Should I encourage my wife to fuck her ex?

[Eric449]

My wife has had a fwb for about a year now, and I think she wants some fresh meat so to speak. Some weeks ago she was out at her party with some friends, real late. I called her to see when she would be home as I had to be up early.
The next day she was horny as fuck but really annoyed with me. I knew straight away something was on the cards for her that night and I’d interrupted.
When I got into her knickers and could feel that pussy was dripping wet, she told me that she had arranged to give her ex boyfriend a lift home. They both knew they were going to fuck. She was going to drive him into the woods and let him fuck her senseless. She was savage with me because she needed fucking that night and she wanted him.
Now for some context. Before she started enjoying extra curricular dick, I pressed her one night when she was tipsy. Who is the one man you would fuck, that you know, if you had the chance.
You guessed it, this bloke.
She says you would never guess to look at him, but he has the biggest, fattest cock she has ever seen. Not only that, he knew exactly what to do with it.
Imagine my disappointment that I ruined the opportunity for my wife to get fucked hard by this big dick. Because it wouldn’t have been a one time deal. She would crave it, I’m certain.
She says the opportunity has gone- that its unlikely to ever be on the cards again…..
How do I try to convince her that I really want him to fill her pussy up? Should I want it to happen at all?!

[bbarnsworth]

I think the only risk here is whether or not she would ever leave you for him, wanting to get back with him. If that's not a concern, if she's devoted to you, then why wouldn't you want it to happen? It sounds like she really wants to fuck him again. Assuming he lives somewhere within range, I don't see why they couldn't get together regularly. What is stopping it such that it's "unlikely to ever be in the cards again"? Was it a "in the heat of the moment" sort of thing, and the phone call snapped the moment?

[Eric449]

He lives very close, however they don’t really mix in the same circles any more. So the chances of a repeat situation are slim. I do think it was a heat of the moment type thing, but I also think if she knew how much I’d love her to get fucked by him again she would probably try to make it happen. I need to get her horny and start talking about his big dick while I’m fucking her. I think that might sway it!
There is no chance of her leaving me for him. She’s admitted in the past that she doesn’t really like him as a person but he fucks her like nobody ever has!

[Long Lurker 34]

He lives very close, however they don’t really mix in the same circles any more. So the chances of a repeat situation are slim. I do think it was a heat of the moment type thing, but I also think if she knew how much I’d love her to get fucked by him again she would probably try to make it happen. I need to get her horny and start talking about his big dick while I’m fucking her. I think that might sway it!
There is no chance of her leaving me for him. She’s admitted in the past that she doesn’t really like him as a person but he fucks her like nobody ever has!

E# - Seems to me the easiest thing is for her to give him a call and say something like, "How about picking up where we left off before we got interrupted!" She doesn't have to like all of him.

[LawyerWouldbeCuckold]

I have to say I'm a bit wary of this.....(FWIW, as I'm not even in this lifestyle).....but i'm thinking about another poster SFLCuck, or something like that.....lives in South Florida. His Wife wanted to have her ex move in during the Pandemic, b/c he had lost his job and needed to get back on his feet. The plan was to give him six months in the house.

That was in the Spring (or so) of 2020 (I think, I don't recall the specifics).

Two or three years later, he's still there, the cuck has been caged and sleeping in the guest room for years now; gets almost no release, and I don't think PIV sex has happened between the cuck and his wife for years. For all intents and purposes (at least IMHO), he's not just a cuck anymore; he's merely there to help with the bills and household chores.

On one hand, people are ex's for a reason. On the other hand, people do change, grow, and mature.

I myself think this area is just a bit too risky.

FWIW.....

[CoupleFun555]

I think ex’s are relatively safe fuck buddies if your wife knows exactly why they broke up and that she would never want to his full time wife/gf. If she has severe regrets about leaving him, other than just the sex, this could be a problem.

I was in a relationship with a woman who loved the sex with her ex but knew she didn’t want to be his significant other. They’d tried and it didn’t work. So, this was a GREAT sex choice for her because she still liked him and they were great in bed together.

[lanceHarden25]

He’s got a big cock. She loves his big cock but not enough to leave you for him. He loves fucking her. You love your wife getting fucked. Damn, tell her to fuck him and everyone is happy. Then tell us all about it.

[slenderfish]

My wife was inexplicably remaining in touch with a prior boyfriend, for years from before I met her and all the way through at least 10 years of our marriage. I'd seen pictures of him (goofy looking) and also heard how she was generally unhappy when reflecting on the time they were together. He had picked her up at a local dance club during a low period in her life, having just broken up with what she had thought was the "love of her life". She knew who he was because of her older sister, who was friends with this guy's wife.

She went out with him and was his secret lover, given that he was married. She was for some reason just stuck on him and put up with all the sneaking around and hiding, etc. During the ensuing years, after they stopped seeing each other, she was hard on herself, realizing she was just a fuck buddy whom he used and that she was wildly inappropriate considering he was married and there were connections to her sister.

Considering the above, I never really understood why she kept in contact with this ex-. Given my tendencies for a hotwife, I supported it but asked her if she had any attraction to him; if so, I was okay with her seeing him. She denied for years and years, and then went underground with the contacts.

After I stumbled onto her secret communications with him, I encouraged her to keep in out in the open with me. I encouraged her to contact him on his birthday, and to meet up with him when he traveled to our area for a business conference. She did so, but she made certain nothing happened between them. Though it was clear she and he had this ongoing mutual attraction.

He was the on-ramp to her trying another man. She denied any sexual interest in him (Mr. M), and found another man for her first tryst (Mr. S).

But the day after she had sex with Mr. S, she surprised me with the revelation that she had arranged to cross over with Mr. M, and had seduced him.

She said on her voicemail to me immediately after the encounter with Mr. M, "He has gained a little weight but still knows how to use his cock."

So I have concluded it was his fat cock that kept her in touch.

And I was extremely pleased and satisfied that despite her denials over the many years, she was keeping in touch with him for a sexual reason, that I'd called it right.

[SRKnight]

My HW’s first lover was a ex and has been her long term boyfriend for 13 years. During that 13 years she has been with 6 guys she knew and was with before me. Something about being with a ex that is also married too makes it very hot.

[Aussiem]

Our first was with her ex from before we married. Became a long-term relationship. Seems to work.

[rogerbaulk]

I started to have a cuckold fantasy just before my wife's ex-boyfriend visited us for ten days. He is American and my wife is Korean. We live in Korea. While he was here, suddenly during sex, she said she had a 'great fantasy'. She told me her fantasy was to walk down the hall to the guest room and get in bed with him. She said they probably wouldn't do anything, just talk. I encouraged her to do it. She showered, put on some pajamas. I told her to take a condom just in case. She took four condoms! When she came back later, she said that she was very wet and her nipples were hard. They had both got naked, and he had kissed her and fondled and kissed her breasts. She had gotten on top of him and had his cock sliding on her pussy. She dismounted and showed him the condoms. He freaked out and didn't go through with it. But from that moment on, everything changed. She said that he was her number one sexual partner in fantasy, and I was relegated to number two. She said in her fantasy, she came within ten seconds of him penetrating her. She said he was more manly than me. She wanted to spend ten days fucking with him.

[htwfluver_4]

My wife was still fucking her old boyfriends when we were engaged. She had questioned why I hadn't attempted to stop her when I explained my excitement of taking her after being freshly used by them. After we were married a short time her favorite old boyfriend made a visit to our hometown.
Here is the story.
She had a favorite boyfriend before he went away to college. He taught her so much. He was a couple of years older and took her to levels she found hard to repeat. She would tell me of her times with him and even some of his friends. She would be on fire telling me the details and I would be entirely consumed by her stories. I knew even though I was her love, he was her sexual fantasy.

He had moved away at one point and married but they kept in touch. Not long after we married he told her he was coming to town for a reunion with his frat brothers from college. He asked her to go out with him to the reunion. She told him he would have to ask me. He was completely surprised that she was even considering telling me that he asked. She told him he may even be surprised by my answer but he would have to ask me anyway. He was totally unaware that she had told me in detail about their sex and about him sharing her and how he enjoyed treating her the way she craved so much.

He had been her favorite boyfriend while they were in school. He introduced her to exhibitionism and encouraged her to relax and enjoy turning everyone on. Including his friends and fraternity brothers. He introduced her to rough sex and being submissive to his every whim. She had enjoyed group sex before him but he took it to a new level by including several of his friends.

He must have been craving her badly because he did call not even an hour later and told her he was ready to ask for permission from me. She said sure and handed me her phone. He was rather soft spoken when he introduced himself and told me he would like to take her to a small reunion since they had all hung out together before. I was kind of tickled at his demure way of speaking to me and wanted to make sure he was squirming just a little in asking a husband to take his wife out to a party. This was fun and also it was a big turn on for me making him to ask knowing that he planned on fucking her for old times sake as well.
I asked him several questions like how many were going to be at the party. How many of them had she met when they were together? The final question was " how many other women were invited and would be there?"
He answered all of the questions with ease but the last one he was stammering and finally said he was the only one bringing a girlfriend. I was amazed at his honesty at this. I asked him the location and it was to be at one of the guys' homes and gave me the address. I asked him how long the reunion would last and he couldn't really know that yet.
I finally told him she could go and I hoped they had a great time. She had been close by as he and I were talking. She was giddy and bubbling and was squirming like she needed to pee. I know she was looking forward to being the only woman at a party with eight men.
I asked her how she was going to dress and she told me she wanted to dress the way he made her dress when he would show her off to his friends in the past.
She went to the closet and picked a leather vest with about four buttons and no sleeves. The skirt was one of her shortest but matched the vest. She layed out some thigh highs and heels. She picked a black lacy thong but decided not to wear it and left it out.
When the night came for him to take her on their date she was dripping wet all evening as she was putting on her makeup and doing her hair. She had been to the nail salon and even had a bikini wax. I hadn't seen her this wet for this long ever before. She knew the night was going to be a fantasy come true for her.

When he came to the door to meet me and take her out I could tell he was nervous as hell. People tell me I am a very intimidating person even if I don't mean to be. However, he wanted her so bad that night that he built up the courage to shake my hand and thank me for letting him take her out this time.
I loved his nervousness.
She was just the opposite and very much excited when he got through the introductions she grabbed him and gave him a very big hug and kissed him right on the mouth with a lot of tongue. I know it had to make him hard because it made me hard as diamonds.

I'm not even certain a neighbor wasn't getting a lurid view of her with her arms wrapped around his neck, standing on tiptoes because he was several inches taller than her. She wrapped her arms around him, her skirt bared half of her ass to me and probably in the front her pussy must have been on display with the entry light brightly shining on them. At first, his hands found her bare back and moved directly up and under her vest. In just a short moment they went to her ass and I could tell his surprise at finding bare ass cheeks. I'm not sure that it wasn't more exciting to me than it was for him as I was getting to watch something she so rarely invited me to see. Of course this wasn't the actual sex it was just a prelude to what would most certainly be happening later.

She told me later that she knew with no doubts that he had been planning a gangbang just as he had in the past but didn't want to address it with me. I knew she was going with him to get fucked all night and even suspected he was doing exactly what he said before. They were going to relive some of their times just for old time sake.

After a couple of minutes of them sharing tongues and him almost undressing her at our front door they finally separated. She loved kissing him in front of me as she knew how it turned me on. He on the other hand was just a little nervous when she stepped back. She turned to me and did exactly the same thing
with me. I was hard as a rock and she was literally humping me as I felt between her cheeks to find her already sloppy wet. It was almost as slick as if she had been freshly fucked. She let me go and turned to him. She put her hands behind her and was stroking me over my pants, which she hid from him.
She said to him "it has been such a long time. I'm really looking forward to our date. Should we go?"
They turned and walked down the walk towards his car. I was glad it had turned darker so the witnesses that may have been watching couldn't be sure what was going on.

The night then turned long. My imagination was running rampant. I started to drive over to the home where it was happening and maybe get a sense of the atmosphere. I decided to just have a drink instead. Since he was aware that I knew who she was with and where she was I knew she would be safe enough and there would be limits set by him as he had done so in the past. I fully believed his limits were probably safer than hers when she lets go completely.

After so many hours and a few drinks I saw the headlights coming up the drive. The lights shutoff and it was even a few more minutes before I heard the car doors open and close. He was walking her up the walkway and she waited until she had opened the door before she again tiptoed and reached up to give him a kiss goodnight. Her skirt pulled up and exposed a very bruised and reddened ass. She was actually dripping down her thighs. Her stockings were just hanging around her neck. Her hair was wet and matted in the back where I could see. After the kiss, he turned and walked away. She turned to face me and she looked like a wreck. Her makeup was practically gone other than what was running down her cheeks. Her hair was matted in places but not with the sweat like in the back. There were splotches of cum all around her face. Her stockings were wrapped around her throat and when I pulled them apart there were hand prints circling her throat Her vest was not buttoned and the hickies and hand prints covered her breasts. She dropped a dollop on the top of her foot as she stood there facing me. She looked down at it and said “Oops” I almost blew a load in my pants at the decadence of it all.She had the air of a good girl being bad.

I took her in an embrace and welcomed her home with a giant kiss and hug. She was hot. I could feel the excitement still in her. I could taste the essence of them. One of her favorite parts of being a hotwife is when she brings the evidence to me to enjoy as I take her back and make her mine again.

I finally remembered to close the door. She was exhausted. She was strangely amped up. I could feel the excitement just standing close to her. I looked her up and down. She was dripping them down her thighs and some dropped out and fell to her foot and it was just staying on the top of her foot.

I asked “ how many of them came in you?”
Her reply was " all of them, I don’t know how many more than once.”
“Did you enjoy the way they treated you?”
“ More than you can know. It was like it was before with him. He made me do so many things he made me do before. I’m so sore. Take me to bed and make love to me. Show you still love me.”

She was stroking me through my shorts as she was telling me all of this. She led me to the bedroom where she dropped her skirt and vest but left the stockings around her neck hanging over her tits.The stockings were seemingly stretched and were torn in places. I love torn up stockings. It is just a major turn on for me. I’ve watched her walk from outside a bar back to me with her stockings torn up and knew she had just been fucked.
As I stood there looking at all the handprints and marks where she had been manhandled I could only imagine how she had enjoyed being abused by the other men at his direction. She told me how when she first got there he told the men,”Guess who came to the party?” They all moved up and gave her hugs as they also felt her up just as he did when he came to our door. One of them pulled her cheeks open and felt between her legs until he stuck a finger in her sopping wet cunt.She said he then pulled it out and stuck it in his mouth to suck her juices off it. She admitted that she was just before climaxing already. Bobby, (her
boyfriend) told them she didn’t have to be back to hubby anytime soon. They all had plenty of time to enjoy the night.
At that point she said everyone was undressing except her. She was overjoyed at everyone because she had made them all so hard so soon. The sizes went from average to quite large. Some were circumcised and a couple were not. She told me she was almost drooling knowing that at some point she would be taking as many as three at a time in her mouth and cunt. She won’t do anal with the group because of the possible transfer of bad things. I’m very grateful for her discretion in that.

Bobby got it started by standing in front of her and unbuttoning her vest and pulling it off. He grabbed her nipples and said out loud,” I love when she cums when I’m squeezing them hard enough ”
She started to feel the pain and his words more as he showed his brothers what was making her go so hard. Now the men knew her desire and weakness for abuse.
He dropped her skirt to the floor as he picked her up spreading her legs around his waist. He told her to take his dick and aim it for her slutty cunt. She did and he just dropped her all the way down on it. The pain of just taking all his dick at once set her off and she said she may have been climaxing the rest of the night and morning. He bounced her up and down, slapping her ass hard as he did. Someone, she didn’t know which one, came up behind her and grabbed a tit and twisted it hard. He also grabbed her throat and turned her head around and shoved his tongue down her throat. Another came up beside them and grabbed the other tit and started squeezing it then slapping it. He even bent in at one point and bit her nipple. She said she had no idea when the Hickies were made as it all sort of ran together as they all took turns mauling her. She told me one of the best parts was that they seemed to know how much she needed to be forced to fuck. They would take turns holding her down and holding her legs apart for someone else to fuck her. She loved telling me how they would slap her cunt and all the cum would splatter all over the place. This went on for hours with her being double teamed and triple teamed. They would fuck her until they came and take a break as the others would fill her. As I’ve said before she didn’t like them cumming in her mouth. They found a way though to get it in her mouth. When she would have a fresh load someone would rake it out of her cunt and stick their fingers full of cum in her mouth or just wipe her face and hair with it.
This went for hours and she told me as many details as she could remember as I was fucking her trying to hold out until she finished her story. We would end up cumming together then fall asleep. The next time we would fuck she gave me more details until the story was complete and we were exhausted from all the sex.
Now she is enjoying the occasional date with someone she finds sexy enough to excite her.

[Johnann2227]

My wife has fucked a couple of her exes over the years, including the guy she lost her virginity too as a teenager. She was at her 10 year school reunion and he was there. They hit it off and were having a great time reminiscing. She rang me later in the night and told me about him being there and that she could feel the old spark they had. I asked her if she wanted a hall pass and she said yes. The problem was he was married and staying with friends of his wife.

Ann said that she didn't just want a quick fuck in the back of our car but didn't know where to go. I told her to bring him home. We had our daughter by then and she was 2 so would be asleep.

About an hour later a taxi pulled into our drive and I saw Ann get out and walk holding hands with a guy. I opened the door for them and welcomed them in. Chris was a bit edgy at first but I made it clear that I was fine with this. After chatting, Ann led him upstairs where they fucked for the next 2 hours. I stayed downstairs to give them some privacy.
Eventually Ann and Chris came back downstairs, Chris dressed and Ann nude. I shook hands with him and wished him well. Ann gave him a long, passionate kiss and said goodbye. Later, after having reclaimed Ann, I asked her if she was going to see Chris again. She said no as while she enjoyed reconnecting with her first fuck, he was married and she had moved on.

I really like being out with Ann and running into guys that Ann has fucked before. It is a real turn on shaking hands and talking with a guy that has fucked your wife. Some know that I know and are comfortable about it and I enjoy chatting with these guys most.

[Tank Turner]

Hi Eric,

Your wife might not require encouragement.

[MarknSusan]

My wife Susan has had sex with three of her ex’s. They were all good experiences.

One of the relationships went off/on for more than 30 years. There’s a safety and comfort factor for her with an ex and she has to have chemistry.

So it’s really up to the two of you as long as the ex is on board with the arrangement. However, you indicated that she thinks the opportunity passed and based on our experiences Susan didn’t really wait for them, instead she reached out to all of the guys and they got back together with her.

Although the guy wanted the most took a few years “ to catch” because he is vanilla and didn’t understand what an open relationship was really about.

[Mgcouplemn]

This was a while back. Old boyfriend of hers showed up at a party we were attending, the party just happened to be on a night we had planned some hot-wifing to take place. Our plans were to go out to someplace and hookup with a married guy and hopefully have him fuck her while I watched. Well I had already thought of how nice it would be for my wife to fuck her old boyfriend (Ed) in front of me. Wife was floating all over the party mostly flirting with guys, I kept talking with Ed, which put him in front of her every time she came back to me. It worked because she would flirt with him a little.

Late in the party, I cornered her telling her that our plans were to go hot-wifing later, however there might be a possibility that Ed might be willing to have sex with her while I watched instead of maybe finding a guy later. Her face lit up and she asked "would you really want to see that", I instantly said "fuck yes". With that all said she focus on Ed, so did I leading our conversations to a sexual nature. wife left us for the restroom, Ed mentioned that I was a lucky guy and he wished he would have never broke up with her. I told him that our relationship of husband and wife was rock solid and we enjoy everything together and I accidently said "including lots of sex". He looked at me and told me that he loved sex with her when they were together.

That was just what I was waiting for so said "do you want to have sex with her tonight?" he started laughing and told me I was a mean bastard, we both were laughing when my wife got back. She asked what was so funny, I told her "I offered Ed to have sex with you tonight" my wife without hesitating said "I was hoping for that" then she said to me " you are going to watch, right?". I gave her a kiss while squeezing her ass, I answered her with " yes I will be, just like every other time". I turned to Ed and told him that we do this often and I do always watch.

I watched my wife fuck Ed wile sitting in my cuck chair masturbating, it was actually very exciting to see. I could see Ed building to orgasm, I told him to cum inside her, he did and as soon as her unmounted her I mounted her and unloaded my cum in her with his. We never saw Ed again, but I have watched my with fuck tree of her past boyfriends over the years.

[safado]

It's dangerous depending on when they started and how they broke up.

After years of coaxing her, my ex fucked a much younger ex co-worker a couple of times, then met a guy a a singles bar who became a long-term lover. He was ten years younger.

That faded out, I think on her idea. A couple years after that, she told me that she had contacted her old boyfriend from 35 years before on Facebook. I was out of the country on a contract. A month after that, she sent me a long email saying we should get a divorce. She didn't mention him, but I immediately knew it was that guy and confronted her with that, which she denied.

Long story, but through some hacking of emails and investigation of our mobile phone bills, I learned they were talking several times a day and had seen each other. She even went to Victoria's Secret to buy some nightwear before their first meeting. She admitted a lot. Her and I went back and forth for a few months. I demanded she cut off with him, because he wanted to leave his wife for my wife and had some emotional fixation on her.

It couldn't be another hotwife situation because she had led off by cheating and then asking for a divorce, although after I caught her she raised that possibility.

I caught her meeting him again and we got divorced. They married. I am pretty sure he was the first guy she ever fucked and was strongly imprinted on her as a lost love who had dumped her. I ended up being the rebound guy and I don't think she ever got over him, without me knowing about it. An "Alpha Widow" if you don't know the term, look it up.

Anyways, things worked out ok for me, my current wife is 20 years younger than her and is more agreeable and pleasant. But it might not work out as well for others.