Big Cock Conundrum

[ML82]

My wife and I have never searched by size. It’s always about chemistry and connection. We really look for someone we enjoy hanging out with at a bar, before bringing it to the bedroom.

But as we’ve had more experiences, different fantasies and varieties have been discussed. One of which would be her trying someone bigger than me. I’m the biggest she’s been with, and while I am well above average, I’m not huge by any means.

The problem we’re having, we don’t know how to find size and maintain our other standards. The men who advertise as “bwc” or “well hung” we’ve talked to all seem to be looking for cuckold couples. It is ALL about their size. They are surprised when we engage in small talk, “You’re asking about my favorite sports team? But I have a huge dick.”

Are there no thirds out there who understand the stag/vixen life and happen to be well hung? Are we searching wrong?

[MartasBoy]

It seems to me, as soon as you add big cock as one criteria that you are looking for, you're going to naturally get the people who lead with that, and are most focused on that.

If it's a kind person, and a quality relationship you want as a high priority, I'm thinking that you have to lead with that, and then consider that eventual guy you find with a large penis, as being icing on the cake.

[ML82]

It seems to me, as soon as you add big cock as one criteria that you are looking for, you're going to naturally get the people who lead with that, and are most focused on that.

If it's a kind person, and a quality relationship you want as a high priority, I'm thinking that you have to lead with that, and then consider that eventual guy you find with a large penis, as being icing on the cake.

That has been our experience. We definitely aren’t willing to sacrifice on the quality of the person just for size. Guess we’ll just have to wait and get lucky.

[zorro]

In our experience, it happens when it happens. At one party, R was approached by a normal-looking, young male. He was polite. R thought she saw signs of heft, and lo and behold when the pants came off, he was huge. She took him with delight. Later he came to our place and we had a very hot threesome. She refers to him these days as "a battleship." It was fun having him put into port.

In all seriousness, we don't go looking for size. When it shows, it is fun, but skill and technique --we have found -- beats physical imposingness. Another instance in which quality beats quantity. Men can have many endearing qualities besides size.

So, my recommendation: Go enjoy guys as they are (at least, if they are big enough to do the job). You'll have more fun and less disappointment over the long run.

[ML82]

In our experience, it happens when it happens. At one party, R was approached by a normal-looking, young male. He was polite. R thought she saw signs of heft, and lo and behold when the pants came off, he was huge. She took him with delight. Later he came to our place and we had a very hot threesome. She refers to him these days as "a battleship." It was fun having him put into port.

In all seriousness, we don't go looking for size. When it shows, it is fun, but skill and technique --we have found -- beats physical imposingness. Another instance in which quality beats quantity. Men can have many endearing qualities besides size.

So, my recommendation: Go enjoy guys as they are (at least, if they are big enough to do the job). You'll have more fun and less disappointment over the long run.

Thanks for replying. I agree 100%. We don’t have any misconceptions that size is automatically going to equal a better experience.

Just something we haven’t experienced and are interested in trying.

[zorro]

In our experience, it happens when it happens. At one party, R was approached by a normal-looking, young male. He was polite. R thought she saw signs of heft, and lo and behold when the pants came off, he was huge. She took him with delight. Later he came to our place and we had a very hot threesome. She refers to him these days as "a battleship." It was fun having him put into port.

In all seriousness, we don't go looking for size. When it shows, it is fun, but skill and technique --we have found -- beats physical imposingness. Another instance in which quality beats quantity. Men can have many endearing qualities besides size.

So, my recommendation: Go enjoy guys as they are (at least, if they are big enough to do the job). You'll have more fun and less disappointment over the long run.

Thanks for replying. I agree 100%. We don’t have any misconceptions that size is automatically going to equal a better experience.

Just something we haven’t experienced and are interested in trying.

Best fortunate with it. My impression is that the psychological zing exceeds physical effect, but your mileage might differ.
Definitely good bucket-list material.

[BBCfan]

It's kind of a one-off experience to try, perhaps finding a professional would be an avenue?
That way you know exactly what you're getting and usually they are quite comfortable and used to such things.

[leo-cpl]

My wife and I have never searched by size. It’s always about chemistry and connection. We really look for someone we enjoy hanging out with at a bar, before bringing it to the bedroom.

But as we’ve had more experiences, different fantasies and varieties have been discussed. One of which would be her trying someone bigger than me. I’m the biggest she’s been with, and while I am well above average, I’m not huge by any means.

The problem we’re having, we don’t know how to find size and maintain our other standards. The men who advertise as “bwc” or “well hung” we’ve talked to all seem to be looking for cuckold couples. It is ALL about their size. They are surprised when we engage in small talk, “You’re asking about my favorite sports team? But I have a huge dick.”

Are there no thirds out there who understand the stag/vixen life and happen to be well hung? Are we searching wrong?

I totally hear what you are saying, we have the same approach for finding the right guy, if I'm not comfortable while interacting and talking with the guy but in most cases things don't move forward. That being sent, I agree with some of the views here, can't focus solely on size....if you and the wife end up playing for years there's a good chance you will meet someone whose well hung.

We were lucky that i chatted with a hung guy who ended being a good fit, we meet as and when we can, wife's very comfy with him, he's 8.5" and only the second guy after me to get to fuck wife in the ass but that was after knowing him a cpl of years and playing 5-6 times.

My advice to you, being comfy at all times, sooner or later it will happen !!! Good luck

[trecital]

How about you try a penis sleeve/cock extender/enhancer? I know it's probably not what you are really looking for. But it would give your wife the opportunity to experience something bigger. Perhaps she might decide that size isn't that big a deal after all. Or it might confirm her desire to try the real thing.
But, at least you will get a better idea if this hunt for bigger is really worth the effort.

You state that you are "well above average". In which case you are already looking for a needle in a haystack (ok, that's not the best analogy, but you get my drift).

[ML82]

How about you try a penis sleeve/cock extender/enhancer? I know it's probably not what you are really looking for. But it would give your wife the opportunity to experience something bigger. Perhaps she might decide that size isn't that big a deal after all. Or it might confirm her desire to try the real thing.
But, at least you will get a better idea if this hunt for bigger is really worth the effort.

You state that you are "well above average". In which case you are already looking for a needle in a haystack (ok, that's not the best analogy, but you get my drift).

lol. Great analogy.

I appreciate it. That’s an option I can discuss with her.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

My wife proudly admits she is a size queen yet truly values an all around quality man as an additional bedroom partner.

So when has a big cock quality long term boyfriend she tends to be willing to “overlook” some less than perfect quirks to keep that big cock keeping her pussy well satisfied

One long term big cock boyfriend she had always tried to talk her out of taking her birth control pills. At first she found it somewhat annoying, then she quietly accepted and fucked liked crazed rabbits regardless

[Tank Turner]

I'd love to see my wife take a monster cock. She likes fuck my wife porn. I like monster cock porn. I become mesmerized by small women taking monster cocks. While we were watching monster cock porn, I asked my wife if she could fuck a monster cock. She said she would, but she would not wan to.

The reality is a cock longer than 10" is rare. Less than 1% of men on the planet have a 10" or larger cock.

I'm sure that a lot of monster cock porn is edited with software. With computer editing software, a 4" cock could become a 16" monster cock.

The vagina is a magnificent muscle. A baby passes through it. It contracts to normal shortly after birth. On the other side, child birth is the most extreme pain human beings can endure. So I knew my wife was right when she said she could fuck a monster cock. No cock is longer or wider than a baby. I could see why she'd want to avoid pain anywhere close to child birth. Sex should be enjoyable, not hurting painful.

[JennySam]

It’s actually me who always wants her to fuck guys with huge cocks , Don’t get me wrong she loves being fucked by a big cock but as long as the chemistry is there and he knows how to use it she is happy with whatever size cums her way, but i get a bigger thrill watching her mouth full and her lips stretching over a massive cock head suck and her pussy gripping tight around a thick shaft

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

My wife Kelly after being well fucked and have experienced multiple orgasms by a big cock man tends to be very subservient to that man, willing to wait on him hand and foot in a state of extended sexual bliss.

Kinda amusing to see my wife being so grateful to a man for fucking her senseless.

[Tank Turner]

It’s actually me who always wants her to fuck guys with huge cocks , Don’t get me wrong she loves being fucked by a big cock but as long as the chemistry is there and he knows how to use it she is happy with whatever size cums her way, but i get a bigger thrill watching her mouth full and her lips stretching over a massive cock head suck and her pussy gripping tight around a thick shaft

My wife knows that I'd love to see her taking a huge cock. The biggest she's experienced was approximately 8". She assured me she could fuck a monster cock, but she wouldn't want to.

I think I get more excitement out of watching my wife giving blowjobs than when she gives me blowjobs. She gives the best blowjobs I've ever had because I'm in love with her. I sure that to other men, she was just another blowjob. I'd rather fuck my wife's tight and beautiful pussy than get off any other way.

According to her, fucking a big cock is easier than sucking one. When it comes to blowjobs, for my wife smaller is better. When it comes to fucking, she prefers girth to length. She would prefer to avoid small cocks.

For my wife and me, sex is about euphoric pleasure. Neither one of us are into degrading or humiliating sex. I have never heard her say a negative word to size challenged men.

[rodturn]

A lot of good things in your post Tank….my wife had told me about Stan ( previous lover to me) and told me we were about the same length …. 10 inches….. lol! Not! …both about 7 inches but she said that the first day we fucked and she took me into her mouth she struggled to get her mouth around my cock was when she really fell in love with my cock….girth suddenly became important……. I could see on the vhs Stan was perhaps on the average side of things re girth….I had never thought about it until then. ….always love a blowjob but you are right….a nice tight wet pussy trumps everything especially knowing that pussy was going to have a big load of cum dripping out of it very soon!!

[Blackjack4724]

We have been in this lifestyle for some time now. What we have discovered ourselves as well as our friends is that in most cases it is the guys who want to see their wife with another man bigger than themselves. Not always but in our experience that’s what we’ve seen.
However, with that said, we went thru a phase several years ago where Tammy was curious to fuck some really huge cocks. So much like you, having not undergone a search like this we learned quite a bit. We discovered that the guys we found that claimed to have or even had big cocks led with their dicks and put them as the center of attention and were mostly rude and/or disrespectful of our relationship and wanted me to be in the cuck role or have me in some kind of degrading position and didn’t want me to join in.
We quickly discovered just looking for a BBC or a BWC was not a good way to find a play partner.
What we found over time it is best to hold to your play standards and should a guy with a big cock come along, so be it and your wife can enjoy it then. We have been fortunate to find couples where the man was really hung but was willing to conform to our play rules which made the encounter much more pleasurable for my wife.
We have managed to maintain friends with a few single men and other men that are married or in a relationship that have cocks in the 9-11 inch range that my wife continues to enjoy. With all that said, it just takes time and persistence to find guys that are bigger. Just don’t let it become the focus because it truely takes away the fun you’ll have without just focusing on one body attribute.

[Hotwife_57]

You can have it all. I, like you, base my decisions on a lover that presents himself as a true gentleman. We think of ourselves as going out on a date that hopefully will end up with chemistry that leads to our bedroom. Clearly specify your wants in your ads and initial correspondence with a potential playmate. I'm not a size queen but can certainly appreciate a nice bigger cock -- but for me it's not as important as having a lot of chemistry with the fellow. Actually, I like to be surprised and discover the package like I am opening a present. I like variety Smaller to bigger -- it's all good and ultimately it's who it is attached to that makes the difference for me.

Mrs.

[Blackjack4724]

You can have it all. I, like you, base my decisions on a lover that presents himself as a true gentleman. We think of ourselves as going out on a date that hopefully will end up with chemistry that leads to our bedroom. Clearly specify your wants in your ads and initial correspondence with a potential playmate. I'm not a size queen but can certainly appreciate a nice bigger cock -- but for me it's not as important as having a lot of chemistry with the fellow. Actually, I like to be surprised and discover the package like I am opening a present. I like variety Smaller to bigger -- it's all good and ultimately it's who it is attached to that makes the difference for me.

Mrs.

Agree totally, I enjoy a bigger cock as well but it’s not everything. I enjoy getting surprised when I take a guys pants off. The quality of the man is way more important and how he is as an overall lover.
-Tammy

[Des 31]

Big dicks aren't common among men. My wife has been with many guys over the past 8 years and learned early on how rare 7-plus inches are.

Most are average, 5- 6 inches. She enjoys larger penises but a man's personality is far more important to her.

~ Des

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Another way my Hotwife Kelly keeps the well hung men coming back for more sex with her is by dressing extra slutty for their dates and being more submissive to them sexually to get wants she wants, a big cock that rides her to multiple orgasms.

When I joke with her why can’t you dress extra slurry for dates with me your husband, she jokes back I am your wife and mother to our children I do have to dress the role.

No complaining here I love enjoying silky seconds after she is pleasured numerous times by a big cock regardless if her pussy can feel my average size cock or not

[stevens4fun]

We like longer term relationships so chemistry is a priority for us in order to fit the man into our marriage. Thus far no "huge" guys for her although my wife would love it. Her nine year guy was a solid 6" - slightly bigger than me. Her ex was bigger, she says, so she's a bit spoiled in that regard. Still, a fun guy with a good personality always had a chance to be in bed with her. Quite a few were.

[Wesley Hudson Valley]

Hello stevens4fun

Well stated and you have and honest wife Thus far no "huge" guys for her although my wife would love it.

[SRKnight]

My wife had the “perfect” boyfriend before I met him. Big cock, great career, winning personality….but married. She knew he wasn’t leaving his wife and sons so she moved on. We met, married, moved 5 hours away and she got to hear me talk about liking a HW. Within a year she was meeting him and all into that big cock again. 13 years she has been a HW with him and is completely different around him. Makes for some really hot times!

[WatchinginNJ]

Leave out the "Hotwife" dynamic. Build a profile that lists you more along the lines of swingers looking for a 3rd. Then much later in your profile, add that you are looking for someone who is "well equipped".

This way your pool of applicants is coming from a different source.

If you're cool with threesomes, it tends to be a different crowd. You're looking for someone who is part of the team, not the main attraction.