Poly with a Cuckold Twist

[sherulestherooster]

I concur it would be great to have an update. Can’t remember if the house they are building has any particular customizations related to their lifestyle. I also don’t think subguy went into detail on their BDSM adventure.

[DLD]

Been almost a month since an update. Hope all is well with everyone.

[subguy80]

Been almost a month since an update. Hope all is well with everyone.

I'm sorry, guys. Everything is good. It's just been crazy busy. I was back in Tampa on work for a couple of weeks.

Our new house will be ready in about 5-8 weeks and that will be exciting. I think I may have mentioned it, but in case I didn't, we have "customized" it to fit our lifestyle. We bought a piece of property that is several acres so we have complete privacy. A big, wonderful feature that northern homes have is the ability to have a basement! You don't have that in Florida because in most places it would be below the water table! So, we've taken advantage of that and have made a "discrete" playroom for BDSM. I say "discrete" because we have two teen-aged boys (actually four, with Aaron's two) so there are hooks in certain parts of the ceiling that are not too visible, lighting that is dimmable and an open area that can be covered with some mats and become a playroom.

We're building a guest house where relatives can stay. When no relatives are with us, the boys have already claimed it as their space!

I know I've mentioned that BDSM has become a larger part of our sex. It seems to be a way to stay creative and to also reinforce the dom/sub dynamic. D+D, you had asked about the sex between Aaron and me. There has been no real male on male contact with us for several months when Sarah has not been involved. That might partly be a function of busy lives and no time. Generally, any sex with Aaron is a by-product of sex with the three of us. By that I mean things like: me under her licking her clit while he fucks her from behind. He will usually put his cock in my mouth several times while he fucks her. His balls will slap against my forehead and face. When he ejaculates, I'm in the perfect position to get the leaking creampie and clean her up, as well as him. Another thing we do fairly frequently is for Sarah and me to suck his cock together, takikng turns. This probably sounds crazy to those of you who can't imagine ever sucking on a cock, but there is something very intimate about sharing a cock with your wife. We take turns sucking him, kissing in between and guiding his cock into each other's mouth. When he cums into one of our mouths, we kiss and snowball his cum from one mouth to the other. For us, it's a very intimate thing to do.

For anyone who is counting, we had our 1-year anniversary of our cuckold marriage ceremony a few weeks ago. We want to recognize that, but it's just been too busy to give it the attention it needs. So, we're planning something appropriate and fun (meaning sexy) in a couple of months.

Again, sorry for the tardy reply. I'll try and give an update more frequently.

[RGB49FL]

Thanks so much for the update. You're probably melting being back down here in FL. It's 98 in Lakeland today, plus humidity. Hope you have fun in your new basement playhouse.

[NewOldCuck]

subguy,
Congratulations on your anniversary. I'll admit, I was one of those who expressed my reservations about your "lifestyle" when you first mentioned it. I am so glad it is working for all three of you. I know it can't be as easy as you make it seem. Maintaining a good relationship between two people is hard enough, I hate to think how much it takes for three, not to mention all the teenagers.
New Old Cuck

[ucaneffher]

Definitely congratulations. I for one envy your arrangement and would love for my girlfriend to get herself a good boyfriend and head in the same exact direction as you guys. I would love to watch a relationship develop up close and be part of it as well.

[ScottieWilliams]

Congrats, Subguy! You're living the dream

[subguy80]

Definitely congratulations. I for one envy your arrangement and would love for my girlfriend to get herself a good boyfriend and head in the same exact direction as you guys. I would love to watch a relationship develop up close and be part of it as well.

Why is it that some of us get turned on by the idea of our wives/girlfriends falling in love with another guy? Maybe we enjoy living "on the edge?" There is always a risk. Or the rush of seeing your wife in a new romance? There is an element of humiliation in it, for sure, seeing and hearing your wife talk about how much she loves what another man can do for her that you can't. But it's something that seems to be very common, at least among a subset of cucks and maybe some husbands of hotwives.

[ucaneffher]

I wish I had an answer for you but I don't. I just know that I want to be right by her side every step of the way supporting her as she transitions to another man becoming her primary partner instead of me. Once we are all on the same page and accept our roles, I want to live together and have front row seats to watching my girlfriend and her partner be together how her and I would be. I want to be able to witness her riding him and begging him to cum inside her. I want to witness her not holding back at all with him. Helping her plan anniversary presents for him such as lingerie, outfits, restaurants, even destination for them to go away.

I've had a gf move together with her BF in the past but this time, I want to see first hand how my gf says goodnight to me and walks away in her skimpy comfy pajamas into her room where she sleeps with him. I want to be able to hear them making love at night, I want to see her getting ready and trying on different dresses for her dates with him and wishing them a happy date as they leave the house looking like a million dollars.

I used to fight this especially because it made no sense but have slowly been accepting myself and that I would've fine with something like this becoming part of my reality and long term life.

[venus-can99]

I have been reading this thread and your posts in the cuckold forum with great interest. While not in a polyamorous LS I am very cusrious about it. It has been just over a year since your ceremony and congratulations to the 3 of you on navigating the waters, You had mentioned that your sons (including Aaron's) are teenagers now. Hope things are going well with them as well.
Here is wishing you the best in LS and many more years of love

Venus

[subguy80]

We have two anniversaries in our poly marriage. The first one is Sarah and my official, legal wedding anniversary, which is today, our 21st! Our second wedding anniversary is when she and I recommitted our vows, along with her lover, Aaron, and the three of us formed our poly-cuckold “marriage.”

This afternoon, she and I will go to a spa and have a couple’s massage, steam, whirlpool, facial, manicure and pedicure and she’ll have a Brazilian wax. She’s trying to talk me into having one, as well, we’ll see. We'll just relax and spoil ourselves all afternoon. This was her idea. Then, we have reservations for dinner at a really nice place. When we’re ready to head home, I’ll text Aaron to let him know we’re on our way.

When we get home, I’ll take her by the hand to their bedroom, where he’ll be waiting in bed for her, naked. I’ll slowly undress her, show him her newly waxed pussy and “present” her to him. She and I will kiss, long and deep and tell each other "Happy Anniversary." I’ll take her to their bed, where she’ll snuggle next to him. (At least this is how I'm planning it).

To us, this is the perfect way to have a cuckold wedding anniversary. She and I have an intimate, special day together to celebrate 21 years. Then, Aaron takes my place in the marital bed to give her the amazing sex that tops off the day.

This “ticks off” a lot of cuckold “boxes” for us, but the main one is a cuckold fantasy that we were never able to have, but which we’re trying to recreate. I have always loved the concept of the new bride getting fucked on the wedding night by her lover, BF, or bull instead of her new husband. I love the symbolism. I envy couples who knew at the beginning of their wedding that it would be a cuckold/hotwife marriage and were able to set this up. If anyone has actually done this, please share your experience!

Although Sarah and I were not monogamous when we married, we had not evolved to the cuckold dynamic. So, although this particular fantasy didn’t happen on our wedding night, we try to have something close by always having another guy fuck Sarah on our anniversary night. Usually that is Aaron, but once he was out of town and we had another guy “do the honors.” That was also very hot.

Those of you who follow this post know we have a lot of what I call “rituals” to keep the spark alive. This is one of them. So, should I get a Brazilian wax or not?

[NewOldCuck]

subguy,
I highly recommend the Brazilian. It does leave a nice clean look not only between your legs but also behind you balls and ass crack. I also think the clean look sets off your cage also. Depending on the person doing the waxing, you could have Sarah in there to supervise seeing as how this is your first time. That might check another box. Either way, congratulations and have a wonderful anniversary.
New Old Cuck

[BoBatty]

Congratulations! How did the evening compare to the planned fantasy? Even though Aaron was the main event after the spa, were you able to participate either by watching, joining in, or cleaning up?

[Laveenguy]

Subguy, I too enjoy reading about your adventures. My wife and I aspire to bring an alpha man into our marriage, but so far not much luck. You do give me hope though. Thanks and carry on!

[subguy80]

Subguy, I too enjoy reading about your adventures. My wife and I aspire to bring an alpha man into our marriage, but so far not much luck. You do give me hope though. Thanks and carry on!

Thanks for your comment! One of the things you might try is a technique that always worked for us. We used to live in Tampa and there are lots of airport hotels that cater to businessmen and conventioneers. A lot of these guys really want to get laid while they are away from home. If you and your wife hit the hotel bar around 5:00 ish, the bar usually has lots of single men. Have the wife wear something sexy. if someone appeals to her, have her start to flirt with the guy. You will be surprised how many men act on that and will find a way of starting a conversation. Give your wife support and be prepared if she gets invited back to someone's room. Have a plan! Good luck.

[subguy80]

subguy,
I highly recommend the Brazilian. It does leave a nice clean look not only between your legs but also behind you balls and ass crack. I also think the clean look sets off your cage also. Depending on the person doing the waxing, you could have Sarah in there to supervise seeing as how this is your first time. That might check another box. Either way, congratulations and have a wonderful anniversary.
New Old Cuck

I did get the Brazilian wax! It didn't really hurt that much. I was expecting it to be worse. Sarah was present and you're right, it did check another box!! I got a half-erection from the feeling of the hot wax. Aaron saw my newly shaven dick that evening and said my dick looked like a little boy's dick. He sort of has a point, which, of course, checks another box! I haven't had the cock cage on yet, but I'm sure it will look great with the clean look!

[Trickydicky69]

Congratulations Subguy.
One thing though (but it’s your rituals after all) is since you’re in a cuck marriage and have been used by Aaron sexually, won’t you also schedule a threesome night where you are both fucked by him and orally serve him too?
Then that strengthens the hierarchy in the relationship and stops it drifting into a twosome with a spare wheel?

[subguy80]

Congratulations Subguy.
One thing though (but it’s your rituals after all) is since you’re in a cuck marriage and have been used by Aaron sexually, won’t you also schedule a threesome night where you are both fucked by him and orally serve him too?
Then that strengthens the hierarchy in the relationship and stops it drifting into a twosome with a spare wheel?

We actually do try and schedule "play" nights, to specifically not slip into a "twosome with a spare wheel," as you say. Great expression! We work hard at being three equal pieces, although not always equal on how sex is handled. Sex is an important part, but just one part of our poly. We have in the past, and continue, to explore the many permeations of 3-way coupling. That includes Aaron fucking both Sarah and me and both of us giving him oral at the same time. And, you're right. It does strengthen the hierarchy!

[Laveenguy]

Subguy, I too enjoy reading about your adventures. My wife and I aspire to bring an alpha man into our marriage, but so far not much luck. You do give me hope though. Thanks and carry on!

Thanks for your comment! One of the things you might try is a technique that always worked for us. We used to live in Tampa and there are lots of airport hotels that cater to businessmen and conventioneers. A lot of these guys really want to get laid while they are away from home. If you and your wife hit the hotel bar around 5:00 ish, the bar usually has lots of single men. Have the wife wear something sexy. if someone appeals to her, have her start to flirt with the guy. You will be surprised how many men act on that and will find a way of starting a conversation. Give your wife support and be prepared if she gets invited back to someone's room. Have a plan! Good luck.

Thanks for the suggestion and for the effort to write it. One of the things I have noticed about you is that you like to be helpful. I really appreciate that.

Deb and I live about a 20 minute drive from Phoenix Sky Harbor and we’re even closer to the downtown hotels and the Phx Convention Center. So your suggestion is very plausible. What do you think if she and I entered separately and she sat alone? I could observe from a distance and be ready to react as necessary. She is a natural flirt and has always been able to garner male attention. So, I suspect this might work out.

I am also thinking that it might be smart to get our own hotel room. Better control of the situation and we’d have a place for the night regardless of the outcome. It could double as a date night for us! I much rather hunt together for fuckable men than go to some stupid movie. I am starting to really like this idea!

As someone who has done this before, do you have any other guidance or suggestions? Thanks

[subguy80]

What do you think if she and I entered separately and she sat alone? I could observe from a distance and be ready to react as necessary. She is a natural flirt and has always been able to garner male attention. So, I suspect this might work out.

I am also thinking that it might be smart to get our own hotel room. Better control of the situation and we’d have a place for the night regardless of the outcome. It could double as a date night for us! I much rather hunt together for fuckable men than go to some stupid movie. I am starting to really like this idea!

As someone who has done this before, do you have any other guidance or suggestions? Thanks

We’ve done it that way, too, where she goes in first, alone. I follow and take a table away from her and watch as guys hit on her. That’s incredibly hot, but we found that it’s somewhat difficult for me to enter the picture in that scenario. “Oh, this is my husband” as she introduces me. Some guys will be uncomfortable and leave at that point. We’re not comfortable from a safety standpoint for her to just leave with some guy (as hot as that would be).

We have had the best luck, about 75% success rate, where we go in together and she starts chatting up some single guy. Our plan is that she will excuse herself at some point to go to the ladies room if she likes a guy. That’s my cue that she wants to have something happen with this guy. Usually, when she leaves, the guy will say something like “I hope you don’t mind me saying that your wife is very pretty.” Or sometimes if they’re bold they’ll even say “very sexy.” At that point, I say, “no, I don’t mind at all. In fact she thinks you are very handsome.” He’ll say, “Wow, how can you tell?” and I’ll say, “Because she told me.” And the conversation takes off from there.

He often says something like “What are your plans for this evening?” If he doesn’t, I’ll often just lay our cards on the table and tell him my wife likes to occasionally have sex with a handsome guy and I am OK with that. One in 4 will get cold feet at that point, but 3 in 4 will be “all in.” I’ll tell him to feel free to get to know her more intimately when she comes back from the ladies room. I will text Sarah and tell her "it's a go!" So, when she comes back, she will give him a kiss on the cheek and he will come on to her without any inhibitions because he knows I'm on board.

One of the advantages of this approach is coming back into the bar and watching the reaction from the other men at the bar who are observing what is happening. You can practically see the churning of the wheels in their brains as Sarah kisses this guy and he is all over her.

Then, at some point, when they are ready, they head up to his room if he is staying there. Or, if not, I will have gotten a room at reception and we all go up, me following and them holding hands. I take a chair and watch them for a while just to make sure he isn’t a psycho or Sarah hasn't changed her mind. I like to wait until he puts his cock in her. I see her reaction and at that point, I know it’s OK to leave. I will go back to the bar and with any luck some of the guys who had been watching the show will still be there. These are some of the best cuckold humiliation looks I will ever get because it's obvious what has just happened! One time I even had a guy ask me if my wife liked black men! (The guy was a sexy, younger black man). That was an interesting conversation.

She and her new boyfriend will rejoin me when they’re finished. He’s usually an out-of-towner and this is a one-time-and go; but, we have found some local guys and there is an opportunity for a repeat performance, or two or three!

Please keep us posted if you try this or a variation of this!

[Laveenguy]

Gawd! That sounds like fun! I am so glad you responded to me. Debbie has been reticent in the past to try this approach but she might change mind after reading about the nuances that you have suggested. I specifically like the safety elements. She is shy about having me around when she is on the prowl, but I am not comfortable with her doing it alone. So, that’s been our major stumble point for us.

I will definitely let you know how it goes. Thanks again.

[airhorn]

Congratulations Subguy.
One thing though (but it’s your rituals after all) is since you’re in a cuck marriage and have been used by Aaron sexually, won’t you also schedule a threesome night where you are both fucked by him and orally serve him too?
Then that strengthens the hierarchy in the relationship and stops it drifting into a twosome with a spare wheel?

We actually do try and schedule "play" nights, to specifically not slip into a "twosome with a spare wheel," as you say. Great expression! We work hard at being three equal pieces, although not always equal on how sex is handled. Sex is an important part, but just one part of our poly. We have in the past, and continue, to explore the many permeations of 3-way coupling. That includes Aaron fucking both Sarah and me and both of us giving him oral at the same time. And, you're right. It does strengthen the hierarchy!

I wouldn't do so well with the denial/exclusion aspects of your lifestyle, but I remember how much fun it was with my college girlfriend, and the three of us in a triad of sorts (just for fun, nothing permanent -- but him fucking both of us, and me fucking both of them, was a hugely fun time).

[Laveenguy]

My wife gets laid about 60% of the time on business trips. She heads to the hotel bar at 5:00 and sits at the bar hoping to strike up a conversation with a nice guy that might end up in her bed. She keeps me posted by text until they go to her room. Then I hear nothing until the next day. She has never had a problem so far, only a lot of fun.

Hi D+D! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. What your wife does is pretty much the way mine always use to go prowling. And she has had pretty good luck at it. But the last time she did it was back in 2017. She thinks she is now too old and too fat. I think she is wrong but as many of us know, it is hard to shake off life long programing . My wife is very close in age and body habitus as your lovely wife.

Maybe my Deb could draw encouragement from your story. I would prefer to follow subguy’s protocol, but I could probably go along with your approach as well. Hell, she’s gonna do what she wants anyway…

[subguy80]

My wife gets laid about 60% of the time on business trips. She heads to the hotel bar at 5:00 and sits at the bar hoping to strike up a conversation with a nice guy that might end up in her bed. She keeps me posted by text until they go to her room. Then I hear nothing until the next day. She has never had a problem so far, only a lot of fun.

It takes a lot of self-control to be able to handle not hear anything from her until the next morning! How do you sleep? Ha! I think those of us in the LS get pretty good at judging a person's character after talking with a stranger for a while. Sometimes I would think Sarah was really getting into a guy when she would say, "Let's go." I'd ask why and she'd say, there was just something about him that wasn't quite right. Sometimes it would be me who picked up on something. We learned to trust each other's intuition.

[Lovemywifesbf]

Omggg! Is this for real?!? So hot reading about the wedding. A ring tied to your cage?!?!