No offense, but I'll never understand why so many people on the various cuckold forums wrangle back and forth trying to get a consensus on the question of what constitutes cuckoldry.
It is just a way of grappling with the contradictory feelings and gaining an identity in which the cuck can feel he is not alone.
This is a good point. I hope I didn't come off like a dick, because I really hate snarky online dicks and don't want to be one. It does seem like a lot of time is spent trying to nail down these definitions (should wives/bulls/cucks do/not do this or that?), but your point is well taken.
I absolutely understand people's desire to find kindred spirits. Pretty much everyone at some point feels like a freak, and worries people are laughing at them. This goes tenfold for folks living alternative lifestyles, or who have kinky fantasies. "What's wrong with me? This isn't normal." So, feeling not normal in the outside world, they then want to know: "is what I'm doing accepted in the cuckold world?"
I remember in my early 20s when I went to my first BDSM party back in the early 1990s. It was invigorating to realize there are lots of others out there like me, and that I'm not the only freak in the world!