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My wife and I are new to the lifestyle and are looking for a bisexual man who would be interested in intercourse with both of us. (MMF, not MFM) my wife believes the best way to accomplish this is to visit local LGBTQ friendly bars for a more "organic approach". I'm under the belief that using an online dating site to find someone who fits what we're looking for. Any ideas or experiences?

A gay massage site would be a good start. Many of the masseurs are bisexual, some of them expressly willing to service women.

We have had very good luck with adult friend finder. Finding a bi guy will be no problem, filtering out the chaff will be your biggest issue. Going through all the messages and filtering out all of the people who did not take the time to read our profile makes the process tedious. Best of luck to you guys!

sites like AFF, SDS or fetlife can be useful we've found that there are too many fakes/flakes on those sites. we usually meet people in bars and social situations. finding a compatible guy isn't always easy and finding a bi one is a bonus

Using web sites can be problematic, for the reasons above. Our last meet from a site about stopped my wife from wanting to meet anyone from online again.
Our best successes have been at LS or nude resorts. Something about being naked in the pool or around brings up conversation that makes desires open up.

My wife and I (new to all this) are trying out a few options. We will keep you posted.

The on-line approach is probably worth a try and will be our first line of attack, but I am skeptical (maybe because of my age).

The good old fashion way still works. A dance club .. hanging near the bar.. smiling, laughing and flirting.. bounce with the music.. invite a request to dance.. when you find someone that interests you invite him back home or to a room for a nite cap.. tell him your wife really likes him.. let nature take its course.

Just sayin…

Brad

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Mon Sep 16, 2024 9:54 am

The good old fashion way still works. A dance club .. hanging near the bar.. smiling, laughing and flirting.. bounce with the music.. invite a request to dance.. when you find someone that interests you invite him back home or to a room for a nite cap.. tell him your wife really likes him.. let nature take its course.

I think it depends on your personalities and how far along you are in the journey. If you're both really confident and as the man you're comfortable with her flirting and potentially kissing guys on the dance floor in the process of finding a third then a dance club could be good. For us on our first time I wanted it to be as impersonal as possible, so we went to a swinger's club on a night when there were a fair number of single guys there. Because of the context, if you notice a guy looking at her you can just invite him to fuck her, and they can fuck right away.

Now that I'm more comfortable with other cocks being inside her, it would be nice to try a regular dance club and see her flirting her way to a third...

I will dress very sexy , nice hotel Bar there are most often Bulls traveling for work
It’s a great situation they have rooms
Just have fun and flirt be approachable

Lifestyle clubs strike me as a good way to find a bi 3rd. Be up front and make sure any guys that you talk to understand you both want to play to prevent awkward situations later in the night.

AFF is a shit show...the females/couples I've talked to say there's a lot of trash to sort through. And as a guy, I have to sort through a bunch of bots/fakes. Feld might be a good option, but seems to vary by location.

We have had friends join us. The guys have been discreet and it has worked well so far. A little dangerous but people we knew and trusted that were already very into her.

Could try the 'Personals' forums here. You never know your luck.

Hmmm. I read the subject line and missed the bi part …..so a nice hotel lounge probably won’t be that great of an idea.

we've had some success using the app feeld. all sorts of people are on there and unlike some dating apps they allow married women and couples to post.

I think nightclubs are a good way to get started and dip your toes. Maybe not for meeting someone long term, but my wife has enjoyed it and she always meets guys there to have fun dancing.