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I read this forum for a few years before actually engaging in HW activity.
Along the way I clocked all the threads that ended badly and faded away. I realized that reading other peoples stories here has a strong survivors bias. The threads that work out last a long time. The crash and burns fade ...

Excellent advice. Take it to heart.

It is a progression. Step after step of getting comfortable with what you previously were UNcomfortable with.
My husbands rule for himself was to never let himself cum until after.

You are most likely going to head down this path. Once tasted, most can't help themselves.
YOU owe it to your wife to ...

2-3 rounds before sleep.
Sometimes being awakened in the darkness for another round but most often again in the morning.
A recent favorite was 3 rounds until we passed out, fucked again a few hours later.
In the morning he just slid inside me as I was so creamy from all the cum and he came again ...

Ego - my experience has been that some men attempting to be a "bull" have a need to "own" the woman to some degree.
As if its not enough to just fuck a woman and give her orgasms. They seem to need more influence in her life.
I've played along a few times now and can be fun attention for your wife ...

Being the "wife" in this lifestyle -

I'm agreeing with the OP that this is over the line.
The Bull is giving her the full push.
His ego is trying to REALLY own her, not simply be a fun part of her sex life.
I've experienced this and would hit the full STOP button right now.

Unless you and your ...

11 before getting married.
3 over a period of a few years hotwifing.
As a new "single slut" -
I dated and fucked 8 different men - all who knew me as married - and now single.
Then I met a man that rocked my pussy and set me on this wild course.
1 new guy that was a swinger and took me to my first ...

You said "Don't ever make a decision while horny or fucking", I've managed to do that so far but have been tempted to say things when we're having sex and then afterwards it scares me what I almost said. I can only try to follow that advice but it's definitely something that worries me.


I ...

Ask her if she would be open to playing a bit at just being a hot sexy version of herself for you.
Dressing hot, going out, flirting and coming back to you.

Small games.

Assure her that you don't need her to actually fuck anyone if she's not hot for it. Its just play.

More cleavage, sexy heels ...

Hi !

As a wife in this lifestyle, I understand all you are saying and have lived it to some degree from the wife perspective.

First - relax. breathe. take it all SLOWLY. There is no judgment about it. You are simply discovering yourself.

2 - the advice about about not reading this forum as you ...

Mine was a SLOW progression.
Started with my husband enjoying when I dress a bit sexy.
Bikini's got smaller.
Then thong bikinis.

Leather mini when out with girlfriends.
Leather pants -
cleavage
Red lips

All added slowly over time. Each night out dressed like that I'd come home to amazing sex ...

I recently decided against condoms. They feel different and my pussy is much less creamy with.
But I guess I assumed a man would ask me permission to come inside me or would choose to pull out.
My new lover - Didn't ask. He just took me. And when he was ready to cum, just pounded me and exploded in ...

I am the WORST at describing sexy events. So bad I feel sorry for my husband.
So he got me a small audio recorder. Can't even count how many times I have failed at turning it on and actually recording anything.
So iphone video has been his favorite - but I fail to capture the best moments.

I had ...

"Love" is such an interesting word to try and define.

I am most certainly in love with 2 other men at this time - if I define "love" as I might have when I was younger and dating.
I love fucking them, plus the caring, tender, laughter, I enjoy their company and REALLY enjoy being their sexual ...

Husband picked the perfect guy from a dating site.
Handsome, top salesman.
He sensed the guy would know how to "close". And he sure did. Several times that night. and many more since.

I would have freaked out if my husband took my to a bar with the intention of having men be interested in me.
Too much. Too soon.

What worked was him focusing on the very few purely sexual moments in my history and him being turned on by them.
Most women surpress those moments when our inner sluts ...

Yesterday - Had to take a short flight home.
Husband dared me to dress like the slut I aspire to be.

Strappy heels, leather pants, tight cleavage top, red lips, crazy hair.

Loved the attention. The heat of so many eyes.
Why did I wait so long to let my inner slut out????

My hottest - non intercourse moment -

sitting across from my second SLS date. Still not yet a hotwife.
After an hour of drinks, laughing and flirting -
he says "you are incredibly sexy, and I'd hate to miss an opportunity with you - so if I may be so bold - I REALLY want to fuck you - if you're ...

Would be happy to chat with her via DM if that would be fun for both of you.

- for any other potential HW's that will read this over time .....
these are my thoughts - and I realize I have a different viewpoint than many wives hold ....

Things that took me too long to realize -
- we have all ...

A few subtle changes that men will pickup as signals she is sexually available -

Sexier heels.
Significantly more cleavage than usual.
Red Lips.
SMILE.
tighter/shorter skirts.

Success rate of 100% if all are implemented.

Just my experience fwiw.

I truly appreciate your honest reply! I appreciate you taking the responsibility for your part in the fails. Far too often I get the impression that women pass the blame onto their husbands for any failure solely because it was their idea. It's my guess that there a whole lot of brand new ...

A million fails, misteps, false starts, and silliness along the way but its funny how those just fall away over time. Its the hot nights that remain.
The highlighted part is what intrigues me. It sounds like you and your husband have been together a long time. It's clear you both wanted this. A ...

Swing lifestyle for sure.

Search all the men in your area. Read their certifications.
Be honest in her profile on SLS. Paint a clear picture of where you are at and what you are hoping for.

Pick the most experienced guy that she finds attractive.
Do NOT go with attraction as the #1 criteria ...

My first HW experience - I required a condum.
After he came, I honestly felt that something was missing. I also got pretty dry (which never happens).
He asked for round 2 - and as he reached for another condum - I just said "no need, it will be more fun without".
His eyes brightened and he gave a ...

I would have hated being called a slut before we started the HW journey.
I now LOVE it. Super empowering.

Honestly not sure how I got to this point but it was a slow progression.
I guess it happened with my husband asking me to dress sexier - and me finally admitting that I liked the attention ...