Body Image - What men really think is sexy
Body Image - What men really think is sexy
This question has been on my mind and that of many men for quite some time. “What is sexy about a woman?” If women only knew this formula then the whole dating, FB, Partner, FWB thing would be a breeze.
Guys and of course girls, this is another one of my public information broadcasts, so I must put a disclaimer in. I do not have the taste of every man, I have had many an email about my wife from other men and feedback on her 'work' when she was erm 'working' I have ran an escort business with over 250 women working for it. Hey guys if you think us Escort bosses are shallow enough to have sex with the women that audition with us, you are darn right we do, at least 75% of the time.
So Disclaimer -:
This is based on my knowledge, it doesn't take into consideration those in denial, cages, or extreme kink scenes. It is for reasonably normal sex situations. Please add comments but this is 'Public Information', so arguments will slightly slew what we are trying to achieve.
This is sort of like asking, “What is delicious?” or “What is quality?” It is all a matter of personal taste and there is no right or wrong answer.
How does a woman become sexy or attractive to a man? Particularly in these days of electronic multimedia.
Does she need the physical attributes of a supermodel? No.
Should she wear suggestive or revealing attire? No
Or perhaps an attractive face with luscious lips and perfect teeth? Not really.
A particular hairstyle? No
So we need a yes here - Self-confidence and having a certain seductive look in the eye. Clearly, there is much more to it than physical appearance.
Look down the hotties section here and I have been as guilty as many of putting ' wow nice tits' or look to any Porn Site and see some chicks that are just amazing, but crafted to suit our fantasy minds.
What I want to deal with is why (sorry Mrs T) do men of many ages want to fuck a 50s something married woman, that is typical of her age, a little overweight (sorry again, painting a picture dear), several children and has clearly been sexual with many men. Well it is not because of her body image, I have also done nothing to improve that for my wife thus far. But I will.
No matter who the woman is she will find fault in her appearance, it has been slammed into them. Miss Barbie or Miss BarbieQ Eater. They are rarely happy with their look or 'Image'
Over the next couple of posts I will try to help us understand what and why is sexy.
"Sometimes the person who will catch my eye is not the best looking person in the room," but "She might be the best dressed or most confident."
Guys and of course girls, this is another one of my public information broadcasts, so I must put a disclaimer in. I do not have the taste of every man, I have had many an email about my wife from other men and feedback on her 'work' when she was erm 'working' I have ran an escort business with over 250 women working for it. Hey guys if you think us Escort bosses are shallow enough to have sex with the women that audition with us, you are darn right we do, at least 75% of the time.
So Disclaimer -:
This is based on my knowledge, it doesn't take into consideration those in denial, cages, or extreme kink scenes. It is for reasonably normal sex situations. Please add comments but this is 'Public Information', so arguments will slightly slew what we are trying to achieve.
This is sort of like asking, “What is delicious?” or “What is quality?” It is all a matter of personal taste and there is no right or wrong answer.
How does a woman become sexy or attractive to a man? Particularly in these days of electronic multimedia.
Does she need the physical attributes of a supermodel? No.
Should she wear suggestive or revealing attire? No
Or perhaps an attractive face with luscious lips and perfect teeth? Not really.
A particular hairstyle? No
So we need a yes here - Self-confidence and having a certain seductive look in the eye. Clearly, there is much more to it than physical appearance.
Look down the hotties section here and I have been as guilty as many of putting ' wow nice tits' or look to any Porn Site and see some chicks that are just amazing, but crafted to suit our fantasy minds.
What I want to deal with is why (sorry Mrs T) do men of many ages want to fuck a 50s something married woman, that is typical of her age, a little overweight (sorry again, painting a picture dear), several children and has clearly been sexual with many men. Well it is not because of her body image, I have also done nothing to improve that for my wife thus far. But I will.
No matter who the woman is she will find fault in her appearance, it has been slammed into them. Miss Barbie or Miss BarbieQ Eater. They are rarely happy with their look or 'Image'
Over the next couple of posts I will try to help us understand what and why is sexy.
"Sometimes the person who will catch my eye is not the best looking person in the room," but "She might be the best dressed or most confident."
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She’s Playful and Flirty
Women who take themselves too seriously are seriously not sexy, guys just don't like that. However there’s something about a woman who is comfortable enough to be playful and flirty, without worrying that she is risking her 'reputation' to the outside world. Some women want to come across as slutty particularly the one night stand girls. Others like the "Little me vulnerable approach" whilst staying in control. I remember being in a bar once and the waiter told us there was only tables up stairs asking us to "please follow me." To which my wife said "Stairs, I think I forgot my panties." We followed him to the stairs, my wife reminded him of etiquette saying "ladies first."
He followed her up and looked up as you naturally would and he almost fell down the stairs and almost popped his cork as he did. Her confidence is playfully swaggering up that staircase was magical and sexy. Coupled with the feigned forgetfulness.
Please don’t confuse playfulness with silliness. Silly women who are clowning for attention can very quickly give the wrong message. In fact,. Playfulness is a great sign of maturity – a woman who loves life and isn't ashamed to show it, her experience and maturity helps her control the flirting.
BTW we got excellent service in that bar that night.
Stay tuned.
“Sexiness is more than physical image; it’s about every aspect of her person. When your eyes meet, and there’s that strong connection, it starts to feel sexy. It only takes a moment, for her to dip her head slightly away from you, then she lick her lips whilst keeping her eyes fixed on you, to let you the man know that she wants you, to want her and you do.”
She’s Playful and Flirty
Women who take themselves too seriously are seriously not sexy, guys just don't like that. However there’s something about a woman who is comfortable enough to be playful and flirty, without worrying that she is risking her 'reputation' to the outside world. Some women want to come across as slutty particularly the one night stand girls. Others like the "Little me vulnerable approach" whilst staying in control. I remember being in a bar once and the waiter told us there was only tables up stairs asking us to "please follow me." To which my wife said "Stairs, I think I forgot my panties." We followed him to the stairs, my wife reminded him of etiquette saying "ladies first."
He followed her up and looked up as you naturally would and he almost fell down the stairs and almost popped his cork as he did. Her confidence is playfully swaggering up that staircase was magical and sexy. Coupled with the feigned forgetfulness.
Please don’t confuse playfulness with silliness. Silly women who are clowning for attention can very quickly give the wrong message. In fact,. Playfulness is a great sign of maturity – a woman who loves life and isn't ashamed to show it, her experience and maturity helps her control the flirting.
BTW we got excellent service in that bar that night.
Stay tuned.
“Sexiness is more than physical image; it’s about every aspect of her person. When your eyes meet, and there’s that strong connection, it starts to feel sexy. It only takes a moment, for her to dip her head slightly away from you, then she lick her lips whilst keeping her eyes fixed on you, to let you the man know that she wants you, to want her and you do.”
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If I understand the question correctly, I would say confidence is one of the most attractive things about a woman. There is just something about a woman of any age, size or shape who knows she is attractive and dresses to show it. The dressing also comes in because when a woman bothers to dress hot, I think it means she wants to be seen, and I find that sexy right there. To me at least that is very attractive. Of course, brains and a sense of humor help too! As I once told my wife, you drive fast, dress tight and don't take yourself too seriously, I love that!
But...
I always say if you took a 100 women and asked what they don't like about their appearance, 80 would say my ass is too big. If you took a 100 men and asked them what they would change about their woman's appearance, 80 would say her ass isn't big enough.
I am plainly an ass man...but I am not alone.
In a study researchers looked at icons of beauty over the ages to find if they had anything in common. They discovered that Greek and Roman statues of goddesses, 18th century actresses and Gibson girls had something in common with Madonna... and Audrey Hepburn... and Marilyn Monroe. All had a waist to hip ratio of 2/3 to 1. The conclusion is that men are hardwired to be attracted to women with a certain proportions. Not coincidently this is one of the best body ratios for successful child bearing.
Another study went into what men and women look at first and longest when they look at an attractive woman. Men look first at the hip area, then the face, then the breasts. Men look the longest, by far, at the hips and the least at breasts. Woman look first at breasts, then face and last the hips. Women look, by far, the longest at breasts and the least at hips.
It's not quite what I think you were asking, but I find it pretty interesting because I think many women have been brainwashed by bra makers into thinking men are obsessed with boobs. I think some are to be sure, but not that many.
But...
I always say if you took a 100 women and asked what they don't like about their appearance, 80 would say my ass is too big. If you took a 100 men and asked them what they would change about their woman's appearance, 80 would say her ass isn't big enough.
I am plainly an ass man...but I am not alone.
In a study researchers looked at icons of beauty over the ages to find if they had anything in common. They discovered that Greek and Roman statues of goddesses, 18th century actresses and Gibson girls had something in common with Madonna... and Audrey Hepburn... and Marilyn Monroe. All had a waist to hip ratio of 2/3 to 1. The conclusion is that men are hardwired to be attracted to women with a certain proportions. Not coincidently this is one of the best body ratios for successful child bearing.
Another study went into what men and women look at first and longest when they look at an attractive woman. Men look first at the hip area, then the face, then the breasts. Men look the longest, by far, at the hips and the least at breasts. Woman look first at breasts, then face and last the hips. Women look, by far, the longest at breasts and the least at hips.
It's not quite what I think you were asking, but I find it pretty interesting because I think many women have been brainwashed by bra makers into thinking men are obsessed with boobs. I think some are to be sure, but not that many.
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I'm having some difficulty wrapping my head around the question...
Aren't we all different??
Yes, barbie is hot - according to a statistically significant number of men. These classic definitions and standards of beauty are "classic" for a reason. And, us guys have been programmed to think that way.
Yes, some guys think different. Yes, some guys like chubby and some guys only like feet.
I too love a confident women. But then confident often goes with dominant, and I like that, but I can see how many guys might be instead attracted to a very shy and un-confident (but perhaps sweet and/or beautiful) woman.
Aren't we all different??
Yes, barbie is hot - according to a statistically significant number of men. These classic definitions and standards of beauty are "classic" for a reason. And, us guys have been programmed to think that way.
Yes, some guys think different. Yes, some guys like chubby and some guys only like feet.
I too love a confident women. But then confident often goes with dominant, and I like that, but I can see how many guys might be instead attracted to a very shy and un-confident (but perhaps sweet and/or beautiful) woman.
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I think some women give off vibes and I don't know how they do it. If they really like sex, men can sometimes tell. My wife is very conservative but loves to fuck and suck and swallow. Even though she dresses only slightly less conservative than a nun, men sense she is a great piece of ass and they hit on her. There was a porn video that we have somewhere and the girl is over weight more than a bit. She has nice tits but just exudes pleasure when she fucks, sucks, swallows and she is one sexy desirable woman. I see some of the super model types and comment, admire, but can't imagine fucking them. I think the ones that make your dick hard and want to fuck them are the sexy attractive ones and it's there. We can ID it sometimes and maybe not others. Maybe some guys see it and not others.
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It's a brave man who opens this topic!
I salute you, Mr. T, although I fear the debt you have now incurred to Mrs T may be onerous.
Almost all of the tension around the "body image" issue has to do with getting past the initial encounter of person with person. This involves an encounter between two immense collections of personal and social historical data which almost certainly overlap in some ways but are disjunctive in some ways.
Some ways in which the data sets overlap are pretty easy to discover, because they are shared by lots of people in the culture. But where those sets overlap in content may or may not be felt to be similarly important to the individuals in the same way. Hence the slightly (or surpassingly
) awkward phase of signalling- a phase which we fear we may never get past if our outfit is gauche, our voice is too loud or our ass is the wrong size and shape.
But that can be good or bad, right?
I think Mr T's advice is very good: the anxiety is natural and the encounter is perilous; but somehow the species has thrived well enough to have brought about social conditions in which the enjoyment of hotwifing may be increasing
even as we are destroying our environment.
So, as a song I heard recently advised, we're all fucked - so lighten up!![Cool :cool:](./images/smilies/icon_cool.gif)
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Almost all of the tension around the "body image" issue has to do with getting past the initial encounter of person with person. This involves an encounter between two immense collections of personal and social historical data which almost certainly overlap in some ways but are disjunctive in some ways.
Some ways in which the data sets overlap are pretty easy to discover, because they are shared by lots of people in the culture. But where those sets overlap in content may or may not be felt to be similarly important to the individuals in the same way. Hence the slightly (or surpassingly
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But that can be good or bad, right?
I think Mr T's advice is very good: the anxiety is natural and the encounter is perilous; but somehow the species has thrived well enough to have brought about social conditions in which the enjoyment of hotwifing may be increasing
![Mr. Green :mrgreen:](./images/smilies/icon_mrgreen.gif)
So, as a song I heard recently advised, we're all fucked - so lighten up!
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Like I said, I am not every man, this is opinion. It is what it is. SamMan, no need to wrap, just have a read. For the Ass/Arse man you are probably correct. A woman will not be happy with lots of stuff a generally a man doesn't even notice half of that stuff. Woman "What do you think of my hair?" Clueless man "It's lovely what have youdone?" - "Nothing I was think of getting.......".
Ok onwards
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She's Beautiful
Hang on haven't we be saying that looks are not important. Beauty my friends is in the eye of the beholder, what does this mean? Of course each and every poster has a different standard and the standards are all over the map.
Most every man agrees that a beautiful woman dresses in a way that flatters her figure, puts effort into grooming and cares how men perceive her, even if the end result is very laid back and straightforward.
There are a few absolutes, except to say that a woman who thinks that going to the effort to look nice is somehow beneath her probably won’t be sexy at all. Yes women are beautiful with sweat wet hair and make up smudged but not all the time. Oh and we aren't doing comparisons with men, because I know some men of an age forget to try. Some men I said.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we all have different tastes and those tastes change from time to time. Those tastes can be enhanced. When a lady looks at body image and asks her hubby or BF for advice. "Does my bum look big in this." The man can be brutally honest and say your arse would look big on an airstrip. The body image thing will go down, even if she knows he is kidding. So be honest, if it doesn't look good, say I don't like you in this, but offer an alternate. If you are rubbish at women's fashion, then tell her, "Babe, I am hopeless at this."
Critical point When she does look good, tell her. Tell her she looks great and tell her why. If it is the colours, the fit or the style. Say why you like it.
Women bit We like when you try, this is beautiful to us, wearing what you feel hot and sexy in at the appropriate time. Smiling and having fun is beautiful and sexy. falling off your shoes because they are too high is not. I have a fear of sounding condescending here. Wearing clothes that are too tight and look like they are suffocating you or fashions that are not commensurate with your age group is not sexy.
Large ladies, skinny ladies. Tall ladies and short ladies are sexy, find your image winner and flaunt that thing. You girls can make us skip a heart beat with a sashay a look or a smile. As they say on the model programs on TV work it girl. Find your thing and use it.
Whether it’s a sexy voice or a sensual smile, a certain scent or the manner in which they move, we men can take great pleasure in such qualities and find them “sexy” without needing to pursue any further thoughts or emotions about them. Sex appeal may be observed and appreciated like good music or a piece of fine art. And it is the natural mode for attracting a mate. Men when you see a sexy lady, it is absolutely the right thing to smile, not leer or grin, smile appreciatively.
Ok onwards
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She's Beautiful
Hang on haven't we be saying that looks are not important. Beauty my friends is in the eye of the beholder, what does this mean? Of course each and every poster has a different standard and the standards are all over the map.
Most every man agrees that a beautiful woman dresses in a way that flatters her figure, puts effort into grooming and cares how men perceive her, even if the end result is very laid back and straightforward.
There are a few absolutes, except to say that a woman who thinks that going to the effort to look nice is somehow beneath her probably won’t be sexy at all. Yes women are beautiful with sweat wet hair and make up smudged but not all the time. Oh and we aren't doing comparisons with men, because I know some men of an age forget to try. Some men I said.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, we all have different tastes and those tastes change from time to time. Those tastes can be enhanced. When a lady looks at body image and asks her hubby or BF for advice. "Does my bum look big in this." The man can be brutally honest and say your arse would look big on an airstrip. The body image thing will go down, even if she knows he is kidding. So be honest, if it doesn't look good, say I don't like you in this, but offer an alternate. If you are rubbish at women's fashion, then tell her, "Babe, I am hopeless at this."
Critical point When she does look good, tell her. Tell her she looks great and tell her why. If it is the colours, the fit or the style. Say why you like it.
Women bit We like when you try, this is beautiful to us, wearing what you feel hot and sexy in at the appropriate time. Smiling and having fun is beautiful and sexy. falling off your shoes because they are too high is not. I have a fear of sounding condescending here. Wearing clothes that are too tight and look like they are suffocating you or fashions that are not commensurate with your age group is not sexy.
Large ladies, skinny ladies. Tall ladies and short ladies are sexy, find your image winner and flaunt that thing. You girls can make us skip a heart beat with a sashay a look or a smile. As they say on the model programs on TV work it girl. Find your thing and use it.
Whether it’s a sexy voice or a sensual smile, a certain scent or the manner in which they move, we men can take great pleasure in such qualities and find them “sexy” without needing to pursue any further thoughts or emotions about them. Sex appeal may be observed and appreciated like good music or a piece of fine art. And it is the natural mode for attracting a mate. Men when you see a sexy lady, it is absolutely the right thing to smile, not leer or grin, smile appreciatively.
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I'll not try to be exhaustive in this but touch on just a couple of things.
1. I have seen attractive women of all sizes and ages.
2. They dress and groom in a way that works for their body proportions, facial features, hair, and to some extent age. Hot can be achieved by anyone. Hot is not the same as cheap or fully exposed.
That's a couple of things so I'll stop. Well, almost. The same applies to men.
1. I have seen attractive women of all sizes and ages.
2. They dress and groom in a way that works for their body proportions, facial features, hair, and to some extent age. Hot can be achieved by anyone. Hot is not the same as cheap or fully exposed.
That's a couple of things so I'll stop. Well, almost. The same applies to men.
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I had a girlfriend a long time ago who just...exuded attractiveness. She gave off physical allure like a fire gives off heat, constantly, consistently and without effort. She was not, by far the prettiest girl I ever went out with, or the best built, although she was quite good looking. Yet, everywhere she went guys would hit on her, guys of all ages and types. It got to be quite annoying.armyguyot1 wrote:I think some women give off vibes and I don't know how they do it. If they really like sex, men can sometimes tell. My wife is very conservative but loves to fuck and suck and swallow. Even though she dresses only slightly less conservative than a nun, men sense she is a great piece of ass and they hit on her. There was a porn video that we have somewhere and the girl is over weight more than a bit. She has nice tits but just exudes pleasure when she fucks, sucks, swallows and she is one sexy desirable woman. I see some of the super model types and comment, admire, but can't imagine fucking them. I think the ones that make your dick hard and want to fuck them are the sexy attractive ones and it's there. We can ID it sometimes and maybe not others. Maybe some guys see it and not others.
She had her own style of dressing, not the latest fashion, but sometimes what the latest fashion was going to be in six months. She really liked sex. I used to wonder what it was about her that made her so incredibly attractive. The best answer I ever came up with was that she was soooo relaxed in who she was. She was confident to be sure, but it went beyond that. No matter what she was wearing (sometimes kind of outrageous stuff) she was comfortable in it and comfortable in herself. I think that sort of sense of self acceptance was what made her more desirable then any body type, feature or outfit ever could. Strange but I haven't thought about it, or her for years.
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On my profile on another site, I include the following in my write up:
What makes a woman truly amazing is her SEXINESS.. and sexiness is not a size or shape, but an attitude. All women: voluptuous, curvy, thin, tall, petite, young or old; they can and should be sexy.. but that sexiness has to come from inside, not out!
That comment has been the subject (in a very positive way) of most of the replies I receive.
What makes a woman truly amazing is her SEXINESS.. and sexiness is not a size or shape, but an attitude. All women: voluptuous, curvy, thin, tall, petite, young or old; they can and should be sexy.. but that sexiness has to come from inside, not out!
That comment has been the subject (in a very positive way) of most of the replies I receive.
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For me it's when she has ease, confidence, playfulness, and sex in her smile. Not that she has to be flirting necessarily, or really have anything sexual going on, but that her sexuality is more or less visible in direct relation to her level of self-consciousness.
It's a shame that often, after kids, after a few decades have passed, a few pounds added, gray hairs coming in, self-consciousness becomes more and more prevalent. Missing seems to be the acknowledgment of everything else that she is, who she is. To me there's nothing sexier than a middle-aged woman who owns who she is in the moment and grins at life with a, "So what else ya got? Bring it!" sort of attitude.
Women are amazing and it pains me when magazines (and let's be honest, our society in general) tell them they aren't good enough because they don't look like an airbrushed model (who also doesn't look like that in real life btw).
I'm not pandering or patronizing when I say that I believe all women have the potential to be beautiful, and very little of it has to do with age, weight, wrinkles, clothes, or any of that. It is, as they say, an inside job.
When you are content with yourself, you are blinding in your beauty! You attract others like moths to a flame.
It's a shame that often, after kids, after a few decades have passed, a few pounds added, gray hairs coming in, self-consciousness becomes more and more prevalent. Missing seems to be the acknowledgment of everything else that she is, who she is. To me there's nothing sexier than a middle-aged woman who owns who she is in the moment and grins at life with a, "So what else ya got? Bring it!" sort of attitude.
Women are amazing and it pains me when magazines (and let's be honest, our society in general) tell them they aren't good enough because they don't look like an airbrushed model (who also doesn't look like that in real life btw).
I'm not pandering or patronizing when I say that I believe all women have the potential to be beautiful, and very little of it has to do with age, weight, wrinkles, clothes, or any of that. It is, as they say, an inside job.
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I'd like to see some more thoughts from the guys, and maybe the ladies could even post a few of their thoughts about what men find sexy. I'll bet there are some surprises there.
It varies for me based on the woman herself. Sometimes it is the slightest little thing, like locking eyes with me when she and I know we are seeing something special about one another but we cannot act on it. Maybe it ends with a smile. Not that dismissing smile, but the one that gives another glance back before finally going on with whatever she was doing - like eating dinner with her husband.
So, I'm back where I was in the earlier post. Women can be hot regardless of what someone else may have said sometime in the past. Believe you are hot and show it in a classy way, and you will be hot. In the bedroom, class can to some extent be dropped to the floor, and all the naturally provided equipment can be put to work and ensure that everyone involved enjoys their time together.
It varies for me based on the woman herself. Sometimes it is the slightest little thing, like locking eyes with me when she and I know we are seeing something special about one another but we cannot act on it. Maybe it ends with a smile. Not that dismissing smile, but the one that gives another glance back before finally going on with whatever she was doing - like eating dinner with her husband.
So, I'm back where I was in the earlier post. Women can be hot regardless of what someone else may have said sometime in the past. Believe you are hot and show it in a classy way, and you will be hot. In the bedroom, class can to some extent be dropped to the floor, and all the naturally provided equipment can be put to work and ensure that everyone involved enjoys their time together.
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It is about feeling fabulous
Fabulous is a state of mind. When you find it, it unlocks your sexy. It is not about fashion, it is not about shape, it is about you. It is about dressing for you. Dressing and making up, doing your hair in the way you feel good. My wife and previous lovers have said that such and such an outfit, just makes me feel sexy. Think about what you wear for what you want to achieve.
Go for a makeover - a very professional one, in the UK you would expect to pay £200 - £300 for one, maybe a similar amount in dollars ($300 - $500). However. make sure you take a friend, who takes pictures of the process. Take loads of pictures before, after and of course during. Once you have the look you wish to achieve, you can work it.
Finally on feeling fab. If you are a little curvy. Try to lose a little weight, not much about 4 to 7 pounds and maintain it. Your clothes will fit different and people will compliment you.
Dealing with dickheads. You will always get these. So always have a few one liners tucked away for use when they strike. I was driving my wife to an "appointment" in a hotel in London. I had parked the car so I was a little behind her, him " the appointment" had paid for her to wear an ultra tight skirt. I didn't hear what the passer by said but the wife told me after - He said "Time to start shopping one size fatter sweetheart, my condoms aren't as tight as that skirt."
She pivoted on her heels, got right in his face and said "Because you have a small cock you fucking philistine, I have bigger fucking heels than your pathetic cock." Then she strutted away leaving him mesmerised. Of course, not every person is that confident but beware of the dickheads.
My wife is away, so I will hopefully finish this guide this week.
GIRLS
It is about feeling fabulous
Fabulous is a state of mind. When you find it, it unlocks your sexy. It is not about fashion, it is not about shape, it is about you. It is about dressing for you. Dressing and making up, doing your hair in the way you feel good. My wife and previous lovers have said that such and such an outfit, just makes me feel sexy. Think about what you wear for what you want to achieve.
Go for a makeover - a very professional one, in the UK you would expect to pay £200 - £300 for one, maybe a similar amount in dollars ($300 - $500). However. make sure you take a friend, who takes pictures of the process. Take loads of pictures before, after and of course during. Once you have the look you wish to achieve, you can work it.
Finally on feeling fab. If you are a little curvy. Try to lose a little weight, not much about 4 to 7 pounds and maintain it. Your clothes will fit different and people will compliment you.
Dealing with dickheads. You will always get these. So always have a few one liners tucked away for use when they strike. I was driving my wife to an "appointment" in a hotel in London. I had parked the car so I was a little behind her, him " the appointment" had paid for her to wear an ultra tight skirt. I didn't hear what the passer by said but the wife told me after - He said "Time to start shopping one size fatter sweetheart, my condoms aren't as tight as that skirt."
She pivoted on her heels, got right in his face and said "Because you have a small cock you fucking philistine, I have bigger fucking heels than your pathetic cock." Then she strutted away leaving him mesmerised. Of course, not every person is that confident but beware of the dickheads.
My wife is away, so I will hopefully finish this guide this week.
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Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
There was a recent study (dealing with male attraction to female faces) that found it is about 50% universals (symmatry, clear complection, etc.) and about 50% personal. The latter part had no correlation between fraternal or even identical male twins so the environmental factors that cause someone to develop a "type" are highly individualistic.
I would expect a similar mix of universals and taste for bodies. Miss America winners and finalists have had a consistent waist to hip ratio over the entire history of the pageant even while BMIs varied by 25%.
I would expect a similar mix of universals and taste for bodies. Miss America winners and finalists have had a consistent waist to hip ratio over the entire history of the pageant even while BMIs varied by 25%.
Mike and C. Wittol/Cuckquean Dom/Domme HotCouple.
C.'s pic thread: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic. ... 74#p804974
J.J.(Ex)'s pic thread: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=38214
C.'s pic thread: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic. ... 74#p804974
J.J.(Ex)'s pic thread: http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=38214
Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
Sorry about taking so long to do this, but I have been busy.
Girls
Men love it when you are grown-up about things related to sex
Some men were comfortable with sex only after marriage. Some men were comfortable with it much earlier in the relationship. But all men want a woman who is comfortable talking maturely about sex when the time is right. Not necessarily in blow by blow industrial language but piece by piece. What do you like to do, how do you want to feel. Likewise the Guy has to be grown up enough to hear it.
So how does this help you with image? it helps because once you get the confidence to openly discuss the way you feel, the way you want to look, without necessarily conforming to what is the 'cultural norm', it will give you the confidence to dress that way. That will make you feel good about yourself and you radiate an attractiveness. It isn't being fearless that is sexy. It’s having and harnessing those fears, feeling the fear, and saying, “I'm going to set this fear aside and go forward anyway.” You like this as a woman, that comes across to us men as sexy. The message we receive is she is truly living life. Of course you are going to suffer some failures along the way, but men will be chasing you and asking for your number more often.
Girls
Men love it when you are grown-up about things related to sex
Some men were comfortable with sex only after marriage. Some men were comfortable with it much earlier in the relationship. But all men want a woman who is comfortable talking maturely about sex when the time is right. Not necessarily in blow by blow industrial language but piece by piece. What do you like to do, how do you want to feel. Likewise the Guy has to be grown up enough to hear it.
So how does this help you with image? it helps because once you get the confidence to openly discuss the way you feel, the way you want to look, without necessarily conforming to what is the 'cultural norm', it will give you the confidence to dress that way. That will make you feel good about yourself and you radiate an attractiveness. It isn't being fearless that is sexy. It’s having and harnessing those fears, feeling the fear, and saying, “I'm going to set this fear aside and go forward anyway.” You like this as a woman, that comes across to us men as sexy. The message we receive is she is truly living life. Of course you are going to suffer some failures along the way, but men will be chasing you and asking for your number more often.
Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
For me, I do need to be attracted to a woman but not as much physical as the woman has a desire to be open to suggestion and try new things. Dont get me wrong, a nice set of titties and shapely ass is all good.
But I would much rather have a partner with an average body that wants to please me as much as I desire to please her. This is what makes me hard and leaves a wet spot in my pants.
But I would much rather have a partner with an average body that wants to please me as much as I desire to please her. This is what makes me hard and leaves a wet spot in my pants.
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I cannot speak for all men, but I prefer a woman that is well read, and smart. A sexually adventurous woman, a woman that can laugh at herself, others, and weird things that might occur kept one coming back for more. A woman that dresses showing she is not afraid of her sexually (short dresses and skirts, low cleavage blouses and dresses, and tight jeans) get the eye of most men. Women that don't smoke or use drugs, makes kissing more pleasant. And a clean body is a must. I prefer body sprays of cotton candy or vanilla over perfumes. Most men I know love breast, no matter their size.
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A woman who is not afraid of the wind messing up her hair, who enjoys life. A woman who is comfortable wearing hot looking clothes one night, then the next night likes to wear levis. A woman who is my friend in addition to one that I love being with. A woman who I can discuss anything and everything with her and not be bothered by what has been said. Other than my wife, I have a female friend who is this way with me in our relationship.
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Oh man. I have so much to say on this topic.
This site has been getting more and more unfriendly for a while now. It's why I've been posting less and less. I guess it was just time to move on anyway.
Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
For me there are a number of things,some physical and some mental.
1) I ALWAYS look to se if theyre nails and toes are done. Pretty feet is a HUGE deal for me..lol.
2) their sense of style. I had a co-worker that wasnt verry attractive and had a really skinny body,but she looked on point everytime I saw her.....everytime. I developed a big crush on her and she still sends me foot pics every so often ( good friend huh?)
3) Her sense of humor, big one here
4) Facial beauty ( regardless of size. I love big girls and small girls the same.
5) How comfortable in their own skin.
6) kinkiness.....lol
1) I ALWAYS look to se if theyre nails and toes are done. Pretty feet is a HUGE deal for me..lol.
2) their sense of style. I had a co-worker that wasnt verry attractive and had a really skinny body,but she looked on point everytime I saw her.....everytime. I developed a big crush on her and she still sends me foot pics every so often ( good friend huh?)
3) Her sense of humor, big one here
4) Facial beauty ( regardless of size. I love big girls and small girls the same.
5) How comfortable in their own skin.
6) kinkiness.....lol
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Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
I'll be the "dick" in the group. I like girls that take care of themselves, not judging, everyone has their deal, but for me it's about toned and inshape. I've been swinging for 15+ years, always picky about playmates. Now that I have a hot wife of my own the same is true.... I only wanna see hot guys fuck her... lean, hung, inshape... you gotta earn that delicious pussy LOL
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Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
As in above post this is the opposite. The wife is not a gym rat or a Barbie. But she has the most beautiful round ass and nice perky breast with pierced nipples. She dresses for the occasion. Showing just the right amount be leaving enough for the imagination. She is 5'2" with all the right curves 47 yrs old awesome green eyes that is accented by her red hair. She gets plenty of looks and long stares. I guess its all in the intrest of the individual.
Re: Body Image - What men really think is sexy
What do men really think is sexy?
I was sitting in the sauna at the gym, talking with a female friend about my wife, and her habitual reaction to comments by me about how she is gorgeous and turns men's heads when she walks by, saying "even with my small tits?" My friend, who is very slim and similarly built like my wife, laughed and said, "Guys don't care about that! All they care about is accessibility!"![yeehaw :whip:](./images/smilies/whip.gif)
I was sitting in the sauna at the gym, talking with a female friend about my wife, and her habitual reaction to comments by me about how she is gorgeous and turns men's heads when she walks by, saying "even with my small tits?" My friend, who is very slim and similarly built like my wife, laughed and said, "Guys don't care about that! All they care about is accessibility!"
![yeehaw :whip:](./images/smilies/whip.gif)