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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 1:14 am 
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I’ve taken the first few steps to having a hot wife, and I’m not sure how its going to end…

I’ve been lurking here for a long while, because this has become an increasingly tantalizing fantasy for me. I’ve been married to my beautiful wife for nearly 10 years. My wife isn’t exactly sexually experienced. I was her first lover. I’m not exactly cassanova myself, having only been with one other woman before her. The sex is pretty good, but even in my wildest dreams did I ever expect to hear some of the things I’ve heard coming from the mouth of my wife recently…

Let me step back for a minute and give you a little background. Like I said, we were both fairly inexperienced when we first got married. That inexperience played itself out for the first few years of our marriage. She was almost completely naive - her wildest sexual experiences before us had been reading trashy romance novels and grinding against her pillow in bed. I had a little more “knowledge” having had one sexual partner, and by watching porn for many years (Yes, this clearly demonstrates my sexual proclivity…). So our wildest experience was probably 69ing and her doing reverse cowgirl.

About 2 years into our marriage, we had a talk one night about “fantasies.” Hers were stuff like having sex in the rain or in the living room. Mine were…much dirtier. So I carefully broached a few of mine - among them anal sex (which she expressed completely revulsion) and a mff threesome. With the threesome, she was very interested. To the point it became very hot pillow talk. We even watched a few of the mainstream movies that had sexy threesome/girl-on-girl scenes. For a few years, this became our #1 fantasy. We eventually got “Skinamax” and would occasionally watch their soft core selections. Most of them had girl-on-girl scenes. Even though she would adamantly say, “These fantasies are for you” I spent most of my time watching her while she stared intently at the screen.

Then we had a few kids, and the kinky fantasies faded away. To be honest, the sex almost completely went away. Thankfully, it slowly started to come back, but the kink didn’t. Oh, we’d still share some of these more steamy girl-on-girl-on-me fantasies. We’d even have some group scenarios with another couple or something like that, but those were very rare. But then we had a night that completely changed everything about a year and a half ago.

My wife had recently started sucking my finger during our sexual fun, and for some reason it triggered a new fantasy in me. I pictured her sucking off another guy while I was riding her. Eventually, I shared this with her, and it DROVE. HER. WILD! This became the go to fantasy almost immediately. We’d role play, tell hot stories, and have quite the crazy time. Sometimes I wonder where she gets this stuff. Its stuff I’ve seen straight out of porn or on Literotica or something, and I know she does not visit those sites.

She has always maintained that “This is your fantasy. It turns me on that it turns you on.” Uh, yeah right. But I digress. Even if this was her #1 fantasy, it would never become reality. She was too much of a good-two-shoes. The past 2 months have made me start to wonder…

During the day a few months back, my wife went grocery shopping. Thats fairly atypical. I’m normally the one that shops. She took our kids so it was clear she was a mom, but was looking quite sexy. She has a pretty hot body, with an amazing rack. Big perky breasts, and she will occasionally dress to show the girls off. That day was one of those days. About 30 minutes into the shop, she realized a single dad was hitting on her. Not obscenely, but they kept “running into each other” and he would consistently flirt with her. She was so kind of oblivious the first few times, but after a while it dawned on her, “He’s hitting on me!” After that she played it up a little bit, she said. She texted me about it and later brought it up during our sexy times that evening. We wrapped it up into our fantasies. This was the first time she’s ever talked about a “real person” in this story times. Always before it was a mysterious stranger…now it was a person with a real face. She has brought it up several times since then, and each time its the same guy. She even tried the “This is your fantasy” thing the other day, and I asked her if he was good looking. She shyly said yes and we proceeded to fuck like crazy.

Now every time we have sex, it usually involves some fantasy of her being with another guy. And she’s usually the one that brings it up. A few days before Halloween it reached a new level. The last fantasy shattered through taboo topics I never thought she’d fantasize about. She started telling a story about us going to a halloween party and bringing home some random guy. In her story, we blindfolded her, took turns with her for hours. Only when we took off the blindfold, it turned out that nearly a dozen guys had taken turns with her. She freakin’ fantasized about a gang bang! She even talked about begging for guys to take her in the ass, which she’s not only never done before she’s been completely against. Lets just say that our sex that night was amazing!

So thats where we are at. Its still in the fantasy realm, but its our go to fantasy. She often shocks me with how far she’ll go in her fantasizing, but then she’ll bring it back to “Oh this is your fantasy” even though she’s the one bringing it up, she’s the one having bigger orgasms during those times we bring that fantasy up. A couple nights ago, we were talking and I finally said, “Yeah, you say ‘its just your fantasy’ but I call bullcrap. What is YOUR fantasy!” She then proceeded to tell me it turned her on to think of some young stud finding her attractive, seducing her, fucking her. She even said it would be hot to come home to me after she’d been thoroughly pleased to share what happened with her. It was freakin’ amazing.

I think this is a fantasy I’d like to explore in reality, but I highly doubt it will ever happen. Despite her wild fantasies in bed, she’s still a very straight laced girl in real life. Of course, I never in my wildest imagination could have foreseen the fantasy sessions we’ve had, so it still could be in the cards sometime in the future.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 2:22 am 
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Welcome to OHW, bigbdawg.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 7:19 am 
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Hotwifing starts in the mind for all of us. It could very well happen one day. Best of luck to you and your lovely wife.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 7:33 am 
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Fuck her in the arse now, otherwise some other guy is gonna get there first. The difference between fantasy and reality is just the decision to do it. You are headed in the right direction. One day you'll resolve to actually give it a to. Until then, you are spot on.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 9:11 am 
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For us, it got interesting when she agreed to let me respond to ads and she saw who was interested. She was overwhelmed by how attractive others saw the her.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 9:16 am 
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Welcome, great start, there are lots of posts giving advice on "next steps." Every situation is different but as you note. When she realizes the effect she has on guys it will make her hotter by the day.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 9:18 am 
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Be careful what you wish for. If my wife said that to me once she said it dozens of times. Our situation was very similar to yours. Mrs. Rebel was a virgin when I started dating her and I'd only been with two other women myself. There were many years of fantasy play and even a few starts and stops with drunken threesomes (MFM) but once she started going out solo she changed.

Her playing solo started out as "feeding my freak". Then it changed into being for us. And now she'll freely admit it is all about her and her enjoyment. We are now trying to figure out a new and mutually satisfying dynamic and it's not easy.

So, I will give you the same warning I received - be careful what you wish for. It's a powerfully addictive and exciting game but there's a reason not everyone plays it - it come with perrils. Good luck.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 10:22 am 
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Great point rw,
I often wonder how things could change given that the stigma attaches after the first time. Why would she be reticent about second time if she enjoyed the first time.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 12:09 pm 
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My situation is much like yours - I've been my wife's one and only. After I introduced my fantasy to her a couple years ago, she went through the normal "Oh, you just want to fuck other women . . ." and "I could never do that . . ."

Then, there was a subtle sea change. She brings it up every time we had sex. She is the one saying "I would do whatever you want me to do" in the throes of passion.

It definitely takes root in their mind, and I feel at this point if I pushed for a MMF to happen, it would happen.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 12:33 pm 
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How do wives change after the first time?


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 12:46 pm 
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If you dont think it could happen, because "she's still a very straight laced girl in real life", go read my thread titled, {She is now a hotwife}. Not another person who knows her would ever believe what we do now. She is very much a normal mother, wife and friend. But, once the door was open to hotwifing, she is 100 percent on board. Good luck to you and her.

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How do wives change after the first time?


Yes, and for the better ;)


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 1:37 pm 
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the OP sounds like he's got a potential wild one on his hands. proceed with caution Sir! make sure you are on board with this happening. when it progresses to a certain stage, it takes on a life of it's own.

watch out!! :)

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 1:49 pm 
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It doesn't seem like it would take much to tip her into being a HW. Perhaps fantasize about her running into the single dad again and scheduling a date to meet while the kids are at school and them meeting and having sex. Our last step was using fantasies as trial runs with men that my wife was attracted to and that were hitting on her. I mostly developed these since she liked me to do the work of storytelling. The fact that we both enjoyed these many times and always felt good about them the next day encouraged her to take the next step and follow the scripts developed in the trial runs. For us, reality was even hotter than we imagined!

I wouldn't tell your wife that the fantasies are hers only.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 2:59 pm 
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luvMyHotwife wrote:
reality was even hotter than we imagined!


That really strikes a chord with me. It is impossible to put into words how hot it can get. You can only know by going there.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 4:23 pm 
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I don’t know what is common for most women, but I can tell you that it was a very gradual process for me and that I started out the same way with bedroom fantasy scenarios as sexy pillow talk with my hubby and never really thought (at the time) it might lead to actually living them out in real life. Right now, the talk itself is spicing things up in the bedroom for you two…so enjoy it! It’s what I call a “working fantasy” since you both are getting off on it.

You could try to help her delve deeper into the heart of her sexual desires so then you can truly understand and explore what really excites her and pushes her over the edge. Do you truthfully know what images flash inside her head just at the moment she’s about to cum? Don’t just assume you know. For some women, it may be something they have never shared with anyone (including hubby) since it can make them feel so vulnerable to bare their sexual soul like that. Don’t be surprised to find out that her “orgasm” images are not the same ones you see on the porn movie you’re watching in your head.

To find out, you’ll have to learn to ask the right questions at the right times. This can be difficult to do during the heat of the moment because most men are totally focused on what is turning them on and assume it’s the same for their partner. I’ve been around enough men to know that it’s hard for them to think clearly when their cock is throbbing.

Just remember to relax and enjoy this working fantasy stage as it is a very exciting process learning what really turns you both on and sharing those intimate secrets. Truthfully, one doesn’t exactly “arrive” anyway. It is the journey itself that we derive pleasure from. Some of us are just at different places along the way, but we all have a starting point – just not usually the same ending point!

Whatever you do, don’t pre-arrange something behind your wife’s back in an attempt to push her toward a real Hotwife experience! No wife likes to find out her husband is being sneaky… unless he is buying her some new impressive gift that he is planning to give her at her surprise birthday party he’s planned.

But heck, if a woman like me can end up being a Hotwife, I suppose any woman can. You see, I attended a Christian high school, a Christian college and was a virgin bride. I was even voted “Most Christ-Like” upon my high school graduation! I was adamant that I would never do anything I deemed sinful ~ ever! So I think I’m living proof that, given the right encouragement and lots of love and lots of time, any wife can become a Hotwife. It took years of baby steps to get to where I am today. That is something I find most hubbies don’t understand. Husbands are ready to jump right in but good wives have tons of cultural deprogramming to do. And I mean TONS!!!

It was a REAL struggle for me. But once I became comfortable with the idea that anything you do (even sexual activities) as a couple (short of breaking legal laws) that enhances your relationship is okay with the Almighty, I eventually got over it. I finally came to this realization after years of baby-steps. So now I believe it is NOT cheating, adultery, or in anyway sinful if Hotwifing is a shared activity that a couple is completely open about with each other. It just happens to be the way you choose to express and experience sex in your marriage. It is simply a choice we make. Obviously it is not for everyone nor is it socially acceptable. But you have to admit it will shake you out of a typical boring married sex life and add a zest to your relationship like nothing else!

The social unacceptability of it was my only lingering problem. I’m a very honest person and I’m never very happy about having to keep personal secrets. So I rationalize it as just “private” not secret. Even vanilla couples don’t generally share their sexual fantasies or bedroom play-preferences with their family or friends. It is a private part of their life and is not anybody else’s business. I think the same applies to Hotwife/Cuckold couples. It took me years but I’m finally over the moral dilemma associated with this lifestyle choice.

For all those husbands who want their wife to venture down this same journey: be extremely loving, be extremely patient, take only baby-steps, expect occasional setbacks, and realize the whole process can take several years longer than you want. But I hope you enjoy the ride no matter where it takes you. ;)

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 6:09 pm 
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Great advice Mrs Fun.

I think I need a trip to Florida . Awesome pic

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 6:11 pm 
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Both Thumbs up to MrsFunseeker for sharing the process by which she was able to reconcile both her religious and her societal concerns and becum "a Funseeker" enjoying the HOTwife Lifestyle.

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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 10:08 pm 
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nice background, bigbdawg. i would say there are parallels between my relationship and yours. as i've said in my own intro -- i'm not sure where my wife and i are headed -- but i do enjoy the explorations we're doing.

as mrs fun noted -- the cultural deprogramming is a long, arduous process -- and maybe we don't even get to the end. i know for sure my wife and i are much closer to the beginning of that journey than the finish line...but that alone has yielded rewards for us both.


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Unread postPosted: Fri Dec 06, 2013 11:13 pm 
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Have you considered introducing sex toys into the bedroom? Another cock in the form of a dildo and/or a small butt plug would allow more vivid simulation of another participant.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Dec 07, 2013 12:10 am 
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MrsFunseeker wrote:
Whatever you do, don’t pre-arrange something behind your wife’s back in an attempt to push her toward a real Hotwife experience! No wife likes to find out her husband is being sneaky… unless he is buying her some new impressive gift that he is planning to give her at her surprise birthday party he’s planned.
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The social unacceptability of it was my only lingering problem. I’m a very honest person and I’m never very happy about having to keep personal secrets. So I rationalize it as just “private” not secret. Even vanilla couples don’t generally share their sexual fantasies or bedroom play-preferences with their family or friends. It is a private part of their life and is not anybody else’s business. I think the same applies to Hotwife/Cuckold couples. It took me years but I’m finally over the moral dilemma associated with this lifestyle choice.


Thanks for the great advice. I'm not dumb enough to try to do something behind her back. Besides posting on this board that is! :-) I know if I pushed too hard it wouldn't just mean the end of the fantasy it would probably be the end of sex for a good long while.

My biggest concern is the guilt. If she ever did do it, I am afraid she'd have loads of guilt. That has been the one thing holding me back from pushing harder.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Dec 07, 2013 12:12 am 
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38kewp wrote:
Have you considered introducing sex toys into the bedroom? Another cock in the form of a dildo and/or a small butt plug would allow more vivid simulation of another participant.


Have definitely thought about it. I'm working her up slowly. I bought a small vibrating toy (one that fits on your finger as you please her) to sort of warm her up to the idea. She loves it. I've not broached the dildo topic yet, except in joking around. Eventually.


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Unread postPosted: Sat Dec 07, 2013 12:17 am 
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Thanks for all the great advice everyone. Its definitely a long, patient approach to this. 3 years ago I wouldn't have imagined the things she's fantasized about. We're both still relatively young, and she's just now coming into her own career wise and life wise, so as that confidence grows I can see things developing.

What I've found though is that this fantasy can be very...powerful. I'm shocked by how strong this desire is in me. With other fantasies - such as the ffm threesome - they would come and go. The idea of sharing my wife with another man, seeing her get seduced...dang, it just gives me shivers.


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Unread postPosted: Sun Dec 08, 2013 12:14 am 
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We started with fantasies spurred by letters in a Penthouse we found left in a hotel room. We found that she liked the stories about submissive wives being spanked or disciplined and I liked the ones about shared wives. Over time we role played some discipline for her and she would tease me with stories about guys she wanted to screw, at the time I was her only. A mutual friend of ours who was single, flirted with her and she loved it, once, while I was inside her, she asked me for permission to have sex with him. This drove me over the edge and she loved the reaction she got, but I never gave her permission verbally.

I always considered these fantasies just bedroom talk, I didn't think my sweet schoolteacher/church going wife wanted to actually do any of these wild things. She wanted our friend but she didn't want to take any first steps other then a little flirting. When that didn't get anywhere she started 'accidentally' flashing him. To get to the point, no matter how hard she tried, he didn't take the bait.

After we moved away she confessed her attempts to seduce our friend while we were in bed, I was more turned on than upset, but I wasn't at the point that I wanted to act out these fantasies.

There were other flirtations and temptations but it was several years later before she called me from a business trip about a handsome guy who was flirting with her, I said "go for it", she did.


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Unread postPosted: Sun Dec 08, 2013 12:42 am 
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Earlier this week, my wife said she liked men looking at her and if she saw a guy she particularly liked at work she wouldn't try to "cover up" her chest when she'd bend over or lean over. She said she loved it when guys would stare, and as long as they weren't old creepy guys she'd encourage a little peeking.
So, last night in bed, I casually asked, "So did you show yourself off at all today at work?" She grinned to me and said, "Maybe a little bit." So we explored that thread for a couple minutes, and while she was talking about it she said, "Oh yeah, and I really showed them off to one of the dads when I picked up our child at the preschool." WOW! Again, its a real person, this time not a random stranger but someone she runs into regularly. I doubt she's said two words to him (my wife can be painfully shy sometimes) but the fact that she was encouraging it with a "real" person that intersects our life and was turned on by the attention was amazing.
Again, each step, no matter how small we take, is absolutely mind blowing.


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hot story!


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