Amending our mistake

[DickLympe]

As some of you may have read (on the New Member Intro forum), my beautiful sweetheart's Hotwife journey started last year when a serious medical issue rendered me impotent. Making the best of an unfortunate circumstance, she has now cuckolded me with one guy and is keen and willing to do so with others when suitable guys present themselves.

However, the journey almost started a couple of years ago when I first asked her to consider a threesome. Unfortunately, things went totally askew, and, in the aftermath, I was left feeling very guilty. By way of testing the waters we had placed an ad on AFF and received a response from a French guy who was visiting Arizona and California. We arranged to meet at a historic hotel in Phoenix that offers the "Monroe room". Reportedly, Marilyn herself used to stay there when she was in town, it being one of the first hotels to get air conditioning. We thought this would be romantic way to enjoy our first such experience.

We were not living in the state at the time and need to take a short flight to get to Phoenix for the big day. When the time came to leave, my wife started to get cold feet. Though the idea appealed to her, the reality was making her apprehensive. I eventually persuaded her to go to the airport to see whether she could get on the plane. We did make it to the airport but so much time had passed, we were too late for the flight.

We phoned the hotel in order to get a message to our Frenchman and explain what had happened and ask if we could reschedule for a day or two later. Sadly (but understandably), he cut us off and we never heard from him again.

My wife believes she would have gone through with the experience if we had already been in the city (but we can't be absolutely sure). I still feel bad for the Frenchman who had been assured of warm, welcoming pussy, but was left alone in an unfamiliar city.

Now that we are sure of our feelings, we have invariably tried to be as honest as possible with the people we have met, and totally clear on what is on offer (and what is not), but our first try was, quite frankly, a disaster.

Next month, we are heading to France for a vacation and, though her first Frenchman is long gone, she has promised to make herself available to another suitable guy from that country if we can find one (any suggestions for doing do are welcome).

[Breakerhymen]

Sorry to hear about your situation! Truly awful. Is she willing at least to share her experiences and pleasure with you so you get to help give her pleasure while giving her the gift of cock? Cuckolding you because you cant perform seems a bit cruel…..

[DickLympe]

Sorry to hear about your situation! Truly awful. Is she willing at least to share her experiences and pleasure with you so you get to help give her pleasure while giving her the gift of cock? Cuckolding you because you cant perform seems a bit cruel…..

Thanks for your sympathetic comments and perceptive questions. Without the surgery, the condition I had would have killed me, so although I am suffering one of the side-effects, I am doing well. I was always open to MFM and FMF threesomes with my wife and a third, so being cuckolded comes easily to me.

Following my operation, she was hesitant for a while, but after a trial run with a guy she met through her fitness activity, she has allowed me to watch her getting the full deal from a guy we met through a swinger's club in our city. I found this intensely scary but very exciting. Although nothing has happened since, the future is looking pretty good. When life gives you lemons, you make lemonade,

I will keep you all posted and guys, don't hesitate to get your psa checked regularly after age forty.

[DCaftermath]

This is certainly a mixed feeling thread, filled with optimism, trials and tribulations. I am happy that you were able to hold onto life. Albeit you seem to have held onto your interest of sex while not being able to fully perform. If you don’t mind I ask, do you still have sexual desires, or do you participate only for the satisfaction of your wife? And if it is that you still do have those desires, does participating in this this with your wife bring you satisfaction? In any case what you are doing for your wife is commendable. I wish you much success and happiness.

Lastly, I would hardly call anything either of you have done as a mistake.

[DickLympe]

This is certainly a mixed feeling thread, filled with optimism, trials and tribulations. I am happy that you were able to hold onto life. Albeit you seem to have held onto your interest of sex while not being able to fully perform. If you don’t mind I ask, do you still have sexual desires, or do you participate only for the satisfaction of your wife? And if it is that you still do have those desires, does participating in this this with your wife bring you satisfaction? In any case what you are doing for your wife is commendable. I wish you much success and happiness.

Lastly, I would hardly call anything either of you have done as a mistake.

Thanks for your comments and advice. By sexual desire is undiminished. I still have sex with my wife regularly, but in a different form. When I see a young girl on the street with a nice figure, I get aroused. Some things have changed but the underlying need for sex has not (either for me or my wife).

[DCaftermath]

This is certainly a mixed feeling thread, filled with optimism, trials and tribulations. I am happy that you were able to hold onto life. Albeit you seem to have held onto your interest of sex while not being able to fully perform. If you don’t mind I ask, do you still have sexual desires, or do you participate only for the satisfaction of your wife? And if it is that you still do have those desires, does participating in this this with your wife bring you satisfaction? In any case what you are doing for your wife is commendable. I wish you much success and happiness.

Lastly, I would hardly call anything either of you have done as a mistake.

Thanks for your comments and advice. By sexual desire is undiminished. I still have sex with my wife regularly, but in a different form. When I see a young girl on the street with a nice figure, I get aroused. Some things have changed but the underlying need for sex has not (either for me or my wife).

Thanks so much for your response, it was difficult to find the words to ask, I am sure it was the same for you to answer. Unfortunate as your health problems have been you apparently see the silver lining in life and make the adjustments necessary. I will be looking forward to your entries in you experiences.

[DickLympe]

This is certainly a mixed feeling thread, filled with optimism, trials and tribulations. I am happy that you were able to hold onto life. Albeit you seem to have held onto your interest of sex while not being able to fully perform. If you don’t mind I ask, do you still have sexual desires, or do you participate only for the satisfaction of your wife? And if it is that you still do have those desires, does participating in this this with your wife bring you satisfaction? In any case what you are doing for your wife is commendable. I wish you much success and happiness.

Lastly, I would hardly call anything either of you have done as a mistake.

Thanks for your comments and advice. By sexual desire is undiminished. I still have sex with my wife regularly, but in a different form. When I see a young girl on the street with a nice figure, I get aroused. Some things have changed but the underlying need for sex has not (either for me or my wife).

Thanks so much for your response, it was difficult to find the words to ask, I am sure it was the same for you to answer. Unfortunate as your health problems have been you apparently see the silver lining in life and make the adjustments necessary. I will be looking forward to your entries in you experiences.

It's great have the feeling of being among (non-judgmental) friends on this site. I hope to be in touch again soon as we are looking for a young(er) man to join us for dinner on Friday evenings, with my wife being the dessert.

[lisamyhotwife]

Good luck on your journey. I would not call you a cuck, you seem to be totally on board. She is not denying you sex, there is no humiliation, and you are totally good with it, and nothing behind your back.
I hope she really gets into it and the two of you enjoy the journey that your life situation has pushed on you.
Be safe and have fun.
I also agree you first attempt was not a fail, it was part of the learning curve.

[Tank Turner]

Hi DickLympe,

I have most sincere empathy for you. I was happy to read that surgery cured your underlying illness that caused impotency. Did your surgeon give you an impotency prognosis? I hope you'll return to normal sexual activity.

I admire your selfless act toward your wife. I hope she's able to feel comfortable having sex with other men, so she can enjoy it as much as possible.

My wife told me shorty after I met her that she loved sex, and it was a very important facet of her personality. If I couldn't perform, I'd encourage her to discretely find a man who would be capable of fulfilling her sexual desires.

[DickLympe]

Hi DickLympe,

I have most sincere empathy for you. I was happy to read that surgery cured your underlying illness that caused impotency. Did your surgeon give you an impotency prognosis? I hope you'll return to normal sexual activity.

I admire your selfless act toward your wife. I hope she's able to feel comfortable having sex with other men, so she can enjoy it as much as possible.

My wife told me shorty after I met her that she loved sex, and it was a very important facet of her personality. If I couldn't perform, I'd encourage her to discretely find a man who would be capable of fulfilling her sexual desires.

Thanks for your encouragement. Before the op I was told that the first objective of the surgery was to save my life (which it has), the second was to make sure I was not rendered incontinent (successful there too) and the third was to save my erectile muscles (two out of three ain't bad).

All in all, I consider myself fortunate.

[Tryagain]

An answer to your problem may be a penile implant. have you discussed this with your doctor? They work marvelously. They can make you hard as a rock and even better than in your youth.