My wife is now polyamorous and in love

[Minnhotwife]

What a journey!

We went from a hotwife relationship to monogamist for a few years. Then my wife connected with an old co-worker who was also in an open marriage. They dated for a few months and the NRE was intense!! They ended up taking a break and then we fully opened up.

Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel which we will pay part of the cost. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

We might be moving to non-hierarchical polyamory as I am no longer her primary sexual partner and not the only man my wife loves. I’m happy for my wife and have given her full consent to explore and get as involved as she feels comfortable. I might start meeting these guys who love my wife, too.

[mundyman]

What a journey!

We went from a hotwife relationship to monogamist for a few years. Then my wife connected with an old co-worker who was also in an open marriage. They dated for a few months and the NRE was intense!! They ended up taking a break and then we fully opened up.

Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

We might be moving to non-hierarchical polyamory as I am no longer her primary sexual partner and not the only man my wife loves. I’m happy for my wife and have given her full consent to explore and get as involved as she feels comfortable. I might start meeting these guys who love my wife, too.

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

[Minnhotwife]

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

Thanks for another reply!! She has really changed her physical appearance from different lipstick shades to dressing up extra sexy for him.

No, she wears my wedding rings (for now) and wraps them around his cock as she gives him a blowjob. I don't know if she will exchange jewelry but I would love it if she got a tattoo for him.

I'm not worried at all anymore. I was for awhile but understand this is who she is and accept and love her for it. It took a lot of therapy to get to this point. Now, I want all of us to enjoy the experiences. It will probably resemble more a cuckold relationship in the short term as my wife wants to take a break from us having sex right now. I do plan to ask for pics/video of them together along with giving her massages and hearing about her experiences. Cream pie if I am lucky.

[KennyA]

That's awesome Minnhotwife

[PANTIES]

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

Thanks for another reply!! She has really changed her physical appearance from different lipstick shades to dressing up extra sexy for him.

No, she wears my wedding rings (for now) and wraps them around his cock as she gives him a blowjob. I don't know if she will exchange jewelry but I would love it if she got a tattoo for him.

I'm not worried at all anymore. I was for awhile but understand this is who she is and accept and love her for it. It took a lot of therapy to get to this point. Now, I want all of us to enjoy the experiences. It will probably resemble more a cuckold relationship in the short term as my wife wants to take a break from us having sex right now. I do plan to ask for pics/video of them together along with giving her massages and hearing about her experiences. Cream pie if I am lucky.

This is exactly what is happening now with my wife and her lover. She had completely changed her appearance for him including hair color and style, make up and she keeps her pussy shaved. He wants her get to have laser with me paying for the treatment. Several months ago she put her wedding rings in a box and now wears his ring.

I no longer sleep with her, I was told to move into the extra bedroom. We have not had intercourse since January 2019. Shortly after that I asked him to I become the male in her life and he accepted.

It is what it is,

Pauline

[Minnhotwife]

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

Thanks for another reply!! She has really changed her physical appearance from different lipstick shades to dressing up extra sexy for him.

No, she wears my wedding rings (for now) and wraps them around his cock as she gives him a blowjob. I don't know if she will exchange jewelry but I would love it if she got a tattoo for him.

I'm not worried at all anymore. I was for awhile but understand this is who she is and accept and love her for it. It took a lot of therapy to get to this point. Now, I want all of us to enjoy the experiences. It will probably resemble more a cuckold relationship in the short term as my wife wants to take a break from us having sex right now. I do plan to ask for pics/video of them together along with giving her massages and hearing about her experiences. Cream pie if I am lucky.

This is exactly what is happening now with my wife and her lover. She had completely changed her appearance for him including hair color and style, make up and she keeps her pussy shaved. He wants her get to have laser with me paying for the treatment. Several months ago she put her wedding rings in a box and now wears his ring.

I no longer sleep with her, I was told to move into the extra bedroom. We have not had intercourse since January 2019. Shortly after that I asked him to I become the male in her life and he accepted.

It is what it is,

Pauline

Hi Pauline,

Thanks for letting me know and for the update. Sounds like things are much different for you out West. Good to hear from you again.

My wife also waxes her pussy regularly now and never did it before we opened up. Her lovers like the smooth feel and even if I asked her to stop, she wouldn't.

[PANTIES]

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

Thanks for another reply!! She has really changed her physical appearance from different lipstick shades to dressing up extra sexy for him.

No, she wears my wedding rings (for now) and wraps them around his cock as she gives him a blowjob. I don't know if she will exchange jewelry but I would love it if she got a tattoo for him.

I'm not worried at all anymore. I was for awhile but understand this is who she is and accept and love her for it. It took a lot of therapy to get to this point. Now, I want all of us to enjoy the experiences. It will probably resemble more a cuckold relationship in the short term as my wife wants to take a break from us having sex right now. I do plan to ask for pics/video of them together along with giving her massages and hearing about her experiences. Cream pie if I am lucky.

This is exactly what is happening now with my wife and her lover. She had completely changed her appearance for him including hair color and style, make up and she keeps her pussy shaved. He wants her get to have laser with me paying for the treatment. Several months ago she put her wedding rings in a box and now wears his ring.

I no longer sleep with her, I was told to move into the extra bedroom. We have not had intercourse since January 2019. Shortly after that I asked him to I become the male in her life and he accepted.

It is what it is,

Pauline

Hi Pauline,

Thanks for letting me know and for the update. Sounds like things are much different for you out West. Good to hear from you again.

My wife also waxes her pussy regularly now and never did it before we opened up. Her lovers like the smooth feel and even if I asked her to stop, she wouldn't.

You are most welcome. My wife told her mother she has a lover when her mother noticed she as not wearing her weddings but a different ring. When asked my wife told her told her I have a lover as I don’t satisfy her sexually.

It’s come to the point they spend weekends at her mother’s home sleeping together in her former bedroom.

Pauline

[Minnhotwife]

What a journey!

We went from a hotwife relationship to monogamist for a few years. Then my wife connected with an old co-worker who was also in an open marriage. They dated for a few months and the NRE was intense!! They ended up taking a break and then we fully opened up.

Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

We might be moving to non-hierarchical polyamory as I am no longer her primary sexual partner and not the only man my wife loves. I’m happy for my wife and have given her full consent to explore and get as involved as she feels comfortable. I might start meeting these guys who love my wife, too.

Does she do anything special for him to show that they are in a relationship.
Has she changed her physical appearance for him?
Does she dress special for him, or in a way that he has requested?
Does she wear her rings when she’s with him, or do they have rings or other jewelry to signify their relationship?
Are you worried where their relationship might go and what effect it will have on yours?
Please keep us updated!!

Sir, as promised here's an update. My lovely wife is spending a weekend alone in town to recharge and practice self-care. I know she's had at least one guy over and has been active on her social media accounts where she texts with her boyfriends. She also uses discord and I don't have it on my phone so no idea how much she's on there, too.

Oh, to answer your question in case I forgot, yes she now fully waxes for herself and lovers. Hasn't had public hair in almost a year. And she wears knockout dresses and lingerie.

Hope you're having a good Memorial Day weekend! I appreciate you giving me insight and advice! You're always free to PM me if you have offline suggestions or just want to chat.

[PANTIES]

My wife went line dancing last night. When he picked her up , he just came in to get her. She came out wearing a tank top he purchased for her along with a matching g-string. Her hair in a ponytail, wearing Levi’s and her cowboy boots. She dresses for him.

As they were leaving he told me he’ll bring her back Saturday after he’s finished with her. He knows he controls both of us.

Pauline

[bernhard-bln]

... He knows he controls both of us.

My wife was in the same situation: having a lover, nice fucking experiences, controlled totally by her lover - in the end of the day she asked him: "Will you marry me, my husband cannot satisfy my needs". That was the end of our marriage.

[PANTIES]

... He knows he controls both of us.

My wife was in the same situation: having a lover, nice fucking experiences, controlled totally by her lover - in the end of the day she asked him: "Will you marry me, my husband cannot satisfy my needs". That was the end of our marriage.

I’m sorry you lost your wife. This past Thursday she and I went to dinner and shortly after arriving he should up and sat on her side of the table and started kissing her and feeding her from his plate.

When we finished dinner and when to our cdd at r, he had parked next to us my wife told me I’m going with him. He told me not to worry about her as I’ll take care of her. My wife said, I’ll text you in the morning when to come get me.

I got a text from her the next day and went to get her. I walked in his home she was wearing one of his t-shirts and her g-string. Her dress was on the bedroom floor. That’s what she worn home.

As we were leaving, he said, thanks for asking me to be the man in life. All I could say, you’re welcome.

Pauline

[ericsacto]

What a journey!
Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel which we will pay part of the cost. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

Is the other guy also married? If so have the two wives met yet?

[veub]

How is this "non-hierarchical polyamory" when the other guy is clearly her primary (actually exclusive) partner?

[Minnhotwife]

What a journey!
Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel which we will pay part of the cost. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

Is the other guy also married? If so have the two wives met yet?

Neither guy is married. Just have girlfriends. She's keeping all of us separate for now.

[Minnhotwife]

How is this "non-hierarchical polyamory" when the other guy is clearly her primary (actually exclusive) partner?

Sorry if I didn't state this right. My wife is not sure about our status right now but I can say we are no longer primary partners. My hotwife has several lovers and we are having less and less sex. Our marriage is changing quickly and I am not even sure where it will go from here.

[Long Lurker 34]

How is this "non-hierarchical polyamory" when the other guy is clearly her primary (actually exclusive) partner?

Sorry if I didn't state this right. My wife is not sure about our status right now but I can say we are no longer primary partners. My hotwife has several lovers and we are having less and less sex. Our marriage is changing quickly and I am not even sure where it will go from here.

MHW - Excuse me if I have this incorrect. You have adult children and your wife seems to be less involved with you. Is it possible, now your children are no longer in the house she desires to leave and live her own "best life"? This slow separation is twofold of her finding her way and letting you down gently?

I'm certainly not wishing this, but viewing this somewhat from the outside.....

[Minnhotwife]

How is this "non-hierarchical polyamory" when the other guy is clearly her primary (actually exclusive) partner?

Sorry if I didn't state this right. My wife is not sure about our status right now but I can say we are no longer primary partners. My hotwife has several lovers and we are having less and less sex. Our marriage is changing quickly and I am not even sure where it will go from here.

MHW - Excuse me if I have this incorrect. You have adult children and your wife seems to be less involved with you. Is it possible, now your children are no longer in the house she desires to leave and live her own "best life"? This slow separation is twofold of her finding her way and letting you down gently?

I'm certainly not wishing this, but viewing this somewhat from the outside.....

Sorry but you’re mistaken and probably because you might not have all the facts. It’s okay. We have children at home still and many years to go.

Our marriage is evolving and in ways I neither imagined nor expected when we first opened up. And now there’s no going back to either a closed marriage or even one where I can have any input on my wife’s sexual desires or relationships.

I would just add to you and others what so many others have posted here on OHW. Once you have a verified hotwife, there really is no going back. Luckily, I love sharing my wife and so that part is always helpful even if we hit a rough patch.

I think we will be okay long term once we figure out our new marriage arrangement and how we interact as a couple and lovers. I have to accept I am just one of my wife’s lovers and not even her primary. It was hard to admit this.

[FNQLivin]

That last sentence really got to me. Something about that I would find hard to take. I’d be able to accept no longer being her sole lover, but not being the main AND then sharing the emotional component of being partners, that’s hard.

[Minnhotwife]

That last sentence really got to me. Something about that I would find hard to take. I’d be able to accept no longer being her sole lover, but not being the main AND then sharing the emotional component of being partners, that’s hard.

Thanks for your feedback and thoughts. It's actually easy to let go once you realize by trying to hold on to your wife, you actually are doing more harm than good. By freeing her to pursue what pleases her, it makes re-connecting easier. There's no animosity or resentment.

My wife is free to date other men, fall in love, and get her needs met by myself and others. She is realizing how much she has to have a strong relationship with me even if it's mainly for parenting, conversation, and occasional sex for now. Our marriage and relationship will continue to change and she could even end up just being a hall pass or FWB. She's already let so many guys go after a short or even long-term relationship. Nothing is static.

Don't worry about us. Either way, we will be fine.

[Des 31]

What a journey!

We went from a hotwife relationship to monogamist for a few years. Then my wife connected with an old co-worker who was also in an open marriage. They dated for a few months and the NRE was intense!! They ended up taking a break and then we fully opened up.

Since early 2021, my wife has had dozens of dates and over 10 lovers. While most fizzled out, she finally met one man who practices polyamory several months ago and they really hit it off emotionally and sexually. A few weeks ago, she admitted she’s in love with him and they now have regular dates. She’s also going to start spending overnights at his house or a hotel which we will pay part of the cost. She’s also talking to another polyamorous guy and wants to see if he is also a good lover and commit to him emotionally, too.

We might be moving to non-hierarchical polyamory as I am no longer her primary sexual partner and not the only man my wife loves. I’m happy for my wife and have given her full consent to explore and get as involved as she feels comfortable. I might start meeting these guys who love my wife, too.

You experience is a good example of how a couple's original intentions can change as time goes on. Swingers, hotwives, polyamorous couples, and/or stag/vixens find other avenues of interest to pursue. My wife and I prefer the hotwife relationship we have developed, but each of us have considered alternatives. If at some future time we go another way, we agree it will be a mutually agreed-upon journey. We think that if a marriage is secure - with trust and good communication - any of these can work to the benefit of both.

~ Des

[PANTIES]

I surrendered all sexually activity to her lover when I asked him to become the man in her life. It’s been three years and I know she loves him but she’s not in love. That part of her life is reserved for me.

She sees him as much as possible time permitting. Last summer she moved in with him for a month. Longest 59 days I’ve ever experienced. I only saw her twice when I was invited to dinner.

Pauline

[Chrislydi]

Having read Minihotwife's recent post in another thread on the cuckold forum

viewtopic.php?t=66736&start=100#p1341220

to quote

"Hi gang!

Well, it's time to let you all know. Add another couple to the breakup column. My wife and I are on the way to separation and probably divorce due in large part to our open marriage/hotwife experience.

As so many others have said, be careful what you ask for and know the risks. Given all of the good advice here, we should have known better.

If you really and truly think you can handle your wife being with other men and be okay as a cuck or stag, think a second time as once you open up the box, for almost all couples, there is no going back. Especially the liberated wives/girlfriends. Why would they go back to just one cock when they have all of these other options? Now my wife will be able to have all the new guys and experiences she wants without having to worry about pleasing me. I'll still be a good father, friend, and support her with other relationships if we end up divorcing.

I would strongly recommend counseling with a kink/ENM friendly therapist before opening up from swinging to full blown cuck with a cage.

Good luck to all of you. Hope you have learned from my posts and if so, that's a positive takeaway for me. :"

I'm sorry it didn't work out for the OP but hope he might find someone else to share his life with in the future.

Chris

[Cherrypopper+]

To me some of the posts here seem to be referring to cuckold relationships.

[Cucklove101]

My wife been dating a guy from work and she has her BBC fwb that we met online. We had a deep reconnecting talk and I asked her what she truly wanted and she admitted she needs me to step back and be less needy and trust her but she wants a boyfriend and she knows that he will be her main lover that I'm her best friend the love of her life and the person she built a life with but has accepted me as a cuckold and that means I need to accept what she wants and needs too... so we have agreed we are a poly cuck couple lol

[Chrislydi]

I always thought this thread was about Minihotwife's journey until it crashed and burnt and his warning to others in light of this...

I would strongly recommend counseling with a kink/ENM friendly therapist before opening up from swinging to full blown cuck with a cage.

But not a general thread for lots of others to put different responses on a single themed question. So it's Minihotwife's own thread NOT a common one for all.

Chris