A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationship

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Unread post by wvhotwifeshubby » Sun Dec 15, 2013 4:06 am

Great stuff Truckstar. I wish we would have read this in the beginning, however we made it through and are doing wonderful! It's crazy that it has only been two months. Feels longer than that...:)

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Unread post by viking68 » Thu Jan 09, 2014 4:19 am

Fantastic thread!! Should be required reading for everyone!
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Unread post by Truckstar » Sun Feb 23, 2014 1:37 pm

This inspires me to write the next chapter.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Fri Apr 04, 2014 8:32 am

I thought I posted this last night, I am glad I saved it

Tip 9 Next multicultural swinging and the BBC fantasy.

No matter what any man says, his cock characterises him. If it's tiny and crooked he'll be hung up about it. If he shoots his load in a few seconds or if he has a tough time staying hard, he'll be very concerned about it to the exclusion of all else. A man’s cock is very important to him no matter how big or small it is.

A woman can if required, lie on her back and scream in passion and fool a man into thinking she is enjoying herself, her mood, diet or weight does not affect her physical ability to have penetrative sex but a man has to "prove" his excitement by sporting a big stiff proud cock. And because the male sex drive is a sensitive and delicate thing, it can become a problem even for the fully sexual male. The more stressful the situations that he places himself in, the more chance that he will experience performance problems. Regardless of colour. So the pressure on average size and small cock black men to perform is indescribable. Those average guys are out there, losing weight and shaving back those pubes to add the extra half inch required.

A woman who knows how important her male partner's cock is to him will be way ahead of the game. And a woman who will take the time to worship his cock, irrelevant of size will be the sexiest woman in the world to him. He will then be cool when she craves something different.

The simplest way for a woman to show she cares is to seek out his cock when he's otherwise occupied. Even though us men think about sex all the time, sometimes those thoughts are submerged beneath our routine day-to-day tasks. But the sexiest thing he'll ever experience is the moment when his lover walks up to him while he's preoccupied and she slips her hands in his pocket and massages his balls, kisses him and says, ‘honey. I love you.’

He will remember that event for the rest of his life, when, while he's talking to someone from work on the phone you kneel down in front of him and loosen his belt and open his fly and give him a silent blowjob while he has to try continue his conversation. Take my word as a man, that performing an act like that becomes a defining moment in his life, something he'll never forget. You didn't do anything you wouldn't have done later that night in bed, but it was the timing of the event, and the playfulness, the "cock worship" that he will never forget. When he cums and if it is you, swallow the lot, come up and kiss him and tell him that being a HW has defined you and made you feel hot for him....

So the BBC and Why? Mythology has got us there and it would be crazy of the black men not to make the most of it and ride the crest of the wave it has produced. The answer, in part, is because there's a huge demand for it. In an age where pornographers are practically responding to viewers' demands in real-time, porn-consumers have made it clear that watching someone's wife bang a random guy is a top priority. To translate it to reality means finding a wife that will even considerate it and indeed let the man watch. Live shows, peep shows and of course the man’s very own wife.

So why BBC not BWC (W = White). Well there is the taboo from some time back and we inherit that from America and slavery. The taboo was there, just like those that have touched or caressed a horses or dog’s cock. Women and some men have, its a taboo, nobody knows and the animal won’t tell.

Back in slavery times, the lean sexy slave was desired by the woman. She wouldn’t tell anybody except her closest friends who also craved some black cock. The slave enjoyed the pussy and told nobody because he generally did well out of it and to boast about it would lead to certain death.

The Big part of the myth built up because the woman boasted to their friends who also were getting the black friendship about how big and strong her slave was and of course how big his cock is.

The slaves knowing they were on to a good thing would wank off before seeing the woman so that he had less chance of coming too quick and making her pregnant.

Black man have perpetuated the story and I don’t blame them. We also know that woman are not very good at guessing inches (sorry ladies). Cocks from the front look at least 2 inches bigger than from on top. Of course there are big ones and small ones but from an early age girls do like to test the taboo and many will try the BBC just to check it out for themselves, some will dedicate their lives to it and some will take cock as it comes.

Pre and post baby your plumbing changes girls and after the baby you can take a slightly longer insertion, perhaps why when you get older you start to look about. However there is a limit to what you can take and girth is often better than length. My wife likes a long one to suck and a fat one to fuck.

In Summary -:
Look after the man you love and reward him and his cock, praise him, fuck him and suck him, then you will get all that you want. Deny him and cage him, will work for a while but something often gives. There are the dyed in the wool fetishists that will use denial to the utmost and as long as they are enjoying themselves and looking after each other good for them. Love your man and love his cock, what it will bring is adoration for you and the ability to get more varied cock.

Next Tip - Tip 10 - By Special Request - The Art of the MFM - A Hot Wife Hub perspective

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Unread post by Truckstar » Thu May 01, 2014 4:49 am

Wow has it been 4 weeks since my last post?

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Tip 10 - By Special Request - The Art of the MFM - A Hot Wife Hub perspective

MFM threesome she stays in the middle, an MFM is all about the girl, hence the ‘F’ in the middle. A little known fact is the position of the letters
MMF that is Man in the middle but it is the second ‘M’ so therefore the middle guy is not the primary in the relationship, normally the guest.
FMM – The primary guy is in the middle. Et’al So it is always about the middle person, also that does not prevent interaction between all three.

Today we deal with the HW favourite of MFM, I have been in a few with my wife and I have observed her in a few also. Whether or not the men are into experimenting, touching, rubbing, oral sexing or even fucking with each other is very relevant to the entire scene because, if they’re not, then things will get awkward when they’re naked next to each other. You need to establish how far you will go, what are your limits (all three), what you are comfortable and what is a no go area. Some guys are happy to be blown, however won’t return the favour. If you are against or freaked by any same sex touching, do not go for this as it is inevitable, you are going to touch. You might even experience the old gay cliché of your balls banging against your buddies balls. Absolutely funny as hell the first time.

It is about the woman, Therefore she doesn’t want to be drunk or tired as she will be getting double the dosage of ‘happy seed’ she is used to and the guys will often compete to see who fucks best. She needs to be in control of the scene, stay focused and be in please them mode. So the best bet is for the woman to remain in between them and that will keep the focus on her. This way, she will receive the utmost pleasure and have four hands and two cocks at her beck and call at all times.

MFM begins, She leads the way, guys if she is kissing the other guy, kiss her neck, go down on her, do not pull her away. Remember due to the outnumbering of cock to pussy a threesome can have awkward moments, especially if it is the first for anybody or if the woman is not too confident and doesn’t stay fully in control. Also, some guys are a little apprehensive about taking control for obvious reasons, so it’s up to the woman to lead the way. There is nothing wrong with being the conductor.
“Rub there.”
“Touch there and lick that.” Guys love that.
The don’ts are “Would you like to fuck me now?” The hardest question for a guy ever. It always works better if the girl says “Bill, Bob.” Whoever she choose – “Fuck me.” Guys get off on that and they love sexy women that know what they want.

Guys if it is your girl, have already before you meet the order in which you want to have your first fuck. It is rude to say – But I wanted to go then, it is a cock deflator without a doubt

Nobody has to shout out orders or place the other threesome participants in position; all the woman has to do is get on all fours on the bed and begin blowing a cock and the orchestra will follow, the other guy will easily get the hint that it’s time to penetrate, however keep the chat in the locker just in case. When she’s ready to switch, she can stop sucking, look up at the guy that slipped from her mouth and say in a low voice, “Now, I want you to fuck me.” Sometimes you need the hint and the roll of the eyes toward the night stand “Condom please babe.” He’ll get it......
If anyone is keen on the bum business and anal sex is on the menu – to the guys or the girl it’s imperative to discuss this beforehand, unless you are already very accustomed to being anally penetrated, there is some serious prep to do. The last thing anyone wants is a woman shouting at the top of her voice in pain and ending the session whilst she rubs ice cubes on her arse ring, or a poo-stained pecker being thrown in the mix. Anal sex is not like the porn films and the bum hungry plumber shoving a log sized cock up the wife’s poop shoot. Reality is about, diet and prep and butt plugs and lube.
An unwritten rule used to always be the old One man up, one man down routine, but double Blow Jobs are fun, that is two cocks in her mouth or two mouths on one cock. That obviously requires a bit of brotherly love and trust. It’s a great idea for one guy to stay on her upper regions when the other is on the lower, and vice versa. That way, a woman’s chances of having multiple orgasms increases. However there is a sex position called “The Bomb”, girl is penetrated by one guy and licked to orgasm by the other. It can be really hot if the guys don’t mind being in close proximity of each other, then each one can suck a nipple or take turns kissing her body all over. Also break the taboo of having another guy’s cock in your mouth, it aint so bad, you never know until you try it. Some of the best blow jobs I have ever received have been from men.

Make sure your room is like condom central, have condoms everywhere. It also keeps everything clean. My wife makes a condom necklace. When doing this, be sure not to put the needle through the latex, she sometimes at events wears a condom necklace around her neck and when a guy comes along, she pulls one off and applies it to his cock, unless she saw him put one on, she will remove his current one and fit a clean one. SAFETY FIRST NOW. Even if you think you know each other really well, condoms are your friend and you should use them. You should have enough around so that condoms can be changed often. It’s possible that the HW or the men may not want to suck on a condom that has been inside her, or you are cool with bare oral. It takes a little something away from the spontaneity of the sex and, most threesomes don’t lend themselves to enthusiastic condom use, but I recommend them and you will hopefully use them.

No double entry dipping. If it is has been in a bum and is not going straight back in there, remove the rubber. Same deal for pussy. The bacteria between pussies and arses are not great and definitely not between different people. All condoms are one hole and gone.

Give equal attention, for a novice HW this can be difficult for several reasons
1. You chose this guy because of his monster cock and it is the biggest one you have ever seen. Unless this is your scene as a couple, you cooing like a five year old on Christmas is going to kill future dates.
2. He could be the best fuck you ever had
3. You get down to it and he is a one and done guy and no matter what you do he can’t get hard again.
4. Hubby decides to go to the corner and watch.
While it’s okay to spend a few minutes enjoying oral sex without having to do anything in the meanwhile, you do need to keep in mind that leaving someone out for an extended period of time is bad threesome etiquette and it becomes a one on one with a voyeur whether intended or not.

Make sure that you’re giving pleasure while you receive it more often than not, reach out and rub some balls or a cock while you suck. Or go for the spit roast. Again when you are not in brilliant physical fitness shape, it can be quite breath taking, so sucking somebody off while you are breathing heavy, could be tough.

I mentioned, sitting and watching, having a wank or a diddle. Feel free to watch, it maybe the first time and you are in awe of whatever the combination is. Be careful though of whispering sweet nothings, when the third is away at the loo, getting drinks or wanking in the corner, a sure promoter of the old green eyed monster, jealousy.

Sometimes the men involved may feel comfortable enough to play with each other, this is mind blowing for a woman to see. My wife loves it. The woman can sit back and enjoy the scene. And sometimes one of the men will take a break because he doesn’t want to cum to quick (think the one and done guys, not their fault), and so wants to just watch as the woman gets fucked by the other guy. You have got to feel free to wank off if the mood strikes.

I should have mentioned earlier, be comfortable about walking around nude with each other.

From oral sex on each other to stroking each other as you all have sex, especially when men aren’t afraid to get in each other’s line of fire, the sexual experience will be that much more enticing.

Be creative, from three way oral sex to double penetration, let your creative ‘juices flow’ ha ha when you get involved in a MFM threesome because you never know when, or if, this opportunity will present itself again.

Feel your way through with each other and think up interesting ways to make the experience as fulfilling a possible for all of you. She can double blow on both men (wank one while sucking the other, then switch); let one fuck her while she sucks the balls of the other; let one place his cock between her tits while the other fucks her, snowball some spunk between sexy kisses. There is no limit to the amazing things you can do in a MFM threesome.

Threesomes Golden Rule – Honesty with what you want to get out of it, your fantasy in full and your personal limits.

Having an MFM threesome may not happen often for most of us, but when they do, most women admit that it is an experience that they will never forget.

So if you’re ready, willing and able, engage in one of the biggest fantasies of all married men and most married women dream of – get on board and enjoy it!

That is the end of my 10 tips.

I am happy to give tips on other things, if people want it. I have been watching my wife fuck other men and women for close to 25 years, I have been lucky enough to join in from time to time. So if we can help, please let us know.

Have fun out there and don’t do anything sexually that the Truckstars wouldn’t do. Mmmmm That don’t leave much.

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Unread post by SmilingHusband » Thu May 01, 2014 8:33 am

that was excellent. thank you. :up:

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Unread post by tylmeran » Thu May 01, 2014 11:41 pm

Truckstar wrote:
Here are some rules that Mrs Truckstar and I used many years ago, some have gone now but it is just an idea. You of course don’t have to follow any of these do what's right for you. Each relationship is unique and it’s important to find what works for YOU.
• Always condoms outside the relationship. (This matures with trust and testing)
• No sex with family, mutual friends or people that work with or for us.
• A sexy hook up must never take over something we have planned time together.
• Sex is allowed with another man only when both of us know about it, no phone call no sex and her location is known to him. Of course we have text and email now.
• MFM / MMFM/ etc is allowed only when both partners participate. This one got scrapped quite early on.
• Sex is permitted at home, but not in the master bedroom.
You mention that some of these have gone and then you only mention one getting scrapped early on.

If you don't mind my asking, how did these rules evolve later on?

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Unread post by Truckstar » Sat May 03, 2014 11:26 pm

tylmeran wrote:
Truckstar wrote:
Here are some rules that Mrs Truckstar and I used many years ago, some have gone now but it is just an idea. You of course don’t have to follow any of these do what's right for you. Each relationship is unique and it’s important to find what works for YOU.
• Always condoms outside the relationship. (This matures with trust and testing)
• No sex with family, mutual friends or people that work with or for us.
• A sexy hook up must never take over something we have planned time together.
• Sex is allowed with another man only when both of us know about it, no phone call no sex and her location is known to him. Of course we have text and email now.
• MFM / MMFM/ etc is allowed only when both partners participate. This one got scrapped quite early on.
• Sex is permitted at home, but not in the master bedroom.
You mention that some of these have gone and then you only mention one getting scrapped early on.

If you don't mind my asking, how did these rules evolve later on?
Not at all, I hope this clarifies things.

29 years down the line.....

• Always condoms outside the relationship. (This matures with trust and testing) We have had some long term and a live in lover that has been bare. Casuals and ONS are always rubbered up.
• No sex with family, mutual friends or people that work with or for us. Still Extant - Dont screw the crew or they will screw you (over)
• A sexy hook up must never take over something we have planned time together. Still Extant
• Sex is allowed with another man only when both of us know about it, no phone call no sex and her location is known to him. Of course we have text and email now. This is not so important to us now and we have scrapped this rule for her, not me. I still have to let her know
• MFM / MMFM/ etc is allowed only when both partners participate. This one got scrapped quite early on.
• Sex is permitted at home, but not in the master bedroom. Scrapped totally, sex is permitted anywhere, as long as it is safe and secure, in all terms

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Unread post by Truckstar » Sat May 03, 2014 11:27 pm

HWSweetCheeks wrote:My sincerest thanks for your time doing this....MUCH appreciated!
I don't come on this website as much as the missus, comments like this however mean the world to me. I am really made up over this. Thank you.

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Unread post by tylmeran » Sun May 04, 2014 3:21 am

Ok, so it seems like the rules changes as you matured as a couple and knew that you could trust each other, and in some cases, others. That makes a lot of sense. The idea of making the rules more strict and peeling away at some over time is a lot smarter than winging it and figuring out after the fact where limits need to be put in place.

Thanks for the follow up.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Sun May 04, 2014 3:32 am

Yes I agree, also you set boundaries, that you test maybe, push occasionally but don't cross ever. Same with limitations. Should the boundary or limitation need adjustment one way or another. You discuss it and change as required.

I have a boundary that she struggled with and that is that she cannot fuck her ex BF Bobby, that has nothing to do with her believing that I think he might be a cunt. It has everything to do with the fact that I know Bobby is a total cunt and one of only three people in the whole world that I cannot stand.

He lives near my MiL

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Unread post by tylmeran » Sun May 04, 2014 4:59 am

Truckstar wrote:
I have a boundary that she struggled with and that is that she cannot fuck her ex BF Bobby, that has nothing to do with her believing that I think he might be a cunt. It has everything to do with the fact that I know Bobby is a total cunt and one of only three people in the whole world that I cannot stand.

He lives near my MiL
Yeah that kind of stuff can make for interesting fiction but we don't live in a fictional world.

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Unread post by wifewatcher1 » Sun May 04, 2014 9:37 am

Truckstar,

Thanks for posting this. Best HW couples guide I've seen posted on this site yet!

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Unread post by MissDibs » Thu May 08, 2014 12:24 pm

Mr. & Mrs. Truckstar, you guys are so awesome. Thank you so much for writing this.
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Unread post by Truckstar » Fri Aug 29, 2014 6:48 am

Truckstar wrote:Yes I agree, also you set boundaries, that you test maybe, push occasionally but don't cross ever. Same with limitations. Should the boundary or limitation need adjustment one way or another. You discuss it and change as required.

I have a boundary that she struggled with and that is that she cannot fuck her ex BF Bobby, that has nothing to do with her believing that I think he might be a cunt. It has everything to do with the fact that I know Bobby is a total cunt and one of only three people in the whole world that I cannot stand.

He lives near my MiL
The Bobby boundary has been lifted. I nearly lost my wife to an accident recently and we have decided that life is too short.

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Unread post by Truckstar » Fri Aug 29, 2014 7:50 am

Tip 11 Wife Hooking up with Ex Husband, Boyfriend, Lover. A tip for both of you but mainly aimed at HWhub

With the explosion of the internet - keeping in touch with folks half way around the world is easy. Finding them on Twitter, FaceBook and Vine, is a doddle. So it is fair to say that wives are going to go looking for their olfd friend and lovers, out of curiosity first and then maybe friendship next. The innocent comment of "I used to go out with a guy called Brad years ago.... I wonder what he is up to." Before you know it it they are searching and searching old friends of friends.

then there are websites for a few pounds you can trace whoever you want. Easy peasey.

So what are the dangers.

I would say 50% end with nothing more than a how are you etc 25% end up with a friendship and the other 25% go into much more detail.

Hotwives or would be Hotwives that search for old flames or are searched out by old flames have a higher meet up factor. Anything wrong with that? not really, if your wife is already fucking others then what would another make? As long as precautions and understanding has been achieved, this can be fun.

Downside, He is an Ex for a reason. Something happened to end that relationship. Was it the fact that hubby came on the scene. Lets take my fictitious Brad for example.

Brad is a single man divorced 15 years ago. He has no dependent children, he has his own house and car, very few responsibilities. He plays the field and keeps himself fit. HWhub met our HW while Brad was at college, HW and hub got a good thing going and there was a tearful separation, where Brad went off to make his way in the world. HW now has three kids, Hubby has a full time job and very little free time due to looking after kids, he has put on a few pounds, never has a penny to scratch his arse, doesn't shave at the weekend and his hair could do with a cut. Sex has become exciting since you have mentioned another man in your bed, she closes her eyes for the 5 minutes you pump her whilst she thinks of Brad and rubs her clit. Sometimes she comes, others she finishes herself whilst you drift of to sleep.

Then Brad turns up on his Honda ST1100 Motorcycle, he has asked on Facebook for her sizes and she has lied a little - He hands her a bag with leathers in, and she goes and changes into them, they are a size to small even though she has lost about 20lbs and got fitter since reconnecting with him on Facebook, however in the tight leather she looks amazing. They shoot off for the weekend. They do not need to get to know each other, because they have been carnal before. They will be catapulted back 20 years like a real life 'Back to the Future' have a wonderful wicked sexy time. You men, have to compete with that.

Dangers

Signs this old BF relationship has potential to cross the line:

She thinks about him all the time, and is constantly waiting for emails and texts from him, has even called you by his name.
She finds herself fantasising about him and finds lots of ways to bring him up in conversation
She is on Facebook (or similar) all or most of the time. She is often preoccupied in thought.
She the HW, starts to keep aspects of the relationship secret from the hubby.
She makes plans to meet the ex in person and then tells you. Point to note for both parties, you do not really know this person any more. Why would you go solo on this date when it is not your style under other circumstances?

Tips then.
1. When two people re-strike up a relationship via Facebook, it’s easy to begin idealising each other and blur the line between fantasy and reality and forget why you are ex. So the first step is to remember why you broke up with this person, discuss it fully with your spouse and decide if you really want to go through that again. Remember the good times yes but the bad times too, did he ever hit you? Was he abusive? What was his temper like?

2. Women especially those that have had babies are easily flattered by exes on Facebook. Oh you look more gorgeous today than you ever did. I mus have been mental to split with you. Yes I know you are more curvy now but that is womanly and we were just kids back then. I so wish I could hold you and smell your perfume just one more time. Reading between the lines. Girls when we give you compliments they all mean, I want to fuck you. I am pissed off you married what's his face and I want to fuck you. Sometimes it means I want you and will break my rules to get you, I will not lose you again. So remember these things.

3. If it is not your style to send sexy photos to potential FB's then do not send them to this one. He is an Ex, so until you are further down the line be suspicious. Hubbies, should have freeview on messages and the HW should offer that not be requested.

4. Men who are Facebooking with their exes (You could also be one of many) and often falling in love all over again are often skipping the computer when it comes to self-pleasuring and going back those potent formative memories to get themselves off. That’s how strong the past is – even stronger than Internet porn! You might just be his wanking material.

5. Meeting, if you are going to meet up, then the first should be set (like 2 hours) and all three of you go. The ex lovers will be in a zone and the Hub will be a gooseberry, try to avoid leaving him out.

6. If it is going to be sex. I personally think that is often the main aim and the reason so many of these relationships go wrong. Then tell the guy whilst hubby is present, have sex together unless hubby is not into MFM, then have it in the same building. You want to be a HW not an Ex Wife. Please remember your husband in all of this.

7. There will be no “courting” phase, or “re-courting.” All the cute stuff he did when he first met you isn't quite the same the second or third or fourth time you meet him, be prepared to be swept off your feet or used for sex.

8. He knows you and your body. He doesn't need to impress you. He’s not trying to win you over, he has done that on facebook. He may have others and isn't always going to text you first.

9. He may fall in love with you, be prepared for all that shit again, where he loves you and you are just curious with him.

10. Run a country mile, if he starts saying shit like - "It will be different this time round."

No matter what I type, people will still meet their exes and they will still fuck them. Sometimes it will be good and often it will create a world of pain, too much pain to justify a roll in the memory hay. Exes are really important because they teach you things. In each relationship you've been in, you've learned how to deal with other people, be compassionate, how to put someone else’s needs before your own, and most importantly, what you are and are not looking for in a partner. However, you can’t use any of this knowledge that you worked so very hard for if you’re always reliving the same relationship. So let go. It might be hard at first, but I promise, there’s better new men for you out there. If there is an item in your current married/sex life missing that you can get from a fuck buddy then get it and come home.

The absolute rule (unless your kink is humiliation) don't compare hubby against this ex, unless it is because hubby is better.

Clarification An Ex is somebody you were married to or had a long term relationship with prior to your current partner (primary). Not an Ex FB your spouse was already aware of.

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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by Wailea07 » Fri Aug 29, 2014 11:33 am

Truckstar, I appreciate all of the wisdom you have been sharing in this thread. While not many people may comment I am sure a great many are reading and learning. thank you!

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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by D+D » Fri Aug 29, 2014 5:28 pm

Wailea07 wrote:Truckstar, I appreciate all of the wisdom you have been sharing in this thread. While not many people may comment I am sure a great many are reading and learning. thank you!
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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by JjsHotwife » Fri Aug 29, 2014 8:54 pm

Thank you for your honesty and advice, T! I love my husband SO MUCH and I want to enjoy our time. Good info!

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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by Salsonero » Sat Aug 30, 2014 2:51 pm

Wailea07 wrote:Truckstar, I appreciate all of the wisdom you have been sharing in this thread. While not many people may comment I am sure a great many are reading and learning. thank you!
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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by dali_23 » Sun Aug 31, 2014 5:31 pm

That is a well stated post, just the quality we've come to expect from The Truckstars. :) :up: Thank you for the contribution.
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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by fingerlickinggood » Wed Sep 03, 2014 9:35 am

Truckstar wrote:Tip 11 Wife Hooking up with Ex Husband, Boyfriend, Lover. A tip for both of you but mainly aimed at HWhub

Dangers

Signs this old BF relationship has potential to cross the line:

She thinks about him all the time, and is constantly waiting for emails and texts from him, has even called you by his name.
She finds herself fantasising about him and finds lots of ways to bring him up in conversation
She is on Facebook (or similar) all or most of the time. She is often preoccupied in thought.
She the HW, starts to keep aspects of the relationship secret from the hubby.
She makes plans to meet the ex in person and then tells you. Point to note for both parties, you do not really know this person any more. Why would you go solo on this date when it is not your style under other circumstances?

Tips then.
1. When two people re-strike up a relationship via Facebook, it’s easy to begin idealising each other and blur the line between fantasy and reality and forget why you are ex. So the first step is to remember why you broke up with this person, discuss it fully with your spouse and decide if you really want to go through that again. Remember the good times yes but the bad times too, did he ever hit you? Was he abusive? What was his temper like?

2. Women especially those that have had babies are easily flattered by exes on Facebook. Oh you look more gorgeous today than you ever did. I mus have been mental to split with you. Yes I know you are more curvy now but that is womanly and we were just kids back then. I so wish I could hold you and smell your perfume just one more time. Reading between the lines. Girls when we give you compliments they all mean, I want to fuck you. I am pissed off you married what's his face and I want to fuck you. Sometimes it means I want you and will break my rules to get you, I will not lose you again. So remember these things.

3. If it is not your style to send sexy photos to potential FB's then do not send them to this one. He is an Ex, so until you are further down the line be suspicious. Hubbies, should have freeview on messages and the HW should offer that not be requested.

4. Men who are Facebooking with their exes (You could also be one of many) and often falling in love all over again are often skipping the computer when it comes to self-pleasuring and going back those potent formative memories to get themselves off. That’s how strong the past is – even stronger than Internet porn! You might just be his wanking material.

5. Meeting, if you are going to meet up, then the first should be set (like 2 hours) and all three of you go. The ex lovers will be in a zone and the Hub will be a gooseberry, try to avoid leaving him out.

6. If it is going to be sex. I personally think that is often the main aim and the reason so many of these relationships go wrong. Then tell the guy whilst hubby is present, have sex together unless hubby is not into MFM, then have it in the same building. You want to be a HW not an Ex Wife. Please remember your husband in all of this.

7. There will be no “courting” phase, or “re-courting.” All the cute stuff he did when he first met you isn't quite the same the second or third or fourth time you meet him, be prepared to be swept off your feet or used for sex.

8. He knows you and your body. He doesn't need to impress you. He’s not trying to win you over, he has done that on facebook. He may have others and isn't always going to text you first.

9. He may fall in love with you, be prepared for all that shit again, where he loves you and you are just curious with him.

10. Run a country mile, if he starts saying shit like - "It will be different this time round."

No matter what I type, people will still meet their exes and they will still fuck them. Sometimes it will be good and often it will create a world of pain, too much pain to justify a roll in the memory hay. Exes are really important because they teach you things. In each relationship you've been in, you've learned how to deal with other people, be compassionate, how to put someone else’s needs before your own, and most importantly, what you are and are not looking for in a partner. However, you can’t use any of this knowledge that you worked so very hard for if you’re always reliving the same relationship. So let go. It might be hard at first, but I promise, there’s better new men for you out there. If there is an item in your current married/sex life missing that you can get from a fuck buddy then get it and come home.

The absolute rule (unless your kink is humiliation) don't compare hubby against this ex, unless it is because hubby is better.

Clarification An Ex is somebody you were married to or had a long term relationship with prior to your current partner (primary). Not an Ex FB your spouse was already aware of.
Very Good Advice Truckstar - Thanks

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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by CaliHWluvr » Wed Sep 03, 2014 10:50 am

Another great post Truckstar, thanks for this one, and also for some careful and wise words you shared with my lady who recently registered here. Both you and the Mrs are a great asset to this community.
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Re: A Couples guide - How to have a successful HW Relationsh

Unread post by curvy_1 » Mon Sep 15, 2014 7:42 am

Super-helpful thread. Thank you!

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