Agreed: To enjoy cuckolding, you don’t need to explain it. Nevertheless, it is interesting to understand what is going on.
I am wondering why the world is not full of alphas? Why did the betas not die out in the course of 2,500 – 5,000 generations (since say 50,000 or 100,000 years) when people were mainly hunters and gatherers? Comparison between man and other hominids in terms of cock size indicates that there was a considerable amount of promiscuity among our ancestors. If betas are doomed to have a lower chance of reproduction, their specific characteristics should have died out long ago. It is well known that every species is characterized successively by the genes of those individuals who were more successful in passing on their genes to the next generation. So, if Betas did a genetically “bad job”, they should have extinct. Why are there still so many of them? Something must be wrong here …
Let’s have look at the female agenda under promiscuity conditions. Imagine human life somewhere between 100,000 and 50,00 years ago. Much promiscuity, but some females have a “special friend”, nowadays called “husband” (see Helen Fisher’s ‘Anatomy of Love’). The “husband” cares for her more than others do, gives her protection etc. She might give him more sex in return than to others (albeit not exclusively). Under these conditions, the female agenda was (and still is) relatively simple: (1) Find a good husband, who is a good provider for her and her children. (2) Get impregnated by a healthy, intelligent and physically strong man with high organizational and social skills. Might she want to become impregnated by another man than her husband, so that (2) is different from (1)? Yes, she might, IF she is associated with an unsuitable man with mediocre intelligence, low organizational and social skills and IF another man (“lover” or “bull”) has a better genetic equipment than her husband. The “crux” is that the good providers happen to be also intelligent, good organizers, powerful, with a higher status in society. Their successful career in the tribe life or in modern society can be read by women as a promising “genetic business card” also for breeding.
trdd mentioned already: „I am not sure that alpha men in the bedroom are actually more successful in modern life.”
I would add: intelligence, organizing skills and social skills were already important in the early stone-age, as hunts and other activities had to be organized. So, it should be no surprise that many women find intelligent men (with an acceptable body) much more attractive than a physically strong bull type of man. Why should a woman want to be impregnated by man with strong muscles and a big dick, but possibly little brain? Does she primarily intend to have sons with big dicks and strong muscles but average intelligence?
As trdd put it: “So why would a female look for a strong, potent man for reproduction when she can have an intelligent and superior wage earner as a husband and father?”
But for the sake of the argument, let us assume the woman meets another male who is more attractive, intelligent, physically stronger and more potent than her special friend/husband and she wants to be impregnated by her new bull. If she wants to have him as her new husband, the old couple runs into a divorce. This has nothing to do with cuckolding and requires no further consideration here. She only starts to cuckold her husband when she wants to keep her provider but also get fucked by the other man. She will then have to make sure (by not overdoing things) on the one hand that her husband does not lose interest. On the other hand, as has been mentioned by Shorebird:
“… there is an evolutionary advantage for a female to have many men believe that the child she has is "his".
Yes, and it works best if these men do not know about each other (i.e. when each of them thinks, he is the only one). A woman just increases her network of male supporters of her and her children in this way. So, some conditional (!) promiscuity makes sense for women.
Now, what is the male agenda for breeding? The strategy of the attractive, healthy, physically strong and intelligent bull is straightforward: Find a HW or cheating wife and fuck her brains out until she gets pregnant! Pretty simple. But what can the special friend/husband of a women do when she has fallen for another man/bull? He could fight with his rival trying to beat him up. That would be nice, if it worked, but he could also be defeated and lose all his front teeth. Another more promising strategy is to give in, especially if she insists on her relation to the bull, in order to keep the contact to her, and wait for better times. Bulls come and go. Even if she got pregnant by the bull, there will be a next round in the future. Especially if she had already one or two kids from her special friend/husband, then the husband would think twice before leaving her because (as Pillow Talk said)
“her (your!) kids would be left without a father, which is bad for their survival hence your genes.”
Admittedly, breeding a HW is a “raffle ticket” for the husband. But bulls are not necessarily in a better situation: If a HW has different boyfriends/bulls (as many of them do), their likelihood of fathering a child with her may even be worse than those of the husband especially if the husband (as most cuckolds do) still has sex with his wife (often more than the bull). A cuckold husband who reclaims his wife after a hot session she had with one or more bulls spurts twice as many sperm cells into her womb than he usually does. Then, sperm competition follows. Licking other men's sperm/creampie out of her pussy also reduces (somewhat) the likelihood of impregnation. So, on the one side, cuckolds (especially the “part-time” cuckold husbands) are less helpless in terms of passing their genes forward to their wives than one might naively expect. They “fight back” silently. Their undercover strategy requires sexual arousal, because this leads to more intense (competitive) sexual activities. Those who enjoyed in the past what had to be done had an evolutionary advantage because they were more likely to do it. So, evolution made cuckolding enjoyable. As Bullish30 put it:
“… being horny when another man fucks your wife is a prerequisite of playing the game with positive results.”
On the other side, just for comparison: There are many bulls in their 40ies getting older and older, who had different fucking relationships with cuckold couples, but never made the wife pregnant, because the wife enjoyed the fun, but guarded against becoming pregnant from them, as she had no reason to assume that these bulls had a better genetic equipment than hubby. They end up with many fucks, often complain that real cuckold couples are difficult to find, have no family and no offspring. The bull lifestyle is not necessarily associated with a high reproduction rate.
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