Wife Wants Temporary Exclusivity With Boyfriend

[ConfusedHubby65]

Gina went to California for a ten day summer holiday with Bill and we don't hear another thing. I hope things are good for hubby and all three. I wish hubby would tell us more regardless if it is good or not so good.

I’ve just been offline a lot due to being busy. Gina and Bill had a great time. When Gina got home, she was positively glowing. Since that time, Bill has been staying at our house 2-3 weekends a month. During those times, Gina sleeps with Bill in our extra bedroom. Often, he stops by during the week. A few times, Gina gave me sloppy seconds, and I even ate Bill’s creampie on 2-3 occasions, something I thought I’d never do.

We had a long July 4 weekend vacation to the beach over 5 nights. We stayed in a hotel room with 2 double beds, with Gina and Bill sharing one. Although I do enjoy seeing Gina making love with Bill, he’s not too keen on seeing me make love with her. That happened once during our vacation, and Bill chose to take a walk by the beach for a couple of hours.

All in all, things are going great. Yes, Bill continues to be Gina’s primary lover, but I don’t feel excluded or ignored in anyway. I’m happy with making love with my wife every 1-2 weeks.

[DavaoMike]

How are things with Gina and Bill? Any update?

[snoogaloo82]

Gina went to California for a ten day summer holiday with Bill and we don't hear another thing. I hope things are good for hubby and all three. I wish hubby would tell us more regardless if it is good or not so good.

I’ve just been offline a lot due to being busy. Gina and Bill had a great time. When Gina got home, she was positively glowing. Since that time, Bill has been staying at our house 2-3 weekends a month. During those times, Gina sleeps with Bill in our extra bedroom. Often, he stops by during the week. A few times, Gina gave me sloppy seconds, and I even ate Bill’s creampie on 2-3 occasions, something I thought I’d never do.

We had a long July 4 weekend vacation to the beach over 5 nights. We stayed in a hotel room with 2 double beds, with Gina and Bill sharing one. Although I do enjoy seeing Gina making love with Bill, he’s not too keen on seeing me make love with her. That happened once during our vacation, and Bill chose to take a walk by the beach for a couple of hours.

All in all, things are going great. Yes, Bill continues to be Gina’s primary lover, but I don’t feel excluded or ignored in anyway. I’m happy with making love with my wife every 1-2 weeks.

Any updates on what has happened with you guys?

[trecital]

Yeah, any update?!!

[Breakerhymen]

Thinking things have crashed and burned…..if not update?!?!?

[edgedndenied]

Hope all is well. Any updates?

[Hot4mywife]

I’m curious to know how you would define your relationship with her. Does she think you two are a couple and she has primary sex with another guy she lives with? How would she define what you have?

We publicly split. All our friends thought we were broken up. She announced her relationship with him on social media, went to live with him, she went the whole way. I was simply her little secret. She'd sneak out with me here and there when she could but she didn't want to be seen with me publicly. Also, I accepted that at the end of the day I would have to take her back home before her boyfriend got home from work as she was expected to be home.

We would talk and text daily to keep our love and connection strong but he was her main man and she belonged to him. He was her primary and all her friends got to know him and did all activities with him included instead of me. So clubbing would involve him and my gf with her friends and so forth. Social media would be one of the many ways that i was kept involved in her life and how i would first hand see how she was interacting and giving herself to her boyfriend. It was normal to see her friends tag her in images where she was dressed very provocative and showing PDA with her bf. It took a little getting used to but I grew to really like seeing her images with him and looked forward to the weekends to see where she would end up with her boyfriend and her friends. My favorite posts were night club pictures of her in skimpy dresses with her boyfriend

It was very real and extremely erotic watching my gf completely belong to another man. Seeing her not hold back in front of anyone with him. Publicly he was her primary man. Privately he was absolutely her primary sexual partner, the one who devoured her at night and left her full of semen and sore but satisfied. She did tell me quite often on how she loved getting handled by him, his spontaneousness and sexuality was the reason she could not resist going sexually exclusive with him, becoming his girlfriend, and ultimately going to live with him. She wanted to give herself to him completely and i was supportive and willing to put us on hold publicly so that she wouldn't have to hold back. It was all an adventure that we both thoroughly enjoyed but it was temporary. She eventually moved back after 18 months and we resumed our life of reconnecting and being a normal couple without partaking in the lifestyle. Until she found her next lover and we discussed trying that experience again. We both loved her moving away and belonging to someone else.

I realize that at this point this is an older post but I applaud you both for having the confidence in your relationship to try this. It had to be an erotic wild ride that eventually made you stronger as a couple.

[ucaneffher]

I’m curious to know how you would define your relationship with her. Does she think you two are a couple and she has primary sex with another guy she lives with? How would she define what you have?

We publicly split. All our friends thought we were broken up. She announced her relationship with him on social media, went to live with him, she went the whole way. I was simply her little secret. She'd sneak out with me here and there when she could but she didn't want to be seen with me publicly. Also, I accepted that at the end of the day I would have to take her back home before her boyfriend got home from work as she was expected to be home.

We would talk and text daily to keep our love and connection strong but he was her main man and she belonged to him. He was her primary and all her friends got to know him and did all activities with him included instead of me. So clubbing would involve him and my gf with her friends and so forth. Social media would be one of the many ways that i was kept involved in her life and how i would first hand see how she was interacting and giving herself to her boyfriend. It was normal to see her friends tag her in images where she was dressed very provocative and showing PDA with her bf. It took a little getting used to but I grew to really like seeing her images with him and looked forward to the weekends to see where she would end up with her boyfriend and her friends. My favorite posts were night club pictures of her in skimpy dresses with her boyfriend

It was very real and extremely erotic watching my gf completely belong to another man. Seeing her not hold back in front of anyone with him. Publicly he was her primary man. Privately he was absolutely her primary sexual partner, the one who devoured her at night and left her full of semen and sore but satisfied. She did tell me quite often on how she loved getting handled by him, his spontaneousness and sexuality was the reason she could not resist going sexually exclusive with him, becoming his girlfriend, and ultimately going to live with him. She wanted to give herself to him completely and i was supportive and willing to put us on hold publicly so that she wouldn't have to hold back. It was all an adventure that we both thoroughly enjoyed but it was temporary. She eventually moved back after 18 months and we resumed our life of reconnecting and being a normal couple without partaking in the lifestyle. Until she found her next lover and we discussed trying that experience again. We both loved her moving away and belonging to someone else.

I realize that at this point this is an older post but I applaud you both for having the confidence in your relationship to try this. It had to be an erotic wild ride that eventually made you stronger as a couple.

Thank you, I'd like to say that I was a young and bold 21 year old who was strictly thinking with his dick and craving all the sexy risk in the world but the reality is that now in my 30s, I'd still give anything to relive this experience again. It's not for the faint of heart but it's so amazing to be on edge 24/7 permanently for months at a time while your girlfriend or wife is away giving herself unconditionally to another man. Part of the sexiness to it is that she is full on actively giving herself to another man full time there is very little that you can do IF anything at all other than suck it up and hope to learn to enjoy it because you don't know how long it will go for.

In my case I thought it was only for 12 eternal months but then on the 11th month when I thought it was finally almost over, she informed me that she had extended the lease another 6 months which meant 18 months away from home. Sometime around the 16th month she told me that she was thinking of extending another 6 months and asked me how I would feel if she decided to not come home and Instead go the full 2 years away. I gave her my blessing to make the decision herself and told her I would understand if she extended.

Part of me hoped that she extended despite wanting her back home. Ultimately she did not and came back home but deep down I think I was excited and hoping to see how long I could go watching my girlfriend live away from me while giving herself to someone else. This instance has led me to many crazy ideas and desires after that. Such in the future having multiple properties and giving my wife a bachelorette pad where she can live the single life and lock herself away with other men.

Yes the experience made us stronger as a couple but other life factors were stronger and worked against us ultimately drifting apart. Sadly these circumstances occurred while she was long-term with her second boyfriend so it was a distraction for her to work on herself and the relationship. That is why a couple should be 100% solid before jumping into the lifestyle. I still don't regret it and want to do this with my current girlfriend as our relationship is definitely as solid as can be.

[little sissy Benita]

We have been married for almost 20 years - but the last 7 years only on paper. We wanted to expand our horizons after the birth of our second son and started cuckolding. That was ok for me because I don't have much interest in sexual things - apart from that the satisfaction of my former wife wasn't really there - with a tiny willie that's not really possible and besides I was usually finished after 2 minutes.

I was allowed to watch the first time - but I was pussy free from the start - which I think is appropriate. After she later started dating African men, I had to stay at home and watching was also forbidden.

Then she met an African and she went dancing with him, to the cinema, went on excursions and so on - she didn't do anything with me anymore. A little before that she started to feminize me - not like a woman, but like a little girl - also with ponytails, pigtails, diapers, pacifiers and so on.

She fell in love with him and I wasn't surprised when she told me, I no longer see you as a husband - but as my little daughter - and I want Paul to move in with us. After a while I agreed and they both started living in the house as a married couple. There was no question that I had to leave the bedroom and I moved into the guest room, now my baby/child's room.

For me it was/is important that the kids accept him as the head of the family, even if that means that the kids address him as daddy and no longer me.

She no longer allows me to be close - not even for me to kiss her on the mouth - only on the cheek - like a little kid. I'm also not allowed to say or write that she is my wife - and I only want to address her as mommy.

It's interesting that other cuckolds experience similar situations

little Benita

[Shiphead]

I also know this is an old post but WTF? This isn't a poly relationship. It is a wife being supported by someone she no longer has an interest in. Your job is to support your wife's relationship to a cheating husband with a wife and family. Cheater's money goes to his family while OP's money goes to support your "wife" and the cheater. Though I don't fully understand a poly LS, what they have isn't even any sort of hotwife variation. Being kicked to the curb sure isn't a good outcome.
Then OP goes on to say that she and her boss were trying to get her pregnant! Then what? You get to support their kid too?
The last post by littlesissy (Little Benita) is as bad or worse. Support your "wife" and BBC while you wear diapers and sleep in the baby's room? Can't even kiss her or hold hands or get close to her? Another guy supporting a so called wife and bbc husband with no benefit at all from the wife or new husband? And how in the fuck are you screwing up your kids lives??? Call FB daddy while your in diapers?
Those kids need to be taken away from you all and put into a SANE situation. I wish I could call Child Welfare dept on you myself. Kids should never be part of your stupid kink LS. What is wrong with you. You should be arrested for child neglect.
Sorry OHW. But no one should allow this to involve kids!!!

[isharedmywifein2018]

I went with the flow on this and there is a lot of role play that makes the situation hot for both of us. I was not only denied PIV but was told I would not be allowed to see her pussy any longer. She can’t get pregnant but definitely enjoyed letting me know he wanted to get her pregnant. When the relationship ended we reset and I started getting PIV again in fact got it last night for the second time this week. She’s looking and still goes to her elite lifestyle weekend get aways without me. When she finds a new bull and asks him to move in it will start again. I enjoy the lifestyle and nothing turns me on more then watching her get fucked by a bull especially when she comes while he’s fucking her.

[Shiphead]

That's perfect. The way we all hope it will turn out. Positive for you both.
Congratulations

[Hot4mywife]

Gina went to California for a ten day summer holiday with Bill and we don't hear another thing. I hope things are good for hubby and all three. I wish hubby would tell us more regardless if it is good or not so good.

I’ve just been offline a lot due to being busy. Gina and Bill had a great time. When Gina got home, she was positively glowing. Since that time, Bill has been staying at our house 2-3 weekends a month. During those times, Gina sleeps with Bill in our extra bedroom. Often, he stops by during the week. A few times, Gina gave me sloppy seconds, and I even ate Bill’s creampie on 2-3 occasions, something I thought I’d never do.

We had a long July 4 weekend vacation to the beach over 5 nights. We stayed in a hotel room with 2 double beds, with Gina and Bill sharing one. Although I do enjoy seeing Gina making love with Bill, he’s not too keen on seeing me make love with her. That happened once during our vacation, and Bill chose to take a walk by the beach for a couple of hours.

All in all, things are going great. Yes, Bill continues to be Gina’s primary lover, but I don’t feel excluded or ignored in anyway. I’m happy with making love with my wife every 1-2 weeks.

Thanks for the update. I am happy it's going so well for you all.

[JeffBingham]

Gina went to California for a ten day summer holiday with Bill and we don't hear another thing. I hope things are good for hubby and all three. I wish hubby would tell us more regardless if it is good or not so good.

I’ve just been offline a lot due to being busy. Gina and Bill had a great time. When Gina got home, she was positively glowing. Since that time, Bill has been staying at our house 2-3 weekends a month. During those times, Gina sleeps with Bill in our extra bedroom. Often, he stops by during the week. A few times, Gina gave me sloppy seconds, and I even ate Bill’s creampie on 2-3 occasions, something I thought I’d never do.

We had a long July 4 weekend vacation to the beach over 5 nights. We stayed in a hotel room with 2 double beds, with Gina and Bill sharing one. Although I do enjoy seeing Gina making love with Bill, he’s not too keen on seeing me make love with her. That happened once during our vacation, and Bill chose to take a walk by the beach for a couple of hours.

All in all, things are going great. Yes, Bill continues to be Gina’s primary lover, but I don’t feel excluded or ignored in anyway. I’m happy with making love with my wife every 1-2 weeks.

Thanks for the update. I am happy it's going so well for you all.

FYI, that post you quoted was from Aug 11 of last year. That was also the last time he logged into this site. Looks like he ain’t coming back so we’ll probably never know how things worked out.

[sana9889]

No such thing as temp exclusive.
Exclusive is a long term thing.

[ucaneffher]

No such thing as temp exclusive.
Exclusive is a long term thing.

That is a damn fact. In our early 20s when my girlfriend started dating her regular lover of nearly 4-5 years, she told me that once she was his girlfriend she was becoming exclusive with him. I objected and tried and tried and tried to have sex with her but she was 100% firm and the end I just accepted him being her main sexual partner and boyfriend. The minute she was exclusive with him she was off birth control. 8 months she kept me on edge without sex. That was definitely not temporary exclusive and the only reason exclusivity ended was because I started putting my foot down and demanding sex...

[sana9889]

Yes.. I'm exclusive with my bf.
He gets sex almost every day. ( Have been anal and oral only for 6 months now). But before that, no birth control but i use a diaphram.

I have sex with other guys only when he arranges it. With girls its a bit more free. I dont have a lot of female partners atm. Mostly his wife. Sometimes I bring other girls to join in with my bf. He knws im more sexually attracted to girls and doesn't mind me playing with that from time to time.

My husband and I are still close and bonded. But its more like a close girl friend than a lover. I dont show him my pussy. I dont mind him seeing me topless, my tits are pretty flat a cups anyway. I dont like hi seeing my pussy as feel my bf owns my pussy and ass hole. (I actually vet a bit emotional and tear up sometimes when be gets other men to fuck me anywhere other than my mouth) So letting my husband see my sex holes is... no.. doesn't feel right.

Sex with my husband is either anal for him by my strapon or masturbating in panties like girlfriends.

Going exclusive will change her relationship dynamix in a big way. A feminine woman naturally wants to be owned. She cant be owned by more than one. Men arent hard wired in the same way, so it may be harder to understand this.

When she is just fucking around its different. Its only when she makes the choice to bond that its hard to change things. You will be a good gal pal at best.

[sana9889]

Would you be happy being her gal pal?
Share emotions and experiences. Maybe watch porn and masturbate in the same room (with her modest clothes on to protect her dignity) Maybe you get some kisses and a handjob from time to time.

Her bf will own her sexually and use her as he pleases. Even if he wants to pimp her our or get her pregnant?

[ConfusedHubby65]

No such thing as temp exclusive.
Exclusive is a long term thing.

Well, I suppose that Gina is an exception to that rule. When I first started this thread, Gina and Bill were just beginning their relationship. They were totally enamored with each other and kinda in a honeymoon phase. She asked me to trust that her exclusivity with him would be temporary, and I did

In our case, it all worked out. Bill is Gina’s primary sex partner simply because my sex drive is lower than hers. Gina’s exclusivity with Bill lasted a few months, until she finally wanted me again sexually. These days, Gina and I are closer than ever and have sex every 2-3 weeks. Bill is almost a second husband to her, and they fuck several times a week. Everyone is happy.

[ucaneffher]

Sorry, I'm sure this was for someone else but wanted to share my side as well. Hope that's okay and not taking over the thread..

Would you be happy being her gal pal?

Not in a gay or sissy way but I was totally my girlfriends gal pal for 7 years while she dated other men and while she was involved in serious long term relationships with two other men. She confided in me, asked for advice, came for outfit ideas, anniversary/gift ideas for her men, and simply told me everything about her life with other men. I loved that she trusted me with so much detail as if I was her BFF.

Share emotions and experiences. Maybe watch porn and masturbate in the same room (with her modest clothes on to protect her dignity) Maybe you get some kisses and a handjob from time to time.

I definitely masturbated quite a lot with her, especially when she cut me off indefinitely from penetration because she decided to reserve herself for her boyfriend(s) so we would mutually masturbate side by side, or she would tell me her adventures of her weekends away with her lovers/boyfriend and is masturbate to those, sometimes I would just masturbate to her getting ready or trying on the lingerie she would be wearing over the weekend for her man. Often times it was a combination, we would mutually masturbate while she was wearing her 6 inch heels, stockings, and lingerie.

Her bf will own her sexually and use her as he pleases. Even if he wants to pimp her our or get her pregnant?

Her men definitely used her as they eased and she loved it, she was so submissive that she wanted to be used. Luckily none of her men ever tried pimping her out or knocking her up, although she had baby fever with her 2nd boyfriend and she got off birth control the minute she cut me off sex and became exclusive with him. She told me that she was not trying to get pregnant but she definitely was not trying to prevent it either.. she was just going along with it and letting nature decide if she got pregnant or not.

I paid for plan b a handful of times despite not having had sex in over half of year with her. I guess nature decided it but I interfered with it by getting her the plan b. Her mentality was that if I didn't get her plan b, she would just ride it out and let nature take it's course so it was up to me to prevent it.

[sana9889]

Being a gal pal doesn't have to be gay at all.
However, if you do want to try some dick, she would be the most supportive person in the world for you.
And trying dick doesn't necessarily qualify you as gay, it may just be another expression of your sexuality.
You may become an integral part of her sex with her partners as a receiving participant (anal and or oral), or a supporting participant to support her pleasure (hold her hand, lay on your lap, spread her cheeks ect). So there are certain rewards to how far you mah want to go.

[ucaneffher]

.
And trying dick doesn't necessarily qualify you as gay, it may just be another expression of your sexuality.

Ehhhhh I strongly disagree with that... I am comfortable with my sexuality and secure in what I like and that is not something that I will ever try nor have felt curiosity to try.

Nonetheless, I respect those who may try same sex activities / enjoy them. It's simply not for me. On that note though, I believe that if it involves same sex contact, by default it is absolutely, most definitely, indubitably, and undeniably GAY but that's just my opinion.

The only participation I care for is watching, encouraging, enabling, and perhaps assisting HER.

Assisting her includes anything from planning dates to picking outfits, driving her, or any type of assistance for her. Not so much as in grabbing a man's penis and guiding it in or bending over and getting penetrated.
I would certainly hold legs open for another man or hold her hand, perhaps give her support or leverage during awkward angles/positions but that's as far as I would go

[sana9889]

I am romantically interested in girls. I love their curves and softness. Seeing a nice hairy pussy with all the folds makes me bloom like a flower.
But there is a different satisfaction with a dick and cum. A dick is the moat honest organ. It cant fake an erection when it likes something. It cant fake the throbbing and expansions from pleasure. And it cant fake an orgasm. This is the reason why a lot of lesbians like gay male porn or shemale porn.
For Physiology.. girls need sperm and semen. Its almost a health requirement for any sexual aged girl. Sooner later she will need it for chemical balance.
My ideal girl would have a dick. That would be perfect for me.

But if you dont want to.. thats also fine. You can still be her BFF and do everything else for her. Its the sweetest thing to have someone hold your hands while your are bent over being fucked hard from behind. Or someone to spread your legs and cheeks. You can share everything heart and soul except for sexuality.
You will always be the most important man to her. There may come a time when she won't want to show you her pussy or tits anymore. By this i mean she will wear panties and top around you
even to bed, or keep covered with a towel- except if you are involved in sex with her partners, in which case its to show them her pussy and tits- you are there to support her. But dont be upset with that, think of it as an upgrade on your relationship. You can always still be around her to share her experiences and deepest thoughts and desires.

You will love pillow time like this. Being masturbated and masturbating together are two different thing. You need to be specially close to be able to masturbate yourself next to someone close who is masturbating themselves. Its not the same as watching a guy jack off either. (she may still keep her panties on.. I hope you can understand) Discuss fantasies, watch porn, talk about the men she has met. She'll tell you her innermost thoughts that no one will ever hear.

[stevens4fun]

This sounds like a good outcome for all concerned. Gina is satisfied and your relationship with her remains strong. You didn't have to move Bill in and deal with all of the issues that come with moving a lover in. Bill is her primary lover, which all of you like and you get to enjoy your wife when you are feeling ready to do so. I can relate to the "sex every 2-3 weeks" part, as we age our "need" occurs less frequently. My wife is 11 years younger and she always needed sex more than me and for that reason she too had a long term lover who was her primary sex partner.

No such thing as temp exclusive.
Exclusive is a long term thing.

Well, I suppose that Gina is an exception to that rule. When I first started this thread, Gina and Bill were just beginning their relationship. They were totally enamored with each other and kinda in a honeymoon phase. She asked me to trust that her exclusivity with him would be temporary, and I did

In our case, it all worked out. Bill is Gina’s primary sex partner simply because my sex drive is lower than hers. Gina’s exclusivity with Bill lasted a few months, until she finally wanted me again sexually. These days, Gina and I are closer than ever and have sex every 2-3 weeks. Bill is almost a second husband to her, and they fuck several times a week. Everyone is happy.

[little sissy Benita]

All are happy, how it should be.
You and your wife become closer and you have sexual relationships still with her.

I love to read this.

In a cuckold relationship you never know where the journey will take you.

For me, sexual things were almost a burden. Of course we had sex, but she wanted more - but I didn't.
When the second son was born, we started cuckolding. I loved that she could now meet real men and have fun.

To be complete pussy free was best for me and I was happy and grateful for this.

I know that many people don't understand my story - at first I was surprised that I allowed it. But it's the best thing for everyone.
I wasn't interested in feminization - but I realized that I was basically always like a toddler or something - and I saw feminization as a kind of game.

I thought it was a great thing that she started meeting African men and I was thrilled.

Of course I was surprised when she told me that she had fallen in love with him and I was afraid of losing her - and I was ready to do whatever she asked of me.

He then moved into the house - and later became part of his family.

As things progressed, he became her new husband - only he had intercourse with her - also bareback - and she got pregnant.

At the same time, I became more and more like her little daughter and agreed to a regression into babyhood.

For me as an infant it was great to see her pregnant with a real man's baby in her belly

I suppose that Gina is an exception to that rule. When I first started this thread, Gina and Bill were just beginning their relationship. They were totally enamored with each other and kinda in a honeymoon phase. She asked me to trust that her exclusivity with him would be temporary, and I did

In our case, it all worked out. Bill is Gina’s primary sex partner simply because my sex drive is lower than hers. Gina’s exclusivity with Bill lasted a few months, until she finally wanted me again sexually. These days, Gina and I are closer than ever and have sex every 2-3 weeks. Bill is almost a second husband to her, and they fuck several times a week. Everyone is happy.