Religious wife….any advice
Religious wife….any advice
My wife is 33 petite, very pretty with small A cup breasts and VERY religious/conservative. I have had this fantasy for about 5 years. It all started when I was ready horny one night and showed a random guy a cropped photo of her that I had taken and saw him cum to it. It was soooo incredibly erotic, that I have secretly pursued the fantasy ever since. She knows that I want men to see her naked, but I think she treats it as a joke. Religion is a massive impediment to her doing this. Do I keep going and fantasizing? Or just give this up now…
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There are many religious/conservative hotwives. Most likely there are just as many as those that are not religious/conservative. Husbands, way too often, throw out "religious/conservative" as a crutch for their lack of communication.
Can religious beliefs be an impediment to hotwifing? Yes.
Can non-religious beliefs be an impediment? Yes.
If you want a hotwife, work on your communication. A husband and wife should be able to talk about anything without judging each other. Every time you talk, it should be completely open and honest. And, the most important part of communicating is in listening.
Be convinced yourself and be prepared to answer all questions she will have.
The decision to open herself to this goes far far beyond religious beliefs, it is a fundamental change in how she sees herself.
I hope you can take this as helpful, but you are probably being more of an impediment than her beliefs.
Can religious beliefs be an impediment to hotwifing? Yes.
Can non-religious beliefs be an impediment? Yes.
If you want a hotwife, work on your communication. A husband and wife should be able to talk about anything without judging each other. Every time you talk, it should be completely open and honest. And, the most important part of communicating is in listening.
Be convinced yourself and be prepared to answer all questions she will have.
The decision to open herself to this goes far far beyond religious beliefs, it is a fundamental change in how she sees herself.
I hope you can take this as helpful, but you are probably being more of an impediment than her beliefs.
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Has she let you take photos of her naked? I assume you were on internet video when you showed the random guy her photo and he came to it.
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She won’t let me take photos, no.
I’ve communicated some of this to her, but based on other conversations, I know that she’ll see this as a bad thing. However, if you have recommendations for a first step, maybe we can do a baby step without explicitly talking about the endgame?
I’ve communicated some of this to her, but based on other conversations, I know that she’ll see this as a bad thing. However, if you have recommendations for a first step, maybe we can do a baby step without explicitly talking about the endgame?
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IDK......I have some family members who are very religious/very conservative, both male and female. I suppose that anything is possible; but regardless of which religious beliefs she embraces (Jewish/Christian/Islamic/other), if she embraces them with a particular intensity, generally speaking, it's not simply what they believe, it's pretty much ENTIRELY how they define themselves.
I wish you the best of luck, but I'm not optimistic.
I wish you the best of luck, but I'm not optimistic.
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It all depends on her sexuality. Even religious people have sex. But as referenced above, you have to have an open, ongoing dialog that includes sexuality and if she isn't open to even discuss sex, let alone ethical non-monogamy, things don't look promising.
This isn't a hobby for everyone, some don't fit in and it remains a fantasy for their partner.
This isn't a hobby for everyone, some don't fit in and it remains a fantasy for their partner.
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there is a lot of info that I would need to know before making any recommendations..Isguy4 wrote: ↑Sat Apr 08, 2023 8:12 amShe won’t let me take photos, no.
I’ve communicated some of this to her, but based on other conversations, I know that she’ll see this as a bad thing. However, if you have recommendations for a first step, maybe we can do a baby step without explicitly talking about the endgame?
being religious or conservative, does not mean what you think it means. I know some very religious women that want to have sex everyday with their husbands. In fact, are quite aggressive about making sure they ride their cock. So my question to you, is how often do you guys have sex? have you ever watched her masturbate for you?
I would start there.
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My opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
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I can’t pm right now it says. But to answer both of the previous posts.
We have sex maybe 3 times a week. Last time we were a little out of it and she actually did allow anal, which is totally out of character. She said it felt good and was uncomfortable, but wouldn’t be against it in the future. That was huge. She doesnt masturbate.
Steel ridge, what religion? How did you get past the obvious theological barriers?
We have sex maybe 3 times a week. Last time we were a little out of it and she actually did allow anal, which is totally out of character. She said it felt good and was uncomfortable, but wouldn’t be against it in the future. That was huge. She doesnt masturbate.
Steel ridge, what religion? How did you get past the obvious theological barriers?
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That hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
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I am facing the same struggle. I am not optimistic about it. This process does take a long time, so I am prepared to work on it slowly. So far my wife refuses to tell me her sexual fantasies or tell me about anyone she finds attractive. Eventually I will get that information and use it to my advantage if I can.
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I have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:54 amThat hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
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Based upon personal experience and reports I've read, there is a lot of extramarital sex in Christian Churches, including the fundamentalists. They would be better off if there were more hotwifing.SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 3:11 pmI have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:54 amThat hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
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Sure there is some extramarital sex, most of the time it resulted in destroyed marriages in my observation.isinlarsa wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 5:19 pmBased upon personal experience and reports I've read, there is a lot of extramarital sex in Christian Churches, including the fundamentalists. They would be better off if there were more hotwifing.SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 3:11 pmI have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:54 amThat hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
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There is more extramarital sex than is believed. Many times it involves the minister with a female parishioner. But, as you say, when it comes out, it results in divorce. If Christianity could accommodate open marriages, I think it would be more positive. Once open marriages are accepted, then hotwifing would be a popular form.SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 5:31 pmSure there is some extramarital sex, most of the time it resulted in destroyed marriages in my observation.isinlarsa wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 5:19 pmBased upon personal experience and reports I've read, there is a lot of extramarital sex in Christian Churches, including the fundamentalists. They would be better off if there were more hotwifing.SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 3:11 pmI have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.
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On a secular note, I find petite a-cup women very sexy. How is her self-image?
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My experience is that a lot of people use their religion to hide themselves from their God given desires. it further seems to me (as a person who has toyed with but not actually been in an open sexual relationship) that dealing honestly with one’s sexual desires not only makes for a more honest relationship with one’s partner(s) but one’s God as well. In that case, perhaps a person hiding behind religion is actually choking off one’s spirituality and, therefore, that person’s relationships with themselves and others including their spouse.
Maybe we need a different view of what it is to be faithful human beings in a Christian tradition.
Maybe we need a different view of what it is to be faithful human beings in a Christian tradition.
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She knows she looks good.whosbeensleeping wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 7:47 pmOn a secular note, I find petite a-cup women very sexy. How is her self-image?
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You won't find support for hot wife/chuck/swinging/etc in a mainstream religion. On the fringes, there are religious groups that support it. But, I wouldn't recommend going that direction.
In the mainstream religious world there are a good number of people who hotwife/swing/etc and don't seem to think twice about it with regard to their religion. This is probably your better course, just leave the religion out of it.
I talk to my wife all the time about the details of what I find sexy, what turns me on, what turns her on... Just because we talk about it doesn't mean we have to do it. Some of what we talk about does later become stuff that we do. But some of it we won't ever actually do. Just thinking about doing it is sexy, and talking about it with my wife is a turn on.
Maybe that's the sort of thing that would be a start for you.
In the mainstream religious world there are a good number of people who hotwife/swing/etc and don't seem to think twice about it with regard to their religion. This is probably your better course, just leave the religion out of it.
I talk to my wife all the time about the details of what I find sexy, what turns me on, what turns her on... Just because we talk about it doesn't mean we have to do it. Some of what we talk about does later become stuff that we do. But some of it we won't ever actually do. Just thinking about doing it is sexy, and talking about it with my wife is a turn on.
Maybe that's the sort of thing that would be a start for you.
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Very well said, and something many just don't consider.aguy4pleasure wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 7:59 pmMy experience is that a lot of people use their religion to hide themselves from their God given desires. it further seems to me (as a person who has toyed with but not actually been in an open sexual relationship) that dealing honestly with one’s sexual desires not only makes for a more honest relationship with one’s partner(s) but one’s God as well. In that case, perhaps a person hiding behind religion is actually choking off one’s spirituality and, therefore, that person’s relationships with themselves and others including their spouse.
Maybe we need a different view of what it is to be faithful human beings in a Christian tradition.
The view is already there, you just have to dig deeper. Most people just barely scratch the surface of their religion like a water spider.
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Being a hotwife doesn't separate you from God. But it might separate you from your religion. Because most religions have strict moralistic ideals
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SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 3:11 pmI have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:54 amThat hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
I guess it's just different for us hillbillies living on the border .
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Maybe I just need to re-tune my hotwife sensors.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Mon Apr 10, 2023 1:18 pmSteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 3:11 pmI have lived in the South practically my whole life. Sure there have been cheaters and such but not much of the hotwifing for church goers.Farmgirl wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 10:54 amThat hasn't been my experience growing up and living in the southern bible belt, though I realize other areas are different .SteelRidge wrote: ↑Sun Apr 09, 2023 4:17 amMy opinion is there may be a few religious hotwives but that's probably out of the norm.
My wife is a Christian and faithful. We did try it but she is now full of regret.
I can tell you more in a PM if you're interested.
I guess it's just different for us hillbillies living on the border .
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Sure sure, 'hillbillies' who used to be bankers
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At least taking in the swinger world we find the irreligious more of an oddity in our circles.
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