How I got started

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hikergal
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How I got started

Unread post by hikergal » Sun Feb 04, 2018 4:06 pm

My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years ( I am 54, he is 63), and it all started 14+ years ago. One of my husbands fantasies of course was to see me with another man and so he asked me about it, well he probably pestered me for years, I cant remember now...LOL!! I thought WOW - that would be very erotic. Our first adventure we invited a gentlemen over for dinner and I took my top off...that was it....pretty tame thinking back. Then I went and played golf with this gentlemen and after that, he came to the house a few times and he and I would have sex while hubby watched, it was very erotic. Hubby and I would have sex after our guest left.

Now fast forward to 2 years ago, after having numerous FBs over the years I wanted more, so hubby and I talked about me meeting someone who I could fall in love with. I never kept any of these FBs/BFs for any length of time because I did not fall for them emotionally. Some of the sex was very good many of them certainly wanted to keep cuming (LOL) back, but most never lasted for more than a few months until (I will call him Philip) I met Philip. I met Philip on craigs list via a PLATONIC posting of mine looking for a hiking pal.

Well we met over coffee, just him and I, then we went for a few hikes and finally ended up in a hotel together after about a month of hiking. I don't think I had so many hours of sex with a man ever in my life ...HOLY SHIT were we a good match. This went on for almost 2 years, me seeing this man alone, with hubby never ever meeting him. We would hike a bit, but mostly just meet for sex, in the back seat of his SUV, or in a hotel room, it did not matter, it was all good, really good, extremely good. Philip was cheating on his girl friend the whole time but I just could not get enough of him, but in the end hubby and I decided that this was not quite what either of us signed up for when we started this journey more than 14 years ago.

So only a few months ago I said good bye to Philip for good. It has been gut wrenching for me since I fell very much in love with Philip and still think about him, but now with a smile on my face and no tears in my eyes. Just a bit of advise be careful out there, its not only your feelings that can get hurt, but others as well. For some reason I have a hard time talking about these things, but writing it seems easier. I am just about over Philip and hoping to find a new long term friend(s) that is not cheating on their girl friend and who will be meeting hubby right from the get go and be part of OUR life, not just mine. I have a few prospects so stay tuned for more....who knows what the future will bring...its just one big adventure....
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Re: How I got started, along with the trials and tribulations...

Unread post by allengt » Sun Feb 04, 2018 6:12 pm

Welcome to the forum. We also have a ladies only section. If interested see this thread:
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Re: How I got started

Unread post by EDAS » Wed Feb 07, 2018 9:45 pm

hikergal, this is a fascinating introduction. I hope you will continue to write and give us your thoughts on the process that you and your husband went through. Thank you for this first post.

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by Cuckoldguy21 » Fri Feb 09, 2018 11:40 am

hikergal, so, and, and then what? As the song goes, "You keep me hanging on."

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by alan137 » Tue Feb 13, 2018 8:50 pm

Hi Hikergal,

My wife prefers long-term relationships as well. Over the past 10 or so years she has had 5 lovers. The first 2 were very short term. However, the last three have all been long-term.

Her third lover lasted for 18 months, her 4th for 4 years and her current BF has been on the scene now for 4 years.

They have both fallen in love with one another so it is more a poly situation. I introduced him to my wife with the clear understanding that if they clicked then sex was more than OK. Before they met I have told each of them that I was hoping that their relationship would become intimate.

The first time we met together I said that I wanted to make it clear to them both. If they both wanted then I would love their relationship to include sex. They clicked, sex happened and the three of us are very good friends.

We even talked about living together buy logistics makes that extremely difficult.

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by DavaoMike » Wed Feb 14, 2018 8:51 am

Hi Alan,

Has your sex life with your wife been affected? If so, in what way? Do you still have sex with your wife on a regular basis?

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by 54321 » Wed Feb 14, 2018 5:52 pm

Thank you for sharing your story, Hikergal. I would love to hear more from you.
Have you checked out the Ladies Only Forum yet?

Best wishes,

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by hikergal » Sat Mar 10, 2018 10:10 am

Recently I have met 2 new guys and I enjoy sex with both of them, not at the same time....I know what you guys were thinking LOL!
One guy says I am a "freak", I had never heard the term before but he said its a woman who is uninhibited and enjoys sex with "intensity and vigor". He and I have had great fun together twice now.

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by alan137 » Fri Mar 16, 2018 2:17 am

Hi, responding to the following questions...

1. Has your sex life with your wife been affected?

Yes. In the beginning it was insane in a good way. I had to bed her for a night off. She was insatiable.
But she now has sex with her lover far more often than with me. I guess the ratio is usually about 11:1 in his favour. :)

Am I unhappy about that? Not at all. I enjoy the fact that her BF is now her primary lover. We aren't into overt humiliation but when my wife takes him by the hand and leads him to our bedroom, well that is somewhat humiliating.

Her lover knows that he is her preferred sexual partner. He knows that she prefers to have him as her 'mate'. My wife doesn't close the bedroom door and her lover enjoys undressing himself so I can see them together naked.

His cock is about 3 inches longer and has a lot more girth that I have. My wife said to me once "that I come a lot more than he does. Maybe because when he comes he is a lot further up inside me that you are."

In an ideal world I would love to have a situation where he could be with her everyday and have sex spontaneously several times a week.

If you have any other questions please ask.

Alan

:)

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by DavaoMike » Fri Mar 16, 2018 3:28 pm

alan137 wrote:Hi, responding to the following questions...

1. Has your sex life with your wife been affected?

Yes. In the beginning it was insane in a good way. I had to bed her for a night off. She was insatiable.
But she now has sex with her lover far more often than with me. I guess the ratio is usually about 11:1 in his favour. :)

Am I unhappy about that? Not at all. I enjoy the fact that her BF is now her primary lover. We aren't into overt humiliation but when my wife takes him by the hand and leads him to our bedroom, well that is somewhat humiliating.

Her lover knows that he is her preferred sexual partner. He knows that she prefers to have him as her 'mate'. My wife doesn't close the bedroom door and her lover enjoys undressing himself so I can see them together naked.

His cock is about 3 inches longer and has a lot more girth that I have. My wife said to me once "that I come a lot more than he does. Maybe because when he comes he is a lot further up inside me that you are."

In an ideal world I would love to have a situation where he could be with her everyday and have sex spontaneously several times a week.

If you have any other questions please ask.

Alan

:)
Now that you are in this "11:1" ratio, would you say that your wife denies you a lot, or is this simply the way it's turned out? In other words, would it be more accurate to say that you have a relatively lower libido as compared to your wife's boyfriend, or that it's your wife who only permits occasional sex between you and her?

In my case, both my wife and her boyfriend are much younger than I am, and they both have a much higher libido than me. They make love much more frequently than her and I do, but that's not because I'm ever "denied" in any way. I'm simply happy with sex once a month or every couple of weeks, or so.

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by alan137 » Wed May 30, 2018 4:21 am

Hi and sorry for the long delay in replying.

My wife's boyfriend has an extremely high libido. he has a much larger penis and stamina. He can go for ages where I cum quite quickly. The has been brought about by a few medical issues so while my desire is high my ability to perform has diminished.

At no time has my wife denied me or in any way restricted sex between us. So I guess its just the way to worked out.

Like you I am happy with what sex I am getting. I wouldn't change a thing. :D :D :whip: :whip: :whip:

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by gatorrdw » Wed May 30, 2018 12:17 pm

During the time when we had a 2nd husband living with us and sharing the bills and my wife. Both of her 2nd husbands fucked her a lot more than I did. She never denied me but in both instances they were like newlyweds and particularly the black 2nd husband. My wife just couldn't get enough of his cock, many, many days they would fuck before he went to work, again as soon as he returned home and again when we went to bed. During the weekends they would be at each other at any time day or night. I like alan137 wouldn't change a thing, I always had her when I wanted to and also enjoyed watching, listening and/or just knowing that she was getting fucked. GTR

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Re: How I got started

Unread post by DavaoMike » Wed May 30, 2018 3:33 pm

alan137 wrote:Hi and sorry for the long delay in replying.

My wife's boyfriend has an extremely high libido. he has a much larger penis and stamina. He can go for ages where I cum quite quickly. The has been brought about by a few medical issues so while my desire is high my ability to perform has diminished.

At no time has my wife denied me or in any way restricted sex between us. So I guess its just the way to worked out.

Like you I am happy with what sex I am getting. I wouldn't change a thing. :D :D :whip: :whip: :whip:
In our situation, my wife Maricel is a Filipina, and anyone who has ever been in a relationship with a Filipina knows that they are obsessively possessive. Maricel could never tolerate either me or Adam ever having sex with anyone other than her. She knows that I have a rather low libido, so she's not worried about me playing the field. However, with Adam, he's a young buck with an over-the-top libido. Though she's never said so, I suspect that Maricel is focused on keeping Adam totally fulfilled, sexually, so she can feel confident that he's her's, and her's alone.

Adam is also rather possessive of Maricel, though not insofar as I'm concerned. A couple of months ago when Maricel and I flew back to the Philippines to visit her family, Adam made Maricel promise that she would not meet up with her ex-boyfriend, Arsenio (the one who took her virginity years ago), and Maricel honored that promise.

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