Mlghten wrote:You have touched on a part of this process that I have thought about long and hard. No pund intended. LOL. One of my biggest concerns is not so much the romance and an emotional connection, but her shutting me out. I believe she is comfortable in telling me about him, because, I do get no only aroused but, am very attentive.lonecuck wrote:It sounds like you are making great progress, but I wonder how you'll feel if one day your wife comes home and tells you she had lunch and a makeout session with her work friend? I don't think she's going to be satisfied with anything less than romance. Hopefully you can keep it all in perspective and not take it too personally when it starts getting physical and it becomes obvious to you that it's more than sex.
The key will be for you to make sure to keep smiling through the angst, like a best friend who might be jealous, but keeps it on the downlow in support of her girlfriend. IME, it isn't always easy to do. It sounds to me like she's making the switch. You are going to see her smile when she talks about him and the way he kisses her, and it will hit you like a punch to the gut. You should learn how to smile through it all and celebrate her success, but at the same time make sure she knows it's nothing more than a turn on for you to share with her. If she gets any hint of negativity from you, she'll either stop or, if she's really into him, just stop sharing about it with you.
Good luck and thanks for the continuing updates. I'm really enjoying reading them and I'm pulling for you!
I think my wife will have to have some type of bond or emotional connection with the first guy she fucks as a hotwife. My focus is to remain connected with her as her best friend and keep our emotional connection/bond strong in every way. Saying this, I do know, how I think it will be and happen will be different that what actually happens. After all, the ball will be in her court.
Slowing down on my part is my way of not pushing and overwhelming her with moving into this lifestyle. This has been very hard, but almost everyday, when appropriate, I make small comments or suggestion about her and another man.
As for me, I cannot tell you the excitement I feel when thinking about her just flirting with another man. Thanks for following.
There's a fine line between keeping the door open and not pushing her out of it. Between a shared laugh, and making her feel like you are laughing at her. And between an expression of stunned disbelief, sexual tension and hurt. these elements of a cuckold relationship are all easily confused between partners, and really can only be overcome by communication and trust.