Hall Pass?

[Wifewithothers]

Different couples have different guidelines that cover their participation in the lifestyle and that's fine

Of course. But this discussion highlights when a thread discusses a hall pass that the definition being used needs to be clarified.

Different couples will view it differently, each person can discuss it from their own point of view

For some it might be a hall pass be used anytime with anyone , no advanced discussion.

For some you don't have to tell your partner you used it, others will make it a must.

For some it might be only available under certain conditions. Out of town. Nobody you know. Knew one couple who each year they took separate short vacations, that was the only time the hall pass was available and they didn't have to say if they used it.

Maybe certain acts are saved just for the couple. IE no anal with other partners.

So people can discuss their version of the hall pass even if it varies from mine, yours etc

[Just a Fantasy]

Has anyone else created their own physical hall pass? When my wife was about to leave on a business trip out of the country I created one and printed it on cardstock, giving her permission to have fun while overseas. I stuck it in a bag with a couple of condoms and and her vibrator and put it in her suitcase. She didn't use it that time but the concept did come in handy for a later trip.

I also found a small "hallpass" necklace on etsy that I got for her. She's warn it a few times when we've been at Temptation.

[Wifewithothers]

Has anyone else created their own physical hall pass? When my wife was about to leave on a business trip out of the country I created one and printed it on cardstock, giving her permission to have fun while overseas. I stuck it in a bag with a couple of condoms and and her vibrator and put it in her suitcase. She didn't use it that time but the concept did come in handy for a later trip.

I also found a small "hallpass" necklace on etsy that I got for her. She's warn it a few times when we've been at Temptation.

That's pretty cool

[Mumfred]

I think for the purposes of this thread a hall pass is defined as when the husband says a wife can have sex with whom she likes, as long as the hall pass in effect, as long as she tells him afterwards that it happened.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello, from Kelly Hotwife married to Wesley

If a husband gives his wife a Hallpass it should not come with a bunch of constraints, then it defeats its purpose of a hallpass and the wife will never use it.

A Hallpass should enable the wife to date and have sex with whatever man she is attracted to and comfortable with. Let the wife have fun and share the details with her husband afterwards. Kelly

[Mumfred]

If a husband gives his wife a Hallpass it should not come with a bunch of constraints, then it defeats its purpose of a hallpass and the wife will never use it.

A Hallpass should enable the wife to date and have sex with whatever man she is attracted to and comfortable with. Let the wife have fun and share the details with her husband afterwards. Kelly

I think it is difficult to engage in hotwifing without constraints. It's important for both parties to know each other's constraints and if they are acceptable to each.

[Dream Weaver]

If a husband gives his wife a Hallpass it should not come with a bunch of constraints, then it defeats its purpose of a hallpass and the wife will never use it.

A Hallpass should enable the wife to date and have sex with whatever man she is attracted to and comfortable with. Let the wife have fun and share the details with her husband afterwards. Kelly

I think it is difficult to engage in hotwifing without constraints. It's important for both parties to know each other's constraints and if they are acceptable to each.

I don't quite agree. Here me out. Words "mean things". If the question was, "Did you ever give your wife permission to have sex with somebody else" then yes, we could get into the details, the rules, etc.

But the original thread question specified a "Hall Pass". There is a widely accepted definition that it's a free pass to engage in some extra-marital/relationship fun. You've already given permission. It's a permission slip to break the rules. Not more rules.

So all the extra rules turn it into something else, but not a Hall Pass. A Hall Pass isn't by definition "the right way to do it". It's simply a way to do it that plenty of couples easily understand.

Sure, there is value in having the discussion about what the rules are, for fun, in this thread, but my vote is a Hall Pass is pretty damn loose. Your wife can get down to fuckin', and what happens afterward is up in the air!

[luvwives999]

Hello, from Kelly Hotwife married to Wesley

If a husband gives his wife a Hallpass it should not come with a bunch of constraints, then it defeats its purpose of a hallpass and the wife will never use it.

A Hallpass should enable the wife to date and have sex with whatever man she is attracted to and comfortable with. Let the wife have fun and share the details with her husband afterwards. Kelly

I agree with what you said, and my wife had that from day 1 of our marriage, however, I did give her one stipulation and that was, not to do anything with anyone else she had not done with me first.

[Wifewithothers]

Hello, from Kelly Hotwife married to Wesley

If a husband gives his wife a Hallpass it should not come with a bunch of constraints, then it defeats its purpose of a hallpass and the wife will never use it.

A Hallpass should enable the wife to date and have sex with whatever man she is attracted to and comfortable with. Let the wife have fun and share the details with her husband afterwards. Kelly

I agree with what you said, and my wife had that from day 1 of our marriage, however, I did give her one stipulation and that was, not to do anything with anyone else she had not done with me first.

So you put a limit on the hall pass based on your comfort level as a couple. As it should be.