This is excellent, very sensible of you both. Hotwifing should be a positive addition to your marriage; it should not be the purpose of it.She just hasn't done much this summer in hotwifing. We've had a difficult year in and around hotwifing. We examined our feelings about this and each other. At this point i think we've gotten stronger again and we both want her to enjoy it.
You are my favourite hotwifing couple. I greatly admire your intriguing thread, which is greatly enhanced by the quality of your prose, particularly Jane's, Tough when your wife wins on looks, body, sex appeal and literary abilities but hey I am sure you have many hidden qualities too David. I'm positive Jane can name a few......crickets......
I always worry when you seem to hit a thorny patch. I do not know you but I care for your welfare, as I am sure many posters here do too.
I hope Jane regularly tells you how much she loves you and how much she appreciates your support in this lifestyle and vice versa. You may think that the other knows this but that is not always the case, particularly in stressful situations, which this lifestyle frequently engenders. Never take each other's love for granted and never take your eyes off the ball or it could end up hitting you in the face.
You two are by far the most important characters of all the cast in this hotwifing play. Human feelings are very fragile and emotions very sensitive. Jane paying special attention to, complimenting and having 'heavenly' sex with a bull/boyfriend can be fun for David too but only if he feels secure in his relationship. If not, and it actually transcends into and threatens the stability of your marriage, then it can be hurtful and destructive. Be very careful in this. If someone ever threatens the equilibrium of your hotwifing play then that cast member must be replaced, no matter how fond Jane may be of him and no matter how talented he may be.
Be kind to each other and to yourselves and consistently communicate your feelings. Holding hurts and resentments in is not good, expressing love and joy is.
Here endeth my rant. Good luck to you both.