Our Hotwives

We are making a mindful journey towards hotwifing and reaching out to the like minded to get wiser and to be sociable and make some friends.
A synopsis

• • We are 53 & 54, married 18 years and together 20. We have an intense teenage family, which is rather limiting time, space, privacy, energy, money, etc.
  • We live in the United Kingdom north of London near the city of Milton Keynes.
  • My hotwifing fantasy started in earnest in 2007. However I'd had three previous gfs who 'cheated' and only remember dealing with it calmly at the time and completely accepting it something I'd probably have done if I were them.
  • It was on the table from the outset as it arose in the opening scenario of 'Along Came Polly' where I sided with the wife that cheated for a big dick and my wife side with the prudish cuckolded husband,
  • It was such an epiphany to me (and a shock to my wife) that I openly went along to a relationship counsellor to discuss my new found turn on to a shared/ cheating wife. I was told it was a completely normal turn on and historically crops up as a Menage a Trois, for example Lord and lady Hamilton + Horatio Nelson. Practically, though we needed more time to establish family life and get our adult lives back together.
  • 2011 we were fitter and I'd read around a bit with Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha) and Insatiable Wives (David j Ley) as well as taken the pulse on the internet forums and porn stars. Jinxypie was very inspirational back then. I asked that we open the marriage and allow my wife to flirt, dates and to take lovers should she choose.
  • It was still a huge shock to my wife that I actually asked for a hotwifing marriage, but I gave her space and support to process it in her own time
    I decided to simply create space and accept the way it rolled for her and trust rather than set controlling boundaries and make passive aggressive interventions.
  • We haven't find much time to move forward as we moved house and she needed a major operation.Today she is basically socialising as she did as a single woman. She has never stopped being an incurable social flirt, but is now quite happy to meet people, men included, that interest her regardless of her desire for them. She admits to two orgasmic dalliances where she let male 'friends' get her off by hand whilst she did likewise. One of these dalliances I knew about and we discussed it as it when from date to date. The other one was serendipity when a man was helping do work in the Kitchen. I knew after.
  • What next. I'd like to think full intercourse is an option, but her preferences for flirting, teasing, and a few sexual foreplay dalliances are very much her natural game. That way, like Bill Clinton, she still feels she has not cheated her upbringing and her wedding vows. Mute point. Beyond that options to explore how much direct involvement of me we can handle

Overall we are vastly better at communicating and finding quality time. We have had a lot of naughty fun with this and hence grown significant emotional intimacy. I've been very horny at times with lots of sexual energy and had great make up/ reclaim sessions. On the emotional side I've not had a problem with jealousy per se but have found myself annoyed at times when her energy and time are drawn away from the family to sustain chatting with other men. I am not aware of my wife having any significant emotional conflicts so far, partly I hope because she has been in control of the risks she takes.

Welcome to OHW DanielBlues

Can this be moved to the new member forum?

Great reading (and learning) about the adventures of another UK resident, thanks for sharing

CuriousUK wrote: ↑

Mon Dec 21, 2020 5:56 am

Great reading (and learning) about the adventures of another UK resident, thanks for sharing

Thanks. Glad it helped

Thanks London Stag and Mystere for getting in touch. For the life of me I can't figure out how to reply to your private messages.

DanielBlues wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 24, 2020 6:29 am

Thanks London Stag and Mystere for getting in touch. For the life of me I can't figure out how to reply to your private messages.

I think you need to make some more public posts. Then the system will allow you to PM.

wannabecUKold wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 31, 2020 6:22 am

DanielBlues wrote: ↑

Thu Dec 24, 2020 6:29 am

Thanks London Stag and Mystere for getting in touch. For the life of me I can't figure out how to reply to your private messages.

I think you need to make some more public posts. Then the system will allow you to PM.

Thanks for the tip

Hi DanielBlues,
Sounds like you’re similar to my wife and I, we’re both 49 and live in MK. Welcome!

cuckboy_uk wrote: ↑

Sun Jan 03, 2021 10:57 am

Hi DanielBlues,
Sounds like you’re similar to my wife and I, we’re both 49 and live in MK. Welcome!

That makes us almost family lol Let's keep in touch

Just checking in, how are things going?

We are still on the journey and doing our homework. I am trying to work out more clearly what I want and why. I seem to have a touch of the voyeur as a "stag", a touch of the bisexuality, but also maybe a little something darker rooted in a history of cheating gfs and implied 'erotic' sexual rejection. That is about as confusing as the whole hotwife, cuckolding sector itself lol. Added to that there maybe a touch of using it for sexual excitement and by passing the increasing risk of Erectile Dysfunction with age etc

I think for my Steph it allows her to be the social flirt and sometimes a tease that she always has been. She has had the odd kiss and cuddle over the last 7 years and allowed two or three hands in her pants to get her off at times. She is not yet ready to allow full intercourse as that brings her head first to her guilt and the need for safe sex and a place to go. Currently of course there is no one of the scene to tempt her to seal the deal.

what about you?

Your comments about bisexuality and cheating might get better replies in the cuckold forum.

23 year old bull from london here, would love to talk to like minded people who are into this life style from london or surrounding area, my kik :bondage_london

DanielBlues wrote: ↑

Sat Jan 09, 2021 3:15 pm

We are still on the journey and doing our homework. I am trying to work out more clearly what I want and why. I seem to have a touch of the voyeur as a "stag", a touch of the bisexuality, but also maybe a little something darker rooted in a history of cheating gfs and implied 'erotic' sexual rejection. That is about as confusing as the whole hotwife, cuckolding sector itself lol. Added to that there maybe a touch of using it for sexual excitement and by passing the increasing risk of Erectile Dysfunction with age etc

I think for my Steph it allows her to be the social flirt and sometimes a tease that she always has been. She has had the odd kiss and cuddle over the last 7 years and allowed two or three hands in her pants to get her off at times. She is not yet ready to allow full intercourse as that brings her head first to her guilt and the need for safe sex and a place to go. Currently of course there is no one of the scene to tempt her to seal the deal.

what about you?

I relate to all of this. Working out what you want is one thing and has made me so horny over many years like straight sex just cannot. The why has been the harder part. For me like you it’s about a 50:50 combination of bisexuality (I’ve always known that I am but have found it really hard to come out to myself yet alone my wife about this) and the same cheating of my first three main girlfriends. At the time, I rationalised this as these girls needing to be with straight men that would fuck them like they wanted to be. So, yes, I felt rejected for sex in favour of a real man not a sissy poof.

Thanks for sharing. Always fascinating to hear about other peoples journeys

Hildasw wrote: ↑

Sat Dec 11, 2021 12:27 pm

Thanks for sharing. Always fascinating to hear about other peoples journeys

Thanks so much for writing

Good to see more folk from the UK on here.

stagnvixenuk wrote: ↑

Wed Mar 16, 2022 12:26 pm

Good to see more folk from the UK on here.

Did anyone else enjoy "the great sex experiment" on C4 last night?

My HW is originally from Leeds. Welcome to the forum

DanielBlues wrote: ↑

Sun Dec 13, 2020 5:14 pm

We are making a mindful journey towards hotwifing and reaching out to the like minded to get wiser and to be sociable and make some friends.
A synopsis

• • We are 53 & 54, married 18 years and together 20. We have an intense teenage family, which is rather limiting time, space, privacy, energy, money, etc.
  • We live in the United Kingdom north of London near the city of Milton Keynes.
  • My hotwifing fantasy started in earnest in 2007. However I'd had three previous gfs who 'cheated' and only remember dealing with it calmly at the time and completely accepting it something I'd probably have done if I were them.
  • It was on the table from the outset as it arose in the opening scenario of 'Along Came Polly' where I sided with the wife that cheated for a big dick and my wife side with the prudish cuckolded husband,
  • It was such an epiphany to me (and a shock to my wife) that I openly went along to a relationship counsellor to discuss my new found turn on to a shared/ cheating wife. I was told it was a completely normal turn on and historically crops up as a Menage a Trois, for example Lord and lady Hamilton + Horatio Nelson. Practically, though we needed more time to establish family life and get our adult lives back together.
  • 2011 we were fitter and I'd read around a bit with Sex at Dawn (Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jetha) and Insatiable Wives (David j Ley) as well as taken the pulse on the internet forums and porn stars. Jinxypie was very inspirational back then. I asked that we open the marriage and allow my wife to flirt, dates and to take lovers should she choose.
  • It was still a huge shock to my wife that I actually asked for a hotwifing marriage, but I gave her space and support to process it in her own time
    I decided to simply create space and accept the way it rolled for her and trust rather than set controlling boundaries and make passive aggressive interventions.
  • We haven't find much time to move forward as we moved house and she needed a major operation.Today she is basically socialising as she did as a single woman. She has never stopped being an incurable social flirt, but is now quite happy to meet people, men included, that interest her regardless of her desire for them. She admits to two orgasmic dalliances where she let male 'friends' get her off by hand whilst she did likewise. One of these dalliances I knew about and we discussed it as it when from date to date. The other one was serendipity when a man was helping do work in the Kitchen. I knew after.
  • What next. I'd like to think full intercourse is an option, but her preferences for flirting, teasing, and a few sexual foreplay dalliances are very much her natural game. That way, like Bill Clinton, she still feels she has not cheated her upbringing and her wedding vows. Mute point. Beyond that options to explore how much direct involvement of me we can handle

This situation sounds right up my street. I have in the past, canoodled with a workmate's wife before he got home. But also joined them in the evening for sessions...
I love spending hours teasing and foreplay without necessarily going the whole way.
Just need to clock whereabouts you are.

Aug 2022 Update. In terms of self work I've grown increasingly confident in my cuckold needs/ fantasies. I can increasingly see myself as a self identified cuck (wannabe) and proud of it. As a couple it has been an overworked year and rather quiet of the sex cuckold front.

This summer things started to get back into gear. I've put wine and treats into our bedroom to help us both mellow out after a day with the kids and work.

When I think she is receptive we've started reading cuckold erotica together. Normally porn grosses her out before it can arouse her, but erotica such 50 shades hits her sweet spot. The story that's working well is "the cuckolded reviewer" written by AngliesEroticPen on the Lush website.

The cuckold erotica is opening her mind to possibilities. Will it open her thighs as well? She is conflicted reading it somewhat between being turned on by the nawty streak in the wife and also deep ,oral disapproval of the wife's brazen wantonness. That's her upbringing speaking!

Overall, it does feel like we are making progress and can openly talk about my cuckold kink as well as a 50 shades Christian Gray kink

It's always good to see fellow Brits here. I'm always up for a chat, in person or online. I hope your dreams come true.