Off limits acts

[vette19690]

Only M-M with her stud. Otherwise whatever she wants is fine with me.

[NorCalCouple1998]

I am allowed to eat my wife's pussy but am cut off from penetrative sex. She gives penetrative sex to her lovers but will suck them to completion if penetrative sex isn't is not possible at that moment. She has never sucked me to completion.

This is the Stag - Vixen thread , not the Cuck - Hotwife thread....

[Des 31]

Are there any sex acts that are off limits to husbands but acceptable for bull? (Ex. Swallowing, anal, bdsm) What are the reasons why they are off limits and are they ever potentially available to husband?
*Reminder* this is not the cuck forum

My wife won't allow anal, bdsm, or other off-beat interests. Everything else as practiced by most men is fine.

[lisamyhotwife]

We had a few rules 25 years ago, but things change. It seems that over the years with different people the rules were always changing so after the first 5 years we just let the rule thing go. Rules seem to interfere with our mission, to experience erotica with others, learn new things and to be uninhibited. That doesn't mean everything is on the table... although I have seen Lisa fucked on a table! She is not into anal, she does not enjoy it, but has tried it a few times so no rules does not mean we do thing if we find it's not fun. Lisa said when we started no bondage, then we met a couple that were very skilled in the art and, well, Lisa looks good in rope lol. She told me that more that one guy at once was out till we met a group at a party and they invited us to their room. She looks good with a few men and woman at one time. Or the first time she picked up a guy at a conference after she said she would not do that. I should point out that she was a virgin when we met and I was the only guy she she had ever been with for the first 20 years together. She had a lot of self imposed rules to work through. Anyway you get the point. Freedom to enjoy one's sexuality needs freedom from rules. That doesn't mean anything goes, it means that we have the choice to decide what goes. I remember the first times she spent the night alone with a guy. I had said it would never happen, then it did and what a night. I love getting a phone call and hearing the sounds of sex over the phone. I guess I'm saying no rules just common sense works for us.
Enjoy the trip, it's a rush.

[HappilyShared]

Rules are Simple and Common Sense ... "Whatever", has to Be FUN and Leave No Permanent Markings ...

[Wifewithothers]

We had a few rules 25 years ago, but things change. It seems that over the years with different people the rules were always changing so after the first 5 years we just let the rule thing go. Rules seem to interfere with our mission, to experience erotica with others, learn new things and to be uninhibited. That doesn't mean everything is on the table... although I have seen Lisa fucked on a table! She is not into anal, she does not enjoy it, but has tried it a few times so no rules does not mean we do thing if we find it's not fun. Lisa said when we started no bondage, then we met a couple that were very skilled in the art and, well, Lisa looks good in rope lol. She told me that more that one guy at once was out till we met a group at a party and they invited us to their room. She looks good with a few men and woman at one time. Or the first time she picked up a guy at a conference after she said she would not do that. I should point out that she was a virgin when we met and I was the only guy she she had ever been with for the first 20 years together. She had a lot of self imposed rules to work through. Anyway you get the point. Freedom to enjoy one's sexuality needs freedom from rules. That doesn't mean anything goes, it means that we have the choice to decide what goes. I remember the first times she spent the night alone with a guy. I had said it would never happen, then it did and what a night. I love getting a phone call and hearing the sounds of sex over the phone. I guess I'm saying no rules just common sense works for us.
Enjoy the trip, it's a rush.

We learned quickly that rather than rules, we have guidelines which allow for fun to happen without the worry of having to debate or get upset about rules being broken or wanting to change them etc.

It's allowed us to navigate through changes in how, who, when and where we play. Even dealing with changes that were not discussed ahead of time.

[lisamyhotwife]

Fluidity and communication.

[gnt4fun]

We used to have rules, but they usually got discarded in moments of passion anyway. The one thing that we have shied away from is group sex where I (the husband) am not involved. That turns out to be more of a Fear of Missing Out thing than anything else. And even that rule has nearly been broken at least once (longer story).

[MistressVixenMrStag]

We mainly have boundaries, but one rule we do have is that Vixen doesn’t do something with a third that she hadn’t done with Stag first.

[lisamyhotwife]

I think the only rule we have these days is if I'm not there she needs to call so I can listen. There is something really hot about hearing her cumming over the phone. I remember when the condom rule was broken. Most of the rules we had were hers, I was always good with her doing what ever she wanted. Condoms was a big one for her. She was on a date and I was home waiting for a call. It was late when the call came in. The breathing was heavy and all I heard was I want you to fill my pussy and with that he grunted and she started cumming and cumming. I'm trying to figure out what was going on and after the heavy breathing was done I asked if he had on a condom, she just said I love you and I'll talk to you later and hung up. About 10 minutes later I got a picture with his very Large cock in the foreground and her very wet pussy dripping his cum in the background. An hour later she called again as he was fucking her. He filled her again. What a night. She still has a condom rule but I'm hoping she will break that rule again one of these days.

[isinlarsa]

Another thing is off-limits for my wife is sex with more than one man at a time. She maintains she is strictly a one-on-one kind of girl. In spite of that, when single she did sometimes have more than one "date" in a day, where she would be fucked by more than one man in a day.

Having said that, she did shock me one time when she came home from being with her favorite young black athlete. She told me that she had asked him to set her up with his friends. I don't know if she realized that if he did, he would expect to be there, too; or even to set her up with several of his friends together. It certainly got me imaging it happening that way; because I always wanted her fucked by a group of men -- preferably in a train.

Unfortunately, her young studmuffin (her nickname for him) was possessive. He replied, "No. You're mine."

[DaveS]

This thread is a couple of years old now - but still an interesting, ongoing discussion. There was some controversy early in the thread as various members with a more cuck orientation shared what the bull was allowed while they were not. I do agree that cuck discussion should remain in the cuck forum (and definitely not in the stag/vixen forum) - but, then, the question in the OP was worded that way: "Are there any sex acts that are off limits to husbands but acceptable for bull?" It seems the question is set up for cuckish replies (even though the OP does offer the reminder that this is not the cuck forum).

Perhaps the question in the OP should have been worded in the opposite direction: "Are there any sex acts that are off limits to the bulls but acceptable for you, the husband". That would be more in line with the stag/vixen motif.

A couple of thoughts in general. First, both my wife and I hate the term "bull" - but do get that it is in common usage. Since we are primarily poly (with a hotwife accent), she has boyfriends and I have girlfriends - with an occasional fwb for fun.

Next, I would add that any married couple can negotiate any arrangement that works for them - that they both consent to - including whatever rules or exclusions that either may demand. That said - and has been noted already in the comments - in the heat of the passionate moment, it is essentially unrealistic to expect those rules to be observed (other than condom use if stipulated before hand) - might as well throw the rules out window when the clothes come off.

In regard to the question - "is anything off limits for me that the bull gets?" (for me personally) - Absolutely not, and the very notion would seem absurd to both my wife and I - as well as our partners. However, we might agree that there are things reserved for us a married couple that are just for us and not anyone else. That is not unreasonable for any couple - however, we both realize that when it comes to sex it is unrealistic to expect those rules to always be followed in the heat of passion - so we don't have them.

I will add, however, that her "full time poly boyfriend" has probably cum inside my wife more times than I have over the last couple of years. This is not because of any "cuck element" but simply because my wife and he both are a dozen years younger than me - and her bf has lots of stamina with a very short refractory period for a man in his forties - so he almost always cums in her twice (or more) when they get in bed (which is at least twice a week - often more). I am always welcome to do the same but he simply has more stamina than me at his age (even though my wife and I do have sex at least twice a week, but I only cum once) and he is also just plain hornier (and my wife is always ready and willing for either of us - logistics permitting). When the three of us are home alone (no kiddo present), I am always welcome to join them for a threesome - and we do a fair number of those, but often I am content just to watch, or even listen from the living room while reading and having a drink. Fortunately, my wife has a very high sex drive and is very happy to spread her legs for both of us as often as we want (a couple of times a week for each of us, sometimes more - and these days, he often more than me) - as well as her former poly bf a couple of times a month just for fun.

[SheLikesWhenIWatch]

Are there any sex acts that are off limits to husbands but acceptable for bull? (Ex. Swallowing, anal, bdsm) What are the reasons why they are off limits and are they ever potentially available to husband?
*Reminder* this is not the cuck forum

My wife won’t do anal. She won’t let either of us (me or her boyfriend) cum on her face (“It’s degrading to women!”), but anywhere else is fine.

He is a tad smaller than me girth-wise, so it’s easier for her to blow him and deep-throat him while he’s cumming, gulping it all down. (A beautiful thing to witness, btw.) With me, she gets an achey jaw, and it’s a little difficult for her to deep-throat me, so she often just spits it out on my belly and leaves it to me to clean it up. In fact, it’s been decades since she has swallowed for me. With him, she happily takes it all. (And he happily gives it to her!)

[Marksmall5]

Are there any sex acts that are off limits to husbands but acceptable for bull? (Ex. Swallowing, anal, bdsm) What are the reasons why they are off limits and are they ever potentially available to husband?
*Reminder* this is not the cuck forum

I don’t think there can be

[lisamyhotwife]

There are no off limit acts. Anything I do with my wife her fuck buddies can also do. It's not about limits, it's about consenting adults having fun.

[Caribwaters]

I'm not into anal sex, and my wife is indifferent to it. I much prefer a warm wet pussy or her mouth. She does let other men fuck her ass. it's weird but I find it hot that other men are taking her annually, even though I have no desire to. Perhaps it's because part of the appeal of having a hotwife is that other men are using her body for their pleasure. Does anyone else have other thoughts?

isinlarsa
I fully understand the appeal of knowing that other men are using my wife's body for their pleasure. When she is out on a date that feeling is a huge turn on for me.

We have no boundaries for my wife with any of her lovers, she can enjoy or explore anything she is comfortable doing or enjoying. She would never consent to me trying to limit her. If she is with a guy she likes, I have no say as to what she does. Personally have no direct knowledge of their activities, as I am never allowed to watch, so what I know is only what she is willing to tell me.

She has done "things" with a couple of them in semi public settings, as she gets a rush about the possibility of being discovered and if the bf is willing she will usually engage without much hesitation. When we were dating as teenagers she could be somewhat reckless about being seen by a 3rd party, but that ended after we were married. She loves sucking her men to completion and swallowing their cum, as she understands that most guys crave that pleasure. That oral act also ended shortly after we were married. For the first 10 years of our union she would periodically allow me to perform anal, but that privilege also ended when it became too painful for her, so none of her bfs ever been allowed in her "back door"

My wife is attracted to strong, assertive men. When together she like them to take control of her, make most of the decisions as to where, when, how a dynamic that she would never dream of allowing me. She has to be the "top dog" in our marriage. She has never gotten into any D's with her lovers, as it is more verbal and also the technique he usually uses during sex. Enjoys being "told" or sometimes left feeling "used" (whatever that means).

[isinlarsa]

I'm not into anal sex, and my wife is indifferent to it. I much prefer a warm wet pussy or her mouth. She does let other men fuck her ass. it's weird but I find it hot that other men are taking her annually, even though I have no desire to. Perhaps it's because part of the appeal of having a hotwife is that other men are using her body for their pleasure. Does anyone else have other thoughts?

isinlarsa
I fully understand the appeal of knowing that other men are using my wife's body for their pleasure. When she is out on a date that feeling is a huge turn on for me.

We have no boundaries for my wife with any of her lovers, she can enjoy or explore anything she is comfortable doing or enjoying. She would never consent to me trying to limit her. If she is with a guy she likes, I have no say as to what she does. Personally have no direct knowledge of their activities, as I am never allowed to watch, so what I know is only what she is willing to tell me.

She has done "things" with a couple of them in semi public settings, as she gets a rush about the possibility of being discovered and if the bf is willing she will usually engage without much hesitation. When we were dating as teenagers she could be somewhat reckless about being seen by a 3rd party, but that ended after we were married. She loves sucking her men to completion and swallowing their cum, as she understands that most guys crave that pleasure. That oral act also ended shortly after we were married. For the first 10 years of our union she would periodically allow me to perform anal, but that privilege also ended when it became too painful for her, so none of her bfs ever been allowed in her "back door"

My wife is attracted to strong, assertive men. When together she like them to take control of her, make most of the decisions as to where, when, how a dynamic that she would never dream of allowing me. She has to be the "top dog" in our marriage. She has never gotten into any D's with her lovers, as it is more verbal and also the technique he usually uses during sex. Enjoys being "told" or sometimes left feeling "used" (whatever that means).

For my wife, the dynamics of a sexual encounter are different given different circumstances and the nature of the relationship with the particular man. Sometimes it's all about having a sexual experience with a new man and the pleasure he provides to her. Other times she may desire that feeling that the man is using her body for his pleasure. When she's being used that's when she is most likely indulge him by submitting to him anally fucking her.

[Caribwaters]

I'm not into anal sex, and my wife is indifferent to it. I much prefer a warm wet pussy or her mouth. She does let other men fuck her ass. it's weird but I find it hot that other men are taking her annually, even though I have no desire to. Perhaps it's because part of the appeal of having a hotwife is that other men are using her body for their pleasure. Does anyone else have other thoughts?

isinlarsa
I fully understand the appeal of knowing that other men are using my wife's body for their pleasure. When she is out on a date that feeling is a huge turn on for me.

We have no boundaries for my wife with any of her lovers, she can enjoy or explore anything she is comfortable doing or enjoying. She would never consent to me trying to limit her. If she is with a guy she likes, I have no say as to what she does. Personally have no direct knowledge of their activities, as I am never allowed to watch, so what I know is only what she is willing to tell me.

She has done "things" with a couple of them in semi public settings, as she gets a rush about the possibility of being discovered and if the bf is willing she will usually engage without much hesitation. When we were dating as teenagers she could be somewhat reckless about being seen by a 3rd party, but that ended after we were married. She loves sucking her men to completion and swallowing their cum, as she understands that most guys crave that pleasure. That oral act also ended shortly after we were married. For the first 10 years of our union she would periodically allow me to perform anal, but that privilege also ended when it became too painful for her, so none of her bfs ever been allowed in her "back door"

My wife is attracted to strong, assertive men. When together she like them to take control of her, make most of the decisions as to where, when, how a dynamic that she would never dream of allowing me. She has to be the "top dog" in our marriage. She has never gotten into any D's with her lovers, as it is more verbal and also the technique he usually uses during sex. Enjoys being "told" or sometimes left feeling "used" (whatever that means).

For my wife, the dynamics of a sexual encounter are different given different circumstances and the nature of the relationship with the particular man. Sometimes it's all about having a sexual experience with a new man and the pleasure he provides to her. Other times she may desire that feeling that the man is using her body for his pleasure. When she's being used that's when she is most likely indulge him by submitting to him anally fucking her.

isinlersa
Allowing your lover to take you annually is to me the ultimate "surrender" by the receiver. My wife told me that she really wanted to allow her long time lover fuck her in the ass, but she knew the pain caused by her hemorrhoids would have ruined that episode. He had been strongly pressuring by him to do it and she didn't want to disappoint, but after she explained her predicerment he understood. To make it up to him and because he was an unabashed risk taker, on their next date he took her to a "fine" restaurant, where she unannounced just ducked down under the table and sucked him to completion, patricianly masked by the linen table cloth.

[Victor Skyhawk]

My off limits are my wife’s off limits. She is interested and open to everything except anal.

[Spidair]

In the first threesome after my wife had meet and fucked her lover three times I watched her suck and swallow her lovers cum for the very first time. And for the first time she swallowed my cum when she sucked my off after. Never seen her doing that before...

And you can imagine my shock and disbelief sitting on the toilet and watching my wife and her lover in the shower when she suddenly kneeled down in front of him. I thought that she was going to suck him again, but instead he started to piss over my wifes tits. I could not believe it, cos she had never asked for or wished me doing that to her and there she sat with hre lovers hot piss over her tits, then down in her pussy before she really shocked my by taking his steam in her mouth, over her face and in her hair before sucking his piss dripping cock when he was finished! I had never, not in my wildest dreams, imagined that my wife would do something like that, or that she actually enjoyed it. It was also the very first time I saw her lick, suck and kiss another mans balls and by the look of her pretty face she absolutely loved doing it. The my wife did the same to her lover, stood there in the shower shockingly sexy with her pussy wide open and started pissing over her lover. I've tried it some times later, but my wife is clearly more horny when her lover do it.

I had fucked my wife in the ass before she got her lover, and not to brag or anything, but my cock was just a notch to big for my wife to enjoy me ass fucking her. So it was a little surprising that she really really loved it when her lover fucked her ass. His dick is an inch or two longer then mine, but also slightly thinner, so every time we double fuck my wife he fucks her in her ass. It is so incredibly hot to feel her lovers cock rub against mine and sometimes my was has orgasms so hard that she passes out. And every sunday morning when my wife lover sleeps over he almost always start the morning with fucking my wife in her ass. It is so hot to wake up and find my wife moaning on her side with a stiff cock up her ass for some reason and I love fucking her ass when her lover have finished in her, her ass is just so slippery, warm and stretched that my cock can fit in it and I love to fuck her in her lovers thick and sticky cum.

[Johnann2227]

My wife can do anything she wants with her boyfriends except go bareback or develop feelings. This is because we reserve bareback for me and our swinger group. No feelings allowed because our hotwifing is purely about sex and excitement for our marriage.
As a stag nothing is off limits for me. As a couple we are not into BDSM or watersports.

In this lifestyle we have that boundaries can change over time. Our off limit rule about feelings has gone out the window. My wife met James on a girls' night out and fucked him. She is 16 years older than him. They didn't make plans to meet up again but ran into each other on another girls' night a few months later. Sparks flew again and she fucked him again. This time they started dating. It was soon obvious to me that there was something special between these two.

Roll on 6 months and James now lives with us permanently. He shares our bed nightly and our adult kids, who still live at home, like him and approve. We always go bareback with James now and he has been accepted into our swinger group.

Ann now uses a hyphenated surname comprising James's surname then mine. Our extended families have met James and he attends all family gatherings. They don't know that he is Ann's second husband and fucks her daily. They think he is a mate of mine from work who has had to rent his apartment out to cover rising interest rates on his mortgage.

We are still negative to BDSM and water sports and this will not change.

[Saras_Stag]

For us it’s respect. All love to cucks out there but our rule is clear respect for everyone involved. The guy can’t demean Sara or myself, she will shut that down immediately.

After all, she’s my Queen and I’m her King, she can play with her friends but our bond is lifelong and strong. No interest in anyone (especially her!) insulting me or putting me down. No interest in insulting her or putting her down. Just loving her exploring her sexuality freely.