4. Maybe not expect to be as choosy as you once were. Not all men are equal. Not all men live up to the dream.
Dear wife, please excuse my spelling, I am not as good as you LOL.
What does this mean? It means, remember your goal, you want to have fun extra-martial sex. You are not looking for a replacement husband, (OK I can hear some, 'are we nots' out there, this is a guide for the holistic and honest HotWife to be).
So you choose the on-line route. Many websites are available, if you get free listing, prepare to be inundated, if the guys have to pay - chances are you get less but of a better quality, in that they have paid so are less likely to be fakers.
Your profile - Talk about who you are rather than what you want from a potential FB. They don’t want to hear what they could and should be doing for you. They want to know what your availability is like, your sexual interests, goals, what you want out of HWing, is it a wham bam or a long term FB, do you want Hubby included or not, will hubby be there. You can tell them what things you want in a man, but don’t write about all the ways he can serve your needs. In fact, your profile should be 75% about you, and 25% about the type of FB you’re seeking. You may put no heavier than, no younger than, no older than, no black guys, no white guys. Whatever you limitations.
They want you to be kind of unique, to be yourself. Like - new to this 150lbs 5"6" blond lady. 43 years old. Do not lie, did I say do not lie. Yes I did, be unique and accurate. There is nothing worse than meeting a fifty year old woman that said she was thirty and posted a picture of her 30 year old daughter who is 35lbs lighter than her.
Avoid being overly “unique” though i.e. meaning too damn weird. A woman once sent me a text before we met, saying that her two dogs share her bed, that it was a deal breaker, as I wouldn't allow the dogs in the room while we were fucking. That is another story.... Keep your photos neutral, do turned 3/4 view poses not public enemy type straight on mug shot type pictures. Don't have family things in the background, have a plain wall. Avoid gynecological photos, they are a magnet for the picture collectors. Real FBs do not need this kind of picture.
So don’t be so unique that it becomes scary unique.
So when you are choosing, make a short list based upon the type you wanted. I know I said don't be too choosy, if you say no over 45s then stick to that. If a good guy comes along outside your perameter, remember this, you set a limit and he still applied, this guy cannot follow simple instructions. Avoid if I were you.Make a "he must have" List
Develop a strategy before you begin. What, exactly, are you looking for? Create a shopping list and be as specific as possible. Rather than saying "Anal at my discretion", get granular. Say that you want someone who’s cock is average and not too big, that it breaks through your stomach lining, or something like that. Part of making your list is defining what you want. Short dinner dates, no dinner just sex dates, overnighters are must dates. etc, etc.
Make sure your husband is in on the profile writing.
When you come to choose, remember the goal, sex not a full term relationship. Choose uncomplicated characters and drop everyone that cannot abide by your terms and conditions.
ONLINE DONEMeeting in a club or whilst out
Dead easy, tell him straight away that you are married and playing with hubby's permission, some will baulk, others will stay. Tell them that you do this as a hobby, that you will fuck whoever you wish, but you do love hubby and will not leave him, ever. You will also tell hubby all.
That takes confidence but works fantastically.
Good luck out there, stay safe and now that you are going to be a HW, make sure you always have condoms with you, you naughty girls.
Not all men live up to the dream, - Ok you have decided to meet, if he is a total loser, get out of there and fast. I have done a guide for first dates, it is in the library. CLICK HERE:for a guide for the New HW Husband - Her First Solo Date