Our Hotwives

Just as an example, Mrs army2323 fits the bill for me.

I recently had to spend a few months in China for work. One day I way talking with my translator and she mad a comment about how beautiful American women are. She asked me if I thought if the Chinese women were pretty. I explained to her that all women are beautiful in their own unique way.

She asked me to put in order these four things regarding women that I like. Face, tits, butt, legs. IK told her this is my order of preference when I look at a woman.

1. Face

2. Butt

3. Legs

4. Tit's

She was a little startled by my order of choice. I told that's my list of choice. She was surprised I listed tit's last. I told her you can always buy tits but you can't buy any of the others. You either have it or you don't.

Zapp
Did u pickup on what she was trying to tell u

Did u do anything about it.

In my life time I have know well, not just seen, but actually spent a fair amount of time around maybe half a dozen women who were physically staggeringly beautiful. Proper professional model gorgeous. My first reaction to all three of them was almost tongue tied, slobbering, that settled down when i got to know them. all of them remained as beautiful as first impressions, it wasn't just that I started finding little imperfections with familiarity or that they turned out to be unpleasant ego-maniacs, they didn't. They were all very intelligent as well (so lets chuck that cliche out of the equation to start with). Let's call this list 1.

Over the same life time I have met several women that I was seriously and persistently attracted to. Included in this list is the woman I let drag me around by the nose like an idiot for a year while she cheated on me, the woman I did something incredibly stupid over and destroyed a lifetime friendship, and the woman I married. Let's call this list 2.

These two lists are concurrent. it isn't that one was due to youthful stupidity and the other because I learned a few things. There is, however, no cross over at all between these two lists. Even taking out accessibility (which if you're making a rational argument you need to - one of list 1 did make a pass at me once - I missed it at the time because I didn't' believe it to be honest, but a buddy slapped me over the head afterwards and confirmed that I hadn't been hallucinating), the point is that the real women, who i know I will probably never get to sleep with and really want to (two of whom come out ahead of Scarlett Johansen on my fantasy list) are still all from list 2. Some of them are skinny, some are more generously built, there are blondes, brunettes and a red head (oh that one. I could talk about her until everyone fell asleep). It really isn't physical. None of it. not for me. It's like I can go on about some physical attribute or other from any of the list 2s, but I'm fairly sure I'm just picking on a thing to focus on. It's what they're like as people. It isn't the same personality traits either. One is shy, one really isn't, one has the foulest mouth on any woman I've ever met (and any man for that matter).

I almost hate to end with "it's about personality", because that's such a cliche. Say "Oh it's your mind I'm interested in" to just about any woman on the planet and they'll roll their eyes at you "Yeah right Mr Sensitive". The thing is, the sexiest part of anyone's body is their mind, that's where all of the "what if" and "how about" and "hang on while I phone a buddy and get a camera" comes from. The physical stuff stripped of mental and emotional involvement is just, tennis, but messier.

This is a very long attempt at completely failing to answer the question isn't it? Maybe the thing is that the attraction isn't in a thing that one person has, it's in the interaction with other people, which is fluid and really complicated. You can't be attractive sitting in a room by yourself.

Ladies, just please stop standing in front of a mirror fretting over that one thing you never liked though. Really. There's a reason why the old man always sounds bored or vaguely irritated when you say "does my butt look big in this". He is just bored or vaguely irritated by the subject. He prefers your butt out of the dress, it's just that you're going to yell at him if he says that, because you're already twenty minutes late......

When women get the treatment they look good and feel beautiful. If they have a BF now and then they know they are beautiful and it all shows. Whatever it is, men can pick up on it.
A little fun is great for a woman. She feels sexy and her BF and Hubby benefit from her having a good time.
So dont work all the time ladies have fun some times also.

Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. The same holds true for sexual attraction. It might be the eyes- the lips- the way she moves her ass. I'm a sucker for nice tits.

MyHotGF_DFW wrote: I'm a sucker for nice tits.

Me as well. Misty has 40DD and I would love to see them enhanced. However I think DOlly Parton is flat chested.

Large boobs do it for me.

Confident, self assured, respects herself enough to take care of her body, easy conversationalist, not overly opinionated, easy to be around, smiles, she looks me in the eyes when she says my name, enjoys the company and attention of men but is not intimidated by us, self sufficient but delights in being pampered by her man, dresses stylishly, appreciates a chivalrous gentleman, enjoys the out-of-doors and the arts, reciprocates with the love and attention her man shows her, is not bitchy, and enjoys sex. Sexy is the whole package - personality, charm, intelligence, humor, education, how she carries her feminine strength. A woman who knows how to judiously use the power a man will give her if he knows she truly loves and trusts him. For me woman are wonderful creatures who deserve my love and respect even if they don't meet me half way. Its not just about "tits, pussy and ass" although those qualities are very provocative.

ALL women are beautiful PERIOD!

They may not be beautiful to you or to me, but they are to someone.

Yesterday I saw the movie Cry Baby (hadn't seen it in years), and one part was a butt ugly (to me) character called HatchetFace. And in that role she was being loved by another character. Does life imitate art or art imitate life? Last week we were at a local buffet and sure enough there was a woman so unappealing to me: big, obese, unattractive, sloppy, etc. to me on a scale of 1-10 she was a 0. And sure enough she had a guy hanging all over her. He was 7-8. To him she was his ideal.

To repeat.
ALL women are beautiful PERIOD!

They may not be beautiful to you or to me, but they are to someone.

http://mytinysecrets.com/you-say-flawed ... your-body/

This article described perfectly, for me - and my wife to my surprise, how things work from a man/husband's perspective. She even quotes the "mine, mine, mine" bit. I really think it should be part of some subject of the school curriculum! We must compensate somehow with all the "perfectionist" BS most of the popular media inflicts on our women, and a few of the men. In the meantime, I suggest to the admin of this forum to make this thread "sticky", something like "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man" - it is, I think, one of, if not the major issue our wives face and not only when they are being thrown in the deep end when we finally have the guts to tell them about our silly fantasies.

longines wrote:http://mytinysecrets.com/you-say-flawed ... your-body/

This article described perfectly, for me - and my wife to my surprise, how things work from a man/husband's perspective. She even quotes the "mine, mine, mine" bit. I really think it should be part of some subject of the school curriculum! We must compensate somehow with all the "perfectionist" BS most of the popular media inflicts on our women, and a few of the men. In the meantime, I suggest to the admin of this forum to make this thread "sticky", something like "Why would a guy want his wife to sleep with another man" - it is, I think, one of, if not the major issue our wives face and not only when they are being thrown in the deep end when we finally have the guts to tell them about our silly fantasies.

If you bothered checking you would find out that you found it at the top of the Library. It would not be there if it were not a sticky.

When I watch porn with my wife, I just absorb the images and dialog and let my body react. I know when I'm turned on by a particular body or voice but I don't have the mindset to figure out why when watching porn. My wife criticizes which women are too skinny, too fat, or have wrinkles on the face. Nowadays I sometimes point out which man looks hot. She rarely follows up the evaluation of men other than simple confirmation.

Naturally we are all attracted to a Barbie, but hair, and mouth, and eyes put me on high allert. Any combanation can trigger interest. Every where you look, there are beautiful women, i look for the little things, a look, flip of the hair.

It is not always the same. Generally, it is a woman that carries herself in a way that communicates that she knows she is attractive. Often it has little to do with her clothing. I do notice particular appearance elements that get my attention, and it does not require supersized breasts or buttocks.
Sometimes something unusual gets through to me. At lunch today, two relatively young mothers each with one toddler entered the restaurant (just explaining their age). They were seated directly in my line of site. I noticed they were carrying a few extra pounds, but when I looked at them for a few seconds, one of them I found stunning. Her face, her body, her arms, everything just looked wonderful. Those few pounds seemed to just increase her beauty. The other mommy never did get my attention. Can't say why one did and one did not, but for one of them it just wasn't happening. I somehow did not stare or keep looking back. I ate my lunch and made sure to pay attention to Joy.

Last time I looked at this thread, I had some preferences that today did not matter.

From a females point of view, and one who has been every size between an 8 and 24 sexy walks into a room. An aura of I am here, I am sexy and damn straight I know seems to get attention.
This doesn't mean that as a woman I or no doubt others feel like this all the time, we all have days that are what I call my mummy days, where I merely want to hang out in soft, loose and casual, but even this as I discovered recently can have an effect on men. Had a male come to the house to purchase an item. Was late afternoon and I had already removed my bra and was dressed very casually, but the inboxes that followed and his desire to see me naked was a bit of a shock, because honestly that was the last thing on my mind at that time. I am size 18 and I can still rock the socks of my hubby, that is my primary goal, rocking the socks of others is an added bonus.

EVERY woman is beautiful in one way or another!

2wheel wrote:EVERY woman is beautiful in one way or another!

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder x

The sexiest part of a woman is between her ears and for my money a dirty mind is damn near irresistible.

Simple Definition of beauty
: the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind

The 120lb hot babe who spread her legs opening her shaved pussy exclaiming "fuck me now" is just as beautiful as the 220lb not so hot babe that holds me afterwards telling me how nice we feel snuggled together.

2wheel wrote:Simple Definition of beauty
: the qualities in a person or a thing that give pleasure to the senses or the mind

The 120lb hot babe who spread her legs opening her shaved pussy exclaiming "fuck me now" is just as beautiful as the 220lb not so hot babe that holds me afterwards telling me how nice we feel snuggled together.

You should run for office "2wheel"

2 wheel - now there's a man who knows what he's talking about.

CuckedDude
SamWarrens

Thank you both.

BBWScorpio wrote:From a females point of view, and one who has been every size between an 8 and 24 sexy walks into a room. An aura of I am here, I am sexy and damn straight I know seems to get attention.
This doesn't mean that as a woman I or no doubt others feel like this all the time, we all have days that are what I call my mummy days, where I merely want to hang out in soft, loose and casual, but even this as I discovered recently can have an effect on men. Had a male come to the house to purchase an item. Was late afternoon and I had already removed my bra and was dressed very casually, but the inboxes that followed and his desire to see me naked was a bit of a shock, because honestly that was the last thing on my mind at that time. I am size 18 and I can still rock the socks of my hubby, that is my primary goal, rocking the socks of others is an added bonus.

I love this post and I love this attitude. This is the attitude that makes a woman sexy regardless of size or age. Women are just beautiful period.

...and a hearty AMEN to that!