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Don't do what many people in here so often seem to do by obsessing about the label - is it hotwifing, or is it cuckolding, or maybe this or that. And then go on use the label to worry if you did it right per other people's view of what the label requires - did you transgress etc.saunder wrote: ↑Fri Aug 02, 2024 10:28 pmthinking more about going this route since we had our first threesome, well it wasn't that much of a threesome I watched for 98% of the time. I know our relationship can take it we can disconnect sex from love so after seeing her pleasure I want her to have more.
Hear, hear! I must second the words of couple_uk.couple_uk wrote: ↑Tue Sep 10, 2024 12:36 amDon't do what many people in here so often seem to do by obsessing about the label - is it hotwifing, or is it cuckolding, or maybe this or that. And then go on use the label to worry if you did it right per other people's view of what the label requires - did you transgress etc.saunder wrote: ↑Fri Aug 02, 2024 10:28 pmthinking more about going this route since we had our first threesome, well it wasn't that much of a threesome I watched for 98% of the time. I know our relationship can take it we can disconnect sex from love so after seeing her pleasure I want her to have more.
Watching 98% of the time is great if it was good for your, your wife and the guy you met. And next time you might do the same or different and, as long as it is good for all of you, but specially your wife, that's also all ok. The key is not the label but communication - did she enjoy it, what would she want differently, if anything, etc. After nearly 50 years of enjoying this life in various guises, I still get almost as much out of hearing her descriptions and recollections as I do from the event.
Best wishes.
I totally agree. I see those definitions more to be open and not rigid. I think its such a personal situation that all labels could be applied to one scenario. I think even if we gave a situation a label, it would soon become void because we all probably need something very different from it for it to be what we need.frank12 wrote: ↑Tue Sep 10, 2024 3:17 amHear, hear! I must second the words of couple_uk.couple_uk wrote: ↑Tue Sep 10, 2024 12:36 amDon't do what many people in here so often seem to do by obsessing about the label - is it hotwifing, or is it cuckolding, or maybe this or that. And then go on use the label to worry if you did it right per other people's view of what the label requires - did you transgress etc.saunder wrote: ↑Fri Aug 02, 2024 10:28 pmthinking more about going this route since we had our first threesome, well it wasn't that much of a threesome I watched for 98% of the time. I know our relationship can take it we can disconnect sex from love so after seeing her pleasure I want her to have more.
Watching 98% of the time is great if it was good for your, your wife and the guy you met. And next time you might do the same or different and, as long as it is good for all of you, but specially your wife, that's also all ok. The key is not the label but communication - did she enjoy it, what would she want differently, if anything, etc. After nearly 50 years of enjoying this life in various guises, I still get almost as much out of hearing her descriptions and recollections as I do from the event.
Best wishes.
Despite the well meaning efforts of those who would try to apply the rigid definitions of labels to these often complex behaviors, kinks and wants - it is, as noted above, the MOST important to communicate well, discover and enhance those things that you both enjoy thoroughly, with all that compersion factored in of course, and find those with whom you can enjoy those things comfortably and delightedly. For some it means chance one-night encounters with strangers, and for others it is long-term close relationships. Some like overlays of kinky games and others prefer uncomplicated sharing. Our lexicographers may try to capture all of this in multiply-defined terms and labels, but we don't need to try to follow those shifting sands to enjoy what brings us pleasures.
Making wonderful memories is VERY valuable.
Prof Wood