Our Hotwives

I've been a long-time member of this forum as a lurker since its inception and have been on a few different accounts over the years, mostly as a lurker. I am in my late 30s and have never been married but have dated a number of women of varying interest levels in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle. The cuckolding/hotwife thing has always been an interest of mine. It's not the most important thing in the world but it is certainly hot and something I would like to have.

She has had sexual experiences in which she slept multiple times with someone who was very huge (she estimates 9-10", which I know doesn't seem accurate, and would probably put him in the upper 99 percentile, but that's what she says). I bought a 10" dildo (8" usable with the fake balls) and she said he was bigger. She said it was an amazing experience and that she felt "dick drunk" and that she had to have his dick and she was addicted to the feeling of being stretched and filled. There was one time in particular where she was wearing lingerie and he fucked her all around her apartment.

Of course, hearing this was a major turn on. I talked about this (specifically, us finding someone huge for a three some or her alone 1:1 with him) with my most recent girlfriend (31F) and she said she might be interested "in a few years". I think that's hopeful and optimistic but I do not want to wait years and have her back out, not be interested or find it's incompatible with what she wants. I guess I can only go as slow as she wants to go as it is her body and her choice. I just want her to feel that level of sexual satisfaction again and want to see her completely fulfilled. I am so attracted to her and fantasize about her getting complete sexual satisfaction. I'd wager a few of you can relate? Any advice?

uxorious wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 10, 2023 7:01 am

I've been a long-time member of this forum as a lurker since its inception and have been on a few different accounts over the years, mostly as a lurker. I am in my late 30s and have never been married but have dated a number of women of varying interest levels in the hotwife/cuckold lifestyle. The cuckolding/hotwife thing has always been an interest of mine. It's not the most important thing in the world but it is certainly hot and something I would like to have.

She has had sexual experiences in which she slept multiple times with someone who was very huge (she estimates 9-10", which I know doesn't seem accurate, and would probably put him in the upper 99 percentile, but that's what she says). I bought a 10" dildo (8" usable with the fake balls) and she said he was bigger. She said it was an amazing experience and that she felt "dick drunk" and that she had to have his dick and she was addicted to the feeling of being stretched and filled. There was one time in particular where she was wearing lingerie and he fucked her all around her apartment.

Of course, hearing this was a major turn on. I talked about this (specifically, us finding someone huge for a three some or her alone 1:1 with him) with my most recent girlfriend (31F) and she said she might be interested "in a few years". I think that's hopeful and optimistic but I do not want to wait years and have her back out, not be interested or find it's incompatible with what she wants. I guess I can only go as slow as she wants to go as it is her body and her choice. I just want her to feel that level of sexual satisfaction again and want to see her completely fulfilled. I am so attracted to her and fantasize about her getting complete sexual satisfaction. I'd wager a few of you can relate? Any advice?

it took me a long time to realize that it can take a long time. even the waiting of a couple of days for the actual first day seemed like an eternity! gradually expose her to the idea...first by role playing that you're another person or some such thing. there are many ideas on this site. read through as many of the threads as possible as you never know when you'll find the exact answer to your questions

Thanks, good point. I was turned on and looking at some hotwife stuff this morning and texted her about it and now she has been silent. She's always on her phone so I feel like she's pissed lol. I'm sure other members of the forum have been there too. I didn't mention it in my original post but we've been dating about 7 months but have talked about long-term future plans.

uxorious wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 10, 2023 7:44 am

Thanks, good point. I was turned on and looking at some hotwife stuff this morning and texted her about it and now she has been silent. She's always on her phone so I feel like she's pissed lol. I'm sure other members of the forum have been there too. I didn't mention it in my original post but we've been dating about 7 months but have talked about long-term future plans.

I lost 2 wives for suggesting it, but the third one is the charm...I think developing my fantasy before we got married was one of the key ingredients, but not the whole story. it's important to let her know that you won't be taking another woman and that she has all the control. those seem to be the key ones that my sweetie talked about. also that you will always love her, and that you will love her 10 times more if she decides she's found someone she can be fuck buddies with (Fuck buddies is something my sweetie likes to use a lot with Fidel...her bull! lol

Not wanting to poor cold water on your desires, however when my wife and cuckoldress of 30 years says, "we will later" "I will think about it" or "tomorrow" or "later" to any subject vanilla or sexual its dead means in the water. Thats been her reply since she was 18, pre 18 her reply would have been.... "go on then lets do it".... yep we married when she was 18. Maybe it my fault.

I have fallen for this ploy more times than i dare mention by asking...so having said you will think about it, what have you decided? to get the reply.... about what? then there is the stupid question ive asked many times...I asked you yesterday and you said tomorrow thats today, then to get silence, get her stare as she then walks off. So thats a No then?????

However in answer to sexual cuck questions: "if YOU want to" or "Oh go on then but im NOT bother" means YES.

I have never had "in a few years" but wouldnt view that as a positive response to be honest.

uxorious wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 10, 2023 7:44 am

Thanks, good point. I was turned on and looking at some hotwife stuff this morning and texted her about it and now she has been silent. She's always on her phone so I feel like she's pissed lol. I'm sure other members of the forum have been there too. I didn't mention it in my original post but we've been dating about 7 months but have talked about long-term future plans.

If i send my wife anything remotely sexual i get the same response.... silence and shes my cuckoldress!

Females are strange creatures.

uxorious wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 10, 2023 7:44 am

Thanks, good point. I was turned on and looking at some hotwife stuff this morning and texted her about it and now she has been silent. She's always on her phone so I feel like she's pissed lol. I'm sure other members of the forum have been there too. I didn't mention it in my original post but we've been dating about 7 months but have talked about long-term future plans.

Communication is definitely key to making things work! Keep us up to date about how things go.

She may not want to be just the kink of the month who you experiment with then move onto someone else.
She might be looking for.a more solid relationship before giving thought to making the kind of decision that can expose the cracks in a weak foundation.


I would not agree to changing from a monogamous woman to a non-monogamous hotwife if I wasn't in a stable relationship that had a very solid foundation in which we had open and honest communication. Even then it isn't a simple decision and is based on a whole lot more than "am I interested in having sex with someone else?"

FYI - hotwife porn does nothing for me and I have absolutely no interest in watching it. I don't think I have watched any porn since I became a hotwife. Why? Because my reality is better than porn

My girlfriend and I made massive progress talking about this over the weekend and the short story is she has committed to trying it. She's talked about two past lovers from who she was "dickmitized" -- millenial slang (she's 31) for being so dick-obsessed that you would make bad decisions to get fucked by some guy because you love the dick. One guy was her first boyfriend (who was a total dick to her) and another guy was a very slim military guy who had a huge dick. This was a few years back when she said she was skinnier and she said she felt so tiny next to him. She remembers one time in particular where she was wearing lingerie and he fucked her all over her apartment, including with her head on the ground as he fucked her on the couch (she was upside down) and her sitting on the counter.

We are kind of long-distance (we live about an hour-fifteen apart, think something like LA or DFW) and we are talking about moving to be in the same part of town. I told her if we are doing this for real I want to explore my fantasy if she's also interested. I told her there would be no judgement and I would never hold it against her. She seemed into that and we talked about how it would work: she will set up a dating app profile and set the location to my side of town, she will mention in the profile that she already has a boyfriend and that this is just for fun, and that I will drive her to dates. We had a lot of sex this weekend fantasizing about it and she's open to trying it. She says she wants it and that she wouldn't do it if she didn't want it too.

Separately, outside of all of that, she has a crush in the gym and they both smile at each other. Neither has approached the other but I told her I would buy her some slutty (we use this as a positive term) gym clothes. She said she would like that a lot. I texted her during the work day today that I was horny and fantasizing about her being dickmitized again and she called me a naughty boy. It's clear that she is into it and I really think it is going to happen.

Of course, hearing this was a major turn on. I talked about this (specifically, us finding someone huge for a three some or her alone 1:1 with him) with my most recent girlfriend (31F) and she said she might be interested "in a few years". I think that's hopeful and optimistic but I do not want to wait years and have her back out, not be interested or find it's incompatible with what she wants. I guess I can only go as slow as she wants to go as it is her body and her choice.

Maybe you need to realize it’s not all about you. If she doesn’t want to do this, then back off and let her tell you when she’s ready, if ever.

Thanks Gulfcpl, I do realize that and know it's her ultimately choice. We talked about it in the middle of the night last night and she told me the more I bring it up the less she wants to do it. She knows I want her to sleep with someone else, she knows I want to hear about it before it happens if she has the opportunity and definitely after. She's reaffirmed she is not interested in a threesome or group sex environment and is only interested in being 1:1. She said it feels like cheating. I reminded her it isn't because we are agreeing on it but if she didn't tell me about it after I would consider it a violation of trust. She was good with that.

Now it's up to me to not bring it up, which is very difficult to do when you are as obsessed as I am...

We had a very hot conversation on the phone this morning where we both masturbated talking about her being with someone with a big dick. Hot session and I came very hard. I think it is going to happen for real.

Nothing for a while then suddenly everything all at once. We've been talking a lot about her meeting someone with a big dick like her prior ex I wrote about.

I sent her a note about a porn video I watched with a woman fucking a guy with a really big dick. Here's a transcript of our conversation:

Me: I saw a video that was so hot
Me: Girl was riding a huge dick and she kept saying how big it was
Me: Her facial expressions and breathing were intense
Her: Is that what you want me to do?
Me: The thought of you cumming like that is a turn on
Me: What do you think
Her: I want to cum like that too
Me: I want it
Me: Is that awful
Her: No bb
Her: I want that too
Me: You turn me on so much
Me: I can't wait to explore this with you
Me: I think If I'm dating a size queen she's going to need that big dick once in a while
[For context, she told me after she fucked a big ex that every girl is a size queen they just don't know it yet, which really got me off]
Her: Yes baby
Her: I do
Me: Is it way better than mine?
Me: You can be honest
Her: Yes baby
Me: Like a lot?
Me: Is this going to be dangerous for us
Her: A little
Me: Do you want it still
Me: I do
Her: Yes
Her: I do
Me: I think about it all the time and it gets me so hard
Her: I know you do baby
Me: I just love talking about it and hearing about it
Her: Maybe we go to a sex club in Feb

She had been telling me that using a dating app like Bumble would give her 'the ick'. She said a sex club felt more organic and a way to kind of feel things out.

I looked into the swingers club and they have a newbie night on Wednesday of next week. I'm currently buying two tickets. She gave me the OK to post some pics in the hotties section which I'll link to once they're up.

As mentioned: viewtopic.php?f=9&t=72105

Beautiful bod and hair!

Thanks for the kind words.

We look forward to the update.

How quickly a few months can go by. I wanted to check in with an update.

We ended up not making it to the swinger's club because of logistics reasons, not necessarily either of us backing out. We still haven't made it but I think we made substantive progress since my last update.

We've still been fantasizing about her hooking up with someone big and she gets really turned on. I continue to bring up her old hookup and say things like "I wish I could fuck you like he did" or "you need a big dick like his". She's started repeating it back during sex.

On a recent road trip we had big fight about a day's drive from home. She ended up driving home that night instead of staying over. She told me the next day that she wishes a previous hookup texted her. She said she wishes she could have just turned her brain off and get fucked by someone else.

Laying in bed later we saw a clip on reddit of an OnlyFans model comparing the dick size of her lover and the camera man. The big dick in the video was apparently the size of her previous hookup and I was kind of the size of the camera guy. Felt hot to see a comparison. She admitted that he was that big (the size of the woman's forearm).

I've been fucking her on and off since and she's saying things like "I can't believe I'm going to be a slut again." I think it is really going to happen.

We’ve made significant progress and it now looks like it is 100% going to happen.

A couple things have lined up. Her old hookup who we have fantasized about, kind of idolized, we’ll call him John, has recently separated from his girlfriend of 3 years. He is now 100% single.

He moved from where we live but by chance he lives in a city where we have a family member’s wedding to attend in early June.
She reached out on instagram “how are you” and he responded with, among other things, “nice to know you occasionally think of me too.”

Her response said she is coming for the wedding in June. He likely knows she has a bf, so we expect that to be his follow up question. Her response is going to be minimal. “We’re open.”.

Instead of a swinger’s club situation it’s now going to be her 1:1 with John. I’ll keep this thread updated as things develop.

I hate to keep bumping my own thread without any responses. The intention behind this thread was partly for me but partly to publicly and anonymously journal my experience as well provide opportunities for discussion from who may be experiencing or have experienced similar resistance in their own journeys. Maybe I'm oversharing or maybe this thread is too far from other more-stimulating threads where sexual encounters are already happening and described in detail? Maybe I'm far off from the purpose of this board as my experience is with someone who is a girlfriend and not my wife? I would appreciate some feedback here if anyone reads this.

One thing I'm learning is how much reassurance is necessary as things can wildly shift from day to day. When I posted yesterday morning about our experiences Saturday she was saying how much she wanted it to happen. We had dinner with her parents last night and she said she's not sure if she could do it seeing their relationship (her parents are very much in love with each other).

I told her that everyone has their 'thing' behind closed doors and you never fully know from someone else's relationship. I told her what might work for us might not work for others and we shouldn't compare ourselves. I think this experience will bring us closer, not farther apart. I also told her this is supposed to supplement our relationship and we should move forward only if we both want it. I also told her that I like this setup as we are now targeting someone out of town with whom she feels safe and comfortable (and with whom she has had the best sex of her life).

Mostly documenting this for posterity. On one hand June is still a long way out but also right around the corner. I'll continue to document my experience and share with the wider group. Please let me know if you have any feedback.

We are here, sometimes there’s not a lot to be said.

FNQLivin wrote: ↑

Mon Apr 15, 2024 10:59 am

We are here, sometimes there’s not a lot to be said.

Makes sense. I’ll try to keep the updates relevant.

Thanks. I love reading stories like yours. They sound genuine and relatable so do know that there are many people who read but we may not have anything of value to add.

Definitely love the thread and looking forward to hearing more. I suspect activity will spike once you are closer to the big day.

Don't feel discouraged from posting or losing hope in getting into the lifestyle. I am on a very similar boat as you, even our ages are similar. Your posts remind me a lot of my current life happenings so it's nice to read and see your progress.

I think know exactly how you feel...for me, I literally can't wait to see my girlfriend disappear entire Fridays and Saturdays at a time. I want to have the certainty of knowing that it's because she locked herself in some guy's home because she is addicted to him and unable to get enough of him.

Don't lose hope, don't be pushy, listen to her wants and needs, talk while level headed and not under the influence of arousal. Those are some pointers that I can offer.