D+D wrote: Sun Jul 09, 2023 8:04 am
How’s it going subguy?
Hey. We're good, thanks. We're settling into our new, adopted State. I'm working remotely 100% of the time but will be going back to Florida on a regular basis for meetings. Some things you just need to do in person, at least for my work. We’re building a new house and have rented a place in the meantime. The new house should be ready in the Fall sometime. That's taking up a lot of our time.
We've nearly reached the one-year anniversary of our poly arrangement. By our definition of poly, my wife is in love with two men and we live together as a family unit. We have roles and a hierarchy (for lack of a better name) that work for us. Sarah and I are intimate and best friends, as we've always been. Aaron provides her sex and he "completes her." I used to say that Sarah and I are soulmates, and we are. But, I can also say that Aaron has grown to be her soulmate and we touch her soul in different ways.
We share chores around the house, although I have my "sub-duties" that I have always had, such as stripping and washing their sheets and making sure I get him his beer when he gets home. They're little things, but sometimes the little things are the "spice" that we need to keep things fun and interesting. Also, there is another big change in the past year. I used to say that Aaron and I would never be good friends. I was wrong. We have become good friends, but it's a friendship where he "owns" the bedroom and somehow that fact is a central part of our friendship. We're at a point now where he knows my wife's body better than I do. Their sex has evolved to include things she and I never did. For example, they both love to rim each other. Sometimes they'll have some shower fun and then immediately fall on the bed and lift their legs and the other will dive in. Once after rimming him, she leaned over and kissed me. Rather than being turned off, I found that to be strangely intimate. Each of us was vulnerable. She had sucked her lover's ass in front of me, this big macho guy let me watch him on his back having his ass sucked and I was vulnerable by deep throating a mouth that had just been on his ass and arguably most private body part. That's maybe more than you want to know, but that's an example of our success at bringing emotions into some pretty hot sex scenes.
Aaron and I have a “boy’s night out” every couple of weeks to talk about things, usually how two make Sarah happy. In addition to that, the three of us have a planned “play night.” Otherwise, if we let ourselves fall into daily habits, we start to look like a vanilla married triad. (If that can ever be normal?) At those times, I am caged and I will caress her while he fucks her on her back. Or, I will lick her pussy as she is on all fours above me as he fucks her standing on the side of the bed. Or, she will face me while she is getting fucked from behind. I never get tired of watching her face and the variety of emotions as she is fucked by Aaron or another guy.
We also use BDSM quite a bit now. That works well for us because of the top/bottom power exchanges. These activities take time to set up and we can only partake when the boys are not around. On a daily basis, she sleeps with him on average of 5 days a week and 2 nights with me. I’m OK with that because the two nights I get are special and I appreciate it that much more. We don't have PIV, but everything else.
Thanks for asking, D+D!
And now you're telling me Aaron is bigger than the black guy? 
And now, you and Sarah are going hiking at Playlinda? You can't make this stuff up! 
