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I’m embarking on a bit of a personal adventure. Some quick background: I’m in my late 40’s and so is my partner M. We have been in the lifestyle for the last 4 years pretty much since we connected. Over the years, I have been a bull. I have had partners that I have shared, and we currently have a modified stag vixen relationship. Also, for health reasons I have been on testosterone therapy for nearly 20 years. 2 to 3 years ago I was switched to a separate hormone replacement therapy for fertility reasons and now it’s time to go back. Because of that, my doctor needs me to go off of all hormone supplementation for at least one month. Basically castrating me.
This scares me because I know what it will do to my function and my drive. I have tried to convince my partner to find someone to help her out with her physical needs, but she is hesitant. She is most comfortable playing in the clubs, but anything outside the clubs she has tried to avoid.
So for this adventure, I have suggested on a Chastity game during this transition. We have played with Chastity many times in the past but the longest any game has lasted was two months. This one will be slightly different. Tonight I will go into the cage and each day moving forward. I will have to draw a slip of paper with some sort of challenge on it and perform it. If I fail the challenge one of two things will happen. number one. M will scrape the key across the wet stone however, many times it says. The number of times is typically dictated by a role of the dice. This means in time the key will fail or break off in the lock. At which point I will be in “permanent” Chastity.
I want to assure you we are doing this in a safe sane manner, the second penalty on the tickets indicate how many days I remain in permanent Chastity. The cage is a nice plastic cage, and I can break out in case of emergency.

I’m doing this in part because I enjoy Chastity play. I’m doing this in part because I hope M will play more with others while I’m out of commission. I am also doing this because I hope being caged will prevent me from realizing how bad my ED gets while my body adjusts.

There is a natural ending this game, in theory it will take one month before we can test my levels, and one month to test them after new therapy has started. It is a little bit of a mind Screw to see “permanent” chastity on the horizon, but it does get me excited. The only thing that scares me about this is that if I enjoy being in the cage once the key breaks, I may not want to get out and if M finds a regular play partner/bull she may not push for me to get out of the cage either.

I am using this blog to get my thoughts out during this time, and I am seeking any input others have. I have put this blog on the stag vixen page, because that is how we identify our relationship and I don’t like humiliation play.

Thanks C

Day 1 down, feels pretty good. M should draw a ticket when she gets off work and I’ll have my first challenge. And the potential for penalty. I’m curious what chastity games you might enjoy.

Update: Day 2 has started, last night M drew the first challenge. It is clean one area of the house naked in heels (something I don’t wear often but she likes it) if I complete this task the key only takes 1D4 damage, if I fail to do it in the next two weeks the key takes 1D20 damage. She was planning on playing with me last night which would have been 1point of damage to the key but the night got away from us.

Update: going into day 4 the week has been normal. My drive seems to be down, energy is down. So we have only pulled one ticket. She needs to throw the key in the backyard. I have to wait one day, and I have seven days (6 after the wait) to find it. If I can’t find it in that time I start accruing 1d6 damage to the key up to 7D6. Looking forward to tonight since this will be the first night since the start of the game that she hasn’t had to work late. Also last night she off handed mentioned going on a dating app but after discussing it she says that it would stress her out too much.

This is showing to be entertaining

Stgvix75 wrote: ↑

Fri Nov 08, 2024 7:06 am

Update: going into day 4 the week has been normal. My drive seems to be down, energy is down. So we have only pulled one ticket. She needs to throw the key in the backyard. I have to wait one day, and I have seven days (6 after the wait) to find it. If I can’t find it in that time I start accruing 1d6 damage to the key up to 7D6. Looking forward to tonight since this will be the first night since the start of the game that she hasn’t had to work late. Also last night she off handed mentioned going on a dating app but after discussing it she says that it would stress her out too much.

SV75
- Keep posting, I think this is going to get better as you go along.
- You will have to explain what this coding means a bit more.

Thanks! I’ll give a longer update tomorrow, but I can answer your question quickly. If by code you mean 1D6 or 7D6. D6 is a six sided dice a D20 would be 20 sided the number preceding it is how many dice need to be rolled. The roll of the dice indicates how many times the key is damaged . (Scraping it back and forth on a wet stone) at some point the key will fail.

Update!! So it’s been a few days since I last updated but there isn’t a lot to update.. but then again there’s been a lot. So I haven’t completed any tickets yet, but we keep pulling them so it will all catch up soon. The next ticket pulled is “remove cage, I need to cover my junk in numbing cream and we let it absorb for 10 minutes. Then I have ten minutes to get off, if it takes longer than ten minutes for every minute over is 1 20 sided dice of passes of the key over the wet stone. The max penalty is 5D20. We are going to attempt that tonight. Wish me luck. The other ticket pulled is to take M out to dinner, failing means a high penalty. (They can’t all be sex centric, I need to keep the key holder interested.) Personal journey wise, on Friday I had my first hot flash, (no fun) I guess the hormones are dropping hard. Oh and one thing M did was exercise her right to let me out to use me. While my function is not gone yet it was a struggle, oh and it also ment that the key had to take its first swipe of damage. My next post will outline all of the base rules.

So complete rules at this time:
1: M can remove the cage at any time for any reason, penalty is one “point “ of damage to the key.
2: I can remove the cage at anytime for any reason, penalty is 1D6 damage.
3: Each day (life permitting) a ticket is pulled. The task must be completed or the forfeit/failure penalty must be taken.
4: I have two weeks to complete each ticket.
5: In the event that the key is not broken after two months, game suspended for a cooling period. ( to give the key holder a break)
6: once the key breaks “permanent” chastity. Tickets may be drawn after the key breaks, all penalties will then be measured in time.
7: M can change any rule at any time.

Permanent Chastity: key no longer functions and is broken in the lock. Cage will remain in place at least as long as there are penalty days (from punishments). After those days are served someone can declare the game over and the cage will be broken off / cut off. (Exceptions made for medical emergencies.)

Damage: Refers to damaging the key on a wet stone. (Sandpaper would be fine too.) damage is listed on each ticket with either a fixed number or by rolling dice. Dice rolls are anywhere from 1D4 (or a 4 sided dice rolled once) up to 10D20 (or a 20 sided dice rolled 10 times). Once the key has failed each damage point is now additional days added to minimum chastity time.

Minimum Chastity Time: all of the remaining damage points after the let is broken= days that we both agree neither of us will stop the chastity. (Technically, since we practice safe, sane kink we both can safe word out at any point, and medical emergencies are immediate end to play.)

I believe that is everything,

Update: we have pulled two tickets since the last update. 1st I have 5 min to attempt to get off while still in the cage or suffer up to 10D6 damage. 2nd I have to eat 3 cream pies in the two weeks permitted or 1d20 added to the minimum cage time. ( they are likely to be from me, which will impose some key damage, because she doesn’t have anyone she would feel safe enough with fluid exchange right now)

Also we did the numbing cream ticket, and I failed. I put the cream on waited the required 10 min and went to town, I couldn’t feel anything. I was able to get erect but couldn’t get anywhere in the time limit. After I gave up I washed off we had sex, (I figured she could get something out of it,) it was like fucking using a strap on with the added frustration of not being able to tell if I was hard or not. We have rolled for damage and the number is 50, we had a discussion about if it should be damaged or additional minimum charge time. If it is an additional cage time that means nearly two months before the option of cutting me out is a possibility.

Well tonight I’m probably going to the LS club (mainly to socialize) because she works till late so we are unlikely to draw a ticket today.

Stgvix75 wrote: ↑

Mon Nov 04, 2024 1:31 pm

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.....We have played with Chastity many times in the past but the longest any game has lasted was two months. This one will be slightly different. Tonight I will go into the cage and each day moving forward. I will have to draw a slip of paper with some sort of challenge on it and perform it. .......

Thanks C

We do the slips of paper, but ours are very different. I would never want the key to be damaged because I bought a rather expensive chastity device, chosen for its comfort, for long-term wear, and I would not want to destroy it by cutting it off.

Our slips of paper have a variety of treats for me, some service for her, or devilish undesirable consequences for me. The slips things like:

1. I remain locked, and service her orally.
2. I remain locked and give her a full body massage.
3. I get unlocked for 3 minutes of play.
4. I roll one die and the number determines how long
until I must wait to draw another slip.
5. I remained locked and give her a foot massage and
pedicure.
6. I remain locked, and complete a major household
chore of her choosing.
7. I am unlocked at bedtime, and allowed to remain out
until morning.
8. I remain locked, and I'm allowed to kiss her breasts,
while she enjoys an orgasm with her vibrator.
9. I remain locked, and I'm allowed a session of foot and
bottom worship of her.
10. I remain locked, and she unlocks the parental
controls on my phone, to watch one half hour of porn
of my choice.
11. She ties my hands behind my back, and removes my
device for a brief teasing session.
12. She switches my device to the one with erection
punishing spikes, and I serve her girlfriends at their
women's TGIF happy hour.
13. I roll one die and the number determines how many
minutes the kitchen timer is set for me to be allowed
out of my device to play with myself, before I am
locked back up, regardless of whether I come or not.
14. I roll one die and I'm allowed out of my device, with
my hands tied behind my back, as she assists me in
sliding my penis inside of her. The number rolled
determines the number of minutes on the kitchen
timer, until she does a Kegel muscle squeeze,
squeezing my penis out.
15. I hand over my credit card to her, and we go for an all-
day shopping spree, where I get to watch her try on
dresses, shoes, and any outfit she chooses. Buying
whatever she chooses, all while I am wearing my
device with the punishing spikes.

I figured out, after a while, that my wife picks and chooses which slips she includes in the basket. I have no way of knowing what mix of slips are in the basket at any time. It is possible that she manipulates the number of slips that may offer her, for instance, a shopping spree or full body massage, and reduces the number of slips that involve her having to attend me having some kind of release. I know that, if she is not in the mood for some particular activity, she will remove that slip from the basket.

My wife finds it humorous when I am made very horny.
One time, I rolled double sixes for 12 weeks until my next release. My wife said, "Oh sweetie! I'm so sorry. 12 weeks! You have some bad luck." She then took the key that she had been twirling through her fingers. She tossed it in the lock box, slammed the lid shut, rolled the tumblers on the combination lock, and slid it under her dresser. I moaned in despair, and she said, "It's okay Sweetie. I have lots of chores you can do for me, with the extra time you'll have on your hands. This is a good thing."

At the end of the 12 weeks, I was allowed to pick another slip out of the basket. I ended up drawing another slip that said, "Roll the dice to see how long until your next release." I ended up rolling a four, for four more weeks locked in my device. My wife exclaimed, "Oh honey! You've had some really bad luck lately!" That was a total of 16 weeks I was locked up full time. That is the longest I have ever gone locked in chastity. Of course I have no idea whether or not she had added a few slips requiring another roll of the dice, just to increase the chances in her favor.

We have a lot of nieces and nephews, and friends of our kids, who are at the age where they are getting married. It seems like we get invited to a lot of weddings these days. My wife knows that I love looking at all the beautiful women, in their beautiful dresses. She will have me roll a die. An even number means that I will wear my regular chastity device. An odd number means that I must wear my chastity device with the punishing spikes.
When we walk into the reception, my wife will often whisper to me, "Oh my gosh! Look at all of the beautiful women in their pretty little summer dresses, and their cute little strappy high heel sandals. I imagine this is going to be very uncomfortable for you."

When we go out to eat, when I'm wearing the device with punishment points, she often remarks, "Ahh, I saw you checking her out. She is quite beautiful. I know she's the kind you're really attracted to, a beautiful brunette with big brown eyes. I imagine she's causing you a good bit of discomfort right now, you poor baby.

martasboy, great game!! I too have a higher end cage, all steel. But the intent of this game is “Permanent” chastity meaning the only way out is to destroy the cage (at some point) or at least the lock. Both models are identical one plastic one steel, I’m not using the steel cage because I don’t want to damage it… having said that I did add to the mix that I would have to switch out to the steel cage for two weeks, if the key fails in those two weeks I will have a harder time trying to escape in the future. (I will have to drill out the brass lock) also like you M adds slips to the jar so I only know 50% of the challenges, and when she adds one with glee I get nervous but I’ll figure out what she has planned at some point.

Stgvix75 wrote: ↑

Wed Nov 13, 2024 11:01 am

... I too have a higher end cage, all steel. But the intent of this game is “Permanent” chastity meaning the only way out is to destroy the cage (at some point) or at least the lock. .....

...also like you M adds slips to the jar so I only know 50% of the challenges, and when she adds one with glee I get nervous but I’ll figure out what she has planned at some point.

I look forward to following your adventure.

Sorry it has been a bit since the last update. Life getting in the way. Personal update, drive is next to gone. Feel more emotional. More tired. Thankfully we have this game to keep my mind on this aspect of my life. Also I have less than two weeks before testing and getting back on HRT. So far there is only one new ticket, M can give me 15min of corporal punishment, there are rolls for key damage if she leaves bruises. Also a quick update on previous tickets, I’ve managed to make and eat one cream pie.

Beyond that last night we volunteered as security and housekeeping at a LS club, it was good to be “working” because of my decreased drive. Though if M was there for fun, I know she would have been playing.