Jealousy - What were the less obvious things?

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Unread post by Des 31 » Tue Feb 22, 2022 10:03 am

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Not trying to brag just giving background. So far in our exploration jealous feelings have not creeped up. She has played solo, we did some threesomes, made out with some potential 3rds on initially meeting. None of which has brought up any negative feelings. However I am very cognizant that it could happen, just that I have not been exposed to the right trigger.

So for experienced couples what were the non-obvious and surprising things that brought up jealousy? Were they easier or harder to process?
When we first began, she found she preferred being along with her guys, without me in the same room. I think I had feelings of jealousy for two or three months before that went away. I suppose that had I been in threesomes as you have, I would not have experienced those feelings. In time, I found she was right about her and other men enjoying the sex more without me watching or participating. I like it better the way it has worked out for the two of us.

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Unread post by Bongomadness 6969 » Tue Feb 22, 2022 6:26 pm

I never had a problem of jealousy at all when wifey was with another guy. Absolutely love watching, joining in and hearing detailed stories of her being her slutiest. Only thing that ever bothered me was when wifey would make out or flirt with another guy in front of our friends when we were at a bar or party when we first started down the road of sharing. It took a little before wifey learned to pull it back a bit to be somewhat discrete in public. I think it was more embarrassment than jealousy though. When we went out alone she went wild and I loved it.

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Unread post by stag611 » Wed Feb 23, 2022 9:05 am

Not an experienced couple by any means, but had one strong experience with this. when my gf was with her former lover, things progressed slowly but by the end of a few months of them dating, she was completely in love with him. This was incredibly hot at first, seeing her blush when I mentioned him, or how she'd put so much effort into getting ready for her dates etc.

After a while though, she become super attached to him, which was hot too since this didn't harm our relationship, and I found out she loved him as well. They would talk on the phone every night, say I love you to each other, etc. She showed me her texts with him and they seemed to be more of a couple than me and her at one point! I asked her about this, she assured me it's ok and reminded me that she can't be physically intimate with a man if she wasn't in love with him, we talked and it was all good, this continued for a couple more months before they parted ways.

The jealousy part came in when I found out firstly, she'd send him exclusive sexy pictures that I didn't get, but on top of that she'd talk to him every night, and because of our schedules and time zones, she was talking to him more than me. Took a second to process, but after talking to her it was all good, and I enjoyed some pre-cuck bliss for a little while, it was great!

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Unread post by 54321 » Sun Mar 06, 2022 6:12 am

I had to work one Saturday night. My wife went to the swing club alone. I thought I'd be ok. That experience made me question the lifestyle. It took a few days. Then I got past it. For whatever reason, I was pissed when I got off work.
Wow! What happened?

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Unread post by Des 31 » Mon Mar 07, 2022 10:48 am

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In the early years of my wife and boyfriends relationship I would get jealous if he wanted to take her out and do something non-sexual. For example he bought tickets to take her to see a pop concert. Also he asked her to go with him to parties of his friends, where he couldn't invite me too, as I wasn't known to them. I got left alone at home, and didn't like it at all. I had to put a stop to it. I was happy for her to go to his place for sex, but the other activities seemed too much like he was trying to 'romance' her. I suppose it wasn't just jealousy, it was insecurity.
I would sometimes feel jealous, after I'd cum, if he carried on the sex with her, especially if it was passionate stuff with lots of kissing etc. I'm jealous that he makes her cum, and I don't.
When she got to know him more, she eventually told me she would never leave me for him. That made the jealous feelings much less strong. Jealousy or insecurity?
These days the jealousy is rare, and doesn't last long.
We have found that with good communication in a rock-solid marriage, problems are highly unlikely to come about. My wife often dates any one of her regular guys while I'm at home alone, usually jerking off while knowing he's fucking her brains out. She knows I enjoy it and our marital contract stays as it has been, even before she began seeing other men. At times when a man seemed to be getting deep feelings beyond that of the intimacy of sex, she has broken off the relationship and moved on to another.
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Unread post by Mkliny442015 » Tue Mar 15, 2022 1:56 am

In the beginning I think my head was so wrapped around the impatient need for her to fuck others that I didn’t see beyond that. Now that she has done that plenty of times and we are more experienced in the lifestyle I have definitely embraced compersion , I’m actually ok with her falling in love with a BF. She chooses to share a life with me, our house and our kids and our struggles good and bad. We have been through things that have made us stronger and closer . The fact that she chooses to share that with only me makes me realize I have nothing to be jealous of, in fact it makes me feel more secure. There is no threat of her leaving me for another man because unlike cheating she doesn’t have to hide it or make a choice between the two of us. She can have her cake and eat it too. She isn’t going to walk away from her kids , house , husband she loves and security to spend more time with another guy. Love happens naturally and all the rules in the world can’t stop that. If she is dating the same guy , having sex long term feelings are an inevitable part of the process. As she puts it, she is dating the guys that she would never have considered relationship material before she was looking to settle down. Guys that are fun but not marriage material . Not that they are bad people, but not someone she would choose to share the things in life she shares with me. I have nothing to be jealous over. Of course she is having better sex with her boyfriends, no distractions, she gets to be wined and dined and dressed up , nice hotels or the serenity of another guys house can’t compare. It makes me happy when someone is fucking her really good and she enjoys it. We didn’t get into this lifestyle so she can go out and have mediocre sex. A little jealousy is healthy and keeps me on my toes.

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Unread post by Baldyellow » Sat May 28, 2022 7:20 pm

I was and am not jealous of my wife fucking others and never have been. However, my wife is jealous of me and other women.

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Unread post by Minnhotwife » Sat May 28, 2022 8:45 pm

JC207 wrote:
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Similar to CurvyNerdMilf's comment, jealousy doesn't always set in right away. The first IRL meeting is likely to be full of nervousness on both the husband and wife's part. That first time, the sex is rarely earth shattering or life changing. But as we progressed and my wife became more comfortable with the dynamic, I saw changes in her that were both enjoyed and concerning.

My moment of real jealousy hit after watching her with a man who was a total superstar in bed. The orgasms he gave her were intense and repeated and my ego took a beating that night.

I've gone through stages of feeling like I was no longer the primary person in her life and many many nights of "why are we doing this" thoughts as I lie awake.

As someone said above, if you were'n't jealous at all, then you need to consider whether you truly love her. Personally, I struggle to watch or be present in the same room while my wife enjoys her friends. When this was just a fantasy, I thought it would be great and I would enjoy it. Not so much in reality. We've settled on the fact that just knowing she regularly entertains other men is enough for me. On the rare occasion when I am at home during an event, the sounds from the other room keep my stomach in knots the whole time.

We know a couple through the lifestyle that started as swingers and moved to the HW thing about 10 years ago. I asked him once how he handled jealousy. He laughed at me and said, "I decided that it could either consume me or I could just manage it and talk to her if it got too bad." That ended up being sage advice that we've used as well.

Be careful out there. Once the genie comes out of the bottle, she won't go back in without a fight.

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Fantastic insight JC207! Just what I needed to read as my wife is spending a weekend by herself and also entertaining some lovers.

It's beyond true what you said about jealousy and in our case, I am no longer my wife's primary partner.

We've struggled with opening up and I will add I experienced may of the same feelings as you. I still haven't seen my wife with another man yet but we have talked about it often.

I've tried to be up front and raw with my emotions on OHW so others can see what truly happens once you open up your marriage and your wife is freed from any constraints of monogamy.

From the waxing of her pubic hair to the knockout dresses and staying out late or overnight with her lovers and NRE, it can and as we see here on OHW potentially end the marriage or if the guy submits, become a full cuckold. (Which is fine if consented too freely without fear of losing the relationship).

I go from calm to jealous to anxiety to arousal and love to being upset. It's been a wild ride but tough in many parts.

You are awesome and thanks again for sharing these insights.


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Unread post by Minnhotwife » Sat May 28, 2022 8:54 pm

Mkliny442015 wrote:
Tue Mar 15, 2022 1:56 am
In the beginning I think my head was so wrapped around the impatient need for her to fuck others that I didn’t see beyond that. Now that she has done that plenty of times and we are more experienced in the lifestyle I have definitely embraced compersion , I’m actually ok with her falling in love with a BF. She chooses to share a life with me, our house and our kids and our struggles good and bad. We have been through things that have made us stronger and closer . The fact that she chooses to share that with only me makes me realize I have nothing to be jealous of, in fact it makes me feel more secure. There is no threat of her leaving me for another man because unlike cheating she doesn’t have to hide it or make a choice between the two of us. She can have her cake and eat it too. She isn’t going to walk away from her kids , house , husband she loves and security to spend more time with another guy. Love happens naturally and all the rules in the world can’t stop that. If she is dating the same guy , having sex long term feelings are an inevitable part of the process. As she puts it, she is dating the guys that she would never have considered relationship material before she was looking to settle down. Guys that are fun but not marriage material . Not that they are bad people, but not someone she would choose to share the things in life she shares with me. I have nothing to be jealous over. Of course she is having better sex with her boyfriends, no distractions, she gets to be wined and dined and dressed up , nice hotels or the serenity of another guys house can’t compare. It makes me happy when someone is fucking her really good and she enjoys it. We didn’t get into this lifestyle so she can go out and have mediocre sex. A little jealousy is healthy and keeps me on my toes.
Just like with Des 31 and JC 207, this is such a raw, real, and honest post. Thank you for these words.

I'm still working on compersion but it's more present than unhealthy jealousy so that's a good start. I'm good with healthy jealousy. This is almost exactly the path my wife is going down now with us and her lovers. She's in love with one of them and it's okay. I think I struggled with the fact she was having so much better sex with them along with the fact we were have much less sex than before we opened up. I've heard some pretty good stories so far and several firsts. :D Actually, if I have any issues, it's probably with the amount of sex we have regardless of her other lovers.

This is one area we do need to address and if we can't figure it out, what to do next. It doesn't have to be equal or even as good as her other boyfriends but truth be told, I am a really good lover and know how to pleasure my partner as I did last week with another woman.

And I am so thankful we opened because it did kick my ass to dress well, spend more time grooming, and staying in excellent shape.

Have a great summer!!!


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Unread post by SRKnight » Sun May 29, 2022 12:52 pm

wny3somecple wrote:
Wed Sep 22, 2021 2:18 pm
When she played alone with a guy I really did not like. A guy in out neighborhood who I found a bit obnoxious others thought him confident. Originally I used our agreed upon veto power when it came to including someone we knew. Eventually she pulled out the never before heard off veto override ability (which really was just a discussion about the situation. She had sex with him a bunch of times over 3 months, him thinking it was behind my back. I often felt jealous but then again we had some great "angry" sex after her visits with him.
That is the only one I have not liked. A guy that is very obnoxious to everyone and she went to hotel with him after karaoke one night. She told me about it and he was into some light bondage and humiliation with her. Turns out that turned her on. For months now she has seen him at least weekly and lets him be much rougher that others. I’ve accepted it, but still don’t like the guy. But the stories are hot!

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Unread post by Baldyellow » Sat Jun 04, 2022 11:51 am

We did MFM threesomes, she dated alone and we swapped with couples a few times. I was never jealous of my wife with other men, however; she was jealous of me with every woman who was involved. Our swapping with couples ended because she just could not handle it well. She had no proble fucking other men though. I enjoyed it an what works for one couple might not work for others.

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Unread post by Mr Stag » Sun Apr 23, 2023 8:59 am

Jealousy is the other big problem to overcome. I have found myself quite irrationally jealous at times and I hate it. Some of the worst flashes of jealousy I have ever suffered were provoked by the smallest events. A tender kiss. A small sigh of pleasure. A whisper. By the way, one big problem with wife sharing is that we see a lot of porn, too much porn, which always shows the same sort of sexual positions, positions that let us see penetration. But in real life, real people do not often make love in porn positions. So when a husband sees his wife underneath another man, in the missionary position, tenderly holding his head in her hands, deeply kissing him, his ass grinding in slow circles in between her legs, her legs wrapping tightly around his torso, he can easily get jealous. "Hey, they were supposed to fuck like porn stars, not like lovers. Don't you two know that you are supposed to be fucking, not making love," his mind screams out.

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:03 am

A lot of difference between fucking and making love. We love both at different times. Have you ever said sex and no forplay. Just fuck for the sake of fucking. It's fun. Pretty much sex and better sex. No bad sex. Use some lube and have her slide down on it and get turned on by being fucked and watch her slowly come alive and beginning working it and working it to explosion for both of you. Hopefully her several times in the process.

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Unread post by Mr Stag » Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:08 am

Not to belabor the topic, but the conclusion that I draw is that jealousy is always waiting to spring forward, so be prepared. Ask yourself if you want your girlfriend or wife to experience the best sex of her life and, maybe, the biggest orgasm of her life while being fucked by someone else. Remember, she should have a better time with another man, as he is a stranger and what you three are doing is sinful, which makes for much greater sexual tension. Thus, if her having more enjoyment in the arms of another man does not sound appealing to you, then do not share.

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Unread post by armyguyot1 » Sun Apr 23, 2023 9:12 am

The other side of that is if you are attentive and learn what she really likes, you can cause really intense orgams also. Mine can arch her back and jerk and her pussy throbs. Nice place for a toung when it really throbs.

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Unread post by Mr Stag » Sun Apr 23, 2023 10:34 am

Perhaps, this should be posted elsewhere or in a new topic.

The worst bout of intense jealousy I ever experienced with sharing my first wife made no sense. At 3 pm she called me at work to tell me that one of our "special friends" from our old town was on a short business trip that would place him 50 miles from our place and he wanted to visit us afterwards, which of course meant have sex with her. She had given him the okay and she was leaving her work early to quickly shower and tidy up our home. I loved the idea, as it had been half a year since her last encounter with another man, but the timing sucked. I knew that after the sex, I would have to drive back to work and keep working, as we had huge office problem. I didn't leave early; in fact, I left more than half an hour later than usual. As I drove home, my mind was on work, on the damned problem, not sex.

Almost an hour later than usual, swinging open the door to my apartment, I was startled. First, the open door poured out oppressively hot air, as she liked to up the heat to a toasty 82 degrees when she was going to be naked. Second, right at the end of the short hallway that opened to the living room, I witnessed both of them perpendicular to me and both naked, save for her high heels and gold arm bracelet and Bill’s brown socks, while they were in the act of fucking while standing.

She stood facing of an overstuffed chair, bent at her waist, her torso at a right angle to her straight legs, her arms locked and her hands clutching the arm rests, her shoes almost touching, her long red hair pouring off her head, her breasts dangling free and rhythmically swaying back and forth, as Bill stood upright behind her, his hands gripping her paper-white ass, while driving his stiff cock deep into her vagina, the powerful thrusts making slapping sounds against her wonderfully round ass and smooth thighs; and the air was thick with the smell of sex, but not the usual sexual scent we made together, but the oddly different musky smell that she made only with Bill.

As I quickly put away my things, she lifted her head up and turned it to face me, revealing passion-drunk, half-opened eyes and glossy red lips that formed a small smile that quickly dissolved with her moaning. If Bill had been ten years younger and handsomer, the sight would have been porno picture perfect. Better than porn, in fact, as this sex scene was real, as real as his brown socks, the moans honest and the passion genuine. His cock was actually moving in and out of her and she was sincerely glad that his cock was inside her body.

I, too, felt a passion build in me, but it was not sexual, just the opposite. Jealousy gripped me, clutching my throat, squeezing my stomach, and blurring my vision. Jealousy raged in my head. If I had carried a gun, Bill might have died that night. At the same time, I was greatly confused, as I was getting everything I wanted: she looked gorgeous and she was being fucked by another man, an old friend of mine that I had always liked. If I didn't want her to fuck Bill, she would never would have. And the way they were fucking was my favorite to behold: standing, with him behind her.

I was nine inches taller than she was and the only time I could fuck her in that sex position was when she stood on one stair-step higher than I did. I loved when a shorter man fucked her, as he could suck her nipples and she could wrap her legs around his shoulders, both of which I could not do in the missionary position.

Not wanting them to know how I felt, I hid in the kitchen, pretending to make myself a drink, desperately trying to figure out why I was feeling as bad as I did. It made no sense, I kept telling myself. I had seen her being fucked by other men many, many times. And 90% of the time, it was my idea. In fact, at first, I had to do quite a bit of convincing to get her warmed up to the notion of letting Bill have access to her naked body. Moreover, Bill was anything but threatening, standing at least six inches shorter than me, balding, with good-sized spare tire about his waist. He was about 37 at the time, but he looked closer 45. He was not handsome and his cock was far smaller than mine, appearing almost boyish with its bubble-gum pink head and a pale white shaft. No, it wasn’t Bill that was causing my jealousy, in spite of his freckled hands tightly gripping hold of her hips, his sweat raining off his forehead, his tightly closed eyes and low grunts and moans. (My God was he sweating. The room was quite warm, but he was generating more heat with his frantic all-out fucking.)

No, my anger was with her. I felt that she had betrayed me, but I couldn’t say just how.

Was it her appearance? She wore her best shoes, which I had bought her and they cost a fortune and yet were worth every penny, all 40,000 of them. Italian made, black leather, thin-strapped, three-inches of heel, these shoes made her feet and legs look sexy beyond the constraints of the elastic in my underwear. In addition, when she wore them, she felt doubly seductive and sensual. Unfortunately, because they cost so much, because they were so special, she seldom wore them. After much pleading from me, she would model in them for me, but as soon as my hungry hands held her to me, she would remove them, fearing that they might be scuffed during sex. And here she was wearing them for Bill, while he fucked her hard.

I also noticed that she had rubbed a thin film of baby oil over her entire naked body, a trick which made her pale, fair skin gleam and sparkle in the dim light, the thin film of oil subtracting the rawness from her skin, making it look more sumptuous; I also knew that she only applied a full oiling after a full leg and pussy shave. And her long head of red hair was beautifully brushed, recently soft-curled, and not in its usual ponytail. In fact, she was at her prettiest that night, her hair at its longest length, her legs and thighs taut from long walks, her waist tight and flat from years of aerobics. She looked great and she was also enjoying the pounding Bill was giving her, her face revealing a near stupor-like loss of control, her mouth gasping for air, while her eyes rolled in their sockets much like her breasts swaying erratically from Bill's pounding.

Maybe that was it?

Yes, although I wanted her to be as sexually happy as she could be and I delighted when another man made her orgasm, this time she seemed too happy, too turned on. Although I would have never expected her to stop, meet me at the door and give me a big kiss, I was somewhat disappointed that she hadn’t. Instead, she was lustily enjoying all that Bill was slamming into her. Moreover, her broken chanting of “Fuck me; fuck me Bill; fuck me hard” did not help my mood.

I finally stripped and joined them. My jealousy slowly melted away and was replaced with desire and lust and, even, love. I loved that she had planned the scene for me to see, having moved the furniture to set the scene for me upon entering the room. I loved that she loved sex, that she let Bill see her naked and let him fuck her, and that she let Bill cum inside her. I even had a super warm feeling for Bill. When we were finished, I sincerely thanked Bill for fucking her so passionately.

The crazy workaround to jealousy I came up with after that night was to make her promise—paradoxically enough—not to hold anything back. I told her that she had to know that I expected to her fuck in earnest, holding nothing back, giving her new lover everything she could offer, including her orgasms. Above all, she wasn’t to play the submissive that just lies on her back and lets things happen to her vagina. The other man would be our guest and, as such, he deserved royal treatment, such as dressing as seductively as she could, trimming her pussy hairs around her opening, asking how she could make it better for him, thanking him for giving her such a hard cock, making sure to lick his cock clean after he has cums. This way, if she seemed overly pleased or too captured by his charms, she was only following my orders.

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Unread post by dinoo » Thu May 11, 2023 3:19 am

Seldom I was jealous and LadyD regretted this.
However, I can remember very well the occasion in which we would go to sleep: her lover, she and I in our marital bed.
It was early in the morning after a hot evening.
I proposed to sleep in the gest room but my wife insisted me to be on her side.
With her back to me, my wife was flirting with him instead of going to sleep.
At one point she bent her head towards his cock to take it in her mouth. And of course I wanted to watch.
However, LadyD pushed me back and said, "This is between us that you have nothing to do with. Just pretend you're in the spare room."

This was the last thing I expected and felt humiliated.
That lasted a minute or so until I realized that's exactly what I'd expected from her. The jealousy quickly subsided.


I listened to the sucking for minutes before she seriously gave him a BJ. I could tell by his breathing that he was pleased.
It took a while before I heard him cumming.
First she kissed him before resting her head on his chest.
Still with her back to me.........
We fell asleep like that.
A month ago, all my settings disappeared.
To read (and view) my contibutions search for author "dinoo".

We visited frequently a club. (www.kasteelwaterloo.nl)
It became "our" club.
We recorded the events there in a diary.

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Unread post by jandtfun42 » Tue Jul 25, 2023 3:48 am

When we first started our journey I didn’t want her to do anything but have sex with other guys. I thought that anything else meant that she would fall in love.
I was jealous of others potentially having a closer relationship with her than me.
I was worried about her kissing and holding hands with a guy.
I wasn’t really as prepared as I thought I was for the whole situation of sharing the woman who held my heart!
However as we discussed my feelings about her doing each different thing that scares me I realized how nonsensical each worry really was.
How could I be jealous of kissing but be ok with oral sex, or jealous of hand holding but ok with him pounding the fuck out of her pussy.
It really didn’t make any sense the more we talked about it.
Sure it makes me jealous that these guys are more able to satisfy her physical needs but that is what I wanted her to be able to experience in the first place.
For the most part I have found that when I feel jealous about something it’s because I’m self conscious or feeling insecure about myself not something that she has done.
I know without a doubt deep inside that she Loves me and that she is using these guys to get something she needs on another level that is not the same as what her and I share.
As long as I focus on the true joy I feel knowing that she is truly happy and having her needs fulfilled. Then jealousy can’t have a place in my head or heart for very long.
I love my wife and I know without a doubt that she loves me.
Jealousy can only happen if I focus only on myself and not on our relationship as a whole.

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Unread post by parklife » Tue Jul 25, 2023 9:19 am

I’ll give you somethings that has made me jealous. Not in a bad way per de but in a longing way…. Like, I miss that. I’m not the jealous type and things rarely bother me but..

1 - the laughter I her voice when she is on the phone flirting with her FWB.. sometimes there is a soft gale of laughter.. I remember that sound from when we were younger and not living together. Now, we laugh but it’s different. Firtatous laughter makes me long for the days of hearing it it my ear.

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Unread post by steveb713 » Sat Aug 05, 2023 5:31 pm

The jealousy i experienced occurred when I began to feel she was replacing me for him. She was definitely experiencing rampant NRE. I told her I was feeling replaced by him and asked her to be aware of it. It was a very peculiar time.
The problem was that I absolutely loved her fucking him and coming home to me with a cum filled pussy.

We eventually worked things out but I t was touch and go for a while.

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Unread post by tailchasers » Sun Aug 06, 2023 7:05 am

Seeing her lust after certain men was a top one for me She'd get an itch for someone and the quest began. I saw her many times at parties or LS bars/events where she'd single him out in the corner making her moves. First chatting with giggles, brush of a hand on his thigh or shoulder, then a hug or quick pick on the cheek acknowledging her pleasure with his attention. I'd see this and get fired up, she knew I was watching. Most of the times they would take a exit to a more private place where they could elevate their encounter. Sometimes I'd loose track of them while mingling then my hunt began to locate them. That hunt was always heart pounding since I never really knew what I'd find or if I'd find them. It wasn't uncommon for severe butterflies to develop and angst. If I was not able to find her then the real angst began... Painfully exhilarating making my dick throb. Sometime I would make my presence known while other times I'd hang back and let them go at one another.

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Re: Jealousy - What were the less obvious things?

Unread post by Johnann2227 » Sun Aug 06, 2023 12:57 pm

I have never been jealous through our years of swinging and hotwifing because it has always been simply about sex and pleasure and not love. The only times I would sometimes get pissed is when I would spends hours over a number of days (and hundreds of dollars) preparing my wife for her date. If it was winter I woud book her a spraytan the day before and drive her there and back. I would also book her nail, hair and eyelash appointments and take her to those. I would go and buy her new lingerie for her date and take her dress and shoe shopping. The afternoon of her date I would bathe her while she had a relaxing glass of moscato. Before she was lasered I would sit her on the side of the bath and shave her pussy and then turn her around and shave any stray hairs around her rosebud. I would then dry her and massage in her body lotion. I would then help her get dressed by pulling up her stockings and attaching them to her suspender belt. Throughout this whole experience I would be rock hard wanting to fuck her. I was never allowed to do anything more than kiss her pussy mound as she wanted to stay fresh for her boyfriend. Before she left for her date I was only allowed to kiss her cheek as she didn't want to ruin her lipstick. I knew that on meeting her boyfriend she would immediately have a passionate kiss, with him slipping his hand up her dress to feel her pussy. Her lipstick would be smudged and her pussy a sopping mess but I was not allowed to touch.
When we go to our weekly swinging party however, Ann insists on giving me a quick blowjob befre we arrive so that she can leave a red lipstick ring halfway up my shaft so the other women know I am her property. The different rules can annoy me at times.

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Re: Jealousy - What were the less obvious things?

Unread post by ktcouple » Fri Aug 11, 2023 4:04 am

I haven’t felt jealous since we got into the lifestyle and this topic made me self-reflect a bit. I think I would separate jealousy from angst. If she is with other men, I feel angst which is something I really like. I can support her as long as I feel included and not threatened by that connection. I feel compersion and if I see her satisfied and happy, that makes me happy too. Jealousy would arise if I would start feeling excluded or if it starts to have a significant effect on our everyday lives and I’d need to compete for her attention. Even emotional connections can be excluding or including. If she would hide things, that would make me hurt and jealous. If she would include me in the feelings she is going through, exploring and embracing those emotions together could be a bonding experience. But I can’t say for sure as we haven’t been there.

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Re: Jealousy - What were the less obvious things?

Unread post by Parsifal » Fri Aug 11, 2023 5:27 pm

There are 50 shades of jealousy. In fact, I'm not sure it's a primary color emotion but a mix of other primary emotions, like anger, covetousness, envy, greed, and a few others too, some insecurity, or pride, in varying proportions. Pride makes one competitive, envy can make one angry about not competing up to one's expectations.

My feeling of jealousy is a shade of pride. It isn't a possessive jealousy. I'm fine with her being sexually non-exclusive. I'm not fine when feel I'm not her primary stud fuck.

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