Love watching her humiliated

[SammySigns]

I do not believe that mutually agreed-upon (ie consensual) sexual activity is humiliating. Words can be, violent acts, however slight, can be.

So, it's sort of the duality we all experience here. I don't want her actually humiliated or feeling bad. That's not a turn on. But being in submissive and slutty situations in front of people that we would think of as humiliating? Love it. Sort of like I get turned on by her cheating on me, but she can't really cheat because that's what I want, and I would be devastated if she actually cheated on me.

[david29]

I do not believe that mutually agreed-upon (ie consensual) sexual activity is humiliating. Words can be, violent acts, however slight, can be.

So, it's sort of the duality we all experience here. I don't want her actually humiliated or feeling bad. That's not a turn on. But being in submissive and slutty situations in front of people that we would think of as humiliating? Love it. Sort of like I get turned on by her cheating on me, but she can't really cheat because that's what I want, and I would be devastated if she actually cheated on me.

This is exactly the same way I feel. I get very turned on by the thought of her being submissive to another guy. She trying to resist at first but slowly giving in until she is doing anything he wants. She would be a little embarrassed and humiliated by having so little control, and I would be also embarrassed and a little humiliated as well, but not in a direct way. Rather as a consequence of seeing my wife being put in her place and becoming submissive to someone else.

[DDfun]

My wife had a gangbang and all 5 of us we came on her face and tits! It was a great experience for me and for of her, especially as she loves watching ganbang porn and she always had fantasies to be covered with cum by many men. Does this count as humiliation? Not sure…

[ma2foru]

I would not use the word humiliate. But often Heidi will say to her lovers, “Use Me”. And she means it. She wants to Fucked hard , and have all her holes used. Pussy, mouth, ass! She loves to be restrained, whipped, and have her ass and tits slapped. She has be been called a slut and fucktoy. Doesn’t look at it as humiliating or degradation but as making herself and the bull happy.

[frank12]

The word “humiliation” can be a strong one that doesn’t fit well with some people’s self-image.

I recently renewed correspondence with a couple I enjoyed as playmates several years ago. They are now moved farther away and time has taken tolls, but it was surprising to have Louise recounting how thrilling it was for her to acquiesce to my lewd - shall we say “suggestions” - to pose and expose herself in ways she would not and will not do for Don her husband. She told him (again) that she could never touch and penetrate herself “there” as she had done at my “suggestion”.

Clearly this was intended for Don to read in her email, and I’m sure he enjoyed being reminded of the ways she whimpered and begged and did as I “suggested” - all to earn some time with my cock. I was a bit surprised that she lofted that particular topic, but she did.

She wouldn’t have called it humiliation. I’d not require that word either but her immersive arousal certainly had notes of embarrassment that drove her arousal - and very erotically I must say.

[ash_hotgf]

don't like humilation at all, neither hubby

[SammySigns]

Mm it's been a while since anything happened, but last night she was all about someone calling her a slut while sucking his dick. Let's hope it happens!

[LoMein]

I quickly found out this new side of her that likes to be submissive and humiliated when we started. And honestly, it's hot af seeing her completely submitting to her bulls.

[George+1]

Yeah I don't actually want her to feel bad. Her being turned on is the biggest turn on for me. But I'm also turned on by her being submissive, slutty, and used up.

Reminds me of Freud's Madonna-whore complex. We're attracted to the contrast between her being our sweet, loving wife but also a slut who enjoys being used like a sex toy.

Dr Google tells me that the Madonna Whore complex is essentially a negative experience but I wholeheartedly agree with your further comment SensualDeviant. I like the way you think, I see where you are going with this idea.

[fiddler]

I never realized how common humiliation was until we found this site.

My wife and I believe that sex should be mutually enjoyable. Neither of us have humiliated anyone. Neither of us have participated in degrading or dehumanizing sex.

My wife and her sister love to be naked. My wife did a nude beach with two guys, once with a male friend and the following year a lot with her then boyfriend.

My wife told me right after I met her that nudity was normal and natural. She told me that sex was a normal and natural human function.

My wife loves to be watched while she's porn starring. She knew roommates of college boyfriends watched her while she fucked her boyfriends. They didn't know that she knew that they were watching. It turned her on to be watched. So she put on porn performances for the roommates. She's also a voyeur when appropriate, but she's more into being watched.

As long as everyone agrees, sex for orgasmic euphoria and as a porn performance is not humiliating.

[SammySigns]

I quickly found out this new side of her that likes to be submissive and humiliated when we started. And honestly, it's hot af seeing her completely submitting to her bulls.

Ridiculously hot!

[LoMein]

I quickly found out this new side of her that likes to be submissive and humiliated when we started. And honestly, it's hot af seeing her completely submitting to her bulls.

Ridiculously hot!

Definitely is! They really bring that out in her

[Filou]

Love this thread even when we are not in a stag / vixen - relationship, but for discussing this topic that should not matter.

For me there are three points to master, when you try to understand that experiencing something as humiliating in a set setting can be a good thing for some people.

1.) One important thing people should realize is that different persons can experience exactly the same situation in completely different ways.
For many people here having sex in front of others might be no big deal or even more arousing, while someone who grew up more conservatively and protectec might see such a situation as rather uncomfortable or humiliating.

2.) In humiliation as in most things there is no black and white - it is rather a large area with a lot of shades of gray. I believe everyone should be able to name some sexual kinks he would not like to participate in and naturaly you would not rank everything the same, but you could come up with some kind of order (f.e. having sex with a stranger they do not know < having sex in front of a group of people < drinking pee < eating feces / whatever).

3.) Some submissives like to be humiliated. Why ? Why do some people like garlic on their dishes and others do not ? Hard to say. One theory is that experiencing humiliation helps them experience and feel the powergap in the dynamic - something they experience as erotic / arousing and something that they long for.

To make this easier understandable for some it might help to rember that for everyone there are different öeveös of humiliation and while some might like a certain kind of humiliation (because it might help put them into some sub space of mind) they might not like other kinds of humilation and those might even be a hardlimit for them.

[easyalpha4fun]

My wife was a strong ball buster but she liked being used a fucked roughly. I loved watching, the harder and nastier the better.