Hotwives who want more than just the sex

[00rdster]

It's ceremony to celebrate their relationship. It's not legally binding but makes their relationship more formal. They will have an officiant and exchange vows. It won't really change much, other than they will consider themselves in a committed relationship. It's super exciting!

That's the kind of stuff that excites me more than just sex, those little things about them going in a real relationship, congratulations, I hope someday I can achive something similar and my wife can have a boyfriend.

Please update us on how was that ceremony, I would love to read the details

They booked flights and a suite in Cancun for the 3rd week of July. They're arranging for a commitment ceremony on the beach. For some reason, the resort hasn't returned her emails or phone calls about the ceremony, so she's looking for local officiants to conduct the ceremony just in case. Thay are also shopping for matching bands and she has already purchased a light white cotton dress for the ceremony.

Just thought to give an update on my wife's upcoming ceremony. She found an officiant who will conduct the ceremony and provided a script and vows for them to review. They both liked what she provided and I have read the script. They are spending this weekend together shopping for clothes and rings to exchange.

[blind sided hubby]

Over the years my wife has had affairs with 10 or 12 men. Most of her affairs were not emotionally charged at all but pure sex, nothing more. However there were a few that were emotionally charged and those were the affairs that lasted much longer than the others, they were ex lovers or co workers Some of her affairs lasted for over 2 or 3 years and were so emotional that she considered leaving me for them and starting a new life.
She would hold the ones that she loved over me in terms of love and sex, I became secondary to her. Her true life existed outside our marriage and with her lovers. As I have said these emotional affairs were few and far between but they took a great toll on our marriage. The battle with these men for my wife's love nearly destroyed both of us and our relationship.
When I look back on it all i wonder how I was able to get through it.
There may come a time when I just throw in the towel and walk away.

[zorro]

Over the years my wife has had affairs with 10 or 12 men. Most of her affairs were not emotionally charged at all but pure sex, nothing more. However there were a few that were emotionally charged and those were the affairs that lasted much longer than the others, they were ex lovers or co workers Some of her affairs lasted for over 2 or 3 years and were so emotional that she considered leaving me for them and starting a new life.
She would hold the ones that she loved over me in terms of love and sex, I became secondary to her. Her true life existed outside our marriage and with her lovers. As I have said these emotional affairs were few and far between but they took a great toll on our marriage. The battle with these men for my wife's love nearly destroyed both of us and our relationship.
When I look back on it all i wonder how I was able to get through it.
There may come a time when I just throw in the towel and walk away.

I feel for you. I would find it very hard to be less than primary for more than a few days. That has never happened with my wife, but it did with a prior girlfriend, and I found it hollow.
I like it when our extracurricular sexual activities bring us closer together.

At the same time, when I was single, I loved being the secondary with a couple I got all the fun without all the trouble. It's all in context.

[blind sided hubby]

We had children at the time and I refused giving them up because she had an emotional attachment to some slob she was in love with at the time. The children were the glue that kept us together, not our sex.
Our sex was second to none, that is to say when she came home from a night out , I used to jump her and screw the shit out of her, she loved that and so did I. I almost didn't care who she was fucking as long as I could have my way with her any time I wanted.

[Des 31]

How many hotwives out there have found that after a while just having sex with other men is not enough and they want to have deeper, more emotional relationships with other men than hubby? In other words, for how many want more than just the sex?

My wife feels she needs an emotional connection with men she sees for longer terms. After they have fucked a few times, that almost always comes about, and it makes the sex better for the two of them. That has never been a problem for our marriage, and I enjoy her narratives after each encounter she has with any of them.

Eventually, though, the relationships come to an end for a variety of reasons - they move away, get engaged or married, or for other reasons. My wife says these extramarital relationships always have a termination date, something like the warranties on kitchen appliances.

[zorro]

Ha! Kitchen appliances now all have built-in obsolence, so they are only good for a couple of years.

We are four years now into a regular MFM, occ 1-1 with an extra guy. It is holding up better than our stove.
But your wife is wise.

[bernhard_10777]

My wife told me she can't fuck with a (different) man without deep feelings. So it also happened that she made contact through an intellectual relationship, it turned into an emotional relationship in which she is even now, where he unfortunately ended the relationship. Love is like that, it doesn't just pass away.

[Matthew0051]

It happens. But whenever I see it happens, I will find her another single male. This trick works.

[Tank Turner]

My wife knows the danger of attachment. We have three regular gigolos that have no possibility of forming attachments with my wife and vice versa.

My wife had a few one night stands before I met her. She knows one night stands are only physical excitement.

My wife loves the process of seduction. After the sex is over, there are no exchanges of numbers.

My wife is most comfortable seducing men in places like Vegas, Hawaii, the Florida Keys, and similar cities that are distant from our home.

[BeNatural]

How many hotwives out there have found that after a while just having sex with other men is not enough and they want to have deeper, more emotional relationships with other men than hubby? In other words, for how many want more than just the sex?

My wife feels she needs an emotional connection with men she sees for longer terms. After they have fucked a few times, that almost always comes about, and it makes the sex better for the two of them. That has never been a problem for our marriage, and I enjoy her narratives after each encounter she has with any of them.

Eventually, though, the relationships come to an end for a variety of reasons - they move away, get engaged or married, or for other reasons. My wife says these extramarital relationships always have a termination date, something like the warranties on kitchen appliances.

Des, do you and her have any boundary about her using the word "love" with those other guys that she forms some bonds with?

[Des 31]

How many hotwives out there have found that after a while just having sex with other men is not enough and they want to have deeper, more emotional relationships with other men than hubby? In other words, for how many want more than just the sex?

My wife feels she needs an emotional connection with men she sees for longer terms. After they have fucked a few times, that almost always comes about, and it makes the sex better for the two of them. That has never been a problem for our marriage, and I enjoy her narratives after each encounter she has with any of them.

Eventually, though, the relationships come to an end for a variety of reasons - they move away, get engaged or married, or for other reasons. My wife says these extramarital relationships always have a termination date, something like the warranties on kitchen appliances.

Des, do you and her have any boundary about her using the word "love" with those other guys that she forms some bonds with?

I haven't had any problems with that, so neither of us has boundaries. Some who don't follow our thread may not understand that, but I can explain briefly.

There are many meanings for the word "love." But when two people are having hot sex, that has a deeper meaning during their times of intimacy. Neither of us believes in divorce except in extreme circumstances such as physical or psychological abuse, a partner being convicted of a crime, abandonment or abuse of children, and the like. Our reasons for that have to do with personal commitment within the marriage from the day we said "I do," the sincerity of our religious beliefs, and common sense.

We have learned that emotional bonding almost always comes about when she and another have been having good sex for an extended time. Yet, we have learned that all these extramarital relationships have an expiration date. Guys move away, become engaged or married, transfer in jobs, become involved with other women, and more.

Personally, I enjoy that my wife can develop feelings for other men during whatever time they have together. That tells me the sex is as good as it gets for her, and what's good for her is good for me. We have exceptional communication and trust. They have sex at our home, at the other man's place, and often overnight while I either stay at home or being on the road for writing assignments. She tells me when she will be away and will return home, almost always the following morning. When away for a night, she phones me when arriving at the other guy's place and again when about to leave the following morning - or is on her way home. On occasion, she phones while being fucked, but that isn't a common happening.

When she and I are having sex, she tells me in great detail what it was like when the other guy was fucking her, which I find hot.

We have also learned that her sexual experiences are almost always more exciting with another man than with me, the husband with who she lives day to day. She has said, "If it wasn't better with someone else, what would be the point of doing it at all?" I'm sure that's true with virtually all married women who fuck other men.

She is now 36 and has been dating other men since we agreed to that when she was 28. Our reasons were that each of us then realized the sex was becoming routine, perhaps even stale for her, as often happens in marriages. This way of life isn't for everyone, but we have found it has strengthened our marriage. We don't encourage others to try it as we have for the reason we understand most couples cannot handle it. When asked, we tell others that this is one of the worst solutions if their marriages are troubled in any way. This won't solve broken relationships. Our marriage has always been rock solid, and we feel with certainty that's the only way this can work.

~ Des

[dinoo]

Des31 wrote:

"If it wasn't better with someone else, what would be the point of doing it at all?" I'm sure that's true with virtually all married women who fuck other men.

My wife used the word "better" rarely.
Two times she did.
When a stranger licked her pussy in a way she never experienced before: "You are very good at that but he was really an expert."
On behalf of one of her 2 steady lovers (the one she fell in love with): "Having sex with him is the best thing I could imagine."
By watching both I could understand very well why.

She liked to use words like "so different", "so exciting", "being in an unknown world", "so romantic", "so challenging", "so bold" and so on.
Why? She loved to be fucked but she hated condoms. Fucking wasn't her first goal therefor.
Her lovers had to have other abilities too. And some chemistry. it didn't matter what that bond consisted of.
Fortunately for her, she met a lot.

Dinoo

[mrs_reese]

I found this topic fascinating and the comments even better!

[petej55]

My wife knows the danger of attachment. We have three regular gigolos that have no possibility of forming attachments with my wife and vice versa.

My wife had a few one night stands before I met her. She knows one night stands are only physical excitement.

My wife loves the process of seduction. After the sex is over, there are no exchanges of numbers.

My wife is most comfortable seducing men in places like Vegas, Hawaii, the Florida Keys, and similar cities that are distant from our home.

. How do you react to her seducing other men?

[Tank Turner]

Hi Pete,

My dominant responsibility is my wife's safety. I've always monitored her when she was prowling. Since the first time we fucked which was on the evening of our first date, we've always been able to discuss sex openly, honestly, and without judgment. Talking about sex is as natural and fluid for us as talking about where we should go for dinner. She has always told me before she prowled what she was going to do and who her intended target was.

Her artful seduction is a process with the outcome always in doubt until she had her target in our bedroom. The initial components of her seduction weren't erotic. She initiated conversation with men. If she liked what she saw and heard, she'd buy at least one drink for a man, often two. She did mostly listening to men while they drank. If she liked what she heard and saw, she'd often and mostly slyly reveal more skin to him, usually cleavage since most men are into tits. If men responded to her body language, she invited him to sit with us. After a man was comfortable at our table, she vetted the shit out of him. If they passed her vetting process, she'd ask me whether I was good with her choice. I have agreed to every one so far. After she had my approval, she'd invite them to our home where irresistible seduction began.

My wife knows what men love. They want to see naked women and they want to watch what women do to them. My wife always assured our bedroom was sufficiently illuminated so men were able to check out her naked body and watch her porn star routine. Probably the most erotic part of her routine is when she has stood in front of men and seductively got naked while she looked into their eyes. Often, she had to assist men after she got naked. She'd deeply kiss them while helping them get naked.

She learned long before I met her that men loved to watch her suck their cocks. Giving blowjobs is a performing art for my wife. She has always made sure that she positioned herself so men could watch her suck their cocks.

It's all about physical euphoria for us. After my wife was sexually satiated, with few exceptions, she walked them to our front door and bid them a farewell.

[little sissy Benita]

After a time she started to meet african/black men. I was happy to see that real black men had interest to dance with her and also giving frensh kisses. I started before she meet them to act like a little girl and she liked - and she told me that she see me not longer as her husband - she see me more and more as her little daughter.
The real men love to hear she is free and that she treat me so.
But then she told me that she fall in love with one of them - allways she think about him and she have butterflys in her stomage. And she exchanged pictures at the wall from me into pictures of him. In her moneybag was his picture first - then a picture of me (as little girl).
Also the front picture at her smartphone was his picture too.

I was not jealous - i want to be a good cuckold and a good behaved little daughter
As good behaved little daughter i must be happy and grateful when mommy fall in love, isn´t it?
She invite him often to us at home (i went out from bedroom and move in the guestroom - a good behaved little daughter should not disturb.
I then saw that she no longer wore her wedding ring and then she wanted me to stop wearing my wedding ring either. And she had a new ring on her finger - from him.

Since a few years both living as married couple and i am happy and grateful for it

[isinlarsa]

When my wife came to me and told me she wanted to date other men, she made it clear it would be just for sex. She didn't even want them referred to as her boyfriends or lovers. Once I made the mistake of calling the men she was dating her lovers. She responded by saying "Don't call them my boyfriends or lovers." I retorted, I thought that was better than calling them your fuckers." That got me a dirty look and a night on the couch. However, her attitude softened with her young black "studmuffin" (her nickname), who was almost half her age. They developed an almost teenaged boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. They knew it was for the long-term but they enjoyed call each other boyfriend and girlfriend.