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You might have better luck asking more specific questions in the "ask a hotwife" thread, stickied above

Also… does it always take a day for posts to be approved?
For new users (fewer than ~5 posts) your account is in a moderation state, and posts must be manually approved, until the mods feel like you're legit. Helps keep the spammers and assholes away. It works! This place is of a higher quality ...

I draw your attention to 90% of the Cuckold forum

MartasBoy wrote: Tue Jan 13, 2026 11:16 am Hey Beccaboo, you haven't commented on here in a while, and I'm sure that I am not alone in being curious to know how things have progressed for you.

She did comment 1 day ago, to be fair

Attaching pictures is fairly straightforward, but it's only allowed in certain subforums (not including this one).

You can start a new thread in the Hotties area, or ask the admins (https://ourhotwives.org/forum/memberlist.php?mode=group&g=5) or moderators (https://ourhotwives.org/forum/memberlist ...

Step by step is how we get where we want to be.

Not pushing sounds like exactly the right approach. If it ever happens, it'll be because of her own internal process eventually convincing her that she wants to make this (big, huge) change - from a monogamous woman, to non-.

Sounds like you've both ...

Glad you joined us - welcome! I missed this one somehow.

Guerrilla pussy licking (and not as foreplay) is a favourite thing of mine - wish leggysandy would say yes more often, but usually she wants it with penetration after, so I usually go down on her during our full sessions. Occasionally I can ...

PhpBB (the board software) is different from email programs like Outlook. Think of the Outbox folder as an 'Unread' folder. Once the recipient has read the message, it moves to Sent.

It's a board setting that the admins control, which specifies the CPU load at which searching is allowed.

OHW is often loaded fairly heavily, especially lately with incognito AI scraper bots scouring the site relentlessly for things to plagiarise (it hit 96% the other day). Search does work during ...

Having more than one man to have sex with seems like a big part of the appeal, for my wife

Bryce 69 wrote: Sun Jan 04, 2026 3:55 pm Bullshit
Bull is perfect
Fill out a hurt feelings report and turn it in to ?

For example ^

I'm always hoping one of her lovers will do something so awesome, she comes home raving about it. I'd absolutely try to learn how to do that thing.

I mean, apart from just having a really nice, big dick of course

Nothing like that so far, though. Hopefully one of these days!

Cheers hornedhubby! It's my pleasure. I want to help keep OHW healthy and prosperous for years to come.

I can see that some of the same issues persist, mostly (I believe) due to high workload. But the server's CPU usage is notably lower now, and I'll keep trying to tune things. The site seems a bit ...

Database maintenance complete!

Greg_N_Shelley wrote: Fri Jan 02, 2026 5:02 pm Life is too short to feel fucked up about things you can't control, like what turns you on and what doesn't.

I'm planning to take the site offline briefly in a few hours (morning UK time, hopefully when the bulk of the American users are sleeping) for some database checking and optimization.

Thanks kaskap. There is still a high load of backend database access driven primarily by bots IMO, although they're mostly the sort that try to disguise themselves as regular browsers.

I'm going to do some more fine-tuning of the database situation, and hopefully find a creative way to weed out ...

In case my posts in the 'signing in' thread went under everyone's radar:

OHW's server software has been getting some updates. The job is nearly finished, and everything should be up and running nicely now. There are still a few little fixups to do, but any additional downtime should be minimal ...

Test post

Almost finished with the upgrades. Sorry for any inconvenience caused!

There were a couple of issues at the hosting provider yesterday, but armyguy sorted those out.

There will be some site maintenance over the next few days; expect some occasional, temporary (hopefully short!) downtime

Thanks to everybody who has commented - sorry I've been a bit quiet here. Happy holidays and Merry Christmas to all our OHW friends!

Just one question... is EVERYONE on this site a pilot?! 😂
Mmmmmmaybe!? Shhh! ... :lol:

You said you politely agreed. Does that mean you didn't ask too many ...

From another wannabe's viewpoint, who cares. Enjoy the journey either way. And I'm jealous.

Late

Isn't this the wannabe forum ?

Are you a wannabe?
I think he just meant: Who cares whether she's into it, or just doing it to please you?

Good progress either way, is I suppose what he's ...

Everybody who runs a site is under constant attack. That's just the way the internet is.

To the best of my knowledge, my own forum was being scanned by the same badly-behaved AI scraper bots as this one was, and I showed chris how to (crudely) block them. I could give him a couple more pointers to ...

This has been happening to me too, although I thought it might have something to do with switching to the Brave browser with Tor.

It'll keep happening numerous times over the course of several minutes (while an admin is clearing session cookies?), and can even happen in the middle of a page load ...

Maybe if you have the resources, a personal trainer could help her with her workouts.

Preferably a handsome, straight, single personal trainer