tiedyeHotwife wrote: ↑Sun Jan 05, 2025 2:12 pm
Swing lifestyle for sure.
Search all the men in your area. Read their certifications.
Be honest in her profile on SLS. Paint a clear picture of where you are at and what you are hoping for.
Pick the most experienced guy that she finds attractive.
Do NOT go with attraction as the #1 criteria. Experience (certs) first.
I say that as 90% of attraction to an online profile is simply projection and fantasy of the viewer.
When I started to play this game, my husband quickly figured out that I had terrible judgement.
I was getting hot for guys that he could tell would not be good to me.
So he picked my first. He was not Mr Sexy Pics. But his certs were amazing.
Meeting him allowed me an hour to begin to connect with him and I did find him attractive after that.
Sex was mind blowing.
I regret all the time I wasted waffling about doing it. Wish I had just gone for it earlier.
So my suggestion -
(this is to your wife)
Get waxed. Get your toenails done. Buy the sexiest shoes you would dare wear (make sure they are comfortable!!)
Buy 4-5 sexy new outfits. Sexier than you'd ever dare.
I can't express how much hotter it makes it when I did all this. Felt like a rock star.
Pick the most experienced guy on SLS.
Go fuck him. Enjoy all of it.
If your husband hates the experience, simply tell him "I can't unfuck him, but I'm happy to go back to being all yours".
Guarentee over time - he'll love what you did. You will too.
To the husband -
careful what you wish for.
Be fully prepared for your wife to enjoy it far more than you would ever have imagined.
That's what happened to me.
I've come to think that even a one-off, one time experience - it will be something you both will enjoy talking about and fucking to for years to come.
Last comment for the wife -
I was super cautious the first time, worried my husband wouldn't ever look at me the same after.
He came up with a solution. "if I react badly - don't back up - just remind me that this is why I fell in love with you - that you fucked me like that the first time too. So relax and enjoy. If you can't, sure you can divorce me, but then imagine all the men I'll be fucking. Or you can relax and enjoy your now "hot wife".).
This actually has worked several times.
This is really good advice but we feel that it does not quite go far enough. In our opinion being a hotwife is a lifestyle choice that you both make and live 24/7, not just a role play situation that you are involved in a couple of times a month. It is not something that you turn on or off. So here are our suggestions if you want a true (in our opinion and what works for us) hotwife marriage.
Clothing.
Wife: You will only wear lace or sheer matching lingerie. Push up bras with matching thongs and suspender belts. Throw all of your pantyhose, granny panties and ill fitting bras out. From now on it is thigh high stay ups or stockings, thong and lace/sheer bra. You never know when you may meet a new lover.
Skirts are to be knee length (long enough to cover your stocking tops when you walk, or mid thigh if you are not wearing stockings. Pair these skirts with singlet tops or sheer blouses. Dresses are form fitting and knee length at most. Bodycon dresses are good.
Jeans are always tight, no soccer mum jeans allowed. Invest in a good pair of leather trousers.
Gymwear includes scrunchbum shorts matched with a crop top or scrunchbum leggings. A camel toe always demands attention.
Shoes: In summer wedges and heels. Everyday wear is a minimum 2 inch heel or a 3 inch wedge. Date night or parties is a 4 inch heel.
In winter knee high leather boots with a 2 inch stilleto heel. Buy a black pair and a brown pair.
Running shoes are for the gym or training. They are not everyday wear arounds.
Husband: Be prepared to spend a minimum of $5000 to get your hotwife's wardrobe started. Budget $500 at least per month afterwards. Keep in mind that stockings easily run and your hotwife will often get only one wear out of them. Also she will want to wear a new set of lingerie with each lover.
Jewellery.
Wife: Gold is always attractive. Earings, necklaces, rings. Thumb rings and toe rings are sexy. Look at piercings. A belly button piercing is a must. They are sexy and attract attention to your tummy. If you want to push your boundaries get your nipples pierced. A bit of pain for lifelong extra sensitivity. Plus it is naughty!
If you are really game go for a vertical clit hood piercing. It looks amazing and is very erotic.
An anklet is a must and is to be warn 24/7.
Husband: Once again budget for jewellery purchases. A hotwife is always blinged up!
Appearance.
Wife: To a hotwife appearance is everything. You never know when your next lover will appear. So you always have to look your best.
Your hair must be done every four weeks. Fortnightly mani/pedis are a must. A tan always looks hot. In the summer tan daily (if your yard is private tan nude for no tan lines). At most tan in a thong. If you can't tan daily or it is winter get fortnightly spray tans. Get sprayed nude. You will have no tanlines and it is also a turn on being exposed to a stranger.
Get Laser Hair Removal. Waxing hurts, shaving is short term but laser is permanent. There is nothing prettier than a smooth, lasered pussy. Get your armpits, legs and anus done as well.
Always wear makeup. Whether it is to the gym, to work, to the shops, to pick the kids up you always wear makeup. You never know when you will meet your new lover.
Botox. It can be a hotwife's best friend but don't go overboard. Around the forehead and eyes is often helpful. Some filler for your lips is good but don't go for the trout pout.
Get a membership at a gym. Hire a personal trainer to begin with (but don't fuck him straight away!) See a dietician and have them design a meal plan. Lean but strong is the new sexy!
Husband; Your job is to make the appointments and pay for all of your hotwife's beauty appointments. Also offer to drive her to and from appointments so she can relax. Budget $750 per month for beauty.
Car.
Husband: Your wife will be putting a lot of effort into looking her best. You can't then expect her to drive an old, bomb car or a dirty car. You must clean her car weekly for her. If it is an old car buy a new car. If it means you have to get a second job to pay for her car then do it.
Make sure there are condoms for your hotwife's lovers in the glovebox. You never know when your wife may meet a lover. You don't want her to miss an amazing experience because you were not organised. The same goes for your wife's purse. Make sure she has condoms.
Household chores.
Husband: Your hotwife is going to be busy getting beauty treatments, training in the gym, shopping for new clothes and shoes and hopefully dating other men. You need to man up and do the household chores. How can you expect your hotwife to feel sexy if she is scrubbing toilets? If you can afford a cleaner then hire one once a week. If not, get scrubbing!
Medical.
Husband and wife: Make a joint appointment and go and speak with your doctor. Tell them about your lifestyle choice and ask them for their advice as to minimise risks of STDs etc. Revise with them your contraception plans. Speak with them about limiting your period to every 4 months so that your play won't be impeded as much as monthly would. If youare thinking about her going bareback with her lovers get a script for the morning after pill.
Be prepared for monthly bloodtests. Ask your doctor what signs to look for with an STD.
Your doctor will not judge you on your lifestyle choice and they are sworn to discretion.
This is also a good test for the husband. If you cannot handle talking to your doctor about your wife fucking other men then you are not really ready for the hotwife lifestyle. You need to be proud of your hotwife, not embarrassed.
Family and Friends.
You both need to be careful on who you tell about your new hotwifing lifestyle. Most people will not understand or approve of it. You could quite easily lose friends over it (we have). The husband's family will just see the hotwife as a slut who is simply cheating on their son/brother/grandson. They will either abuse the hotwife or ignore her.
The hotwife's family, especially her father, will lose some respect for her.
The husband MUST defend his hotwife and tell those who do not understand that he suggested it and it is what he wants.
Dates.
Wife: Enjoy yourself! Be safe but make the most of each lover.
Husband: Be supportive of your hotwife. Help her prepare for her date. Drive her to her dates and pick her up if she asks. Buy her a gift for when she returns. Flowers, lingerie, perfume, shoes, jewellery etc.
NEVER accuse her of cheating on you. YOU suggested this. YOU wanted this.
Be prepared with excuses for your wife if she is late home and misses a planned social event. There will be times when a planned Friday night date may see her arrive home on Sunday afternoon, exhausted and sore. Celebrate this. As long as she has texted/called you to let you know she is fine, be happy for her. Obviously she has been getting the fucking of her life.
Book a full body massage for her the day after each date. She is bound to be stiff and a bit sore the next day after her lover has fucked her hard so a massage will help her recovery.
Make sure the house is clean and tidy when she returns from her date!
Communication.
Let her debrief about her date when she is ready. Always be pleased for her. Both husband and hotwife MUST be honest about how they are feeling. Your marriage comes first. You both must respect each other.
We find these things have helped us over the years. Good luck!
. At the time she wasn’t dismissive but not completely on board at the time. About a year or so ago, my wife shared some of her fantasies of her own. First, she shared that she always wanted to be A famed in the mfm threesome. Which I found very hot. And she even expressed that she wants to eat pussy and suck on tits with another woman and vise versa. Luck me right, lol. While talking, I brought my fantasies again and tying them into hers. Since then, she has been pretty receptive to finding herself in a vetted Hotwife situation. Her biggest fear is, she doesn’t want to hurt me by feeling left out. After me reassuring her that this is “my” fantasy . She seem to let those feeling go. Yay, more progress.