"I have kind of become used to it and accepted the erotic appeal of being a cuck (though I dont want it to be permanent)"
Well.. in my experience you have an issue here, she may regardless of your thoughts on the subject want to continue with him or another. It appears your marrying this lady knowing what she likes as I did with my wife, you have two options you can accept it or walk away.
It sounds harsh but she is who she is and likes what she likes so you need to decide and talk to her, but be warned she may tell you what you want to hear or it may not be what you want to hear but if its honest and truthful then fine your decision.
I would suggest in marrying her you are accepting her as she is and that he is dominant to YOU too and should that happen your accepting you are a cuck. Should you choose to in my view to continue then he must be invited to your wedding and he must be invited to be the first one to fuck your new wife, as a cuck he should be invited by you to take her on her wedding day before you touch her sexually.
if you think she will change your wrong I thought the same, but my wife has gone onto be owned by a dominate man into BDSM and freely submits to him, he has several other girls we know about far from putting her off she has and still does enjoy submitting to him fully, she has played with one of his girls she said she didn't like that but it didn't appear that way to me.
He told me about his desire to fuck her ass, something she doesn't do but last time we met he called me in and said she has something to tell you, reluctantly she said "sir wants to fuck me up the ass", I just looked at her stunned... then said is that what you want? she just paused and said "if that's what sir wants to do"
In front of me he lubed her ass then pushed himself into her and pounded her for a long time up her ass, I was shocked she had agreed to this even though ive been a cuck for 34 years.
She later and after a shower redressed then after another good fucking removed her suspenders, I was called again, I always said I would NEVER do this but he told me "cuck lick my cum from your wife" She lay there and just added and if you pleasure me well you will wear my suspenders afterwards. I did as I was told and actually enjoyed it such is the power of a dominate male.
The choice is yours but you either walk away now or become a married cuck and accept this. There is no such thing as "I don't want it to be permanent"
Yes Tractorman, thanks for the comments. I actually dont want this to be permanent. I get aroused by imagining her in his arms and imagining him getting kissed and fucked by many sexy women. But I also wish I could be him. I guess I am living out my fantasy like a porn movie. I separate this sexual fetish, from my main marital life. I would not want another man to dominate our lives. Having a long term cuckolding situation sounds dangerous and does not appeal to me. In your situation, I am sure you found what you wanted and a woman to give it to you. I am still conflicted.
If I have to accept permanent cuckolding as her husband, then I will likely not marry her. I agree that I might be naive and she may cheat on me behind my back. Thats why I need advice from y'all to understand her appetite and where this is likely to go.
She assures me that it is a phase and she wants to get it out of her system. I wonder if I can trust that
I do know what you mean and that was why I replied, what I said was based on our experience, your sounds sort of similar, at the risk of going on and on this is what I suspect may happen as happened to me to give you an idea,
I met my wife to be as a 16 yo virgin she was untouched, it took months for her to surrender her virginity to me, I didn't mind the wait however shortly she went out with a man in his mid 30s whom she had fancied since she was at school topless in his car she went to full fill the fantasy of having him enter her as she had dreamed and planned as a schoolgirl then bottled going further. He knew her age as she used to flirt with him in her school uniform they had kissed but no more before this evening. She phoned and told me immediately of this mistake. I forgave her she assured me as I entered her wet body the following night this was a one off and now the fantasy was over and completed.
I believed her and as my interest in her was more than sex forgave her.
Aged 17 came another confession whilst on holiday had been laid properly this time whilst drunk she burst into tears telling me, I stopped the car on the way back from the airport and made love to her to reassure her and I found I also liked the thought of what she had done. We talked a lot about this and she was 100% certain that was it and we started looking at getting married and to now plan a life together.
Married at 18 she became a young normal wife as you fiancé will. Having done this it was now out of her system as she said, she didn't like it anyway, my view at the time was she has had her fun and she was entitled as a young girl to do so, her parent's had been very strict with her and now in the 80s society didn't accept messing about anyway soon followed our first child.
As women do upon this arrival her energies were channelled towards our child our sex wasn't as regular as she was often very tired, I messed a bit with a friend of hers who I couldn't resist in her skin tight jeans, small pert teenage breasts she would sit on my knee at work and id feel her up but didn't really want to fuck her as I had a ring on my finger and commitments to our family.
In her 20s my best friend who we used to go out and holiday with, with his wife and kids made no secret he would like to bed my wife, I knew she wouldn't not a chance we now had 2 children and she was wrapped in normal mummy stuff and had a job too. Over a long period he kept mentioning this, I accept over time I liked the idea and mentioned it to my wife...she didn't and was disgusted. Having mentioned it a few times to her over a long period I knew sometimes she got physically turned on by the idea but mainly got angry and sometimes didn't speak to me for days and was upset at the suggestion and suggested I didn't love her wanting her to do this.
I reviewed my warped idea knowing this was wrong but after constant suggestions from him which increased to would you like to see me fuck her? I grew to like the idea to see if she would as much as anything. He was confident he could seduce my wife, he said she was ready and very seducable I knew different who knew my wife best me or him?
I finally agreed as I wanted to shut him up but also to see if she would and how far she might allow this I still knew this was a no, no and would end in disaster.
We made a plan and on the day fuelled by booze he made his move, over a hour or so I noticed he was stroking her leg, she wasn't objecting and that night I watched stunned as he seduced my wife laid her on the settee and fucked her finishing off filling her. At no stage did she put up any objection. I was shocked but knew I had liked the experience, the fall out from this didn't come. Soon I was allowing him more access to my wife and knew he had fucked her several times, she would say he had been out with him or he had been around but not fully what they had done but he told me.
She then made a mistake maybe more on purpose she told me by text she was going back to his house one night for some fun was I ok with this? as much as an admission as I had received from her before.
In the bust up that followed as she that night really pissed me off trying to deny sending the text and denied being with him she only caved in when shown the text and told her other details he had told me. She confessed she had been having an affair on and off for several years with him preceding the time I had first watched them.
Desperate to save her marriage she confessed to quite a bit. I took from this heated argument but also calm admissions over the following days that what she liked was this,
Me she said she loved me and all we had together,
the thrill and excitement of being naughty
the risk that she may get caught by me
the feeling she felt having been naughty making me my tea feeling his cum leaking out of her, the kink that I didn't smell him on her,
the feel of a different man on her skin
speaking to his wife on holiday who sat with me as he quickly fucked her in our room, then fucking me later
learning more about sex from an experienced lover
the naughtiness whilst appearing a normal married wife and mother
she also confessed she got a buzz out of being viewed by friends and family as just normal but inside, her head full of kinky ideas
The only gap in our life when she hadn't played around was between 19 and 24 however keen to tell all she confessed that between having babies over this period she had an affair with her driving instructor what really pissed me was she would have a lesson with him fondling her and more, then she would pay him for the lesson! Then he would tell her what she had to practice for the next lesson and what to wear. She said if I was there she would go in her normal jeans, if I wasn't a skirt and suspenders wondering if I would notice if I got back first, I didn't.
In my thoughts over the next few weeks I didn't move out or kick her out, she offered to leave and suffer the hugh embarrassment and humiliation of this coming out, however I liked her in a way having fun but knew I had to control this aspect of her, whilst she pleaded she wouldn't do this again I knew she would eventually just hid it better.
I therefore decided to accept what she liked and who she was but have more control and I also loved her and our family her plays were only a small part of what we had together.
I am a cuck however this doesn't have to mean being less of a man, once you've accepted your lady likes fun you accept that or don't marry her. However being a cuck doesn't mean that you cant and wont as we have, have a lovely life together, we are best friends do everything together are open and honest and in love more than ever before. But inside have a common interest hence I am a cuck.
Being a cuck hasn't affected our normal lives together we have forged a successful friendship, careers and success in life by being together. I am remanded daily of my status as a cuck by my wearing of a CB and knickers but there is a lot more to our marriage than this.
The point I am trying to get across is this, I suspect if you don't like what your fiancé is doing or may do long term and think she will stop I don't see that as happening but as she is your fiancé you must have a lot more in common that just him in your life you need to speak to her.