Another man loves my wife

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Re: Another man loves my wife

Unread post by armyguyot1 » Thu Mar 21, 2019 9:36 pm

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Re: Another man loves my wife

Unread post by D+D » Tue Mar 26, 2019 1:29 pm

Mark, your words are very wise. Many times wisdom is obtained thru experience. Wannabes and new hotwife husbands would be wise in their own right to listen to your words. They can perceive all they want, but they can't control the emotions , feelings, and opinions of the wife and her friend.

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Unread post by Sexilexi » Thu Apr 11, 2019 1:51 am

Mark,

I will admit I was super nervous when I came across your thread and read your first post. But I was so intrigued. I skimmed through your pages and I am so happy to hear your story! This is amazing. I feel like emotions and feelings and love is all natural and part of human nature. And if we all could just accept it, and be ok with it, then our society would run smoother.

I feel, so far, your story is beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing!

I absolutely loved how you described “silky seconds” Man oh man! Loved the description.

Keep sharing!

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Unread post by co-husband » Fri Apr 12, 2019 12:02 pm

Hello Lexi....Thank you very much.

Yes, the emotions involved in this type of experience are natural, and the reactions to the experiences are as varied as the individuals involved. I've used this forum more as a personal journal rather than to entertain readers, but it's truly helped me as a husband to convey how our own experience has been and it seems others can relate. So for that I am truly happy.

We have been in this lifestyle for 4 years now, and what has amazed me is how the relationships between my wife, our friend and myself have developed and gone through changes to get to the point where we are now. It didn't happen overnight and is honestly still developing. My wife is just now showing a comfort level that I had not seen in her previously. She is now more comfortable about allowing herself to express more openly that she enjoys the three-way relationship, and by that I mean not just in the bedroom. I think she feels better about accepting Brian as an emotionally intimate friend and not just a sexually intimate friend. Hope that makes sense...

All the best to you Lexi.

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Re: Another man loves my wife

Unread post by shall54 » Sat Apr 13, 2019 12:35 am

Mark, It's nice to hear that Juli is getting more comfortable with the three way relationship. How do you see this evolving? Right now it's a relationship between Juli and you, and between Juli and Brian. Would a three way ever be possible now...I know Brian expressed that he did not want to be watched but could that change?? With Juli's new comfort level maybe she might share a few more details??? Maybe you are happy with the way things are now and don't see, or want any changes?

Again, this is one of the hotter threads on this site and always look forward to you posts and pictures of Juli!!! Thank you,
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Unread post by co-husband » Mon Apr 15, 2019 10:55 am

Hi Steve...Thanks,

To answer your question, honestly I do not see major changes coming in our relationship with Brian. I think the three of us have settled into a very comfortable ( I hesitate to say "routine" because this type of situation is not routine in the typical sense of the word)....but it really is working quite well for Brian and Juli to basically have their own relationship within the bounds of an "intimate friendship". Of course Juli and I remain totally dedicated to each other and our marriage and our own sexual relationship.

What she has with Brian is really an added bonus for us all in our own individual ways. It has taken 4 years to get to this point and so we at least for now, are enjoying the comfort level that we have with the way things are.

I will go ahead and add this bit of news which I was going to do in a separate post, but we have scheduled time for them to be alone for 2 nights in May. I have a business meeting at a certain hotel in a city about 2 hours from us, so Brian will accompany us to that city, he and Juli will stay together in a separate, nearby B&B while I am in my meetings. I will then rejoin them 2 days later for our return trip home. This is the first time since our initial sharing (in Chicago in Feb 2015) that they will have had the opportunity to spend time together alone as a couple. So we anticipate it will be more like a date for them to be by themselves for two days. Juli is looking forward to the trip and it's nice to see that relaxed excitement in her. She did ask me only if I was sure that I'd be okay if they stayed in a separate location from me, and once I assured her that it would be better that my business colleagues not see my wife with another man, then she immediately started planning for her extended date with Brian.

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Unread post by BlueDuck » Mon Apr 15, 2019 12:10 pm

Congrats! You guys have an awesome relationship!

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Unread post by pasadena95 » Tue Apr 16, 2019 12:29 am

Is it possible you might join them for dinner or a brief visit while the three of you are all in the same city? Would not this be helpful in showing your support of Juli and solidifying your friendship with Brian while he is spending so much intimate time with your wife? After all, apart from his affair with Juli, you are all friends.
Not judging in any way, just wondering.

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Unread post by co-husband » Tue Apr 16, 2019 10:37 am

Yes ideally I would join them, but my evenings are already scheduled with business dinners each of the two nights. So on this trip they will have evenings alone. We arrive at our destination around noon on a Thursday, I will stay at the meeting hotel until Saturday morning. Brian and Juli will be alone Thursday evening, all day Friday and Friday night...until Saturday morning.
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Unread post by co-husband » Tue Apr 16, 2019 10:38 am

pasadena95 wrote:
Tue Apr 16, 2019 12:29 am
Is it possible you might join them for dinner or a brief visit while the three of you are all in the same city? Would not this be helpful in showing your support of Juli and solidifying your friendship with Brian while he is spending so much intimate time with your wife? After all, apart from his affair with Juli, you are all friends.
Not judging in any way, just wondering.
Yes ideally I would join them, but my evenings are already scheduled with business dinners each of the two nights. So on this trip they will have evenings alone. We arrive at our destination around noon on a Thursday, I will stay at the meeting hotel until Saturday morning. Brian and Juli will be alone Thursday evening, all day Friday and Friday night...until Saturday morning.
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Re: Another man loves my wife

Unread post by shall54 » Tue Apr 16, 2019 2:20 pm

Wow, incredible and exciting!! Hopefully on that Saturday night Juli will share the details of their weekend with you!

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Unread post by pasadena95 » Tue Apr 16, 2019 3:51 pm

You have got it figured out. Most of us struggle a bit more in making these complicated relationships work to everyone's benefit.
So---Congratulations!

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Unread post by Missthefun » Tue Apr 16, 2019 10:04 pm

Mark, as always, thanks so much for the update. I am looking forward to hearing about the adventure! What an incredibly hot scenario. Traveling together should be fun! Sexual tension in the air. Pleasant conversation. I look forward to hearing about it. And the trip home! Wow! That should be hot!

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Unread post by co-husband » Tue May 07, 2019 3:22 pm

We are now home from our weekend and it went very well. While I was in business meetings at a downtown hotel, Juli and Brian spent two nights together in a nearby B&B. We arrived mid day Thursday and so they had Thursday night, all day Friday, Friday night, and I met up with them again on Saturday morning for our return trip home.

It rained much of the time so Juli told me they spent most of their day on Thursday in the room and only venturing out for lunch and dinner. She said they had sex twice on Thursday, three times on Friday and once more early on Saturday morning before breakfast. She admits she is sore from all the activity, and between her soreness and our schedule, she and I still have not had sex since we got home (other than oral sex that she gave me on Sunday morning).

She did answer some of my obvious questions which I will share here soon when I have more time. I wanted to let everyone know briefly how it went.

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Unread post by D+D » Tue May 07, 2019 10:27 pm

That sounds like they had fun.... Awesome
Thanks for the update.

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Unread post by voxhominum » Wed May 08, 2019 1:06 am

Whoa, six times total! Juli must have loved getting to spend so much uninterrupted private time alone with Brian. What a great weekend! How in the world did you concentrate on your meetings?

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Wed May 08, 2019 1:06 am
Whoa, six times total! Juli must have loved getting to spend so much uninterrupted private time alone with Brian. What a great weekend! How in the world did you concentrate on your meetings?
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SutterKane wrote:
Wed May 08, 2019 8:54 pm
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Wed May 08, 2019 1:06 am
Whoa, six times total! Juli must have loved getting to spend so much uninterrupted private time alone with Brian. What a great weekend! How in the world did you concentrate on your meetings?
What he said!
Yes I admit it was hard to concentrate in my meetings. I was very happy for both Juli and Brian that they were getting to enjoy each other for 48 hours of private intimacy. I know how much sex with Brian is satisfying for Juli, and of course Brian goes without sex for weeks at a time, and so his time with Juli is limited, and I was glad that he got to be alone with her on this trip. With my meeting time it all really worked out well for the three of us.

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Unread post by shall54 » Fri May 10, 2019 9:16 pm

Yeah, I'll bet it was 'hard' pun intended! Sounds like Juli and Brian really out did themselves on this trip! I hope she does share more of the details with you. Thanks for sharing this with us!

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Unread post by Missthefun » Fri May 10, 2019 9:43 pm

Thanks again, Mark! Always love to hear your updates! Glad to hear about your wonderful trip! Love to hear more!

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Unread post by Missthefun » Fri May 31, 2019 5:22 pm

Hi, Mark. Just checking in to see how things are going. Hope you're well.

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Unread post by co-husband » Mon Jun 03, 2019 10:32 am

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Hi, Mark. Just checking in to see how things are going. Hope you're well.
Hi...Everything is going well. You know Juli and Brian had their 2 nights alone last month while I was at a business meeting. Nothing since then but June is going to be another month where I will need to call on Brian for help. I am having some outpatient surgery this month...nothing serious but the Dr. has already said "no sexual activity for 3 weeks following the procedure". I made a point to let Brian know, and I also talked to Juli and made sure she understood that I WANT her to let Brian service her during my recovery.

If I had said that to her even a year ago, she would have balked...but now she didn't argue but simply said "Okay" :-)
So probably after I am home for a few days, and doing well and resting....Juli will visit Brian at his house for an afternoon.

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Unread post by mfmseeker1969 » Mon Jun 03, 2019 10:36 am

Such trust. And a true friend and a very sexy wife. Smiles all the way around.

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Unread post by shall54 » Tue Jun 04, 2019 2:53 am

Mark, Now that Juli is more comfortable with her relationship with Brian, has she talked with you about how she feels about Brian with respect to you? Early on, I believe she did not think very much of him in terms of a long term relationship, but has that changed? You posted this in the Poly Forum originally and I think you may have wanted (or fantasized) about this happening, but what about Juli, has she any desire for a poly type situation/relationship?

Thank you for sharing with us, and if you have any more photos of Juli you would be willing to share with us that would be great!!
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Unread post by co-husband » Tue Jun 04, 2019 7:42 am

shall54 wrote:
Tue Jun 04, 2019 2:53 am
Mark, Now that Juli is more comfortable with her relationship with Brian, has she talked with you about how she feels about Brian with respect to you? Early on, I believe she did not think very much of him in terms of a long term relationship, but has that changed? You posted this in the Poly Forum originally and I think you may have wanted (or fantasized) about this happening, but what about Juli, has she any desire for a poly type situation/relationship?

Thank you for sharing with us, and if you have any more photos of Juli you would be willing to share with us that would be great!!
Steve
Hi Steve....Excellent question.
Yes this last year especially, Juli has become more practical and open about the relationship she has with Brian. They have been sexual partners now for 4 years, so it's only natural that the bond between them has developed beyond just the physical sex. Yes, the sex is still the main foundation of their relationship, but even Juli now realizes and admits to me that what they do in bed is lovemaking and not just sex. (passionate in other words).

Now in our conversations (between Juli and me) she is still very quick to add that she loves Brian but as an "intimate friend" and not on the same level as the love she has for me. And I know she is totally right about that. During that conversation, I was the one who pointed out that it is possible for a woman to love two men at the same time, but with different types or intensities of that love. She agreed and now affirms that her feelings for me and for Brian are exactly like that. She and I share many years of marriage and all of the bonding life experiences that make a marriage unique and special between a man and a woman, including our own (marriage) sex. And with Brian she shares a friendship which includes their own unique sexual bond that only they can truly experience when they are alone together in their own bed. Even I as the husband cannot be a part of what Juli and Brian share as a couple in the bedroom. They have their own sexual relationship in Brian's bed, separate from what Juli and I have in our bed.

So yes, Juli's love for Brian has definitely grown...and as the verse says...."Love covers a multitude of sins." So whatever personality quirks that Juli used to find off-putting in Brian...she now does not see in him. And for me personally, I am very aware of my own sexual limitations especially compared to Brian...Juli of course knows the differences more than anyone.... So while Juli is still not quite to the point of openly making this admission...I view myself as the husband with the obvious sexual rights that husbands have, but I view Brian as Juli's primary sex partner because of the quality of sex that I know she has and enjoys with him.

And to your point about the poly relationship. I believe that for all intents and purposes, that's what we have with Brian. The definitions of "poly" may vary, but to my understanding, it is a deep relationship which includes the husband and wife and at least one other person. Brian of course has extended to him the same full sexual rights to Juli's body as I do as her husband. And just recently, Juli and Brian spent two days and two nights alone together as a couple while I was in my business meetings. So their relationship now extends (at least at times) beyond the bedroom and they are observed in public as a couple.

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