there are many things couples don't reveal to their children.
When Farmgirl had a date planned I kept the kids and made a day for the three of us. Depending on the time of year, we went hunting, fishing, hiking, arrow head hunting, rock collecting, trips to the river exploring and swiming.
There is plenty for a dad to do with the kids while mom has some free time. And not any harder if they are younger or older

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by ErikaPeter » Tue Jan 30, 2018 2:50 pm

I play during the day when the kids are at school, in the evening outside the house, or when my husband has taken the kids for activities.
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Hawke82 » Tue Jan 30, 2018 8:02 pm

Although our kids are adults now, our youngest has temporarily moved back in with us while he saves up for a downpayment on a place of his own. We also have two elderly family members living with us. My wife has been a hotwife since she was 28, shortly after the birth of our first child. Once our kids were old enough to know what was going on around them, we stopped any hotwife activity in the home, and she usually played either at a lover's place, or in a hotel room. Currently, she sees her lover about every other weekend, and they go back to his place to have sex. The reason her going out and staying out late (sometimes all night) over the years has never raised any suspicion with our friends or family, is because her job is the perfect cover for a hotwife. She is a healthcare professional, and she is often on call, and can be called in at any time, and often works long shifts. When she has a date, we just mark on the family calender that mom is "on call" that night, and then have her date call her. She takes the call, announces that she got called in, and then she can leave and stay out as long as she likes without any of our family suspecting anything. If she stays out all night playing, they assume mom "worked" all night, so they don't bother her when she sleeps half the day!
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Minnhotwife » Tue Jan 30, 2018 8:09 pm

curiousbob123 wrote:Hi there,

I have been doing a little bit of research on this lifestyle and I wanted to know something.
How many of you are parents or expecting to get them anytime soon? It would be great if you could help with the poll.

If you are parents, could you let me know how do you manage to hide this alternative lifestyle from your kids? Or are they aware of it?

- Curiousbob123
Hi Bob,

Thank you for the poll and post. We totally keep this from our kids and on my wife's last trip to be with her lover, just said she was going solo on a trip. We use a separate email and FB messenger which my wife has turned off notifications for on her Iphone.

So far, even the teenage daughter is none the wiser. ;)

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by oldgeneroushot » Wed Jan 31, 2018 3:59 am

Not sure we meet any of the answers provided! She did not start dating until our sons were grown and gone! She would not want them to know and we go to great lengths to be sure no one does!

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by txhwhubby » Wed Jan 31, 2018 6:51 am

We both have grown children from previous marriages, our children knew each other growing up though, because me and Queen Ann have been close since high school. I have a 13yr old daughter from a one night stand and 7 yr old son from my last marriage. Those two don't know anything however the 7yr olds mother knows. She was a hotwife too. Our older kids know. The two girls, my daughter and step daughter, were in the den one night watching tv and me, the Queen and James were supposedly in our room watching a movie. I went to the kitchen for drinks and stopped to check on the girls, all of a sudden we hear my wife have a very loud orgasm. My wife's daughter looks at me and says,"really dad?" Both girls are like, "we don't want to hear that." It was kinda funny, the girls took it well. Of course it got back to my wife's ex, he was very jealous. He had wanted to swing with her, but she didn't want to play the way he did. Anyway now her son knows because her ex talked to both of them. He was wanting details that my wife wouldn't give him. He's creepy. All of our kids that know seem to accept that Ann is just highly sexual.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by 54321 » Wed Jan 31, 2018 9:27 am

Those two don't know anything however the 7yr olds mother knows. She was a hotwife too.
So you've had TWO wives become hotwives!
How did this happen?

Time and again, on this site, members ask:
How do I find a hotwife?
How do I tell my wife?
How do I convince my wife?
How do I encourage my wife? etc. etc.
(And yes, I confess to being one of that happily dissatisfied, merry band)

Having a hotwife is admirable, but having two is unforgiveable!! :lol:
Would you like to tell us how you did it?

Best wishes,

54321

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by txhwhubby » Wed Jan 31, 2018 9:51 am

54321 wrote:
Those two don't know anything however the 7yr olds mother knows. She was a hotwife too.
So you've had TWO wives become hotwives!
How did this happen?

Time and again, on this site, members ask:
How do I find a hotwife?
How do I tell my wife?
How do I convince my wife?
How do I encourage my wife? etc. etc.
(And yes, I confess to being one of that happily dissatisfied, merry band)

Having a hotwife is admirable, but having two is unforgiveable!! :lol:
Would you like to tell us how you did it?

Best wishes,

54321
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by txhwhubby » Wed Jan 31, 2018 9:54 am

54321 wrote:
Those two don't know anything however the 7yr olds mother knows. She was a hotwife too.
So you've had TWO wives become hotwives!
How did this happen?

Time and again, on this site, members ask:
How do I find a hotwife?
How do I tell my wife?
How do I convince my wife?
How do I encourage my wife? etc. etc.
(And yes, I confess to being one of that happily dissatisfied, merry band)

Having a hotwife is admirable, but having two is unforgiveable!! :lol:
Would you like to tell us how you did it?

Best wishes,

54321
And my first two wives cheated also. Didn't know about hotwifing back then or things might have turned out different. I did have a hard time keeping my hands off of them when I caught them cheating. But I couldn't handle the lying and deciet.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Tether » Wed Jan 31, 2018 10:18 am

It's not hard to hide the lifestyle from the kids. Most kids don't know details about their parents' sex lives. We don't bring guys home to meet them. The only time we've had a guy in the house, he came over in the middle of the night after the kids were asleep, and he came in through the back (a backdoor man, so to speak). But even that was pushing it for us. Usually, we go out if we (or she alone) are going to play with someone else.
If my wife goes on a date, we just say she's meeting a girlfriend. If she and I go together, then we just say we're going out to dinner and drinks.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by jw_kk » Wed Jan 31, 2018 11:18 am

We are married, and the kids are out of the house. Until the kids left home, we did not start actively living the hot wife lifestyle, although my wife had a half dozen affairs while we still had kids at home.

The affairs varied - one of them was a fairly lengthy affair, and the impacts were problematic, stuff like missed appointments, and other stuff that surfaced that something wasn't vanilla. In one case, my wife's indiscretion led to her kissing a lover goodbye upon arrival at the airport, which one of the kids saw. That was awkward, but we got around it.

We didn't have to worry about kids, or discovery since they moved out as adults, which given our approach to this lifestyle is a relief. Our playroom is easy to disguise as just a bedroom to visiting family, and we curtail our activities when family is visiting.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by 54321 » Tue Feb 06, 2018 12:17 am

Dear Hawke82,
She takes the call, announces that she got called in, and then she can leave and stay out as long as she likes without any of our family suspecting anything. If she stays out all night playing, they assume mom "worked" all night, so they don't bother her when she sleeps half the day!
Does she go out in her nurse's uniform? If not, how do you explain that she is going out 'to work' made up and dressed hot? :D

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Hawke82 » Tue Feb 06, 2018 8:11 pm

Most healthcare workers wear scrubs these days, and my wife works in a department where the scubs they wear are provided by the hospital, so she changes in a locker room at work. She always goes into work in street clothes.

For dates, my wife tends to dress a little nicer (more cleavagy tops, tight jeans, and sexy shoes or high heeled boots), but that's not unusual for her days off, so that doesn't really raise any red flags either. Because her lover was shooting boudoir photos, she still has a collection of sexy bedroom wear, that she could change into once she's back as his place, but they tend to be so focused on sex, that she's usually nude shortly after they arrive!

That's actually one of the things she enjoys about going over there (and one of the things I envy), is because its just them, she can walk around his house naked without any concern, which she can't do here with elderly in-laws and one of our adult children currently living at home!

She doesn't really dress as blatantly sexy as she used to (miniskirts, sheer tops, etc.), but she tends to turn heads even when she's dressed casually.
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Bound2bmine » Thu Feb 08, 2018 3:58 pm

Me and my ex played for many years including her having a steady lover and our daughter never knew anything about it we were very discreet about it and no one in our family knew about it and still don't to this day.
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by SunAngel » Thu Mar 01, 2018 11:38 pm

Our children are 6 and 8 yr old so they don't know much about sex or curious yet. But kids are observant, and they can sense when there is something intruding into the family unit. My wife goes out when she's on dates or meet them at lunch hour from work, so that's not a problem. But when we had a long term bull, we did bring him home to meet the kids and he would frequently come over, either picking up my wife or staying for dinner. The kids saw him as a close friend of mommy, and he's really good with them. I think that familiarity made things less awkward and put the kids at ease. But as they get older, like in junior high, I'm not sure what to do.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by bewareoflizzy » Fri Mar 02, 2018 6:35 am

Our kids were 5 and 8 when Lizzy took her first lover as a married woman. Since she worked evenings at a restaurant and her b/f was a younger, single, cook there, they would go to his apartment after work (usually about 11 pm) and she would come home about 3 in the morning. I was home and would put the kids to bed and wait for her return. As things progressed, she would sometimes visit him while the kids were in school and I was at work. I even let her go out to see him one night when she wasn't working. She told the kids she was going out to see a girlfriend. I was turned on by the way she looked so sexy walking out the door. She told me years later that she once had him over (in our waterbed) for an afternoon delight. Very risky in our suburban neighborhood.
When I was transferred out of state, I was coming home on weekends for 8 months until we moved the family.The kids were older now.Once a week, she would make dinner for them before going to work, trust them to get to bed on time (they did), and visit her lover at his house after working together at the restaurant. They would make love for hours and then she would come home to two sleeping, beautiful children. Of course, no one at the restaurant ever knew of their ongoing affair either.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by pjones814 » Sun Mar 25, 2018 12:39 pm

We were very, very careful and discrete when our children were young and at home. Several years after leaving home eventually they found out. They both indicated that they had suspected Mom was seeing others but did not connect the dots to it being a hotwife/cuck relationship. All is well, both are grown up and happy, successful adults and still love us the same.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by traycir » Sun Mar 25, 2018 12:53 pm

Like a lot of people here we didn't start until later, when only one kid was still in the house and almost gone at that. My wife also always plays outside of the house, everyone has lines they will not cross, she will not bring another man into our home. I would always the kids (when more than one was around) that mom was out with a friend from work. I'm pretty sure they have no idea, but even if they did, one of our kids came out a few years ago as gay, so we all tends to be pretty open minded about sexual preferences.
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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by HwPatyG » Thu Mar 29, 2018 11:34 pm

I could never remain faithful during my marriage. His low libido and him working in the USA coming home just a few weekends a year just made it worst. I really tried to interest him in swinging and marriage counseling as I explained on an older post, but he showed close to no interest at all.
We are separated now and soon to be divorced. As for the subject here. Well, let's just say that my two sons are aware of my activities and so far they are fine with it.

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Re: A poll on parents in this lifestyle

Unread post by Des 31 » Fri Mar 30, 2018 6:59 am

My parents had two children die in childbirth before I as born. Three generations of my wife's family had occasional genetic problems on five occasions. For those reasons, with my approval, my wife had a tubal ligation to avoid pregnancy the month before we married. At the time we were engaged, she told me she didn't feel the need for motherhood but felt guilty about her feelings because she knew no other women with her attitude. I confessed that having children had never been an obsession of mine. Each of us said that if it happened, we didn't believe in abortion an we would make the best of it. After her operation, we haven't regretted it and as a year or two passed, she never again felt guilt over her former attitude about remaining childless. Admittedly, there are times when socializing with families with children, we enjoy their and their children's company. We both like playing with their kids, but we have no envy toward the parents. We just enjoy their and their kids' company.
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