Our Hotwives

Some days, I reveled in my secret. I loved the freedom, the intensity, and the woman I discovered in those moments.
Other days, I felt shame.
Perhaps that was the strangest part of all, not what happened in that hotel room, but the realization that both women were me.

Have you considered "coming ...

Just a thought.

What if it's not CSBD at all? What if J's experiences and true emotions DO concern this forum's main subject?

Your theory strikes me as a bit convenient, maybe a way to shield yourself emotionally from the possibility that your wife is actually different than you think?

Maybe you ...

I feel for you on a number of levels.

We are of similar age. My wife and I have an incredible bond after so many years together. Yet, a few times over the years, including after an argument last month, I had reached a point of peace if our union dissolved. In most cases it revolved around ...

This is a question that I really need to find a personal answer to.

Last night I put all the details (probably said way too much actually but once I started writing everything came out and it felt necessary at the time) in another thread but basically I seem to be coming at this from completely ...

I know because I know my wife. And because she knows me.


I understand why you believe you know your wife. After a while, it seems like you share the same brain while still disagreeing on certain things.

After 45 years of marriage and raising 2 successful, now-married daughters with children ...

What a lucky couple! I'm looking forward to hearing about your adventures. If you're struggling with the arrangements, we're here to help. But it kinda sounds like you have great communication with your wife, which is most important. Enjoy!

The irony is that while she’s confident in almost every other area of life, she doesn’t really see herself as particularly sexy or desirable. From my perspective that’s completely baffling, because I think she’s a beautiful woman who has become even more attractive with age. But after 20-plus ...

Beat me to it, Leggysman!

Completely unfulfilled. My wife pretty much kept the experience all to herself, wouldn't share much, nothing about how she felt about it. She saw him twice (as far as I knew, she saw him a lot more). She revealed two more dates before spiraling into years of cheating and secrecy. A total failure ...

I don't fault any guy for protecting himself from an STI.


If he's going to be exclusive to her then she also has to be exclusive to him. He said that includes me. No penetration at all. No piv, no BJ's. Nothing that could pass an sti to her and then on to him. He cited my wife saying that she's ...

I am happily married to my wonderful wife Corinne. But the idea of her leaving me to live with her boyfriend and become his official girl strongly excites me.

For some time I have been playing with the idea of encouraging her to break up with me to join him and live with him.

This may seem ...

She wants to be with Aaron again. She is feeling you out and trying to get you to take responsibility and get you to admit that it is your idea, and what you want. That way if things go South she can assess you with the blame, "You wanted this", etc. I regretfully did the same thing early on ...

All along, I reserved the right to see other women. She didn't approve. If she chose to see other men, fine.
I've been ecstatic since she began. Now she has no objection if I see other women (I haven't).

You can add a third to your list coastalkid.
I think my wife's comfort with me seeing other women (I haven't) is based on her experience that demonstrated years of hotwifing has caused no damage to our relationship. I'd like to believe she shares the strong level of compersion I feel for her, but ...

For my 72yo hotwife, she's as interested as ever and only limited by fewer opportunities.

Do you and Sophia ever talk about life after school?

I agree with everything you said.
No doubt those virtues are engrained by the lifestyle. I'm not sure they didn't preexist the lifestyle for me though. Self-control took time but that might have just been maturity.
So many winners when it's done right.

You're speaking my language, TomK!

wulfenus wrote: Thu Dec 31, 2020 11:32 am From Central Texas also - wannawannabe

TxCouple wrote: Mon Nov 16, 2020 8:16 am Central Texas area here.. Hotwife couple

Are you guys still around?

"The one draw back to being in my 50s is the pool of couples looking for a mature third is not as wide as those looking for younger men."

I get the pool isn't as wide but there are plenty of us in the pool!

Angela Plays wrote: Wed Feb 04, 2026 10:37 am Well….I’m giving it a shot. I have started and will post when I’m done. I have a busy weekend so it’ll be sometime next week before I’m able to finish. Bear with me please.

I'm literally smiling!

...we aired out everything. Expectations, limits, feelings, fantasies, and embarrassing secrets were all shared. We really don't have secrets between us anymore. When we find something we like or don't like, we discuss and adjust expectations and desires. It has been the secret to our success in ...

#2 was discussed long, long ago, and the general conclusion of several of us was that the arranged time wasn’t the first time, based on what Lana said and the circumstances. I remember that W not really wanting to analyze this at the time, for good reason.


Thanks, I must have passed over that ...

W770,
Thank you for the incredible amount of work and the fantastic descriptions of your journey.
I just read the entire thread. Wow!

A few questions:
1 I'm not clear on how the original connection with Shawn arose.

If I recall the facts correctly, she first got a twinge during an initial ...

I have immense respect for many of the posters here including Greg_N_Shelley and especially HotWifeBabs. She said "Now is a very important time in your life and your marriage." 100% true.

Greg_N_Shelley said "I’m also glad the chapter of deception is over and you’re both committed to healing your ...