Theory of cuckolding

[dannyvee]

I am a theoretician by nature and have a few ideas about what makes cuckolds tick, but I don't want to kill the vibe so I won't post any of my theories unless somebody here either posts his/her own ideas or wants to know mine. Cheers!

[nevertoolate]

This thread might get more traction in the Cuckold Forum.

There are lots of theories posted here and on other web sites. My gut feeling is that we males enjoy participating in multiple partner sex with females. Probably has roots in our primate origins. The fact that she is a girlfriend or wife magnifies the effect. We are drawn to seeing women being ravished.

[SensualDeviant]

I think cuckolding as defined by a desire to be submissive, humiliated (chastity), feminized (creampie eating, pegging, fluffing), and sissified is a form of autogynephilia.

None of that applies to me, though. To me, sharing my submissive wife serves a few purposes:

1. I'm in charge of her pleasure and can thrill her by sharing her as I choose
2. She's my sexual toy and I enjoy watching her be used
3. She's such a beautiful, attractive, sexy woman that I like to show her off; look how good I have it!

And of course all that is just part of our kinky side. I love her in many other ways, too, of course.

[johnswan]

Thanks for your feedback.

[kaskap79]

I think it is back from when we animals.

The Alpha male mated with the female and beta males waited for their turn.

The head of our penis is also design to take other males sperm out of the pussy.

Eating a creampie is also a way to remove the Alpha males sperm.

[Paul01uk]

My desire to want to see my wife "give" herself to another man, which she did, goes back to my knowing my dad was cuckolded by my mother. When I was 13 I was told, when I asked where she was, that "your mother's with her boyfriend". I remember seeing my then girlfriend kissing another boy at a party when I was 16. Another girlfriend left my room and went to a friend's room where she spent the night. Returning in the morning to give me a "goodbye wank" as she was now "his". When my wife had an affair for 15 months, which I set up and encouraged, I remember our children, aged 5 and 7 at the time, telling her mother that "mummy had a boyfriend." The humiliation and excitement for me when my mother in law looked at me knowingly was intense. It's not for everyone, and the effect can be devestating but also stunningly wonderful, and for me, the most erotic moments of my life. Watching anogther man remove my wife's underwear and expose and enjoy every bit of her as she experienced intense orgasms was beyond words.

[Parsifal]

One of my pet theories for explaining at least some species of cuckholds is to posit compersion as a mechanism for libidinizing the primal fear of maternal abandonment that some men carry into adulthood and transfer onto their wives. From the our time of utter dependency on our mothers we develop a corresponding horror at the prospect of abandonment. So carried forward into an adult marital relationship, a husband's fear of his wife's infidelity with another male can turn him into an oppressive and possessive boor, turning his worst nightmare into a self-fulfilling prophecy, or he can flip that fear into sexual pleasure, whereby he becomes highly aroused by her infidelity played out in the open of a controlled environment. The analogy most apt for this phenomenon comes from aviation and flight dynamics - as you nose the plane up and climb to the top of the power arc, the plane stalls and then falls from the sky. The skilled pilot then noses the plane into the fall, which restores lift beneath the wings and control to the aircraft. Similarly, the wife who's itching for diverse sexuality is the plane in stall mode - take her into a nose dive to regain control. It's counterintuitive, but it works like a charm. Fly those friendly skies!

[Suedostbaier]

Theory of piloting planes...what a connexion!!! i guess in the course of a marriage no new fireworks can be burned daily - and so there are a few ways of finding a change to routine. Additionally there is a bisexual side in a great number of men.Then there is the voyeur aspect and all of that taken together ends in cuckolding. i want to remain a gentleman and not say that some of the hotwives are really not hot. Knowing that, they are happy to still find a sex-partner who can provide her arousal...for a limited time....