HOW I LEARNED ABOUT HOTWIVES AND "HOTWIFING"
Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2018 7:05 pm
I am a mostly-retired specialty surgeon, and every word below is as true as my memory will allow:
Some time ago (>6 months, <2 years) I was in the surgery lounge at one of our hospitals eating lunch and talking with some of my contemporaries about nothing much, when an OB/Gyn doc, probably in his mid 60s, sat down. He sat there for a bit, then chimed in and said something along the line of (greatly paraphrased):
“Guys, I just have to tell you this: This morning I saw a woman, an old patient, pretty, white, married, in her 40s, for a routine checkup. She was wearing an anklet with the two letters ‘H’ and ‘W’ dangling from it like charms. Her name doesn’t have either letter as an initial so I asked her what it stood for. She told me, proudly, with a BIG smile that she had become a ‘Hotwife.’ I told her I didn’t know what that was, so she told me: it’s a married woman who has sex with other men with her husband’s approval and encouragement. I was astounded because I had known her and her husband for years. I attended all three of her kid’s births, have seen them around here and there, and they seemed like your absolute middle-class middle-of-the-road people. Anyway, she said they weren’t ‘swingers’ who swapped off with other couples: her husband said he had no desire to screw other women, but he had a fantasy about her and other men. He’s a few years older than she is, and she apparently has a higher libido than him, and their love life had become kind of routine. He had found sites on the internet about this, and had convinced her that she should try it. I don’t think it took much persuasion from the way she talked about it. Anyway, they (both of them) shop around at various places on line to find men for her: she insisted she doesn’t have emotional ‘affairs.’ She has ‘recreational sex’ when she goes out on ‘dates’ with men. She occasionally stays overnight, and never brings them to her home. When they went away to a professional meeting of his, on different nights she picked up men at the hotel bar and, after she and her husband talked with them at a table and evaluated them, she went to their rooms and fucked them. She limits her adventures to married or divorced men in her own age range and has a great time. She and her husband investigate the men as thoroughly as possible here in our home city. Here, they insist the men get tested for STDs, and they pay for the test. She will go to the man’s home if possible or they will meet at a hotel, even in the daytime. It appears that often the husband will actually deliver her up to the site of the assignation, and sometimes wait for her and is occasionally present in the room with them. Unbelievable. Occasional dinner/movie dates, no romance, just sex. I was absolutely blown away. I told her to be careful, and she stopped me and said that they were very aware, and she never goes with a man who makes either of them the least apprehensive.”
The little group of us listened and nearly everyone questioned him. Apparently all of us in our 60s and 70s are pretty naïve.
**********************************
So, when I got home that day I looked up “hotwife” on urbandictionary.com. I just did it again. Here’s what it says:
“A married woman who has the freedom in her marriage to pursue sexual relationships with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities and consents to them.”
At the time, for various reasons, largely due to the some angst in my wife’s life, I didn’t pursue it. A couple of weeks before I started writing this, I happened to see the word divided (“hot wife”) in a book I was reading (a murder mystery, no sex in it at all) and it stuck, so I looked around.
There turns out to be a lot of people doing this stuff. I started out by Googling “hotwife” and “hotwives” and winnowed through some crap before I found this site:
http: //imgur.com/r/Hotwivesprep
That’s a long string of photos of women allegedly getting ready to go out and get fucked. Click on one, the just click on the blue “Next Post” button to keep going. Most of the photos were allegedly taken by the husband, some by the boyfriend and sent back to the husband as well as a few selfies. I believe it’s mostly real, but there is at least one ringer: there’s a pic of a woman in a maroon dress, holding the front up so you can see her pussy. It was copied, cropped and pasted into this stuff. It looked familiar to me so I checked, and there it was in a set of pix sent by one of my friends of beautiful women in evening gowns that showed their “charms.” Most of he women in the imgur collection look like real people. A few may be models getting ready for a photo shoot or something. There are only a few that would qualify as porn, but a whole lot that are erotic anyway: lots of nudity, pussy and breast shots as part of the situation. The two that I find most evocative have these captions “Very pleased her husband li(k)es her to go out and get fucked” and “One last peek before she knocks on his room door.” They are possibly the least erotic. I like the look of anticipatory joy on the second woman’s face. She is really looking forward to whomever is on the other side of that hotel room door. Note the rings…
Another site I found somehow is called “ourhotwives.org.” If you look at their forums, read the posts with the most responses. The most interesting to me are the ones of couples trying to get started in the “Lifestyle.” It doesn’t seem as easy as it ought to be to find the first boyfriend for the wife. A lot of folks advertise on Craigslist (“CL” in their vernacular) in a section called “Casual Encounters.” A-fucking-mazing! One of their forums, the one called “The Hotties” has pix of hotwives in action, many taken by their husbands. I took a chance and registered with a really obscure screenname and have not received a single piece of spam or other crap related to this site.
On a recent Friday (several weeks after I started writing this) I was in a CVS drug store about 1 PM. At the pharmacy counter was a tall, trim, 40-ish, attractive woman in a skin-tight “little black dress” barely to mid-thigh, no OPL, dark hose, beautifully coiffed and made up, wearing 4” stiletto-heeled shoes…and an anklet on her right ankle. I couldn’t see if there were charms on it. Based on my “research” I would make a strong guess that she is part of this movement. Sheeeutt! Her outfit was much more appropriate for a dance club or night out.
I feel sort of guilty for enjoying those photos so much. I guess it means I’m a repetitive internet voyeur, but they caused no erections, no masturbation, just looking, admiring and wondering.
One thing’s for sure: I never had the fantasy, and if I did, I would have never mentioned it to to my wife. Holy shit, would she have had a cow! Now we’re both soon to be 80, not real healthy, and, sadly, it would not be feasible anyway…I’m not the boy I was at 75!
Some time ago (>6 months, <2 years) I was in the surgery lounge at one of our hospitals eating lunch and talking with some of my contemporaries about nothing much, when an OB/Gyn doc, probably in his mid 60s, sat down. He sat there for a bit, then chimed in and said something along the line of (greatly paraphrased):
“Guys, I just have to tell you this: This morning I saw a woman, an old patient, pretty, white, married, in her 40s, for a routine checkup. She was wearing an anklet with the two letters ‘H’ and ‘W’ dangling from it like charms. Her name doesn’t have either letter as an initial so I asked her what it stood for. She told me, proudly, with a BIG smile that she had become a ‘Hotwife.’ I told her I didn’t know what that was, so she told me: it’s a married woman who has sex with other men with her husband’s approval and encouragement. I was astounded because I had known her and her husband for years. I attended all three of her kid’s births, have seen them around here and there, and they seemed like your absolute middle-class middle-of-the-road people. Anyway, she said they weren’t ‘swingers’ who swapped off with other couples: her husband said he had no desire to screw other women, but he had a fantasy about her and other men. He’s a few years older than she is, and she apparently has a higher libido than him, and their love life had become kind of routine. He had found sites on the internet about this, and had convinced her that she should try it. I don’t think it took much persuasion from the way she talked about it. Anyway, they (both of them) shop around at various places on line to find men for her: she insisted she doesn’t have emotional ‘affairs.’ She has ‘recreational sex’ when she goes out on ‘dates’ with men. She occasionally stays overnight, and never brings them to her home. When they went away to a professional meeting of his, on different nights she picked up men at the hotel bar and, after she and her husband talked with them at a table and evaluated them, she went to their rooms and fucked them. She limits her adventures to married or divorced men in her own age range and has a great time. She and her husband investigate the men as thoroughly as possible here in our home city. Here, they insist the men get tested for STDs, and they pay for the test. She will go to the man’s home if possible or they will meet at a hotel, even in the daytime. It appears that often the husband will actually deliver her up to the site of the assignation, and sometimes wait for her and is occasionally present in the room with them. Unbelievable. Occasional dinner/movie dates, no romance, just sex. I was absolutely blown away. I told her to be careful, and she stopped me and said that they were very aware, and she never goes with a man who makes either of them the least apprehensive.”
The little group of us listened and nearly everyone questioned him. Apparently all of us in our 60s and 70s are pretty naïve.
**********************************
So, when I got home that day I looked up “hotwife” on urbandictionary.com. I just did it again. Here’s what it says:
“A married woman who has the freedom in her marriage to pursue sexual relationships with men other than her husband. Her husband has full knowledge of her activities and consents to them.”
At the time, for various reasons, largely due to the some angst in my wife’s life, I didn’t pursue it. A couple of weeks before I started writing this, I happened to see the word divided (“hot wife”) in a book I was reading (a murder mystery, no sex in it at all) and it stuck, so I looked around.
There turns out to be a lot of people doing this stuff. I started out by Googling “hotwife” and “hotwives” and winnowed through some crap before I found this site:
http: //imgur.com/r/Hotwivesprep
That’s a long string of photos of women allegedly getting ready to go out and get fucked. Click on one, the just click on the blue “Next Post” button to keep going. Most of the photos were allegedly taken by the husband, some by the boyfriend and sent back to the husband as well as a few selfies. I believe it’s mostly real, but there is at least one ringer: there’s a pic of a woman in a maroon dress, holding the front up so you can see her pussy. It was copied, cropped and pasted into this stuff. It looked familiar to me so I checked, and there it was in a set of pix sent by one of my friends of beautiful women in evening gowns that showed their “charms.” Most of he women in the imgur collection look like real people. A few may be models getting ready for a photo shoot or something. There are only a few that would qualify as porn, but a whole lot that are erotic anyway: lots of nudity, pussy and breast shots as part of the situation. The two that I find most evocative have these captions “Very pleased her husband li(k)es her to go out and get fucked” and “One last peek before she knocks on his room door.” They are possibly the least erotic. I like the look of anticipatory joy on the second woman’s face. She is really looking forward to whomever is on the other side of that hotel room door. Note the rings…
Another site I found somehow is called “ourhotwives.org.” If you look at their forums, read the posts with the most responses. The most interesting to me are the ones of couples trying to get started in the “Lifestyle.” It doesn’t seem as easy as it ought to be to find the first boyfriend for the wife. A lot of folks advertise on Craigslist (“CL” in their vernacular) in a section called “Casual Encounters.” A-fucking-mazing! One of their forums, the one called “The Hotties” has pix of hotwives in action, many taken by their husbands. I took a chance and registered with a really obscure screenname and have not received a single piece of spam or other crap related to this site.
On a recent Friday (several weeks after I started writing this) I was in a CVS drug store about 1 PM. At the pharmacy counter was a tall, trim, 40-ish, attractive woman in a skin-tight “little black dress” barely to mid-thigh, no OPL, dark hose, beautifully coiffed and made up, wearing 4” stiletto-heeled shoes…and an anklet on her right ankle. I couldn’t see if there were charms on it. Based on my “research” I would make a strong guess that she is part of this movement. Sheeeutt! Her outfit was much more appropriate for a dance club or night out.
I feel sort of guilty for enjoying those photos so much. I guess it means I’m a repetitive internet voyeur, but they caused no erections, no masturbation, just looking, admiring and wondering.
One thing’s for sure: I never had the fantasy, and if I did, I would have never mentioned it to to my wife. Holy shit, would she have had a cow! Now we’re both soon to be 80, not real healthy, and, sadly, it would not be feasible anyway…I’m not the boy I was at 75!