Hey, thanks for posting the story.
I had the opposite effect, the reality was more erotic (to both of us) than the fantasy. Bear in mind, that I never saw my wife have sex, her dates were all solo and she'd give me a "tell all" session as part of foreplay leading up to reclaim sex.
It seems like she had a case of New Relationship Energy (NRE). My wife played with a young stud once and she came three - and she said almost a 4th - times, which never happens with me. He did it all with his fingers (which I can do too) but with me, she's normally satisfied with one orgasm. I think it's the novelty of the situation, and the fact that they are together for the singular reason to have sex. I likened her play dates to a "spa day" where she didn't have to worry about family crises, bills coming up, work, etc. She would essentially know well in advance that she'd be fucking a younger, more studlier guy than me. He has so many advantages over me - new sex partner to explore, differences in technique, and as I said younger and more virile, which I'm sure adds a lot of excitement to a MILF. It also seemed obvious to me that she felt more comfortable to try new things, to be a different person sexually when she had sex with other men. She could sexually "reinvent herself" in a safe environment.
Truth be told, we never played out my long term fantasy of watching her, or doing a MFM threesome together (although we got close), and I always wondered if I would freak out in a real situation, and perhaps not be able to perform. Or, maybe the converse, or my wife being weirded out by it. So, I can't relate in that sense. Maybe let them play alone, to see if that is different for you?
In either case, seems like she's very loving about it and has been communicating, which I think is a big deal. I do think it's great that she had a good sexual experience, IMO nothing to be ashamed about.
Wow, almost everything you said to me really resonated. I was reading some news when Lucy called to me, "Somebody wrote a reply to our story." I looked at what you said, and this seems very true. I also noticed the blog in your sig, and briefly read the last few posts. Much of what you described enjoying seems to be along the lines of what we've been considering doing. So tonight, before foreplay, I think we're going to read what you wrote and see what we might also like to do.
I remember when I was the age of the man who visited us this week. I was also able to do a few amazing things, although not much worked for me until I divorced my first wife. Having Lucy with me as we explore exciting forms of sexuality is a wonderful thing, so I'm putting in a lot of effort to see how we can both enjoy it.
My wife's first experience in June was with a man who claimed to be very dominant. He had a very fat dick, but he didn't make her cum. I had to wait outside while they did it, because although he wanted me there, she was too shy to do it in front of me. Afterwards, she was happy just to have done it.
Not watching was worse for me than watching. We had watched some great videos of Japanese couples where the husband is older and he encouraged his wife to have a younger lover. The scenes where he watched were so exciting to both of us that they are in part why Lucy agreed to do this.
So I can't explain why I prefer to see and you don't, but it seems like you and I have similar thoughts about being submissive and how we feel about our wives. It's so good reading what you wrote.