Question for Older Cucks

[watcher5]

OMG YES! If only Sue had embraced her inner slut sooner rather than later. But she certainly is certainly making up for it now. The older she gets, the more cock she wants.

[kumcrazycpl]

I was cucked at 20 yrs old, before I knew anything about cuckolding. Would I change anything....NO. have loved every moment of this lifestyle, except for the no show people.
My wife turns 69 this yr and she is still keeping me busy with cuckold duties.

[mrdnrm]

it is hard when your younger to think that way, I mean for me I was very good at everything I did, I may not have been the best at anything but I was damn good. I was a jock in high school I had 11 varsity letters, I was good enough to play many sports and play well. I was always above average playing on many teams, I always got the good looking girls. I knew how to get into their hearts and get them into bed. I could melt them and get then naked and work their bodies, kiss and lick them all over. from head to toe. I watched them to see how they reacted and and knew when to tease and when to make them cum orally and by fingering them. But by the time I got my cock in them I was so turned on I lasted maybe at best 10 to 15 seconds. Most common comments I heard "well that felt good I just wish you lasted longer" or "I wish you could have gone deeper in me". Ouch!

I did find a couple girls that knew how to handle me. They would suck me off right out of the gate when going out for the night either when I first walked into their house or as soon as we jumped into my pick up truck or car. They would give me that quick BJ and say boy we are going to have fun tonight. After that I was primed, heading out to a party, dinner or a movie it didn't matter by the time an hour or two came around I was ready to fuck real bad. this time they would let me work them up and then ride cowgirl on me knowing I could last longer like 15 plus minutes. But all the other girls that didn't understand how to work a me and ended up cheating on me, and at first my wife did the same to me she cheated on me a few times. But that is a different story.

We work through all that shit because I understood the issue was first my problem and we both learned a lot by talking and communicating better about what we needed and what we had experienced with past lovers. In the earlier years of our marriage I ate a lot of my cum out of her pussy, like almost all the time. Over the first ten years we learned what each other needed, she needed size and depth like at least 8 inches while I only had on my best day stretching 7 inches LOL. My cock is thick enough but not long enough and I don't have stamina she needed even on the second or third fuck of the night. She likes a thick eight to nine inch cock that can fuck nonstop for 2 plus hours. I could never do that and here she help me understand why almost every girl I dated cheated on me.

I believe you have to understand what a woman needs and wants, no guy is perfect. Some guys can fuck really well but can't hold down a relationship and/or be a great provider. I own a good portfolio of real estate, she walks around with a 4.3 carat diamond on her hand and I can kick the shit out of 97% of the guys she fucks but I am just not that good on bed. Those are just facts, so I help her get the few things I am weak at. I give my wife nearly everything she needs and wants in life and in our a marriage. So by time I was in my mid to late 30's I knew I would have to get her what I knew she wanted and needed. A bigger cock that could last longer in bed. In the early days I didn't know anything about what a cuckold was, I just looked at it like getting her a live vibrator. After about ten years into this lifestyle and reading shit, I found out I was a cuckold even if I was with her every single time she fucked someone else.

I don't regret a single moment of it as I believe one has to learn who they are first and then what their spouse needs and desires to keep it all together. I think once you put your ego aside and you become open to each other the faster you can get to a better place. I would not change a thing. I love my life and I love my wife.

[shadowtantra]

Sooooo many things, and social “norms” have expanded so much that’s it’s a difficult question to answer.
In the late 80s and early 90s there was a lot of pushback against anything that’s wasn’t a standard heterosexual relationship. Many of us were cuckolds before there was such a word to describe what we were. And we dare not speak of our thoughts to anyone because it would be considered “gay” or something else that would be shunned. I jerked off outside my, at the time, ex-girlfriend’s window while she was getting fucked. That was in the early 90s and no way in hell I’d tell anyone!
Bit to be a 20 yr old cuckold now…I might just be who I wanted to be.

Echoing Hubby here, the social pressure around monogamy, marriage and what would people think about me if it happened to me was very rigid. Even though, I was and remain sex positive, kinky, and well read in erotica and knew that I was turned on by the "cheating wife" theme, I could not really allow myself to accept that this is what turned me on until I was in my mid 40s. When my wife had a 6 month affair with her boss and i found out about it, I began to research why I was confused with anger and arousal and found OHW. The rest is history as they say.

[RonDom]

I agree that social norms have changed and lifestyles other than standard monogamous heterosexual relationships are more accepted now and there is less social stigma, and I think that's a good thing. Live and let live.

[dinoo]

It is a question for older cucks but my wife gave me an answer:
"A pity that we didn't embrace this HW/Cuckold lifestyle much earlier.
Especially if I go back in our history in which several opportunities have arisen to seize an HW lifestyle. I now regret that we started it so late."

It all started when she asked me, while I was fucking her, if I ever imagined fucking another woman then.
My answer was negative and of course I asked if she had ever had those thoughts.
Her answer was surprising:
"Yes, more than once."
"Who then?" was then my next question.
She: "I'm not going to tell you that now, but it certainly didn't stop at one time. "

She never told me with whom but more times she told me being happy with this HW/Cuckold lifestyle.

[jsaltydog]

If you could go back to your younger selves in your 20s and 30s, would you have fully embraced being a cuck at a younger age than whenever you did so? I am still relatively young and go back and forth between looking for a more normal relationship and fully embracing being a beta cuck.

Most definitely I would have embraced it in my younger days. I regret that I did not. If I could do life over, I would embrace the cuckold life right from the beginning and would have made my desires perfectly clear to my GFs. I know that I imagined my GFs fucking other men and doing wild stuff like gang bangs, but I never brought it up. Big mistake, and a big regret.

My first wife cuckolded me, but I was too stuck in "traditional" ideas about marriage to appreciate what I had. I wish we had been more open and honest about our sexual needs and desires.

I also accepted my bi-sexual side very late in life. Too late. Another regret. If only I could do life over, knowing what I know now.

[jsaltydog]

If you could go back to your younger selves in your 20s and 30s, would you have fully embraced being a cuck at a younger age than whenever you did so? I am still relatively young and go back and forth between looking for a more normal relationship and fully embracing being a beta cuck.

I would like to add a little more. I am in my 70s. At my sexual peak and into my middle years, there was no internet where people could anonymously exchange ideas about sex. No discussion forums. No online amateur porn to nurture your inner desires. No dating apps. Had the internet existed, I am sure that I would have had more fulfilling sex life. I would not have married for "love," which is what I did with my second wife who is sexually inhibited and repressed. I would have place a full sex life above all else when seeking partners. I think younger people today are lucky to have ways to easily connect with like-minded people, ways to find people with similar sexual desires. It was just too risky and repressive when I was young.

[scarlettscuck]

IMHO everything has worked out exactly as it was meant to be. No regrets or worry. We’ve become the couple that we are together by communicating, (importantly) listening, and then committing, sacrificing and most important LOVING her for who she is and wants to be. To me, as a cuck, acceptance of who you are is key. When I understood the role that I wanted and needed, it was so much easier to let go and trust her and her intentions.

After that not sure what else I would change. To each their own here. Love the variations of lifestyle extremes. Be yourself, share when you are comfy and understand that this is not a competition. It’s finding the most special common ground. Committing and not weakening our lives about it.

Cuck advice:
- Don’t sweat the small stuff - it will lead you both to bad places.

[Experimenti3]

Me and my wife have been into LS for 17 years, most of that time hotwife/cuckolding. My only regret is that we didn’t start earlier……

[Dutch cuckold]

I wasn't ready till I was about 40 years old, but clearly other guys since a young age. Only you can decide. Take your time and find out by doing some experimenting.

The beginning can difficult no matter your age. When my wife started playing with other men it was difficult for me but I still knew I really wanted it to happen.

[atl0707]

In my 20s and 30s, I was very busy and didn't really have time to date but did so anyway. In my late 20s, I had a long-distance relationship in which my girlfriend was seeing another guy as a "friend" locally. She dumped my ass in a hurry and is still with him. I would not want to go back there. The idea of her sending me pictures and telling me what she did with the other guy would have done nothing but hurt me. These days, my wife has a boyfriend, and I am pussy-free. Being the person I was in my 20s and 30s, I was simply too selfish to fantasize about my girlfriend or wife sleeping with another guy but now, I enjoy the submissive role that I have taken. It took me growing up a bit to understand that fidelity is all a matter of perspective. You can be with multiple people sexually while still enjoying a steady, long-term relationshp.

[bewareoflizzy]

I would advise caution as it takes much maturity to see your wife go off into the evening knowing she will soon be fucking her more talented, longer lasting, better endowed lover. It's the most exciting, titillating experience to have your wife come home and describe in detail how he made her cum multiple times in multiple ways while stroking your eager cock but you have to be prepared for the ramifications of your wife being caught up in a new relationship.

[AZPainter]

I am 82 now and I was unknowingly cucked while dating my passed wife and that continued after we married. I realized she was fairy promiscuous when we first met and when we began dating, but thought she stopped when we first started talking about marriage and while engaged and eventually married. I was 26 -27 at that time. Our work schedules made it easy for her to continue playing around. She was a cocktail waitress and part time, local model for women's clothing stores and department stores. So she worked nights and I worked days. Her being out until mornings around 2-3 am was not unusual at all. The clubs didn't close until 1 am back then and by the time they closed out it was close to 2 before leaving and most nights go to a coffee shop for a late night breakfast. So I was not suspicious at all.

I began getting suspicious when she started getting home around 6 or 7 am at times. She always had a reasonable excuse, they got to talking at the restaurant or maybe the club owner would throw an after hours "party with food brought in and so one. I knew the owner would do things like this about once a month, so that was not suspicious, but the way she looked when she got home was. Hair a little messed up and looking like the put her clothes on in a hurry and things like that made me wonder as often as it was happening once started was not what I had become used to.

I told a little about this in another thread, but I don't remember if I mentioned our ages. Anyway, back to our history. I was more curious, often worried at first than angry, but when it began happening fairly often the worry went away and the curiosity grew. Then one morning she did not get home until around 9 am and along with the alcohol smell there was something else and her makeup was smeared, hair a mess and some missing clothing , like panties and she was disheveled in everyway possible. I let he shower then asked her what was going on. Not just this time but all the other early morning arrivals. She finally confessed, and told me she was still playing around, with club employees, the owner and most of the house band members. Now and then she would go out with one of several regular customers she had got to know and who usually asked to have a table in her section. So she was kept pretty busy after hours.

This was during the late 1960's-early '70's. Swinging was pretty common and wife swapping, and so I was aware of all this, but never really thought about it personally other than if the subject arouse when talking with friends it seemed kind of hot. Now with her telling me what she was doing I felt a tingle and some movement in certain body parts and my mind seemed to have a fire lit, so at some point I asked for more details and surprisingly she told me. She also mentioned there were some guys that she thought I would like. I knew most of the people she worked with so that last part sort of sailed right past me as I already liked and thought of a few of her co-workers as friends. We talked quite awhile until she really needed to get some sleep and I needed to get in the studio and start working.

By the time she woke up it was time to get ready to grab something to eat and get ready to go to work. She told me she would come straight home and we could talk more after she woke up the following day. I agreed, but my mind had not stopped racing and it continued the rest of the night after she went to work. As promised she did come home around a little after 2 am and took a quick shower to get rid of the alcohol and cigarette smell she always did after working in the environment of a full club each night. This was normal. After drying off she got in bed, kissed my cheek and role over and went to sleep.

I got up at my normal time, showered and got dress and went in made coffee and headed into my studio. She got up around 10 am got some coffee and came in the studio wearing a bathrobe. She asked if I wanted to talk now or wait till the afternoon. I said we could make some breakfast and talk now. She was okay with that and went in and started breakfast. I cleaned my brushes and went in the kitchen to join her.

This chat was more on the subject of what happens now after telling all she had the other morning. Neither of us really knew so we started asking how each other felt and what we wanted to happen. I asked if she still wanted to play with others and she told me it would be hard to stop since she enjoyed the variety and things she did with other so much. I had to admit that I was turned on when she told confessed to playing around and we talked a little about that. She was mentioned that I had admitted I had enjoyed playing with other men before we married and earlier in my life as a teen. She told me this was what she meant when she said some of her bedmates were guys I would probably like. That was a bit f a surprise since I had not been with a man for quite a few years. We talked about that for a short time, but continued figuring out what we should do.
Our decision was to have complete honesty between us. She could continue to play, but tell me about it afterwards and in some detail. Maybe watch at times when the guy was okay with it. She could play at the guys place or bring him home with here. That would be left up to them to decide. I did not have any desire to be with other women so that was not included in the agreement. I wanted her happy and saw how much she enjoyed it and that made me happy. So that decision was much like others here have in their marriages.

This worked well for the rest of our marriage that lasted 12 years. To some it may surprise, but out divorce ha nothing to do with our agreed lifestyle. She began drinking to much and constantly and then got into drugs and being around some very questionable people until I had got to the end of my rope trying to deal with it. I won't bother anyone with the details of that, but it was the end for us. I used working more and she continued doing what she was doing with drugs and other people. I eventually began dating now and then, but I was never a "ladies man" type and my work was long hours alone as a professional artist. In 1999 I stopped dating women or chasing any. I found out my now ex wife passed away with kidney disease and drug related problems she had. I am sorry for her, but realized long ago that there really was nothing I could do, she had to want to change her life. She also had married several more times to men who were into the same things as she was. Sad ending, but again our life worked while married. We both enjoyed the lifestyle very much. I believe honest communication is the real key to this cuckold or hot wife lifestyle working.

[Amayzed]

Nice post AZPainter.

[Bull4Oldrwives]

I think that every couple has their own journey but I have no doubt that time together and maturity make it easier for a couple to dip their toes in the lifestyle. The few couples who went into radio silence with me were all under 40. And my most fulfilling relationships have all been with couples over 40 and usually in their 50s,60s.and 70s. Now they all say they wish they had started sooner! The most interesting thing that has ever been said to me was by several wives who said that despite the urging of the husband, they waited until they were confident he could handle it.

[D+D]

My wife and I both regret not getting into the lifestyle at a younger age, but I could never have handled it in my 20s and 30s, I was too insecure.

[Teensy1]

Absolutely. I still wish that my best friend had fucked my wife when we first were married. He came over one night after he’d been divorced for a few months and was beyond horny, He playfully pushed her onto the guest bed and began dry-humping her. We all laughed about it but I realized that I had an erection watching them. I knew then that I wanted to be a cuckold. It didn’t happen until we were elderly and I became impotent but at least it happened.