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I'm a little later than intended but here's my final update:

Most of what has been discussed has been about my side of the experience, but there are two people involved here and only one of them is the most important thing in my world. My priority is and always will be J's well-being.

J is ...

I generally have found all of those who contribute bring value to the discussion. Some by just showing how smart others are by comparison.

I promise you I don't have a clue about medical breakthroughs; but history tells us that almost every breakthrough is through a wall of "experts" saying it ...

elina wrote: Tue Sep 01, 2026 12:07 pm

I don't know what the nature of the conversations that J had today were, and what was so discouraging to Her.

Mostly people giving her answers that were opposite to the ones she was hoping for.

I'll answer more fully in a pm.

I appreciate your concern for J, thank you.

Maybe you're right. Maybe you've discovered something the entire medical science community has failed to recognize. Hopefully, your track isn't just manipulative brainwashing intended to change J from who she truly is.

Whatever the truth is, I'm confident that you are proceeding in the best way ...

I will be walking away from this site tomorrow. If anyone has anything they want to ask or say, your window is about 24-28 hours from now.

J has not been encouraged by the answers she has been receiving over the last couple of days.

I think we have now reached a point where this is no longer ...

DaveOnEdge wrote: Mon Aug 31, 2026 1:12 pm
My takeaways:
Lots and lots and lots of ass fucking.
Oh, and love. Mostly love.

But about that ass fucking...

This would be a beautiful haiku except you messed up the structure.

But I think...think... that I might have understood what the poet was trying to capture nonetheless.

lisamyhotwife wrote: Sun Aug 30, 2026 11:13 am What have you learned that has made things clearer and what did it change?

It's a bit complicated...

hopefully I've copied the link properly:

https://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=79034

There is a summary that starts towards the bottom of page 2 but the story is still unfolding.

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Novel Single-Session Behavioral Intervention for Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder: A Case Report of Sustained Remission via Posterior Substitution Therapy

J Marital Behav Neurosci. 2026 Aug;14(3):412–418.

Background: Current literature on CSBD offers limited support for ...

I'm envisioning the PubMed citation now....

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Novel Single-Session Behavioral Intervention for Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder: A Case Report of Sustained Remission via Posterior Substitution Therapy

J Marital Behav Neurosci. 2026 Aug;14(3):412–418.

Background: Current ...

…J thinks we (yes I'm taking partial credit even though it's entirely undeserved) may have made a scientific breakthrough. It's not her field, so she isn't certain, but she thinks that she might actually have managed to rewire part of her brain in a way that has never been done before. (aside- I ...

I have received a surprising number of messages all saying similar things, and this seems to be of interest to more people than I originally thought.

And considering that I have grown accustomed to dropping a few posts here it seems right to continue to do so, and considering the number of people ...

Counseling might help. There are also lifestyle counselors out there. My 2 cents worth is if you are not on the same page don’t go there. Having said that, this drive to want to be in the lifestyle is strong for many people, so strong that relationships can end over it. If can’t come to terms with ...

I know I have a different perspective than the men in here, but since I don’t have one, I’m not thinking with a little head. However, IMHO, if you don’t want it then I don’t believe the two of you should engage in the lifestyle, and you need to be honest with her about where you stand. If either ...

Yes! Decisions12 your situation is not typical here and definitely an intriguing scenario. It hovers around this lifestyle but it clearly isn't a kink or obsession. It still has the element of your wife having sex with another man and how you cope with that solution. That in and of itself could be ...

Dear Decisions12

Thank you and thanks to your Wife for sharing this experience with us.
It is incredible interesting to be exposed to this and equally to see how you initially had an impression of what this was all about which was equally wrong as the impressions from those of us who followed you ...

I understand that your are new to the forum and may not be aware that questions posted to the "Ask a Hotwife Thread, to be answered by VHW's only!' are to be answered by VHW's only.

As you have well discovered people have a lot of opinions and this particular thread is intended to reveal the ...

She's not stopping. She's openly cucking you and also training you to be a cuck. You need to reread all of this, after you look up the definition of what a cuckold is. I'm not even sure why you found this site. The only explanation is, you were looking for it. Good luck and absolutely let us know ...

I am 65 suffering from diabetes and can’t get hard erections for penetrative sex. Would like wife to be a hotwife so that she can have proper sex. She hasn’t been with anyone but me all her life. She says she’s fine and satisfied. I don’t like our situation. Please help


I'm not a hotwife so ...

Greg_N_Shelley wrote: Fri Aug 28, 2026 4:18 pm

decisions12 wrote: Fri Aug 28, 2026 3:59 pm Thank you. I hope I managed to make everything make sense in the end.

You did. Thanks for sharing your journey with us. I hope our varied perspectives were useful to you.

Some more than others but I appreciate every single word. Thanks.

So a massive thankyou to everybody. Most of you have been welcoming, friendly and helpful, and having a place where I could unload and collect my thoughts for a few tricky days has been a blessing. I am truly grateful.

This forum is clearly not for me so I won't be sticking around permanently but ...

DaveOnEdge wrote: Fri Aug 28, 2026 11:32 pm

I can only speak for myself, and don't want to make any ASSumptions, BUTT I was delighted by the happy ENDing.

And many happy returns to you and J.

That raised a smile. Cheers

And we are both absolutely loving it.


And that’s the only part that really matters.


...J's CSBD craved vaginal orgasms- she thinks, after a few goes at it, that the growing body of evidence indicates it is now satisfied by anal orgasms and possibly beginning to crave them, but this is by ...

What a pleasant surprise that she allowed and wanted you in her ass after that session and now it seems she’s a full go on that going forward with you?
Is her hope that anal now going forward will help solve this hormonal flux until she gets to the specialist MD in a few months or does she have ...

Johnlark wrote: Fri Aug 28, 2026 12:42 pm decisions12 take your time. Appreciate you sharing this with the community. It’s beautiful to see how much you care about J and how much you both love eachother.

Thank you for your kind words.

I sat in the garage and there wasn't much going on in my head. A deep love for J, but I tend to feel that most of the time anyway, and then a mess of trying to make sense of what just happened. Impossible though it was, I had just heard my wife having sex with me. The bizarreness of it meant making ...