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HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2018 7:05 pm
by Fieldhorn
I am a mostly-retired specialty surgeon, and every word below is as true as my memory will allow:

Some time ago (>6 months, <2 years) I was in the surgery lounge at one of our hospitals eating lunch and talking with some of my contemporaries about nothing much, when an OB/Gyn doc, probably in his mid 60s, sat down. He sat there for a bit, then chimed in and said something along the line of (greatly paraphrased):

“Guys, I just have to tell you this: This morning I saw a woman, an old patient, pretty, white, married, in her 40s, for a routine checkup. She was wearing an anklet with the two letters ‘H’ and ‘W’ dangling from it like charms. Her name doesn’t have either letter as an initial so I asked her what it stood for. She told me, proudly, with a BIG smile that she had become a ‘Hotwife.’ I told her I didn’t know what that was, so she told me: it’s a married woman who has sex with other men with her husband’s approval and encouragement. I was astounded because I had known her and her husband for years. I attended all three of her kid’s births, have seen them around here and there, and they seemed like your absolute middle-class middle-of-the-road people. Anyway, she said they weren’t ‘swingers’ who swapped off with other couples: her husband said he had no desire to screw other women, but he had a fantasy about her and other men. He’s a few years older than she is, and she apparently has a higher libido than him, and their love life had become kind of routine. He had found sites on the internet about this, and had convinced her that she should try it. I don’t think it took much persuasion from the way she talked about it. Anyway, they (both of them) shop around at various places on line to find men for her: she insisted she doesn’t have emotional ‘affairs.’ She has ‘recreational sex’ when she goes out on ‘dates’ with men. She occasionally stays overnight, and never brings them to her home. When they went away to a professional meeting of his, on different nights she picked up men at the hotel bar and, after she and her husband talked with them at a table and evaluated them, she went to their rooms and fucked them. She limits her adventures to married or divorced men in her own age range and has a great time. She and her husband investigate the men as thoroughly as possible here in our home city. Here, they insist the men get tested for STDs, and they pay for the test. She will go to the man’s home if possible or they will meet at a hotel, even in the daytime. It appears that often the husband will actually deliver her up to the site of the assignation, and sometimes wait for her and is occasionally present in the room with them. Unbelievable. Occasional dinner/movie dates, no romance, just sex. I was absolutely blown away. I told her to be careful, and she stopped me and said that they were very aware, and she never goes with a man who makes either of them the least apprehensive.”

The little group of us listened and nearly everyone questioned him. Apparently all of us in our 60s and 70s are pretty naïve.

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So, when I got home that day I looked up “hotwife” on urbandictionary.com. I just did it again. Here’s what it says:

“A married woman who has the freedom in her marriage to pursue sexual relationships with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities and consents to them.”

At the time, for various reasons, largely due to the some angst in my wife’s life, I didn’t pursue it. A couple of weeks before I started writing this, I happened to see the word divided (“hot wife”) in a book I was reading (a murder mystery, no sex in it at all) and it stuck, so I looked around.

There turns out to be a lot of people doing this stuff. I started out by Googling “hotwife” and “hotwives” and winnowed through some crap before I found this site:

http: //imgur.com/r/Hotwivesprep

That’s a long string of photos of women allegedly getting ready to go out and get fucked. Click on one, the just click on the blue “Next Post” button to keep going. Most of the photos were allegedly taken by the husband, some by the boyfriend and sent back to the husband as well as a few selfies. I believe it’s mostly real, but there is at least one ringer: there’s a pic of a woman in a maroon dress, holding the front up so you can see her pussy. It was copied, cropped and pasted into this stuff. It looked familiar to me so I checked, and there it was in a set of pix sent by one of my friends of beautiful women in evening gowns that showed their “charms.” Most of he women in the imgur collection look like real people. A few may be models getting ready for a photo shoot or something. There are only a few that would qualify as porn, but a whole lot that are erotic anyway: lots of nudity, pussy and breast shots as part of the situation. The two that I find most evocative have these captions “Very pleased her husband li(k)es her to go out and get fucked” and “One last peek before she knocks on his room door.” They are possibly the least erotic. I like the look of anticipatory joy on the second woman’s face. She is really looking forward to whomever is on the other side of that hotel room door. Note the rings…

Another site I found somehow is called “ourhotwives.org.” If you look at their forums, read the posts with the most responses. The most interesting to me are the ones of couples trying to get started in the “Lifestyle.” It doesn’t seem as easy as it ought to be to find the first boyfriend for the wife. A lot of folks advertise on Craigslist (“CL” in their vernacular) in a section called “Casual Encounters.” A-fucking-mazing! One of their forums, the one called “The Hotties” has pix of hotwives in action, many taken by their husbands. I took a chance and registered with a really obscure screenname and have not received a single piece of spam or other crap related to this site.

On a recent Friday (several weeks after I started writing this) I was in a CVS drug store about 1 PM. At the pharmacy counter was a tall, trim, 40-ish, attractive woman in a skin-tight “little black dress” barely to mid-thigh, no OPL, dark hose, beautifully coiffed and made up, wearing 4” stiletto-heeled shoes…and an anklet on her right ankle. I couldn’t see if there were charms on it. Based on my “research” I would make a strong guess that she is part of this movement. Sheeeutt! Her outfit was much more appropriate for a dance club or night out.

I feel sort of guilty for enjoying those photos so much. I guess it means I’m a repetitive internet voyeur, but they caused no erections, no masturbation, just looking, admiring and wondering.

One thing’s for sure: I never had the fantasy, and if I did, I would have never mentioned it to to my wife. Holy shit, would she have had a cow! Now we’re both soon to be 80, not real healthy, and, sadly, it would not be feasible anyway…I’m not the boy I was at 75!

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2018 11:21 pm
by never say never
Interesting
I found this site by trying to find out what went wrong with my marriage
I understand more about my ex wife now, than it did after twenty five years together and when I look back, I can remember being approached by the husband of a most beautiful woman, but I didn’t have a clue

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2018 7:45 am
by jrobb
Fieldhorn, your post was an absolute delight to read! Love your sense of humor, too!

JR

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2018 1:49 pm
by Fieldhorn
jrobb wrote:Fieldhorn, your post was an absolute delight to read! Love your sense of humor, too!

JR
Thanks. It's always nice to get feedback. I write for an organization's magazine, and really enjoy it. I've had a few (very few!) folks stop me in a hallway or parking garage at a hospital to tell me they liked something. It sets up the rest of the day.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Fri Mar 09, 2018 1:55 pm
by isinlarsa
I liked your story, but you did lead a sheltered life. I'm only a few years younger than you, and I had my first hotwife experience in 1972.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Sun Mar 11, 2018 11:06 am
by Fieldhorn
isinlarsa wrote:I liked your story, but you did lead a sheltered life. I'm only a few years younger than you, and I had my first hotwife experience in 1972.
I forgot to mention that when I first wrote this piece a few months ago, I sent it to several friends, all more or less in my age bracket, in several parts of the country. Only two of them are in health-care fields. Not a one of them said that they had ever heard of it, and at least one thought that participants in the hotwife lifestyle were psychologically ill.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Sun Mar 11, 2018 11:48 am
by SamWarrens
Doctors - what do they know any way?

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Fri Mar 16, 2018 5:27 am
by OOAA
Good writing! ;-)

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2019 5:26 pm
by Fieldhorn
To anyone reading this thread: my wife passed on a couple of months after I wrote the original post. I still miss her every day...we were only 26 days apart in age (she was older) and we were married for nearly 57 years.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Tue Feb 26, 2019 7:08 pm
by hornedhubby
That's sad to hear, Fieldhorn. So many of us here are men who love, admire and adore our wives (hot or not) and have made them the center of our lives. A marriage of 57 years should be a source of great pride for you, but I certainly can relate to your sense of loss. Best wishes.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Wed Feb 27, 2019 4:34 am
by Samanthasman
Sorry for your loss my friend.

I found this site trying to figure out what was wrong with me wanting my wife to fuck other men. I thought I was crazy. Once I realized this was a thing, I encouraged my wife to join the revolution, which she did! It’s been a crazy hot ride!!

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Sat Mar 09, 2019 7:35 am
by rock
Nice job OP. I also like your sense of humor. I started fairly late as an "other guy" and it's been great. Seeing a perfect hw now and neither of us are close to our twenties. (Though when we're together in the bedroom, we're more like wild teens.) Thanks, R.

Re: HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"

Posted: Tue Mar 12, 2019 1:32 pm
by tunafish
I found the original posting. As a 79 year old married to a gorgeous hot woman for 40 years I understand and am
comfortable with HW lifestyle. When I mentioned my interest in it to my wife she was understandably blown away. We’re enjoying a “ fantasy “ hot wife lifestyle. It’s wonderful. And safe.