This Happened

When a fuck buddy becomes something more.
Nostrings123
Experienced
Posts: 240
Joined: Sat Feb 22, 2014 3:46 pm
Location: Seattle Area

This Happened

Unread post by Nostrings123 » Fri Mar 15, 2019 7:29 pm

So I had a Hotwife that I played with for 3 years. She is a submissive masochist - which worked out perfectly because I am a Dom and a sadist. BINGO!

We played hard for 3 years. Weekly almost. Her husband, cuckold in an unusual way, he being Dom over her, would enjoy the pics I sent him and then fuck her brains out when I sent her home each week.

Now she has a chip on her shoulder (not young enough, not skinny enough, not pretty enough, not sexy enough etc) and I tried (unsuccessfully) to disabuse her of that notion.

She loved my cooking and we got into the habit of drinking expensive bottles of wine when I cooked, or eating out at very expensive restaurants once a month, taking turns to pay...it was heaven...but we would often drop $600 for dinner.

One day she started playing with another Dom and she decided to end out play sessions. I resisted (who wouldn't) and we played very occasionally after that for about 8 months. The last time I cooked for her, she came over for dinner and I made her amazing drinks and an amazing dinner. She and I laughed and laughed. Then after dinner she said "OK, now I am firing you". And that was that.

I said to her then "Look, you have been trying to dump me for like 8 months. So OK. We are done. I am dumped."

Of course, she said "What? no push back, that was too easy". And she laughed at me...she hugged me and said, "I am sure we will play again, you just have to ask. You do something to me that nobody else can do." In my mind, I don't think I agreed with her. I was done.

Soon after that I met the woman I am seeing now. And my former Hotwife and I hardly spoke. At first she would call to chat on her way home from work, but then that stopped when I never called her to speak. Her conversations with me were mostly unpleasant. Then I didn't hear from her for about 3 months.

Last night I noticed that she had left some pretty nasty comments on some writing I did on a fet page. I called her out and she went off on me. I mean scorn to the N'th degree.

Now I am perplexed. What did I do, other than write about the fun I was having, that got the hair on her back to stand up like that? So bizarre. I ended up blocking all of her communication because I don't need that negativity in my life. During the back and forth, I was not rude or disrespectful, I just told her that I was not going to allow her to high-jack my page to express herself like that with barbs aimed at me and my girlfriend. She started with ad hominem attacks that led me to block her.

I thought I knew her after 3 years of weekly sessions....turns out I had no clue.
Last edited by Nostrings123 on Tue Mar 19, 2019 4:34 pm, edited 1 time in total.
Feel free to email me nostrings123@gmail.com

User avatar
Lucky Dog
Experienced
Posts: 194
Joined: Sun Mar 19, 2017 12:47 pm

Re: This Happened

Unread post by Lucky Dog » Sat Mar 16, 2019 9:32 am

When she told you it was too easy to dump you, she seemed to be showing she was relieved you didn't make it hard for her. But maybe what she was really saying was she wanted you to fight for her to take her back, to show her you wanted her.

Later, when she read you were having fun with another woman, she was jealous and angry you let her go. She probably wanted to be pursued. Only you can decide whether a woman feeling jealous of you with another is sexy or if it's crazy. During your three fun years she may have developed more feelings for you than she let on, and her new guy could have been for both fun and trying to provoke you.

It's possible that her being jealous is both sexy but also too crazy to deal with. You just never got to see the crazy part before.
A lot of times, good sex is the quickest end to virginity.

Nostrings123
Experienced
Posts: 240
Joined: Sat Feb 22, 2014 3:46 pm
Location: Seattle Area

Re: This Happened

Unread post by Nostrings123 » Tue Mar 19, 2019 4:30 pm

Lucky Dog wrote:
Sat Mar 16, 2019 9:32 am
When she told you it was too easy to dump you, she seemed to be showing she was relieved you didn't make it hard for her. But maybe what she was really saying was she wanted you to fight for her to take her back, to show her you wanted her.

Later, when she read you were having fun with another woman, she was jealous and angry you let her go. She probably wanted to be pursued. Only you can decide whether a woman feeling jealous of you with another is sexy or if it's crazy. During your three fun years she may have developed more feelings for you than she let on, and her new guy could have been for both fun and trying to provoke you.

It's possible that her being jealous is both sexy but also too crazy to deal with. You just never got to see the crazy part before.
I suggested that jealousy was an ugly color on her. She said "I am not jealous, I am happy how things ended. I asked her why my writing trips her up? And she had no answer to that question. I am literally done with her.

Today I sent her an email asking to return the objects of her I have (A collar, a Hitachi and a dildo) and for her to return my rowing ergometer that I loaned her. She jumped right on that and said she would return it immediately. This surprised me. She is a X Fit junkie and she uses that thing every single day. So that tells me where she is too.

I honestly don't know, but I do think that she always had feelings for me and she always wanted more than I could give. She as mad that I let this woman move in with me, and she was always super superior to her "I have more experience, I am more of a masochist, I am a better sub etc etc" Plus she put her down too....so I am done with her.

Not worth pursuing. I am just really surprised that a woman I was deeply related to, whim I "owned" for a time, who submitted to me completely, who I fucked and used for prolonged 8 hour sessions weekly for 3 years, could turn on me like that after she dumped me. Live and learn.
Feel free to email me nostrings123@gmail.com

Post Reply